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well see i go camping with my grandparents.. and i really wanna bring my boyfriend along one time but its kinda the time i get to spend with my grandmother.. how do u think i could ask her to bring him?
Well this depends on where you camp..but if its like 1 hour away or less maybe ask if he can spend one night camping..this way the rest of the time is spent with them..if that cant be arranged..just ask if he can come and promise that you are going to spend time with them.. remember not to leave your grandparents out..im sure it would be awfully easy to kind of neglect spending time with them if he was there..but promise to do things together and keep those promises..if he goes just dont hurt their feelings..sure go off alone with him for awhile..but be sure to do the traditions and spend a lot of time with your grandparents too.
Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..
this is a situation where the school can definately help you. talk to a conselor,trusted teacher, school nurse, someone about this. the schools job is to look out for oyu...not only while in school but if something is going on they are there to help as well. Not everyone can afford a therapist..thats why there is plenty of free help in the school for you. Definately take advantage of that because something needs to be done..they need to hook you up with the school conselor and they can make arrangments for you to stay with someone temporarily until they find you a better place ..but help yourself out and get out of there! Please dont lose faith..things go down..sometimes way down..but its going to come back up! it might be hard..but once you get your problems out to a conselor they will really tey and get you to a better place..its for your own good...do it for your future..your past is history..but your future is waiting for you..you can graduate high school..go on to college and make a wonderful life for yourself..there is plenty and plenty of financial aid,scholorships, etc to go to college..even if its a community college who cares? you can make something great of your life..dont hurt your future..do something now to take small steps in making a big difference for yourself..you will be so much happier :)
-melissa-
Okay.. I will admit.. i'm a stoner.. I like drugs.. I'm just starting to wonder what these drugs will actually do to me in the long run. If you can get me any sites or information on the drugs listed .. Please tell me... I rate high
1. Cigarettes
2. Marijuana
3. Crack/ coke
4. Acid
5. Meth
Hey i found tons of websites ..these are just a few..i copied and pasted a couple pieces of information..especially on the marijuana part because thats a highly debated thing..some people insist it isnt bad for you.. Theres lots more information if you want..just go to a search engine like ask.com and type in the drug you want to look up and there is tons more. Hope this helped
Heres a site for cigarettes
http://ash.org/statistics.html
Heres a site about marijuana
http://www.nida.nih.gov/MarijBroch/Marijteens.html
Lungs and airways—People who smoke marijuana often develop the same kinds of breathing problems that cigarette smokers have: coughing and wheezing. They tend to have more chest colds than nonusers. They are also at greater risk of getting lung infections like pneumonia.
Heres a site for crack ()
http://www.whitehousedrugpolicy.gov/drugfact/cocaine/
Acid
http://www.urban75.com/Drugs/drugacid.html
During the course of a trip, the entire universe can turn wibbly, colours become deeply intense, everyday objects take on bizarre and sometimes wonderful new forms, and all your senses can become confused and distorted.
Meth
http://hometown.aol.com/rsjohw/metheffects.html
Im feeling sorda guilty....
There are 14 girls trying out for cheerleading and 12 make it, i know i am going to make it because some of the girls who are doing it cant to crap, anyways i feel like its more handed to me then me working for it... Should i feel guilty? I mean i feel realy bad....
Its not being handed to you..if you have talent you will make it..no needs to feel guilty. Sure its ok to feel a little bit for the girls who dont make it..but this isnt being handed to you..its not like you have to go agaisnt the best in the country to get on the team..just try out like everyone else and being that your going to make it..just be happy with the fact that your good and thats why you made it ! :)
-melissa
I've been dating my bf for a month. i'm his first girlfriend and he has never kissed a girl. he really wants to kiss me but the only time i see him is on the bus in the morning at school. i want to kiss him too but my sibling is a few seats behind me and she basicly controls my life. she thinks me and him are just friends. idk if i should kiss him on the bus cause she may see through the mirror since we're in the first seat. so idk what to do, he thinks i dont want to kiss him but i do i just want his first kiss to be in private even though we havnt gotten a chance to hang out outside of school. so what do i do? do i just wait for a day when my sister is absent from the bus ride there and kiss him? or do it anyways and get in major trouble when i get home from school, or just keep telling him no and not kiss him till whenever we'll get to hang out which may not be till the summer o.O what do i do! i really want to kiss him but i feel so uncomfertable with my sister so close by!!
the bus isnt the greatest place anyway, so i would wait until you hang out. how come you cant get together on the eekends? even if you meet him at the movies, at a baseball game at the school, at a friends house,there are so many ways to get together so you can kiss him in private. He doesnt have to come to your house..you dont have to go to his either..maybe meet somewhere like the mall, the movies, a friends house, a sports game, if you live close enough together go for a walk..think of something that will work and im sure it can be done. Wait until you hang out..the wait will be worth it..no worries about your sister..or bumps in the road when you go to kiss him lol
You'll be fine..just explain to him wwhat you told me and im sure it will all work out.
-melissa-
okay so i like this guy but hes really really shy... how can i make him open up??
a lot of guys are shy because they are afraid of rejection..this goes for girls too. So if you really make it obvious that you like him, he should open up. Be extra flirty,ask him to hang out,basically take the front wheel and be in control. once the guy gets the picture your into him, he should break out of his shyness pretty quickly. Maybe get one of your friends..(guy or girl) to tell him "hey i reeeally think (your name) like you"
hey i need some advice on fast, healthy breakfast ideas, and how to make it (if it involves being made)
OK im trying to eat healthier..and im usually on the RUN in the morning..i usually eat a piece of fruit to go..like an orange or grapes, whatever fruit you want.
If i had more time i would eat some Special K because thats a healthy cereal and it says on the box if you replace 2 meals a day with the cereal, you will lose weight.
Oatmeal, cherios, also very good health choices if you have time to sit down for a few minutes.
After my boyfriend & I broke up, I started hanging out with my guy friend a whole lot. We got really close & end up having sex a few times. He was pretty much my rebound guy and it was a huge mistake. He thought that it really meant something & told me he loved me. Now, we are just friends. I told him I was sorry, but I didn't like him like that & liked being single. Everytime I flirt with a guy, he gets extremely mad/jealous and brings up what happened between us. I could never tell him it was a mistake because he's too sensitive & I just want to forget it ever happened. How do I tell him I want to be single & flirt without him getting all mad and saying I'm a slut? (20, F)
If this is what you want, then forget about what he says. Just say you dont want comittments and you want to live the single life. Your an adult now and you can make your own choices..dont listen to what he says because you are your own person. If being flirty and exploring with other guys is what you want, then do what you want!
Dont listen to what other people say, its your business what you do..so who cares if he calls you a slut..i wouldnt....just do your thing
-meliss
Ok...my boyfriend broke up with my like.. 4months ago..so like in january.. the end of december.. and like i really really like him... and i want him to kno that i like him without like... tell him.. i mean i pretty much spelled it out for him..but hhe is like blind... well anywayz, i just need help!
DeSpErAtE!
I know how it feels to like your ex for a verrry long time. If it were me i would get a guy friend who is friends with both you and him to really make it clear that you like him..have him tell your ex that you told him how much you likee him..and he should get the picture. Maybe if you get a few friends of his and yours to do this he will really get it.
I hope it works
-meliss-
It is almost the anniversary of the night that I met my first love. I met him @ a school dance and there is a school dance the day b4 the anniversary of the night that I met him and I want to remind him of how it use to be, just for old times sake. What should I do? just 2 give u an idea:
"ribbon in the sky" by stevie wonder was kinda like our song. he likes the ocean. we met that night and were attracted to eachother and fell in love this summer. any ideas of what i can do???
I would definately request your song to the DJ..hmm if he likes the ocean and boats maybe make a card of a picture of the beach and maybe a quote from your song and say "That night at the dance last year was the best night of my life."
-melissa-
ok so my volleyball has invited the team over for a sleepover for a celebration. Im not sure if i wanna go or not. I mean the grls are really nice and we all get along and i wouldnt mind going, but the thing is i dont really know the coach well enough where i would feel comfterble with sleeping over there. But i want to. So sould i just go over there but not sleep over or what?
plz help!
i rate high.
Yeah it does seem a bit awkward for a coach to be hosting a sleep over, but thats pretty cool. your coach must have liked the team a lot to do something nice like that. You'll be having tons of fun with the girls that it wont even matter if its your coach having the sleep over. Just as long as you dont feel TOO weird or way out of place, uncomfortable, then go ahead and have fun!
I bet you wont sleep anyway, but if your that uncomfortable where you dont want to sleep if people sleep, then i wouldnt go..its no fun to be awake for several hours in a strange home while everyone else is sleeping. Maybe bring a walkman so if you dont want to sleep you can watch tv or listen to music. As long as you feel comfortable you should be able to sleep though.
-melissa-
I know this is probly a question you get every now n then.. but I think I like thsi kid.. but we have only talked a couple times.. but each time we were kinda like... yah know flirtyishh and we don't talk a whole bunch.. but I think he might like me too.. but Ionoo is it too early to like him? and what should I do to figure out if I really do?
No way, maybe to early to love him, but its not too early to like him. To find out if you really like him :
-think of who you look foward to talking to/seeing the most out of the guys
-think of how much you would want to go on a date
-think of how much you would want to kiss him
-think of what it is about him that makes you flirt..what does he have that the other guys dont?
I have this one friend...we've been friends for 2 years. Well, this past year we've gotten closer, but now I think we're getting TOO close. She says I'm HER best friend, but I already have a best friend. And she always makes me hang out with her in the morning at school, and gets mad at me if I want to go with MY best friend even though we just sit in her crushes homeroom. She always tries to make plans with me on the weekend even though I always do things with my best friend. She makes me do her science homework for her, and she borrow my science book every day even though I don't WANT too! It's getting out of control and I'm starting to be very extremely annoyed of her. I miss hanging out with my best friend!! It's like she thinks WE'RE best friends, even though its clear we aren't. I don't know what to do anymore, and I'm afraid if I just keep letting things go on like this I'll end up really despising her. What should I do?
To prevent you from despising her, just tell her straight out next time she makes you do something "sorry, but im hanging out with (your best friends name) b/c i miss hanging out with her and shes my best friend." Dont do her hw for her..just say no! Tell her your still her friend, but she cant get mad at you if you go and talk to someone else, she needs to learn how to accept that. Just say it straight out..its the best way to get things across to people..dont be shy because you dont want her annoying you anymore right?
-melissa-
hey,
(i just asked the question bout what to do with my nieghbor with the 4wheeler) ok, he seemed interested in me. and i was always going over to his house and like everytime he would drop me off at my house, i would be like ok, come by and pick me up the next time you are here please and he would be like ok.but he would never come. i would always be the one gettin togther with him. and that monday that i thought everything was going so great with, the next day he was here, wednseday, i went over and he was working on his 4wheeler and he brealy talked to me. i felt like such an ass! and then like i stopped goin over there hoping and prayin he would come by to see if I was available. but that never happened....and its not like i totally ignore him, the last time i saw him, last thursday night, i was outside on my cell and he came out and got into his car and just sat there(it looked like)for the whole time i was out there and when he left i yelled Cya. but i guess the question is; do i make another move again? do i go over to his house again? do i see whats up even though he has a girlfriend? or is his no anwser really an answer?
female 14
hes male 15
he might be confused himself. I mean if you guys hang out and talk..he might be thinking hes into you. He might not be sure what he wants..so dont panic and think hes not into you. Just keep hanging out..and yeah you can ask about his gf..ask how she is or how they are going..that might hint to him that you like him or something.I would give him the benefit of the doubt and think that maybe hes getting confused himself.
If you got brave, maybe have a talk with him and ask " what would you say if i liked you more than just friends.." or "do you see us being more than just friends." When you have a deep talk like that, you will get what he truly thinks. If hes into you, he'll say it..if hes not..he'll say soemthing like "i have a gf." If i was you, i would really want an answer so i would probably take the gutsy move..i mean you have nothing to lose. IF he says "i have a gf..so no.." all you have to say is "yeah,thats what i thought.." or something..its not like your being shot down..your just hinting that you like him.
PS: Did you not like my previous answer? b/c you gave me a 4..and that brings down ratings..so im sorry if i didnt answer your other question well.
Ok I have this PIT feeling inside of me--I think that Britney and Justin should totally get back together..I know that some of you may not be their biggest fan, but please don't reply to this unless you want a negative rating. I think that they BELONG together..and this feeling is really bothering me..I hope that in the future they will get back together...I don't know why I'm feeling this way but it seems like it's meant to be. Now, I know I have no right to decide who should be together since I don't know what really went on in their relationship...but If they're not together, it seems like everything isn't right. I love Britney Spears..she's an inspiration to me...and Justin is just amazing also. I'm soo sorry if this is long but I just need to get it out. Don't you think they belong together?? This feeling in me is really strong..
yeah..they would be the perfect "popstar" couple. Sadly, not many relationships out in hollywood last.. Bradd and Jennifer lasted like 7 years but big whoop right..my parents have been married for 22 years..and i know a lot of people whos parents have been married for 20 years +. So sadly, relationships just dont last..dont give up..its hollywood and anything can happen.
my boyfriend just broke up with me and he gave me this necklace while i was going out with him and it meant a lot to me. i want to give it back to him but not to his face, i want to put it in his locker with a note. i don't know what to say in the note. ive thought of everything and nothing feels right to say its got to be short and meaningful. something that says "i'm over you", "its your loss" and stuff like that...but i dont want to say something MEAN b/c i dont want him hating me...i want it to say basically "i've moved on", and "you missed out." something like that Please Help Me. I really want to leave a big MEANINGFUL impression on him....HELP.
(the phrases i put in quotes...i dont want to use those exactly....)
xoxo Arielle
How about
"it was good while it lasted"
"i know more for my next bf now. hope to be friends" >>
"people grow from relationships to make the next one 5 times better"
My ex-boyfriend & I were on and off for over a year. He was the only boy I ever loved and we became very comfortable with each other and had no secrets at all. We broke up 2 weeks ago and it was the most horrible break-up we ever had and this time it really felt completely over. We are now on 'talking terms' but I haven't talked to him in about a week. He has a new girlfriend already and I just feel so used & heart broken. He supposedly was in love with me but then he stopped calling and went out with another girl. I'm not the desperate type at all and I never call him. I really want to hear his voice again and see how he's doing. If I show him that I do care and still love him, he'll become egotistical. Should I wait for him to make the move & call me? It was his fault we broke up, also.
you dont have to call him, maybe try saying hi in school..things are going to be awkward for awhile.,,i know the feeling and it sux. So maybe you can call him and say hi..you dont have to tell him you still love him..just call to hear his voice and talk. If you want maybe after a few minutes say you have to go so he doesnt think your desperate, etc.
once the ice breaks and you guys get back to normal, you will probably become good friends :)
-melissa=
Help guys,
ok, i like my neighbor alot..but he has a girl friend. I have started talkin to him and hes taken me on his 4wheeler before and i really thought he liked me cause monday over spring break(when it rained)and he took me down to the landing in our town and we just sat and talked lookin at the water and then he taught me how to drive his 4wheeler and it was really really nice. haha and i really thought he was into me cause he kept looking at me evrytime i looked at him. but the thing is, ive told his sis i like him and like he has never made and effort to contact me, im doin all the givin, i havnt talked to him in about two weeks and when ive seen him, i act like hes not there. but i dont know what to do now, i really want to talk to him but....its so complicated. can anyone help?*
14 female:.
Dont give him the impression you dont like him..keep hangin out with him and eventually he will be into you and break up wih his gf. This is a tricky situation because he does have a gf..dont try to break them up..but you can definately hope for it lol. I would hint around by asking questions like "so, do you love your gf?..hows the relationship going.." But i wouldnt focus on her because t might freak him out. for now, just continue to hang out with him and flirt...
Can a women get pregnant if the man ejaculates in her while on her period?
OK..the theory some people use is that the egg has already been released so she cant get pregnent, but this isnt true. It can still happen so always be safe :)
Its so nice out today and its been winter forever, so this is the first warm day out and its really exciting haha ! what are some things i can do outside cuz i wanna use the day !
I hope im not too late..but today i went to my school and walked around the track 12 times..then did some running..took my brother skatboarding, came home and took a walk in the woods. I played basketball with my brothers then i sat outside just enjoying the sunshine.
:)