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My sister and I dont get alng
My sister is 8 years older than me, I am the youngest of 3. She has a drinking problem and kissed my fiance on the lips and said it wasn't sexual, and passed it off like it was nothing. I got upset and left her house, we haven't talked in a few months now, I called her to talk to her about what happened and said I dis-respected her by not cleaning up my step-kids plates( which in fact I did so)Basically, I think its just an excuse because I am right and she is wrong and is too suborn to apologize to me. She lies to my parents about my fiance putting words in his mouth that he talks bad about my parents, which they obviously don't believe her. We are getting married next year and well she really doesn't seem to care. Any advice on this situation?
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As the person before me said, she seems to have a bigger problem than what you are aware of or anybody else. I think this is where you have to put everything else aside and stick with your family, as in your fiance and step kids. She doesn't seem like she cares much about anything besides herself. If she was big enough of a person she would have called you to talk about what SHE did. You did not owe her that phone call but you were mature enough to still call her. Just let her live her life and you live yours. You cannot keep trying to fix something that is obviously broken. She is your sister, sober or not, you don't kiss your sisters ANYTHING rather yet a fiance! Walk away before she makes you go nuts!
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ADDITIONAL: If I were you I would approach your parents, get your fiance and other family members and friends together and stage an intervention. When she can't see how dangerous the issue is it means you have to step in and get her some help. Apologies from her have no weight if her life continues a downward slide. This can kill her.
She has a problem bigger than what you may even be aware. It's likely the booze talking or motivating what she says or does around you. I would cut off contact until she gets help. Tell your fiance to do the same.
Do your parents have any idea about what you know is fact? You and your fiance should speak to them in person. Tell them that neither you nor your fiance have ever said what she claims are are angry she has. Let them know you cut off contact with her months ago after discovering a hardcore drinking and or drug problem.
I'm sure your parents know by now what you would or wouldn't say about them but it's good to fill them in. As far as the wedding goes tell your parents that she's not welcome there until she gets sober and drop it.
Be sure they know she came on to your fiance and actually kissed him when drunk as that will be indicator enough that something's not right with her head.
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