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kay im 15 and kinda have gurl probs.
1) every time 1 tries to kiss me i shy away because im scared that a might do somthin wrong
2)im afraid to go on a date again because i might do somthing wrong.
3) i dont no y but there are alot of hot gurls in my area and im ntimidated by alot of them
PLease help me!
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dotn worry about it, just be yourslef. if any girl is worth your time, she wont be a jerk and not understand. theres not much to do "wrong" so dont stress about it. good luck*
ami*
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well ok next time just tell the girl your shy to kiss her because U dont want to mess up!! That always works good for me because its like ok If you havent kissed before its the same kinda for us I think of it as its another person To kiss one that I havent and I dont know how its going to be like and its weird. Just be yourself on dates if it doesnt work then there not worth it
and I think the reason Ur intimidated by the gurls is because U dont think U have a chance with them!!
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Hey, you're only 15, you don't need to be going out on dates!! If you really want to go out on them, then just tell whoever you're going out with that you are shy when it comes to kissing, and it's not something you're always comfortable with. I know it sounds cheesy, and it probably is, but if that's how you feel, wouldn't you rather tell them up front about it, instead of being awkward and shying away?
Under no circumstances do you have to do anything you're not 100% comfortable with (unless it's giving an oral presentation in school.....(evil teachers) :- D).
Best of luck
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Hey~once you are ready and do all of those things then it will be a lot easier. Just start to talk to them more often and if they like you then it will be easier for you to talk to. I hope I helped!! ~Paige~
Let me know how it goes
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Before you start dating, you have to trust yourself. You have to belive that you can get a girl, and have some confidence!
Try to locate a girl, that you're sure you'll be able to make steady choices on, and maybe you won't end up in 'kissing' situations. Let the girl know, that you're shy-they like that-and that you're nervos.
The fact that hot girls intimidate you, is that you've no confidence for yourself. You need to understand that girls like confidence, if you go up to say-Amanda-and ask her for a bite to eat after school, with a big smile on your face, who knows? She might actually say yes!
Just have a lot of confidence for yourself, but not so much that you look concided.
Oh, and maybe to make yourself feel better, go on group dates, with an expierenced dater. Examine what he does, and get to know the girl better, so you're not uncomfortable to be alone with her.
Best of luck, dear.
AskMegan
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ok, to answer all your questions in exact order, here i go ::
by the way, I'm a girl myself. I've seen guys and their problems or even girls and their problems. And i've seen the solutions. Theres so much hope for you it aint funny ;-) , just have courage. After that
1)there is physically nothing "wrong" you can do kissing. I sware, its soo natural. I've never heard of someone saying they did something wrong on their first kiss, and i know many people that have kissed lol.. basically everyone i know, but in any case, shying away makes the case worse. People are going to think your like prude or you just dont like them... so forget about doing something wrong, its impossible... touch your lips with theirs and see what happens
2) on dates, the only thing you can do wrong really is talk about bad subjects. Subjects like old girlfriend/boyfriends ... just stupid immature stuff, just be mature in your conversation and thats the only thing that you have to look out for. Remember, the more "worried" you are, the more you will "mess up"
3) hmm intimidation. I dont know, i think your just a really shy guy. Theres nothing you can do if their known to be intimidating but just toughen up and not be scared , lol, figure your old enough to handle it. Whenever your really shy and cant say anything, say something, its the absolute best time, and dont be afraid of girls, silly... lol... yer supposed to be happy when they come around ;-)
good luck. I think your just a really shy person, but ive known people like you before, all your fears are soooo easily conquerable, i promise you that. dont be afraid to go a step further than you usually would and see where fate brings you. GL again !!!! Hope you find advice yer lookin 4
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1. everyone is scared when they're first kissing someone and they always think they're going to do it wrong, so you're not alone in this. just go for it, it just comes to you. i dont know how to explain it but trust me it does.
2. again, just go for it. if you mess up just think oh well, and laugh about it. everyone messes up or does something wrong. and you might not do anything wrong so you're just holding youself back from dating.
3. i feel the same way. i always think that all the other girls are prittier than me. its just our confidence/self esteme. we just have to work on it. just try not to be so intimidated by them. easier said then done.
hope i helped. ~Kare
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