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guy friend thinks differently
After my boyfriend & I broke up, I started hanging out with my guy friend a whole lot. We got really close & end up having sex a few times. He was pretty much my rebound guy and it was a huge mistake. He thought that it really meant something & told me he loved me. Now, we are just friends. I told him I was sorry, but I didn't like him like that & liked being single. Everytime I flirt with a guy, he gets extremely mad/jealous and brings up what happened between us. I could never tell him it was a mistake because he's too sensitive & I just want to forget it ever happened. How do I tell him I want to be single & flirt without him getting all mad and saying I'm a slut? (20, F)
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You're going to have to have a talk with him. It's obviously up to you what you say, but there's nothing wrong with admitting that you made a mistake. Many, many people have rebound flings - it doesn't make you a slut. Or a bad person.
It sounds to me like you've already clearly told your friend that you want to be single, but perhaps you need to take it a step further and say you might want to date other people. It can be hard to confront someone, but unless your friend is perfectly clear about the fact that you were not (and ARE not) interested in him, the jealously could continue.
If you speak with him about this issue and his bad attitude remains, try to understand that he's had his feelings badly hurt. Still, if you feel uncomfortable, you should let him know that you might need to take a break from your friendship. Don't let him pressure you or guilt trip you into being less of yourself than you want to be.
This is your life. It's all about the choices you make, and whether you're strong enough to open your mouth and share those choices with other people.
Best of luck.
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If you're a slut so is he. We make mistakes and we hopefully learn from them. Tell him it was a mistake. You're sorry but you don't want it brought up again if he wants to remain friends. Happy flirting!
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Well put yourself in his shoes. Say you really cared about him and he used you as a rebound girl. Wouldn't this kinda piss you off honey? You deserve what you get 100%. He's saying you're a slut b/c you're acting like one. I know what this guy's goin through. It's prolly just best if you don't talk. Like ever. Can't have your cake and eat it too. It's kool, one day you'll find out this guy wasn't just using you for a piece of ass and you'll feel terrible. But I'm sure you had a good excuse to dump him. He sounded like a real asshole anyway. Must have been if he loved you.
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If this is what you want, then forget about what he says. Just say you dont want comittments and you want to live the single life. Your an adult now and you can make your own choices..dont listen to what he says because you are your own person. If being flirty and exploring with other guys is what you want, then do what you want!
Dont listen to what other people say, its your business what you do..so who cares if he calls you a slut..i wouldnt....just do your thing
-meliss
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well, you shouldn't have had sex with him, let alone more than once-that gives him the REALLY wrong impression-sex isn't just all for fun, it is for love also, that's probably what he thought too. Try telling him that you don't love him anymore (evene though u never really loved him, it's pokay to lie a bit) and that u both have to move on. try hanging out eith him a little less. and don't go to him only after a break up-it could really hurt his feelings.
-hope i helped-good luck!
--dorinflower55
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I think your biggest mistake was to have sex with this guy, but just talk to him and tell him that you don't have feelings for him. If he get's mad, just tell him you still want to be friends with him, and to just forget what happened.
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Well first of all he needs to get the picture that your a young woman who needs to explore with other guys before she picks one. He needs to realize that he doesn't control you and what happened between you two is in the past. Hope this helps!! And if he's calling you a slut, then he's so not worth it!
~Alyssa
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