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Masterbation...
Ok so I just turned 13 and Im a girl... I reccently had my 1st kiss with this guy and I broke up with him because he was a jerk. I have a question...
1.Is materbating like fingering yourself for pleasure?
So, obviously by my question I want to masterbate for my own pleasure. I have almost done it (I think) in the shower because no one was home except me and I slipped and fell and while I was on the floor of the shower I leaned against the wall and I think I found my vagina but I dont know because I felt my butt (dont ask I can be strange) and I felt along my crotch and as I was feeling with my 2 fingers they went in a teeny tiny bit and I think it was my vagina. Is it wrong for me to masterbate at this age? Is it also wrong that I watch porn a bit sometimes because it makes me feel good? Should I actually masterbate? Will it hurt? Give me all info about masterbation and please only answer if you have done it... Thanx
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What leaps out at me is that you don't know what all the parts and folds of your own genitals look like and where they are located. I gather nobody has tried to educate you about it. Yes, they are located in the front in the same place a penis would be for a male.
And yes, what you touched and placed your finger in was the vagina. What would be helpful to you is to get a hand mirror as well as look up vulva, female reproductive system, clitoris etc etc. for medical diagrams to see what each part looks like so you yourself can find it with a mirror and know what its function is. It's important info for you to know.
Pornography is meant for adults but yes people your age have watched it when they shouldn't have been exposed to it. Will it do anything to hurt you at your age? Well, you shouldn't be watching it and it's NOT based in reality. At this age it won't destroy your mind but if you can stop do so as it's not meant for you. It was simply curiosity though and that's okay to have.
It's not about age when it comes to masturbation. People of all ages male/female both do it from infancy to death. It's normal to do it and normal not to. It's pretty much your decision alone and universal 100% with teens. Most of your classmates do it or will at some point but would never own up.
Stats wise 90% of males do and 77% of females some time through life. That figure may be even higher considering males talk about it and girls don't.
We cannot nor will we ever give advice bordering on how to. Everyone responds to different technique and sensations. You have to find out for yourself how your body works as everyone is different.
It also cannot physically harm you either or mentally unless it's all you want to do and you have zero life aside from doing or wanting to constantly do it. That's not the case so you're fine. It's something to relax about either way as the majority of people don't give doing it or not doing it a second thought.
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As a parent and grandparent I will tell you there is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a safe and healthy way to relieve pent up sexual desire as well as to establish your sexual awarness and sexuality.
Why parents tell thier children it is wrong to masurbate is beyond me. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate, this includes parents and children. Part of foreplay includes masterbation. If a man/boy fingers a girl and she gives him a handjob that is mutual masturbation. Oral sex is another form of masturbation.
Parents who are not total prudes include these acts in their sex lives. So why do they tell their children not to. Primarilly they believe masterbation leads to full sexual intercourse. It shouldn't and can be a very good alternative to having sexual intercourse. There is very little difference between masterbation and sexual intercourse. Most of the intamacy is there and the end result can be the same. One thing that cannot or should not happen is the girl cannot get pregnant from masturbation alone. The girl and boy remain virgins.
Sexual intercourse should wait until you are old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibilities of sexual intercourse. Teenagers while capable of sexual intercourse are not mature enough to handle the responsibilities.
Besides as a girl, in high school, you do not need a reputation of being easy. Boys cannot keep a secret when it comes to haing sex. They tell their best friend who tells some one else and the next thing you know your very popular for the wrong reasons.
So masturbation is both healthy and safe as long as it does not become all an encompassing part of your life to the exclusion of everything else.
To answer the last part of your question, no it does not hurt. If you have not taken sex ed yet go on the web an look fo a diagram of a vigina to learn the different parts of the vagina. You can even google how to masturbate.
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First off, masturbation is probably one of the healthiest pleasures on this Earth. It relieves stress, helps with cramps, helps depression and insomnia, and it gives you some quality time with yourself. I, myself, have been spending this time with myself since I was about 3 or 4. And watching porn isn't bad either. Just don't become addicted or download anything illegal. You are too young to do that. Take care, and try to have fun ;)
Hope I helped :)
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Hun, it's not wrong to wonder about these feelings. To some people it's wrong and to some people, it's okay. What you choose to do with yourself is up to you. I personally think that being 13 is a little too young to be watching porn because I feel it leads to more and more youths becoming sexually active for fun with bad consequences. There is nothing wrong with wanting ot masturbate either. If you want to continue, make sure you stay clean,
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