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My kitten is about a month old. He seems healthy enough, bright-eyed and energetic. He eats and drinks well and his litter box gets the appropriate amount of action.
His right paw in the back is the appendage in question where the fur loss is happening. There seems to be a scabbing of sorts underneath the fur in that area with no previous injuries and then it comes off. The skin is entirely bare in that spot now. There is no bleeding and it doesn't seem to bother him too much but nevertheless, it does not look pleasant. And it doesn't seem like anything I've encountered in my searches so far, does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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It's likely an allergy. Dogs and cats have them in abundance this time of year. Out of frustration according to my vet (have the problem with a dog) they'll scratch themselves or bite, lick their paws as a way to try and stop it. Probably just needs allergy medication.
The thing is we're NOT doctors be it for animals or humans. What you need to do is take the kitten to a vet despite the cost and have them rule out anything medical and then an allergy. If there's something seriously wrong (which I doubt) and that animal has papers and promise of good health than you can take the breeder or pet store to task on getting your funds back and getting a healthy kitten from a better source.
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My boyfriend, Tate is a freeloader. When we go to dinner with my family, he doesn't care about seeing them, he cares about getting a free meal. Last week, my cousins were in town and my aunt invited us to dinner at an italian place Tate hates. He always makes me make excuses for why he can't go when we go there. At first, Tate told me to try and make dinner at another place. I told him he might as well not go because if we scheduled it around him, my uncle wouldn't get to go and my cousins wanted dinner with their dad while they were in town. He
made me schedule it around him anyway so he could get his free meal and when it was still going to be at the italian place, he made me make an excuse for him again. Then my three year old blabbed the truth and embarrassed me bad, especially since the way Tate put it was rather rude and she repeated it verbatim. I'd rather him not come if he cares so little. What should I do? (link)
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There's more to this--a lot more than him being a free-loader, incredibly self-centered and getting you to schedule as well as make everything revolve around his tastes and desires.
You need to develop a backbone and use it consistently. Tell him that if he doesn't want to go to suit himself and that everyone will miss his presence and you go. If he doesn't want to be there than that's his problem. Let your friends/family know why and don't make excuses for this guy.
It's a pretty (f-word) state of affairs when he can't be bothered to interact with your family (his future family) for any reason unless it benefits him and it's even bloody worse when your 3-year-old blurts out what he thinks of these people.
I don't know why you love this guy but if I were you I would seriously start to re-consider as he's a self-centered SOB that will in the end make you and your daughter whom he sets unprecedented bad example for miserable unless there's good things you haven't told us.
It's all about ME when it comes to him and not YOU, your kid and your family. You want a guy who can at least tolerate if not embrace everything/everyone that comes with being around you.
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Hello.
I am British, and am studying American History.
I know that most of the users on this website are from the USA, and so maybe those who have studied History may be able to throw a little knowledge and experience into the mix.
I am studying, "USA, 1980-1945" (focusing on all aspects i.e. Economics, Politics, Society, and Foreign Policy) and "USA & Vietnam, 1961-1975". We are given textbooks that focus solely on the syllabus, as well as a reading list of books.
I suspect that American History is taught better in the USA, like British History is taught much better in the United Kingdom. So to anyone who has studied American History (at any level), are there any books/websites/resources that you would recommend? Or any authors specifically?
Thank you very much :) (link)
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There used to be and probably still is a series of books called "Chronicles Of The World" and one specifically on American History that were issued late '80s mid '90s that you could find in any reference library or possibly bookstore still.
They were written and edited like a series of newspaper articles from whatever BC or AD to current year of how historical events happened as if they were being reported in print back then. Invaluable to understanding the U.S. and world events in the eyes of those who saw it at the time. I'd really search for those.
The next web site of importance would be www.whitehouse.gov On that site it will give you the full biography of the presidents, vice-presidents, first-ladies and goes into great detail of all the challenges they faced and their policies foreign and domestic. I like those. Stay away from Wikipedia. It's about as good as the person writing it for history.
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During foreplay when I go down on my man, I never know if you're suppose to blow him until he comes, or just stay down there for a couple minutes to get him warmed up before we start to have sex. I've gone down on him until he finished, but once he entered me, he was already tired and couldn't pump anymore which made me get nothing out of it. So my question is, what do the guys expect to receive when girls go down on them begore intercourse? Please help! (link)
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You have to ask him what he's wanting here and not anyone else. Each guy is difference but I gather the end result desired by all of the, is climax (release of semen) as orgasm is to females in the same act.
If he's "too tired" and "can't perform" afterwards than you need intercourse first and this later or for him to engage in foreplay or other pleasurable acts for you because it has to go both ways. If he won't or can't reciprocate than you have to tell him no more until he can. Talk to him about this as you really need to if it's bothering you.
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I don't know if he means to be, but he has embarrassed me badly by saying things that hurt others' feelings. He insulted his teacher's daughter on the last day of school this past year when he thought telling her, "I like your sister" was a big compliment, even if he told her she should wish she looked more like her sister. She had come to eat lunch with her mom and when he continued with, "She's got a hot body and she knows how to work it" and made inappropriate remarks about the sister, he mad her feel so uncomfortable that she left the school. That's NOT okay, and when I heard, I knew she had probably told her mom all about it and she probably didn't like him anymore. I was sure of it when I heard he had gotten in trouble on the same day for calling a classmate ugly, I've tried talking to him, but he seems to just get worse, like he has zero empathy. Any advice? (link)
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It's much more than social ineptitude and not knowing you can think one thing but not say it about another. That's not computing. I think you should take him to a doctor and get a referral for a psychiatrist.
He's not "crazy" but what fuels this is likely a medical thing such as aspbergers or a less severe learning problem where making cruel or socially unacceptable remarks is one of the symptoms and in some cases a lack of empathy towards others too. I would start there as he does need help because he's incapable of seeing he has an ongoing issue that is affecting his life.
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Ok so I just turned 13 and Im a girl... I reccently had my 1st kiss with this guy and I broke up with him because he was a jerk. I have a question...
1.Is materbating like fingering yourself for pleasure?
So, obviously by my question I want to masterbate for my own pleasure. I have almost done it (I think) in the shower because no one was home except me and I slipped and fell and while I was on the floor of the shower I leaned against the wall and I think I found my vagina but I dont know because I felt my butt (dont ask I can be strange) and I felt along my crotch and as I was feeling with my 2 fingers they went in a teeny tiny bit and I think it was my vagina. Is it wrong for me to masterbate at this age? Is it also wrong that I watch porn a bit sometimes because it makes me feel good? Should I actually masterbate? Will it hurt? Give me all info about masterbation and please only answer if you have done it... Thanx (link)
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What leaps out at me is that you don't know what all the parts and folds of your own genitals look like and where they are located. I gather nobody has tried to educate you about it. Yes, they are located in the front in the same place a penis would be for a male.
And yes, what you touched and placed your finger in was the vagina. What would be helpful to you is to get a hand mirror as well as look up vulva, female reproductive system, clitoris etc etc. for medical diagrams to see what each part looks like so you yourself can find it with a mirror and know what its function is. It's important info for you to know.
Pornography is meant for adults but yes people your age have watched it when they shouldn't have been exposed to it. Will it do anything to hurt you at your age? Well, you shouldn't be watching it and it's NOT based in reality. At this age it won't destroy your mind but if you can stop do so as it's not meant for you. It was simply curiosity though and that's okay to have.
It's not about age when it comes to masturbation. People of all ages male/female both do it from infancy to death. It's normal to do it and normal not to. It's pretty much your decision alone and universal 100% with teens. Most of your classmates do it or will at some point but would never own up.
Stats wise 90% of males do and 77% of females some time through life. That figure may be even higher considering males talk about it and girls don't.
We cannot nor will we ever give advice bordering on how to. Everyone responds to different technique and sensations. You have to find out for yourself how your body works as everyone is different.
It also cannot physically harm you either or mentally unless it's all you want to do and you have zero life aside from doing or wanting to constantly do it. That's not the case so you're fine. It's something to relax about either way as the majority of people don't give doing it or not doing it a second thought.
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So there's this guy in my class that I've had a crush on for AGES but I've never actually talked to him. I get all nervous when I try and I'll refuse to go anywhere near him. But recently, there is this rumor going on that he likes me too. And suddenly, I notice all sorts of signs. The other day, he was staring at me across the classroom. I'm so confused. I mean, it's just a rumor, right? (link)
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Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. You have to go directly to the source. How can you date the guy if you can't even talk to him? He's not going to bite you. You have to treat him like anyone else you talk to and just do it.
Start a friendship and see if it leads elsewhere. You have to know if you are even remotely compatible as people first. Talking to him is no different than talking to a friend or parent or aunt Agatha. He's going to pass on you if you don't even talk to him. He'll think it odd.
If you like him set up a group bowling session, see a movie as a group or whatever as that will take any pressure off. If he doesn't want to attend that's usually a strong signal that he has zero interest. You can't trust rumors but you should investigate further.
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Ok so I keep having dreams about my sister and my bf having feelings for each other like one time I dram that my bf and my sister came to me telling me they were really srry and that they didn't mean for that to hppn that they really want to be with each other and hope I can understand and I felt soon bad I was crying to them asking them why why did they do this to me and it was so weard beacuse I felt the pain it hurt me so much Was crying my hart out to them and all they were thinking about was themselves and I have had alot of dreams like that about them two so I would want to know someone's ealse opinion. What dose that mean??? (link)
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For some reason you have an irrational fear that is always on your mind. You can't let go of it even when you sleep. Dreams are nothing more than thought pictures. When you sleep your thoughts come to you as visual representations.
What you have to realize is the TRUTH that neither of them feel for one another nor have given reason to you to feel this way. Discuss with your sister or both of them these fears and put it behind you.
If it persists see a therapist to try and uncover the true cause of your insecurity and whether or not there's a more serious issue with the sister or him to deal with than just silly reasons for apprehension. If it hasn't happened in real life don't worry about it as it's just a dream based on fear.
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Please don't laugh at this,well as my question goes,my bf has a banana-shaped penis,the thing is that not only is it shaped like that,but it's also quite large,even though it gives me the most pleasant sensation during sex,I feel like I might get hurt by it,since sometimes it can be really painful when he sticks it into me.Thanks for taking the time to read this (link)
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This is a better question than you would think. It's actually called pay-rone-ees disease (I'm spelling it phonetically as it's a difficult word but try GOOGLE for info). What causes the banana shape curve is scar tissue that never ever healed and continued stretching and tearing until it got this bad.
He probably has ZERO recollection but at some point he got socked in the groin or injured his genital region. Like most guys he said nothing about it and walked it off. So, it healed improperly and developed scar tissue so when erect it has a curve.
Can you get an infection? NOPE. As far as insertion into the vagina and being in pain goes be sure you tell him about it. Have him visit an urologist and describe this issue as they know how to handle issues like this and will have your solution.
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Okay, so. I have always had paranoia and hypochondria. But recently, every time I get so excited for something, my mind wanders and I start to think something negative will happen. I'm going to miss life if this doesn't stop, so how can I make this stop? (link)
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See a psychiatrist. It's a mental illness causing it which they can correct with the right treatment and medication. Until you do that it will progressively get worse and as you stated impact negatively your life. It won't cease any other way than to have medical assistance. Seen this one up close to many times to know it takes treatment.
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Hello. I believe I have read an article long ago about a man and his family. Problem is, I'm not too certain for it was quite some time ago. Yet, I saw a picture of him and his family on Facebook and I had deja vu. I met this man earlier this year. I asked him if he had ever been in a magazine article and he told me he was many years ago. He said it was a bad time. I don't think he gave me the whole story. So my question is, is there any possibility I can find this article on the internet? I've been searching his name but all I can find is his basic information. I really want to see it again. Does anyone know a way to find the article? Any websites that would be much better results than Google? (link)
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If you know who the article was about and the theme and for sure the publication you can call their newsroom. Ask them how you can look at their archives online or in person for the article. These days if you tell them who an article was about and the gist they can punch up EVERYTHING ever written about the person.
Some papers put their archives online for a fee like the Toronto Star, NY TIMES etc. for a fee. If it's a community newspaper that you get for free their archives are spotty at best. But, you'll have to contact them.
I don't know where you live but most metropolitan cities have a central research/reference library. You'll typically find a morgue (where dead articles from newspapers go) from the birth of the city to present day. They keep the major dailies and the articles all on microfilm and these days digital that you can can print and scan. Look into these things and I'm sure you'll find article.
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I'm 13 years old and I have very small breasts and all my friends have big breast and I feel uncomfterble also all my other friend have started the period and I haven't so basically all my friends have breasts and started there period and. I haven't I have small breasts and no period please help me. I beg you (link)
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It's not about age. It's about genetics and when other people in your family started their menarche and puberty in general. Your friends obviously have genetic traits from their family that means they started early.
Unfortunately, it's really a waiting game. It will happen but on its own clock. Also for a period to occur you need a certain amount of body fat, the presence of breast development, pubic hair and off/on discharge (whitish) that doesn't have odor or look like cottage cheese as that's sign of ovulation from what I've read.
I bet if you talked with your friends that they would tell you they probably don't like having periods and may wish they didn't. They'll also tell you big breasts aren't the greatest either as you can bet they get harassed.
The thing is breasts are meant to be proportioned to you. In the end you will be fine but for now have to let nature kick in on its own as there's no way to speed the process up. You could consult your doctor and ask why hasn't this happened yet? and see what he says based on genetics and rule out any remote medical reasons why not.
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I am startong summer camp and we go swiming on my first day of my period need help it is tomorrow!!!!
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http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Insert_Tamp.htm
There are other sites like Tampax if you Google with medical diagrams that can help. If lost explain the problem to your mom or older female and get advice. If you can't get anywhere try a pharmacy for menstrual cups as that may be an alternative.
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Me and my boyfriend have been having sex, but we haven't used protection, because I am waiting for my mom to put me on it, but I am afraid he might have got off in me. Last night he got off inside my ass, and I am afraid it could go in my vagina. I just need to know some ways to stop from getting pregnant before i get on birth control. (link)
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Condoms. They are 80% effective. There's no reason why you aren't using them. They're available in schools these days, you can also buy them on your own. Aside from them and an additional measure such as birth-control abstaining is the only 100% fool proof method of not getting pregnant.
I think your mom would be annoyed to find out the risks you have been taking. As far as anal activity yes it can drip down. You need to tell your mom that you're having sex and need to get on something right away.
You have right to fear as not using anything will get you pregnant. His pre-cum alone contains enough sperm (millions) to get the job done so him pulling out is NO method at all. Please do the responsible thing and get protected before having sex again. You're lucky for now.
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This boy asked me out at school. I said I didnt know and I really don't I keep thinking 'yes' but then I think 'No!' amd i really don't know what to do... I don't really fancy him but I do like him.
I'm 10 years old btw.
So if any of you have been through this situation
Or think they know what to do please do say!
Thanks! (link)
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You are a little young for dating and understandably don't know how to handle this. At your age puberty is just starting if at all and you're not sure whether you like someone in this manner yet, what you think of boys etc. and are on the razors edge of little girl and full-on teenager with hormones and physical attraction to boys.
I say wait. Tell him you aren't sure you are ready for dating yet and would like to wait but at the same time would like to be friends and hang around when possible. This way you get a friend and who knows when you're ready maybe he's the one for you.
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I'm a nice girl who beleives that you should treat others how you want to be treated. But I've been working at this factory until school starts again and the supervisor is just awful.
I always keep getting in trouble for no reason even though i put 100% effort into everything I do. He says I talk too much. There was this one job where I had to count all day, so I can't count and talk at the same time. But I got pulled from that job to another because, a lady told me that the supervisor said that I was talking too much. And I don't look like anyone else, so he couldn't have mistaken me for someone else.
Now he seems to just want everyone to be miserable. he doesn't want ANYONE to talk whatsoever. Obiously you shouldn't talk to much but if you are packing things it should be okay to chitchat with your partner as long as you are getting the work done. But I feel like I'm working in a sweat shop, not a factory!
Other people such as myself are getting in trouble for ridiculous things. But the owner of the company's son who works ther who is my age and his girl friend and few friends he brought to the job doesn't do SHIT. Fools around and does a half-ass job and they don't get any talking to when they're the ones who should.
When they work with us, the supervisor doesn't even come to us. But when they are not working with us, he comes over and surveys us working like a shark in a pool.
And among other things he's done, I decided that on my last day of work, I will go to his office and just lay everything to him. How he's been such an asshole to everyone, etc. Everyone said that I shouldn't do it, but really everyone's been thinking the same thing and no one is saying anything. I'm trying this new thing where I don't hold grudges, so that means I need to let it out. Plus it would be doing everyone a favour too.
I need someone else's point of view from this website. Maybe I do need job next summer, but it doesn't have to be here. But I'm just working here for now because I get a solid 40hrs every week. (link)
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Let's put this in perspective. He's a miserable SOB and it's not your problem how or why he's like that. He probably hates his life, work etc. or could be depressed.
The fact is this is where his education got him and likely he won't do much else but this for years. You will surpass him and in ways already have. You have two choices ignore his shit and do your best or start looking for a better job with the same hours where you are treated better. They exist you just have to keep at it looking.
DO NOT under any circumstances when you leave bad mouth him to others at the company or go in and lay into him. The minute you do that his preconceptions of you will confirm he's right when he isn't.
Also, when looking for another job you have no clue if the employer knows people or checks out what you accomplished here. In other words don't screw yourself over or risk it.
One of the problems with a lot of workplaces that don't pay well and employ teens is that supervisors can go on a power trip and think that they have a right to treat kids like shit because they can't do anything about it.
My advice to you is to get a job with a company be it McDonalds or something else where they foster growth and schedule you daily. A movie theater such as AMC or Cineplex in U.S. or Canada gives out great hours, bonuses, and incentives. They may be tough at times with you but there will be a huge difference between current job and them.
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all my freinds have started i just want to fit in i am 11 but i dont have a feeling i will get it till around 20 i dont know when my mom started dont say like 'ur lucky!' or 'ull regret saying that!' coz i dont give a flying boot so is there any way to make it start!? I WILL TRY ANYTHING! (link)
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It has everything to do with genetics and isn't something you can somehow kick start. It all depends on that and the average age in your family for menarche.
It will definitely start soon. It may suck that your friends have it and you're still waiting but some people don't even start until late teens. It varies person to person.
A good sign you are close is breast development, pubic hair and normal whitish/yellow discharge that doesn't look like cottage cheese or smell awful. What you need to do is voice your concern to your mother and find out on average when to be expecting this for the first time. Also your weight and body fat play an essential part.
If you still have concerns discuss it with your family doctor who can give you a better idea of when it should come and if there's any medical reason it hasn't.
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Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month and I'm A little more experienced then him .it takes him about an hour to cum wen were having sex but I can't cum at all .hes tryed eating me out before n I felt this feeling like I had to pee n my legs felt warm n kinda numb n then i started tossing n turning but i didnt make any noise because wen we started having sex the first time i had to be quiet n eversence ive been kinda quiet during sex but wen i tossed n turned I kinda made my boyfriend stop eating me out and my cutie (as my boyfriend calls it )kinda pulsated n then it kinda hurt toutching it ..did I cum ?? (link)
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First of all we need to find out why he's having a hard time reaching climax. Is he on any kind of medication new or old that could have sexual side-effects?
If this persists either way have him see an urologist who can check out the plumbing and find out if there is a medical reason for why he can't. It shouldn't ever take an hour. Something's not right there.
It sounds as though you reached climax as you involuntarily tossed and turned and felt certain sensations. Don't be worried about the warm or squishy feeling inside your vagina or the feeling like you have to urinate.
Usually if you feel that you'll urinate you also get an urge to push up and out afterward. This could lead to G-Spot orgasm. Just go with it as you won't pee yourself and even if you did it's no big deal. Stuff happens and you're both mature enough not to let it bother you.
The pulsating you feel is part of climax. Once you have the clitoris which is highly sensitive may become difficult to touch and hurt like you said temporarily. You're fine.
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Hello All.
Me and 4 friends used to do this thing for each of out 18th birthdays. We would each put in £40-50 and get the a large gift for whoever birthday it was. got a silver bracelet, a friend got a pure gold + diamond earring, another friend got an iPod touch, and the other got a silver and diamond chain.
When it came time to the 5th friends 18th birthday, I asked, "what do you want? Because we're unsure of what to get you. It has to come up to £200". They then said to me "I don't want anything big. I'd prefer a lot of smaller things, rather than one big thing that i'll probably never use'.
So we settled on it. Everyone was left to their own devices. I got a box, and filled it with personal junk, i.e. a birthday essay, a CD with our favorite songs, a photo album, etc etc.
We all decided that we would only do this for 18th and 21st birthday presents. We didn't want to create a prescient for every year, as it would become expensive, and really lose it's significance.
Yesterday, I was asked by another friend if I want to put in for an iPod touch, for the friend who told me that they didn't want anything big. 2 years after their 18th birthday! They will be 20 this year. The problem is, I don't really speak to her anymore. Our friendship got rocky in the past few months, and we just couldn't stand each other. So we haven't spoken in a while. And I got her a gift!
So should I put in? I have the money, but it's really about the principle. Not only do I not talk to her, but I got her a gift when she was 18. My friend who asked if I wanted to put in's argument was "She put in for ours, so we should get something for her". But like I said, I got her a gift. If they feel that they *should* put in, they should. But I don't particularly want to even speak to her, let alone put in.
So should I, from a moral perspective? I sort of feel like a bad person if I don't. And if I should not, how do I tell them I will not be putting in. I was just going to say no, but what I have in my head sounds rather "bitchy", for lack of a better word.
Apologies for the question for being so long: I'm terrible at explaining things! -_*
Thank you for reading. I'll be even more thankful if you would answer! :) (link)
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If you don't put money in you'll look like (pardon the word) an asshole with a grudge they can't let go in your friend's estimation. Then again, this person has been a snot to you and you aren't friends any longer and don't owe her anything.
It's up to you to decide. You should tell your friends that this girl has been awful to you, you aren't friends, can't stand being in the same room and really don't want to shell out for her. They may not like that but if it were me I wouldn't even go nor buy a gift.
There will be fallout but principle--and that's what we're talking about let's face it dictates that she receive nothing due to her behavior from you. She may be pissed when this happens but she brought it on her own self.
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My boyfriend and I have tried having "kinky" sex. He really likes it and so do I but thats just it...I want it to go a little bit further.. I want him to be more rough I guess. I want him to literally like almost be mean to me. I want him to be a LOT more aggressive and treat me like his slave basically. I just don't know how to tell him.
I don't have any issues telling him what I like or telling him to pull my hair, I just feel like what I really want is taking it a little too far How do I tell him this? What if he thinks it's too much? Is this a weird sexual desire? Because I seriously want it a little degrading almost.. I just don't feel like this is really normal. I've looked on sites like cosmopolitan and I didn't find any advice on anything that I want. (link)
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All you can do is just be honest and tell him what really works for you. It's up to him whether to do this because he may not be comfortable at all whereas you are. If you want him to do something and be rougher you have to communicate.
Is this normal behavior? Well, it's a fetish to be sure and there's nothing wrong with that. As long as you can enjoy sex without it you're okay. As long as both of you consent it's okay. You have to have a certain word agreed upon to know when something's gone too far to stop.
As long as both of you want to do this and it doesn't hurt anybody else it's fine and won't do anything to hurt or scar you you emotionally or otherwise permanently.
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