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I don't want my boyfriend to meet my whole family
My family is really big, loud, eccentric and crazy. I'm afraid that if I introduce my boyfriend to them they might do something or say something embarrassing. My grandmother likes to tell personal business and embarrassing stuff that I don't want my boyfriend to hear. My dad is overprotective and most of my family members blab about stuff that they shouldn't. Even if you tell them not to say anything embarrassing, they will pop out with something embarrassing. I have loud cousins that might say something embarrassing. I don't even want them to know I have a boyfriend. My mom & dad like to ask people personal questions. My little cousin is just a drama queen and a brat. I know if my boyfriend meets my family he will think we are weirdo's. Because every time we have a family dinner there has to be a problem.What should i do?
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It's rather sad that you are so embarrassed by your parents, grandmother and everyone else in your family and have such a negative view. You need to work on that and realize that while they may be boorish at time that they have good points too.
I think you need to lighten up a bit. Tell your boyfriend the truth. Let him know that they're a bit of a wild bunch and do say and do embarrassing things or what they shouldn't at times but really are good people deep down.
If he genuinely loves you he won't give a shit really and should roll with the punches. I think he'll meet them and no matter what happens know that it's how they are and that you aren't like that especially if you highlight your concerns.
But yes to not want him to meet mom and dad over this is taking it too far. Let him meet them and form his own opinion.
If you're wound up about this tell your parents things that would upset you before hand and not to mention them and keep the first meeting limited to them and not the whole clan. It doesn't have to be a drawn out dinner either. Maybe a few minutes sit down before leaving on a date.
You need to work on having a better view of your family though as you have so much negativity pointed toward them all and that's something he will pick up on and not like.
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Tell him ahead of time what he's going to see so he won't be too surprised, and after all, you don't HAVE to introduce him. Also tell your family to try not to embarrass you and seriously talk to them about it so they know it's important to you.
Good Luck!
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