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Out of control teen
Hello,
I live in Texas. I have a 16 yo son who is totally out of control. He has been to boot camp but that didn't help. He is making our family miserable and nothing we do (counseling, etc.) seems to help. We cannot find any help in our town, we are told to deal with him because he is our problem. Does anyone have experience with this?
Thank you so much!
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You're a bad parent. Time to get worse.
Hogtie him to your cieling fan and turn it on to high.
Superglue his pecker to a wall when hes drunk and knocked out.
Replace his weed with grass you got from your yard.
Ducktape him to the floor and scream at him.
Send him to an insane asylum saying he tried to kill you.
Move out when hes out at a party or Gangbang.
Take a crap in his mouth while hes sleeping.
Throw dog shit in his pants while hes sleeping and when he wakes up, point and laugh yelling 'AHAAHAHA BED SHITTER!'
Replace his drugs, if hes on ex. With a laxative pill.
Superglue his eyes shut when hes sleepling.
If you need anymore ideas, im still waiting for your feedback.
P.S. Your son is psycho. You're psycho for not doing something about him.
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You take him to the court house. You make him sign imancipation paperwork. Then, YOU are no longer responsible for his actions. Then, you boot him out of your house. I am harsher than you are on this subject! I know it will be hard to do because you still love him...idiot that he is. BUT, you have at least one other child to raise and he is not a good example for them. He is screwing around with girls, drugs and gangs. Maybe one of those friends will take him in. If not then I guess he better get a job and get responsible. If he has to quit school...so what, he is no longer your responsibility. Until he gets out there in the real world and has to fend for himself, he is going to continue as he is.So, let him do it on his own. You concentrate on the children that you can help. Be strict with them too. Teach them what happens when you think you know everything. Don't let him back in either until he has gotten help and has made very major changes. I don't see that happening for years.It is sad, very sad but you must think of the rest of your family. I sure wish you luck.
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anonymous -
Maybe a juvenile facility? Those tend to get pretty rough.
If not, try to just sit down and talk with your son. Make it clear that the intention of the conversation isn't to hurt him, or threaten him, or be nosey, but just ask him what's been going on in his life. Ask him why does he act the way that he does. Don't try to antagonize him, but instead make him feel like he can open up to you, and tell him the reason why you're asking him these questions is because as a father/mother you want to be there for him...and that his behavior lately has been hurting you a lot. Mention the fact that you (if you're the mom) went through agonizing pain to give birth to him, to give him a chance at life. And seeing him abuse this gift just tears you up inside.
He just needs to know he's loved. And a possible reason why he's acting like this is because he feels isolated at home. He uses these tactics as an escape from the troubles he faces at home.
I really hope this helps, if not, try giving a call to Dr. Phil :)
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Hey im a sixteen year old female.. okay iwas completely out of control when i was 13.. i was around drug dealers, fighting constantly,hanging round where shootings went on at, sneeking out of the house and jus mad at the world... okay well i got locked up 11 times in 3 months which thats not what changed me cause i kept gettin early releases and my mom didnt want me locked up.. well i ranaway got caught of course and had to be put in a place called the light house.. its a place for kids who runaway.. well anyways thats what made me more better and care more.. it was like a place where you basically see that your life isnt as hard as other people who live close by and that your life is all good.. i mean theres other reason why i changed to.. i really had no choice cause i got put on house arrest and had a probabtion officer.. so i couldnt really do anything with out getting locked up.. maybe this would help you out with your son.. well now im still an okay person i think i still have my moments where i do things but now i dont get caught.. but anyways i hope i helped and i hope your son gets the help he needs.. much luv dez x0x0
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Be a father. Do what fathers are supposed to do and be there for him no matter what. Be in his life and check what is the matter with him. Follow him everywhere he goes (Detective style) (dont let him know of course)and see what he does. All you can do is love him and make sure he feels and knows that. The thing is hes not going to stop no matter what you do. Until he hits rock bottom hes going to act out. Discipline sometimes work but not always, if your going to start disciplining him dont expect fast results like evrything else in life its going to take time. And someday, or even months or years youll see that hell be ok. He is in a path that god had planned for him, and everyone goes through that, and in time god will lead him into the good one.
I hoped I helped. SRY if my answer was so long!!!
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do you discipline him at all? teach this prick who's boss with the belt.
you sent him to boot camp? was it against his wishes? that would be wrong.
-hitler
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sit down ask him why hes so angry girls guys how he grew up*no offence* mabey some kids or the tv he watched or watches is a bad influence
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Im 16 myself, but i have a friend who is pretty out of control herself. I can give you things my parents do that i think keeps order with me (although im not perfect of course)
-whenever i go somewhere they ask 4-5 questions
. WHO . who will i be with when i go out
. WHAT . what will i be doing
. WHERE. where will i be, where will i go when i get there,where will i get picked up, etc.
WHEN when will i leave ..they usually dont ask when i will be home..i think i've earned their trust for them not to ask
WHY . they dont usually ask this..when i tell then where im going i'll say "im going to jessicas house to hang out.." and that will take care of the why. If i say im going to someones house im not usually at,,they might ask why.
Yes im only 16 but i find these questions will help monitor your son. My out of control friend has no father figure in her life..i feel a father figure will help keep things in line..someone to yell at him when he misbehaves,someone to really get home when he does bad..even if its your brother or an uncle..he needs a father figure in my opininon
but then again this girl's mother is pretty much a deadbeat ...try those i hope it works somehow
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hey...well just wanted to say texas is the best state!:)but yea.. my sister who is now 18 put my parents through alot of crap too..her main problem was that she didn't go out enough?..so does he like ever go out with his friends..or just get out of the house every once in a while?..have you like sat down with him and talk to him one on one yet?...that's all i can think of for now! hope i helped!:)
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well as another 16 year old girl, i think he needs to find something to do, has he tried sports? my older brother (now 24) went through this also and i seriously think sports would help. if he enjoyed the sports, he would probobly respect the coaches, and then the coaches could set guidelines with you to help him work better in school, and at home...so sports is what i say. their a responsibility and will keep him out of trouble.
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Well I'm just another teenager and I think if you give him something to be responsible for or in charge of something to make him feel useful then he wont find the need to destroy or do bad things.Is there something that might have happened in your family that caused him to act this way? Or how long has this been going on cause it can be just a phase. Is there anyone that he truly respects if there is then why not try to get the person to talk to him.I don't know about experience but my brother used to be really bad and he wasn't sent to boot camp or even hit. My parents just signed him up in a class for christians and my mom had a REAL long talk with him. I wouldn't know but because I'm just another kid but maybe what I said can possibly help.
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