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What happened?
On me n this guy's first date, we went all the way to 3rd base... and thenw e went out for like a week or 2 longer and then broke up.. rumors flew around the school which caused the break up.. now he and I merely talk.. but consider each other as friends still... I think i still like him.. but I don't think he likes me... how can I change his perspective of the relationship.. and why do I still like him? Thanks ahead of time!
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if you went to third base no wonder you still like sounds like a major dude but you could allways tell him you still like him and if any rumors spread who cares
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Well hun your a female and like almost any female when we have sex with a guy we become very attached.. And this apparently ment something to you so its going to be hard for you to get over him.. sorry to hear how your relationship ended it must really suck.. you should ask him if he still likes you and everything.. If you guys hook back up keep that relationship to your selfs because who knows what can happen you know.. like rumors gettin around again im sure you dont want that to ruin things for you.. much luv dez x0x0
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well, what happened was you got cought up in the moment. happens to the best of us. you need to, for the next time, set a boundary for youself. as in, i wont go past making out, or feeling up, i dont know. and i dont know what your "3rd base" defination is, but make sure that if that happens again, the guys hands are clean. there are ways to get pregnate like that, i went to a seminar on it. okay, welll, i know why you still like him, and its because you two did stuff, and he made you think that it was the "cool" thing to do. and he doesnt talk to you now, or do anything with you now, because people know, and he doesnt want his rep. to be bad, even though you are the one that got really hurt from it. I was the victim of something like that. I was somewhat forced to do things witha guy. he persuaded me into thinking it was cool, and everyone was doing it, so it was pressure too, because he was older. and then when i would tell people he would get mad at me, and of course i wanted to tell because, i was a lot younger then, and he was a whole grade older. and anyways, he wouldnt talk to me in public, well, he would only talk to me before anything tookplace, and during, ect. so, i dont want that to happen to anyone else, and it sounds like it did. and i know how you feel, about the love thing, because thats how i felt, and i would put my head on his shoulder and hug him, and he would tell me not to because it made him feel uncomfortable. yeah, i am dead serious. so, just make sure that no matter what, you set boundaries for yourself. I have a great boyfriend now, who knows all about what happened, and i have been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months, and we have bounadries set, and we wont cross them, and thats good to have in a relationship, and also, we talk like all of the time, its good to have communication in a relationship!!
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Kelsa :)
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.... um....yea, hi. I can't answer the second question, because it really is a question to ask yourself. But I can help you in your first question (smiles). Um, the first one... Basically what's important here, is to do a lot of things to show him you like him still (if you do). But don't over do it, to the point you'd scare him away. That's something you wouldn't want to do. However, don't neglect it. It's really hard to explain. Like remeber his birthday and whatnot, and give him a gift, but don't give him something out-of-range like something expensive. But then again, something as good as what you'd give to your best friend. So yea, That's my advice to you. Hope I helped!!!
~SAM
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If you don't think he likes you the same then there is probably no reason to try to get him interested again. Your feelings will change once you get your mind thinking about someone else. :)
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Just move on or ask him out again. Pretty simple.
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To change the perspective of the relationship try and realize he might be attached also but the rumors were just too much..he could be thinking about you just like your thinking about him. Ignore the rumors, they eventually die out even though they are horrible for the week they go around school for.
You still like him because you went pretty far and when you go that far, its normal to feel attached. You gave a piece of yourself to him.
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Thing went to fast for you wheteher you know it or not so your still confused tell him that you want to try it out again cause you think you still like him if he says no ask if you two can hang out again say it would help you two clear things up.
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ok..because you went all the way to third base only on the first date, this guy probably thinks of you as easy. and im sure the rumors say your slutty or whatever and he doesnt want to be with you because of that. when you let guys do that to you, when its only your first date, they use you. and thats exactly what he did. you shoud have a ltitle more respect for youself....im sorry but thats just slutty..
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