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my friend says she is always excluded but thats not true and its really annoying when i go to ride my bike with some friends and she gets upset cuz we did not invite her well she lives to far away and does not know how to ride a bike this is a really bothering me what should i do to make her see she is never excluded???
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Maybe you and the people your hanging out with are really good friends to her. She probably feels like shes unwanted. Everyone gets left out at times, but maybe you and you're friends should nvite her somewhere so she'll see you guys don't try to exclude her. Im sure you've been excluded too and nobody enjoys it. It sounds to me that all she wants to do is hang out with her friends and theres nothing wrong with that. Im not saying you should never ride your bike again but if you want your friend to be happy, I really think you should do other things too and invite her.
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Maybe you can start doing things with her just the two of you. That might make her feel like she's wanted a little bit more. Or maybe when you go to ride your bike with people you can even invite her... Even though she lives so far away, she might appreciate it. Just start inviting her more. I don't think she would say something like that if she didn't feel that it were happening.
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Maybe you should try and included her abit more although you might not think she is being excluded and maybe she isnt but you just need to involve her abit more. When you go on a ike read she could come down and maybe walk with you or go on roller skates if she can etc. You just to make her think she is not being excluded then she wont feel as jealous when you and your other friends a doing stuff. You could even do something that she can do to maybe you could go shoppin, go to your local park, go to the cinema, go to the beach if you have one near yu. This will mke her feel included with your group friends and she will stop annoying you. Hope it helped.
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Tell her to learn to ride a bike. Teach her maybe. She is sorta being excluded. But, you really can't help it if she lives very far away. :)
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Tell her its a two way process, if she wants to do something, and next time she has a ride to your house or something then just tell her to call you, i mean if she cant pick up a phone herself then that's her problem. But do try to remember her every once and a while, like when you go to movies or arent really riding around too much just chilling at someones house. good luck!
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Sounds to me like she's jealous. Just make sure you try to spend equal time with her and your other friends.
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I know your feeling that she really isnt being excluded at all ; and it seems fine to me that you didnt invite her because she lives far away; but i guess being that shes feeling this way i would try and do a little something to make her feel better. Maybe get a shoe box or something and put pictures of you guys and write in there about memories and how shes a great friend. Just explain it to her the way you did to me..and hopefully she will get over the excluded feeling.
hope that helped a little?
-melissa-
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