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"i m 17 yrs old girl and have unregular periods and i started taking medicine when i missed for 6 months . i dont have any thyroid problem but i m leukodermic. help me my doctor is giving me krimson 35 and m2 tone since last 4 months but i have less period ..." (link)
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And that's EXACTLY who you HAVE to tell this information you gave us to directly. We aren't doctors and cannot tell you what medically is going on with you or how to remedy it.
You have to go back to the gynecologist who put you on these pills and tell them your menstrual cycle is all over the map and less periods than normal and let them advise you. It's the only way of knowing what you want and need to know about this issue.
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Hey, this guy really liked me for a couple months and i didnt find out til a month ago. When i did all his friends starting flirting with me and wanting me for themselves. Then i got into a fight with this popular girl ( im one of them ) and shes trying to make them ask me out and dump me so that i come crying to her to say sorry. Now shes making the guy i like ( the guy that rly liked me) to ask me out as a joke and dump me after a while and I dont think he was okay with it but, shes gonna make him miserable if he doesnt do it. Another thing is that i think he might be ashamed to go out with me sinceshe hates me now and is trying to make my life a living hell. What do i do? and should I say yes when he asks me out and dump him b4 he dumps me? and I dont want to talk to him about this because hes just going to make something up so i got a couple of my friends to talk to him tomorrow maybe. What should I do? (link)
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NOBODY can make anyone do ANYTHING they don't want to. She can suggest this nonsense to him but HE has to have the brains (hopefully) and make the decision against/for for himself.
Hopefully, this guy isn't a total idiot and can see the drama she wants to create a mile away and wants NOTHING of it. It would seem the fight is over jealousy and perhaps wanting something she can't get that you would have.
Here's what I would do. Talk to a teacher or better yet a guidance counselor. Tell them the girl is harassing you and over what exactly. Tell them that she's had endless amount of guys asking you out as a joke and threatens to embarrass you if you accept this particular person's request. Tell the guidance counselor you just want to be left alone period by her and her friends.
If they can have you talk it out or just get her to stop by threatening trouble she may think twice about her behavior. You NEED one way or the other to stand up to her and show her you can't be screwed with.
The best thing is to just ignore all the nonsense 'til they get bored which they will when they see you don't care what they do anymore.
If anyone asks you out tomorrow or in the future just tell them "I'm seeing someone right now" or "I'm not interested in you." or something to that effect. If this guy you like asks tell him "Let's be friends" Then you can see if a friendship happens as over time you would know if he's for real or not as he won't stick around otherwise. That's how you save yourself grief.
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Ok so in school I met this guy and I love him but I don't know what to do because he is deaf. I really like him and I know he likes me. But we are in high school which makes everything hard. What to do???? (link)
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Treat him like anyone else and become a friend first. Ask to be friends and see where it naturally leads. Being in the same high school shouldn't factor in or make it hard. If you genuinely like him go for it. He's way more than someone who is deaf and by being with him even as a friend it will show people by example. Talk to him. If you can't sign well have others interpret until you can. Don't hold off.
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I startd chattin with a guy and when I askd my close friend about him she said she knos him and I should stay away from him she also called him some names.. When I asked her why she's sayin all these she didn't give me an answer.. So I continued talkin woth dis guy to see if his really what she says he is.. One day he was goin thru my phone and saw her picture and this was the conversation,he said "so you kno dis girl, and I said yes and den he said I don't like her and I said she doesn't like yhu eida infact she didn't want me to hang out with you" now my friend knos that I told him and she txt me did you tell him what I said what should I do I am confused (link)
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I would back off of him if I were you. They obviously have some shit to solve between them that you aren't privy too and they won't say. Odds are they must have dated or something or a friendship went way south.
If you don't want grief from the other girl don't get involved with him as you'll encounter headaches. If this girl is a real friend to you and she's warning you left and right about his character perhaps she isn't steering you wrong. You need to ask her to elaborate on why she doesn't like him and hope she tells you. Other than that I would stay away as you'll get drafted up in their dispute. You don't want to lose your friend do you?
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I have been dating this great guy for four months now. I love him so much. Is it weird to give him a blowjob after four months of dating? What's a good age to give your first blowjob? I feel like I'm ready to do it. Also, I'm a very strong Christian. Do blowjobs go against my religion? Have I gone too far by giving handjobs? 15/female (link)
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In short NO. Just because you engage in a sexual act does not mean your relationship with GOD is any different. Nothing has changed there. You love him, and him you regardless of any religious doctrine. As long as you follow the teachings and live and work following a Christian lifestyle you're fine.
Age doesn't have a lot to do with things it's about being READY and mature enough to handle sexual aspects of a relationship and consequences. If it's something you're totally comfortable with than for you it's okay.
Also the act you mentioned you already have done to him is pretty normal with teens and adults. It's a form of self-pleasure and doctors as well as most religions find that to be normal behavior.
Just because you did something sexual or will be doing something sexual cannot and will not destroy your religious beliefs or make them any less stronger than they are.
You're not going to face eternal damnation for it either as most people you know including adults no matter how strong beliefs are engage in this activity together. I would relax about it and only engage if you feel 100% ready. If uncomfortable don't. No need to rush things either as the relationship is still new and fresh. Become comfortable with the idea of it first and talk about it before deciding anything.
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So I'm getting braces in a few weeks and I was just wondering what it's like. Does it hurt? What can I or can't eat? Just basic things because we didn't talk about any of this when I went to the orthodontics. Thanks (link)
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They should have told you and if they didn't you should have said to the doctor what can and can't I do? No sweat just give them a call and ask them what you are concerned about. They will tell you as that's what they are there for. They'll definitely tell you everything to avoid and what pain is and isn't normal.
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So i am 22 year old girl. Here are two stories. which are recently have with me. The First one when i am at my house. I was in my period time.That was the third day of my period. It was the third day of my period. I was at home. i messy the Mattress at last night. And today my father is here, and he came to my bad and slept here at my bad. and he felt some wet, he called my mom, and there is a red stain on my father shirt. he told me nothing. But my mom little shouted on me. two of our maids my cousin sis my mom dad all know about my that Locomotion. It was totally embarrassing. I cried a lot. And i felt so much bad why it is happened with me.
The second one at my collage. There is annual function at my collage. i participated in fashion show. i was walking at ramp. I don't know what happened with me. My top off in front of whole the public. I was topless for and instance. There is Cameras also. I felt chocked for two three minutes . And after that i walked again. And after that when came to the dressing room. i cried a lot.
These are the two incidence which make me cry always. I don't wanna live more. i just feeling yak. Don't wanna study. Don't wanna go any where.even don't wanna live I am thinking why it is happened with. No one people of mine age undergo in this stupid cases. i m not a child i m 22.
my question is that what is more embarrassing. (link)
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It's NOT about which is more embarrassing. There's no clear cut answer as it's subjective. You simply won't find one. What this really is about is trauma associated with it that you never got over. That's NOT normal nor right.
What you have to do is realize that it happened in the past and that you can't change it and wasn't your fault. Shit happens. It just does--to all of us. When you get low because of thinking of it recognize that every last person has had moments like this and laugh it off.
In the case of menstruation you better believe you're not the only one. Yes, it was awkward but it wasn't the end of the world. The world kept going afterward and same deal with the top--look at Janet Jackson. Didn't bother her much.
The problem is you're taking it too seriously. You can't change the past but you do have the choice to learn from it, move on and in the case of he first story exercise precaution so it never happens.
To be so affected by it all these years later isn't right. It's an obsession that if you spoke to a professional they would help you chuck. This is all small stuff that happened long ago that you shouldn't cry over now. Believe me whether you're 2 or 22 there's people out there your age that have far more embarrassing shit to deal with than you could think they would. My advice: relax about it and move on.
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My best friend (named Raymond) always scares/tickles me whenever I don't see it coming! He thinks my friend is hot, but the he told me he does that just to annoy me. I told him I liked him. We talk like 123456 hours everyday. I'm in grade 7, and he said he'll start getting serious with relationships in grade 8. How will I know if he likes me or not? I have no clue. (link)
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The signs seem to point to there potentially being something. If you like him and will remain friends no matter what why not ask where you stand? Tell him you're not sure how to read his signals and want clarification.
All he can say is yes or no. If you have no clue what he wants then you have to ask directly. Nobody gets anywhere without moving and it would seem he's either scared, not ready, and or waiting for you. Then again he could just be being friendly. Either way you need to know so ask. Nothing bad can come out of asking for clarification.
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My girlfriend has depression, it's not as severe as it could be, but it often worries me as I can't always be there to see how she's coping when she is having a 'down' day as we're both at university. I don't know how I can help to make her feel better when she is feeling like this, she has self-harmed before and neither of us want it to get to that point again. She says that I am helping, but as I'm not there I don't know if she's just saying that to make me feel at ease...I also know that depression is an illness that isn't going to disappear overnight, I just wondered if anyone had any tips on how I could help her to cope? Just to make her day a little better? Anything.
Thanks. (link)
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Do far more listening than you ever do talking. Have her write her feelings down in journal when not feeling right ie sluggish, dark thoughts. She needs to chart the frequency up ups and downs and present that to her doctor for medicine dose adjustments.
You can't be everywhere at once and that's where her family comes in. As long as there is someone she can consult when feeling awful she will be alright.
Also if she has self-harmed in the past and you or her or anyone else suspects she would again tell her doctor with her present. Perhaps going to some of these appointments when needed would help. Aside from that you've done about all you can.
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My family is really big, loud, eccentric and crazy. I'm afraid that if I introduce my boyfriend to them they might do something or say something embarrassing. My grandmother likes to tell personal business and embarrassing stuff that I don't want my boyfriend to hear. My dad is overprotective and most of my family members blab about stuff that they shouldn't. Even if you tell them not to say anything embarrassing, they will pop out with something embarrassing. I have loud cousins that might say something embarrassing. I don't even want them to know I have a boyfriend. My mom & dad like to ask people personal questions. My little cousin is just a drama queen and a brat. I know if my boyfriend meets my family he will think we are weirdo's. Because every time we have a family dinner there has to be a problem.What should i do? (link)
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It's rather sad that you are so embarrassed by your parents, grandmother and everyone else in your family and have such a negative view. You need to work on that and realize that while they may be boorish at time that they have good points too.
I think you need to lighten up a bit. Tell your boyfriend the truth. Let him know that they're a bit of a wild bunch and do say and do embarrassing things or what they shouldn't at times but really are good people deep down.
If he genuinely loves you he won't give a shit really and should roll with the punches. I think he'll meet them and no matter what happens know that it's how they are and that you aren't like that especially if you highlight your concerns.
But yes to not want him to meet mom and dad over this is taking it too far. Let him meet them and form his own opinion.
If you're wound up about this tell your parents things that would upset you before hand and not to mention them and keep the first meeting limited to them and not the whole clan. It doesn't have to be a drawn out dinner either. Maybe a few minutes sit down before leaving on a date.
You need to work on having a better view of your family though as you have so much negativity pointed toward them all and that's something he will pick up on and not like.
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Ok i have 2 questions 1. I had sex yesterday and my boyfriend broke my hymen, i have a septate hymen so i was very worried when this happened. I bled heavily for about 5 minutes and then i spotted for the rest of the night. I stopped bleeding this morning but when i went to pee this evening i wiped and it started to spot again is this normal? 2. Is it afe for me to have sex again? PLEASE help! (link)
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You should consult a gynecologist about this. They can actually do an operation that would create a normal vaginal opening for you as opposed to what appears to be two now.
They can tell you whether it's okay to continue sex and about the bleeding you're experiencing as can a family doctor. If concerned and it hasn't stopped call them. We aren't doctors and don't give out medical advice because at best it's a guess and if we're wrong that can effect adversely your health.
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I guess I should add more background... I'm 20/m and have had something of a chaotic last year, made up of physical drug dependence a year ago that took a while to get over, extreme heartbreak, and then emotional drug dependence (weed) to not feel the depression/self-loathing.
I quit smoking about a week and a half ago, and while there's a lot more clarity to my life (I can't just smoke my feelings away anymore), I do still feel the depression, self-loathing, and suicide ideation.
Out of desperation, I went to my college's counseling center and saw a therapist, who I am seeing weekly now (the second appointment being on Friday). I like him, and do plan on sticking with him if only just to talk. There's a psychiatric element to the program if he thinks I need it, but at this point I'm wary of medication because I'm pretty sure I'll end up abusing it.
I have close friends that I talk to, but I don't tell anyone about the suicidal thoughts or the more extreme parts of how I feel half the time, which is why I like the therapist. And it really is half the time... I've felt fine for three and a half days now, so sometime in the next 1-2 days I will probably mentally collapse into the darkness for a few days, before miraculously drifting out.
But anyway, I don't really have a question: I just wanted to add some background to hopefully get some more perspective from you. (link)
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This only turned up in my e-mail box now. The inbox on Advicenators is notorious for glitches. You have taken the right steps. The major thing you have GOT to tell the therapist is that you abuse drugs of any type and dread medication as you don't think you can be trusted. They'll know what to do about that.
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Thank you for the advice:) yes my parents do know she has a drinking problem, they know that we wouldn't talk bad about them. It's hard to deal with this knowing it's a sibling, she's aware she did something wrong just stubborn and won't apologize. She doesn't care I'm engaged because its not about her. My mom also told me to cut her off for now until she gets better. I know she has a problem and want to help her, she won't let anyone in, I think she has to realize it on her own. (link)
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I think what needs to happen now is to talk to your parents about everything and get together with your fiance, family and anyone who cares for her and stage an intervention to get her into treatment. The problem can kill her and if she doesn't see she's in over her head it's very dangerous.
Cutting her off hasn't worked. If enough people tell her to get help in such a gathering maybe it will force her to see she has to stop running and denying its hold on her.
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My sister is 8 years older than me, I am the youngest of 3. She has a drinking problem and kissed my fiance on the lips and said it wasn't sexual, and passed it off like it was nothing. I got upset and left her house, we haven't talked in a few months now, I called her to talk to her about what happened and said I dis-respected her by not cleaning up my step-kids plates( which in fact I did so)Basically, I think its just an excuse because I am right and she is wrong and is too suborn to apologize to me. She lies to my parents about my fiance putting words in his mouth that he talks bad about my parents, which they obviously don't believe her. We are getting married next year and well she really doesn't seem to care. Any advice on this situation?
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ADDITIONAL: If I were you I would approach your parents, get your fiance and other family members and friends together and stage an intervention. When she can't see how dangerous the issue is it means you have to step in and get her some help. Apologies from her have no weight if her life continues a downward slide. This can kill her.
She has a problem bigger than what you may even be aware. It's likely the booze talking or motivating what she says or does around you. I would cut off contact until she gets help. Tell your fiance to do the same.
Do your parents have any idea about what you know is fact? You and your fiance should speak to them in person. Tell them that neither you nor your fiance have ever said what she claims are are angry she has. Let them know you cut off contact with her months ago after discovering a hardcore drinking and or drug problem.
I'm sure your parents know by now what you would or wouldn't say about them but it's good to fill them in. As far as the wedding goes tell your parents that she's not welcome there until she gets sober and drop it.
Be sure they know she came on to your fiance and actually kissed him when drunk as that will be indicator enough that something's not right with her head.
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I'm very happy I'm being honored for my charity work at school. Honestly i do care about the charity than the award. There are others getting awards themselves but little actually deserve them. One girl joined EVERYTHING just to et in yearbook, the newspaper, and to get this award. 2 other girls who claim they're bullied to teachers are getting awards for being kind when in reality the 2 girls bully EVERYONE!!! One of them has an autistic brother who she picks on (punching, kicking, etc.) at school. I feel this is a problem and want to address teachers about it but I don't know if I should. (link)
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As long as you deserve your award and cherish it and the fact people cared to honor you that's all that matters.
The rest is none of your concern and would make you look foolish for trying to tell teachers or indicate to anyone that your peers don't deserve it. If you did anything to show your contempt towards the others it would make you look like the one who shouldn't have been honored and spoiled whereas you aren't.
It is solely up to the teachers giving the awards out to determine who gets them and why. They have to discover for themselves who deserves them. There may be a favorite thing going on with a student or a whole other factor you aren't aware of for criteria. Bottom line collect your award and keep your mouth shut.
Are the awards a scam? Well, no. These teachers certainly don't feel that way. Are they honoring people they shouldn't? Possibly but it's not your place to make that judgment. In the end it's up to the girls to atone for what wrong they may have done either now or later.
Usually, you won't be around be it now or years later to see it but their behavior and everyone's for that matter gets adjusted by life experience sooner or later. Don't let a couple of brats spoil a positive experience for you. You respect that award and showing that you do speaks more than any ill word about those who don't.
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how do i tell my boyfriend to
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You need to go back and re-edit your question as whatever you keyed in is missing beyond "how do I tell..." Once you do that you'll get the answers you're looking for. Inbox me as it sounds like you have someone with control issues you need to dump if you can't lead a normal life.
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My teacher keeps calling me "Satan" what should I do?
When I asked him about why he called me Satan he told me it was because he thinks that I am evil inside and deceitful. I know that I am not a perfect person ,but I strive to be a good Christian when he called me this name I feel discouraged. But one of the biggest reasons that this title " Satan" hurts more is because I truly look up to this person, he is my favorite teacher by him calling me this name, it makes me feel that he does not like me. What should I do? (link)
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This is odd and unacceptable behavior out of an educator. It's obviously not a poor attempt at humor as he's called you evil and deceitful to your face.
You need to tell your parents what he's said, how often and that you are uncomfortable although you like this teacher very much. Your parents and the admin at school will handle this with him. You've done nothing wrong though by telling. It's a very icky sounding situation. If someone said that to me you can bet I would tell the nearest adult. Something clearly isn't right with him. He may have mental health issues--who knows. Saying something is in order though.
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I am 13 and a female.
We have been going out for about a month and a half and we still havent kissed. we have talked about it but then i was nervous so i didnt and he said that we would do it when we saw eachother...but it never happend obviously. So can soneone help me? Should I make the first move? Oh yeah im not sure if this will help but two weeks ago he broke his femur bone or something like that. will it make my chances of getting a kiss slimmer? PLEASE HELP!!!!! (link)
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Relax! It's something that should just unfold if you give it time naturally and in the moment. I have a feeling that he wants to badly but is afraid because he doesn't know how or something.
You're in a relationship so there's no reason why you can't go after what you want. If I were you I would either kiss him yourself when it feels right or tell him to kiss you when alone.
If that's a bit difficult and it shouldn't be at this point just have a conversation where you reiterate how important he is to you and that there's no reason to be afraid of anything at all and that you want to try it out.
I wouldn't wait on him as sometimes you have to be a bit aggressive. As far as him breaking a bone it doesn't factor in but you can use it as a joke that if he doesn't kiss you soon you'll break another bone. Maybe saying something cute to break the tension will get him to relax as I bet 100% he's just as wound up as you are about it. Trust me all 13-year-old guys are and likely his heart is jumping out of his chest. Hope it goes well for you. Lemme know how it turns out. All it comes down to is fear and both of you have it and just have to push it aside and go for it really.
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Im 21 my bf is 22...Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months...we have sex maybe once every 2-3 weeks...the first couple weeks of our relationship we were having sex everyday then i wasnt into it as much as he was..now the tables have turned and i want him but hes never in the mood, a few times iv seen him looking at porn but didnt want to have sex....i dont know what to do, he said hes sick of trying but now im the one trying....is he not attracted to me anymore? I really dont like how weve created this married like relationship..its no longer fun...i love him soo much im just afraid he doesnt want me anymore (link)
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Why not go directly to him and tell him that you feel unwanted and are definitely interested in sex and the relationship as a whole. Ask him what's bothering him as before he was wanting to be intimate all the time.
It's unusual that now when you're initiating the very thing he wanted in the first place that he's seemingly uninterested. Maybe, he's being a baby in a sense and giving you the cold shoulder because his ego was hurt before. I don't know but the fact he's gone from always wanting it to can't be bothered is really odd.
Unless he's on new medication or has an illness that's being treated with such his sex drive should not have plummeted off a cliff here. It doesn't add up.
You have to talk to him about your feelings and figure out where this relationship is headed as perhaps it was all about the physical before, now it isn't and you're not connecting on all other levels. Something needs to be said so it doesn't get worse.
Also, once every 2-3 weeks is hardly asking either partner much or putting someone out either so it's really odd behavior. I hate to suggest it but I wonder if he's not being true to you. It's weird and entirely NOT your fault that he's in to pornography and suddenly not his partner. You seriously need to figure out what's up with this guy and soon.
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I ALWAYS have sinus infections. Other than that, I am generally pretty healthy and can't think of what would cause a sinus infection other than the fact that I do give a fair amount of head. And my boyfriend will sometimes like thrust into my throat pretty forcefully to the point where my throat is sore.
This should be obvious, but just incase it isn't preaching about how giving head is a sin or whatever is a waste of my time as well as your own so please try to refrain. Not trying to be judged here, just wondering if this could be the cause of my sinus infections. (link)
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Only a doctor can pinpoint with accuracy exactly why you have these infections. We're not medical practitioners so even hazarding a guess could be detrimental or dangerous. If these infections are crippling as they do sound to be definitely get your behind to a doctor.
As far as lecturing you goes I don't know why anyone would as this is considered a normal act. Obviously your partner is incredibly enthusiastic and used to this one particular way of doing things.
Maybe if you told him about the sinus problems, any pain in the jaw etc. etc. and that you think it's hurting you physically afterward he'd understand.
There's lots of positions and techniques. I'm sure you could satisfy him just as good or equal to what he enjoys now that eliminate any of the problems you have now. That's something you both should look at as changing a few things about how you engage in the activity will certainly help your throat as you shouldn't have to endure pain simply to satisfy him.
Without getting graphic it sounds as though you're taking too much in at a time and he's clearly hurting you by not knowing he's being way too forceful on your throat. You need to tell him that it's hurting for sure.
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