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ok me and my whole grade are going to washington for 2 nights in may.. were going to be staying in nice hotels and everything.. i was wondering if people had some fun ideas to do in our rooms.. or pranks to play on people when they are sleeping.. i heard about flushing your foot down the toilet.. and we thought of a toga party :-P.. does anyone have any other fun ideas?

OK me and a couple of my friends love to play a game called SPider. All the lights go off and one person is blindfolded. The person who is blindfolded stays outsdie the door for a minute while the others hide..or just stand in the dark. the object is to not let the blindfolded person tag oyu..ts really fun just make sure you put all breakables away so nothing gets knocked over.
There is a fun list of things to do in an elevator..so maybe you and your friends can check that out..here i'll give it to you. Some you cant do..but heres the list

Fun Things 2 do in an elevator~ so0oo0o funii
Fun things 2 do in an elevator
1) When there's only one other person in the elvator, tap them
on the shoulder and then pretend it wasn't you.

2) Push the buttons and pretend they give you a shock. Smile,
and go back for more.

3) Ask if you can push the button for other people, but push the wrong ones.

4) Call the Psychic Hotline from your cell phone and ask if they
know what floor your on.

5) Hold the doors open and say your waiting for a friend. After
a while, let the doors close, and say to no visible person, "Hi Greg. How's your day been?"


6) Drop a pen and wait until someone goes to pick it up, then
scream, "That's mine!"

7) Bring a camera and take pictures of everyone in the elevator.

8) Move your desk into the elevator and whenever anyone gets on,
ask if they have an appointment.

9) Lay down the twister game mat and ask people if they would like to
play.

10) Leave a box in the corner, and when someone gets in the elevator, ask them if they can hear ticking.

11) Pretend you are a flight attendant and review emergency
procedures and exits with the passengers.

12) Stand really close to someone, sniffing them occasionally.

13) When the doors close, announce to the others, "It's okay,
don't panic, they open again!"

14) Swat at flies that don't exist.

15) Call out, "Group Hug!"and then enforce it.

16) Grimace painfully while smacking your forehead and
muttering, "Shut up, all of you, just shut up!"

17) Crack open your briefcase or purse, and while peering
inside, ask, "Got enough air in there?"

18) Stand silently and motionless in the corner, facing the
wall, without getting off.

19) Stare at another passenger for a while, then announce in
horror, "Your one of THEM!" and back away slowly.

20) Wear a puppet on your hand and use it to talk to the other
passengers.

21) Listen to the elevator walls with your stethoscope.

22) Make explosion noises when anyone presses a button.

23) Stare, grinning at another passenger for a while, then
announce, "I have new socks on".

24) Draw a little square on the floor with chalk and announce to
the other passengers, "This is MY personal space!"

Truth or dare might be fun for a little while in the hotel...there are some pretty good dares people can do in a hotel.

While people are sleeping..write on them with marker,take pics of them with this writing on, maybe wake them up and then when they stirr and start to wake, everyone pretend they are asleep

hhahaa have a blast

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Hello,
I live in Texas. I have a 16 yo son who is totally out of control. He has been to boot camp but that didn't help. He is making our family miserable and nothing we do (counseling, etc.) seems to help. We cannot find any help in our town, we are told to deal with him because he is our problem. Does anyone have experience with this?
Thank you so much!

Im 16 myself, but i have a friend who is pretty out of control herself. I can give you things my parents do that i think keeps order with me (although im not perfect of course)
-whenever i go somewhere they ask 4-5 questions
. WHO . who will i be with when i go out
. WHAT . what will i be doing
. WHERE. where will i be, where will i go when i get there,where will i get picked up, etc.
WHEN when will i leave ..they usually dont ask when i will be home..i think i've earned their trust for them not to ask
WHY . they dont usually ask this..when i tell then where im going i'll say "im going to jessicas house to hang out.." and that will take care of the why. If i say im going to someones house im not usually at,,they might ask why.

Yes im only 16 but i find these questions will help monitor your son. My out of control friend has no father figure in her life..i feel a father figure will help keep things in line..someone to yell at him when he misbehaves,someone to really get home when he does bad..even if its your brother or an uncle..he needs a father figure in my opininon
but then again this girl's mother is pretty much a deadbeat ...try those i hope it works somehow

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hey! my dad told me that if i get a 92 or above on my report card at the end of the year, then he will get me a new cellphone. but see, i have a problem..softball has started and so that is what im worried about. and i havent been finishin my homework at home and i havent been studying. i need some tips to start buckling down. my lowest grade is a 78 and my highest is an 89(?)..can someone help me? i only have about 4 weeks left of school...

Man im in softball too and my grades are like yours. I try and study on the bus...usually when i get home it isnt too late..i get home before 8:30 which is nothing compared to basketball. In bball, we would get home 8:30 or later most of the time...so softball is a little easier to manage. So do whatever little parts you can on the bus on the way to games,work/study on your free periods, try and see if you can get extra credit by doing a presentation,etc., this one kills me...but stay after school for extra help and go to practice late. I hate missing out on practice, but i have to stay after school. Maybe stay in the library for 45 mins after school to do homework, or stay with one of your teachers after school.

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On me n this guy's first date, we went all the way to 3rd base... and thenw e went out for like a week or 2 longer and then broke up.. rumors flew around the school which caused the break up.. now he and I merely talk.. but consider each other as friends still... I think i still like him.. but I don't think he likes me... how can I change his perspective of the relationship.. and why do I still like him? Thanks ahead of time!

To change the perspective of the relationship try and realize he might be attached also but the rumors were just too much..he could be thinking about you just like your thinking about him. Ignore the rumors, they eventually die out even though they are horrible for the week they go around school for.
You still like him because you went pretty far and when you go that far, its normal to feel attached. You gave a piece of yourself to him.

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A really good friend of mine is going to the movies with this guy,tomorow, and i know all there gonna do is make out and touch eachother and stuff, it happened last time. She wants me to go, and i really wanna go too, and she said "bring one of your guy friends, itl be a double date!", and i said "okay!", but the truth is..i really dont have any. None..actually. I really wana go, and il feel akward if im really alone, and i dont want to tell her that im a loser! I dont know what to do, and i cant make any at school because i go to a school where theres no boys, and im really ugly so i cant really make any guy friends that want to kiss me. This makes me feel really bad, and shes so pretty so she could get like any guy..i dont know what to do. Ne suggestions, please?

OK dont put yourself down that way, im not the best looking person either.. we all have our flaws. I wouldnt try and get a guy to go..because think about it..if you try really hard to invite just anyone, then you'll be called desperate. If you dont have any good guy friends..dont sweat it, just bring another girl and hang out with her while your other friend does things with the guy. Dont feel bad..shes your friend so she wont make fun of you. Just say you dont have any close guy friends to invite.

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My Ex And I Have Been Apart For A While Now..But Today He Said That He Loved Me..And That He Made A Mistake Breaking Up With Me..And That He Misses Me..And He Broke Up With Me B/c Me And My Best Friend Were Fighting Over Him In A Way..But I Told Him That Me And Her Fight But We Cant Stay Mad At Each Other..Then He Said Well Dang Did I Make A Big Mistake..When We Broke Up He Said He Wanted To Be Friends..I Just Got Use To That Yesterday But Then He Had To Come And Say He Loved Me And Stuff..So Befor He Got Off The Computet I Asked Him If He Wanted To Try It Again..Us Together..And He Said That He Will Think About It And Tell Me Later..What I Wanna Ask Is..Do You Think He'll Get Back With Me?

Yes it sounds like he wants to because he even said " Well dang did i make a big mistake.." So i wouldnt get my hopes too high..but from what i hear it sounds like he'll get back together with you

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Ok, your a good advice giver but.. teens shouldnt be having sex right now. look at all these teens coming on your site telling you they got pregnaut. when someone tells you they are thinking about having sex and dont have a ring on their finger, i think you should tell them they shouldnt be doing this crap right now. who cares if "everything is doing it" or "nobody waits for marriage anymore" idc. teens dont need to be out there doing sexual activites!!

you know what..i agree with you that teens should wait..but reality is not everyone will. I cant tell them what to do and lecture them, the idea (in my perspective) is to tell them their options..i guess i should add my own view in there on how i think they should wait until marriage. Thank you for your input

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me and my boyfriend had sex and we didnt use rubber and im only 14 he got me pregnet what do i tell my parents?

You need to tell your parents within the next 24 hours..dont wait longer than that. The sooner you talk to them , the sooner they get the shock and yelling out, and the sooner you,your bf , and all the parents can sit down and talk about this together. You need to tell them very soon so they can talk to you about options and preperation for the baby..going to doctors appointments to monitor the baby, think of a system on how to pay for the baby and who will watch the baby when, etc. There is much to do ..and the longer you wait the worse it will be..talk to them now so wen you begin to get morning sickness, etc. your mom will be there to help you through everything.

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*-*Me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 days ago..and i'm already starting to like someone else..and my ex knows..but he keeps asking me who i like..is this cause he still likes me or what?..*-*

*-*Thanks!*-*

yes this could be the reason..being that its so soon after the breakup, it still might be difficult for him or maybe hes simply jealous. I dont know the whole story with you two, but if he broke up with you for example because he didnt like something or whatever, and he learns you like someone new, he might be jealous and wondering why your moving on so quick..but he mightt no necassarily like you.
But its very possible he still likes you and its a sensitive spot for him.
Hope i helped
-melissa-

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Hey. I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade at the moment. Right now I'm registering for high school classes for next year. I'm definitely taking Latin 1. Since there aren't very many honors classes for freshmans, I think I want to take Spanish 1 also (it's not a honors class. I want to take it because I think I can use it a lot in the real world or w/e). My question is, do you think I should take 2 languages?

Thanks.

Its going to take work, but if you feel up to it and your willing to commit to it, then yeah go for it! If it becomes too uch you can always go to your guuidance conselor to get your schedule changed and drop spanish if it gets to be too much

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Okay, so one of my friends is having a B-Day party on Friday. She's inviting a bunch of people. She claims that she is my BFF, and she loves me as a friend so much. The problem is that whenever i go to her parties, she ignores me and hangs around with her other friends, and NEVER talks to me. Should i go ?

Yeah dont let her ruin the fun..talk to the other people there..become the life of the party..then if she comes to hang out with you..brush her off a little..show her how it feels...i wouldnt be too harsh because its kind of messed up on her bday party, but i would go and still have a good time.

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Hey! im having my birthday party at my house April 29th and its going to be about 20-25 girls and boys there ( ages - around 13 ) and like i don't want it to be boring so can anyone give me some things to do... ok 1st my neighbor has a bonfire thing in their backyard and said i can use it ,we can play like 7 min. in heaven , i have a basement w/ a pool table and like living room and stuff. i have a backyard and we were thinkin about like orderin pizza or cooking out. ne more ideas? please help! xoxo

That sounds like a really good start just get some music added in and your set.. check out party411.com also for more (its mostly party games and stuff but there are some games that arent babyish)
your party will be great no worries
-melissa-

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I'm 14 and I already lost my virginity... Is that normal?

This is 2005 and reality is..some teens have sex. people your age and little younger even have had sex so you are not the only one. I wouldnt say your abnormal..i would say your a bit young though. The past is over with so dont stress too much over it...
-melissa-

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my friend says she is always excluded but thats not true and its really annoying when i go to ride my bike with some friends and she gets upset cuz we did not invite her well she lives to far away and does not know how to ride a bike this is a really bothering me what should i do to make her see she is never excluded???

I know your feeling that she really isnt being excluded at all ; and it seems fine to me that you didnt invite her because she lives far away; but i guess being that shes feeling this way i would try and do a little something to make her feel better. Maybe get a shoe box or something and put pictures of you guys and write in there about memories and how shes a great friend. Just explain it to her the way you did to me..and hopefully she will get over the excluded feeling.
hope that helped a little?
-melissa-

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yea thats a good start but i mean i dont know if i should say its been a while want to hang out thou so maybe if the converstion goes good then i would say that but i mean i dunno what to say beofre that what if he says o nuthin really then theres kinda nuthin to talk about wat else can i ask him?

Well umm...do you have a funny story to tell him? Im gettin kinda stumped because i dont know what you guys are into.
Ask if he saw a good movie like the Ring 2..if he says yeah n you saw it..remember that line where she goes "im not your fucking mommy." i dont know about you but me and my friends were cracking up oon that part..so maybe talk about the latest movies, or if something big happened in your school like a fight mention that..
sorry but im not good with conversations and guys.. :/

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i know but i still dont know what to say when i IM him??

OK so when you IM him..just say "whats up ..what have you been doing..
then say "its been awhile..wanna hang out this weekend so we can kind of catch up a little?' just be yourself..make plans to hang out with him when you IM him..i would start from there

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Ok well I asked the question about where to put your hands when makingour/kissing and thank you so much for responding w/ a good answer but now I have another question when makingout with a guy when do you move you hands? And will he try to take off your shirt if you are really into each other (and we are), but what if he does try to take off my clothes then what should I do? thank you so much if you answer and I will rate you 5

OK..when your lips first lock, thats when you can put your hands wherever..really there is no right or wrong time but thats when i would do it i guess. Yeah the guy might take off your shirt if hes not too shy and really into you. First think to yourself
-am i comfortable with this?
-how far will i go before i draw the line?
If you dont want your shirt off..if he goes for the shirt just tell him your not ready.
If you decide that you want the clothes to come off and your down to your bra and underwear, go ahead and take his shirt off and his pants.
from here you have some options
-you can just continue to kiss without clothes on
-you can let him feel you up (your chest area) by putting his hands there or just by letting him if he makes the first move
-you can get touchy touchy in other places
What happens after the clothes come off definately depends on how far you want to go.

-melissa-

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I've been friends with the same group of people since I moved here(8th grade). I'm not a junior in highschool and just about fed up with the way they all act. I mean, don't get me wrong, they're great friends but well...act pretty slutty at times. Actually, they don't act like sluts...they are sluts. They are they typical "popular slutty cheerleaders" and I don't want that to reclect back on me becasue I'm not like that. I want to stop hanging out with them but I don't want to just be like "hey, I don't like you guys anymore...see ya around." What should I do?

What to do is to start being friendly with the people you want to be friends with..find another group. But if they are good friends..then you can still be nice to them, just as long as you dont dress or act like them people should be able to differentiate that you are not one of them.

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Well, I have in issue with becoming a vegetarian. I really want to, but my family is Greek and they just don't understand why I won't eat perfectly good meat, and if I don't eat it they think I have an eating disorder. I really want to give it up because I love animals and it's a lot healthier, but I'm shy when it comes to telling my parents these things and I don't know if they'd understand. They'd probably make fun of me. What should I do?

Well, they are Greek so they wont understand it at first..but its better to tell them straight out and maybe get laughed at for a bit than to have them think you have an eating disorder.

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i know but she reminds me of all the stuff that happened (like how we went on a date nuthin happened but he didnt want to tell his other friends that we went out because he knew they would give him slack for wanting to date a 8th grader) because hes to dependent on his friends and what they think rather than talk to me again because after a month without talking to me or seeing me he just got this picture in his head of me because of what his friends kept on saying over and over again. i his best friends told me that he lost intrest about a month agao but im still worrried that he thiks those things about me. help?!?!?!?!

So when you IM him and start hanging out you can bring up the subject and tell him not to care what others think..he might start to like you again but be too worried about what his friends say..some people dont care what others think..but then others care too much..like this guy of yours. Dont keep worrying about things and just talk to him and hang out, you have nothin to lose really. Ok? :)
-meliss-

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