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I know this sounds stupid but, I am 13 and I had a dream about this perfect guy. He was cute, sweet, romantic, nice, kind, loving. EVERYTHING that I want in a guy. I know it sounds stupid but is there a way I can find out if that guy is really out there? Or did I make him up?

i've had the same type of dream before...there is no way in finding out now if the guy is really out there ..the only way you will find out is by living life and if a guy just like him is meant to be with you...he'll come along one day.
theres a guy out there for you...and who knows it might be the exact guy in your dream..your only 13..there are going to be lots of guys coming in and out of your life before you meet the one and only for you

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okay my friend is having a party tomorrow night and her parents arent going to be home .. and my mom treats me like im 5 so im thinking of getting dropped off early and then sleeping over there and then getting picked up later the next day so theres no sign that there was a party .. do you think thats going to work?? cuz if it doesnt then im screwed!!

yeah sounds good to me...i mean if you get dropped off on time ...she will see people hanging around..so just make sure you get to your friends house an hour before the party starts..maybe earlier..whatever can be worked out.

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alright well yesterday i was at my baby cousins birthday party yesterday and me and my older cousin whos my age were sitting there talking to my mom and my aunt jackie, and my aunt comes storming out of the house and my moms like, who are you looking for? and shes like, YOUR FUCKING HUSBAND and she like screamed it and ran over and started yelling at him. so me and my cousin who were on the deck go over and jump in the pool and go over to listen to whats going on. well my aunt gets pissed off and walks away so me and my cousin go over to my dad. so hes telling us whats going on and this is what happened::
well my aunt whos daughter the party was
for was crying because her daughters
father was being an asshole and saying
shit, so my other aunt goes into the
house shooting her mouth off and my dads
name comes up.. so my dad goes in and
tells her to stop bringing him into
everything and that his name shouldnt
have been brought up at all.. so he went
and sat with my cousin who i was hanging
out with's brother, and thats when my
aunt came out freaking out on him.
now, this pissed me off. ALOT. because my dad does nothing but help them and they treat him like shit.. and well, my dad had every right to do what he did didnt he? and i have every right to be mad dont i?

i would definately be mad and your dad has a right to be mad too. there was no reason for your aunt to act the way she did..and his name should not have been brought up. this is one of those adult things...adults fight too...and i guess its something for your dad and your aunts to work out

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My boyfriend is moving and I really really like him, and we have been going out for 3 years and I wont see him anymore should I break up with him or not!

well..first off how old are you? will you be able to drive and see him...or old enough to take a train,bus, plane, etc to see him once a year? if that can be arranged and he can travel to you..there you have it..you can see each other every 6 months. if your going to be getting your lisense soon you can drive ..maybe meet him half way. maybe twice a year your parents can drive you out there...or you cann meet half way.
so if you can take a plane (for example)once a year to see him and he can do the same;...AND both your parents and his parents will drive out there once or twice a year....there you go...you can see each other 2-6 times a year. between that and talking on the phone,online,email....you might be able to keep it going.
3 yrs is a long time...dont give up now

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ok, so i'v had my period for a year and a half now and everyone says after you get your period your boobs are suppost to grow. Well, my boobs havent grown for a year!

I eat healthy and my mom has decent sized boobs.

Although your mom might have average sized boobs, you might just stay small for the rest of your life and theres nothing wrong with that. give it some time..and if nothing happens., its ok! we all come in different shapes,sizes,and colors..

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Hey. Ok so if i turn my weight into muscle, will i become heavier or will i just have muscles and weigh the same...Any good answers i rate high!

ok i just watched a health video in class about this...
heres the thing: muscle is muscle and fat is fat. you cant turn fat into muscle...and muscle does not turn into fat. you can build up muscle by eating right and excersising thouggh. so if you want to concentrate on building up muscle and getting 'jacked' you will gain weight..muscle weighs more that fat. if you want to just tone up a little and concentrate on losing weight..you can do that too.
they said on the video if you want to build up a lot of muscle, its important to reaally watch your fat intake. so depending on if you want to build lots of muscle or if you just want to tone muscles and lose weight..there are different excersises for you to do . write back with more info if you would like some more help

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hey, i'm the girl who showed you the email i wrote to my ex. well he told my sister he hasnt replied to me cause he doesnt wanna say something stupid. so idk what that means..??

i think wHAT it means is he doesnt know what to say back..he was worried just like you were with his email..maybe hes afraid if he says something like "i always think about u before i go to bed..and i miss u so much.." that maybee you'll think its stupid..tell your sister to talk to him aboout how much you miss him.
the other reason might be because he might not like you and he doesnt want to word it in a way he will regret...its hard to know what hes thinking unless you talk to him

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My dad jsu tcalled and said hes not gonan be hoem tlll very late!


What are some qucik yummy dinner ideas thta i can make.?



anything is helpful


THANKS!? 5 for everyone :)

well if i were you..i would make some tuna fish ..put it on a nice roll ...make some salad ...maybe have fruit with it..and theres a meal!

grilled cheese with chicken noodle soup

tv dinners ..they work and some are good!
chef bouyardee...

some nights i even make myself an omlet with toast and a muffin..yeah its breakfast food but its still a good dinner once in awhile!

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My boyfriend and I are currently long distance and often find ways to masturbate together. Recently I had an issue where there was some bleeding unrelated to my period. I figured that since I was a virgin my cherry may have popped; it wasn't thick like I had really torn something, just sort of dark pink and watery. A month or so afterward it happened yet again. It didn't lead to an early period (in fact my period wasn't until a couple weeks afterward), so I'm pretty confused. Is this normal?

ok..i think its from being too rough and perhaps you were rough enough to irritate the inside of your vagina..its normal for that to happen when your too rough, but you should be gentler next time

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Who are some famous Jazz singers/bands? Im doing a project and I need people! Thanks a ton in Advanced. Same rating as number of people you give me!

Duke Ellington
Muhal Richard Abrams
Carl Allen
Geri Allen
Wessell Anderson
Tatsu Aoki
Peter Appleyard
Louis Armstrong
The Art Ensemble of Chicago
Albert Ayler
Derek Bailey
Joey Baron
Gary Bartz
Shaun Baxter

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I had a dream that my guy friend & I were "doing things" & I know I'm really starting to like him. Should I trust this dream as like a sign that we should start a relationship?

some insist dreams are signs for everything..and others believe dreams are dreams...and they dont mean anything. its debatable both ways. i think you could say it means you've been thinking about this guy a lot and maybe its time to tell him how you feel. i've had dreams about guys who i KNOW would never like me..just because i had that dream didnt mean it was time for me to tell them about how i feel and start a relationship.
but being that hes a friend of yours..yes i would tell him..but i dont know if its a sign..you know what i mean?

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long story short... I like this guy "Nick". And he knows I do, but he acts like nothing is up. Sometimes I think he likes me, (he changed his style because I said I didn't like it, his friends know who I am and I don't know who they are, etc...) But sometimes, I don't think he does, (he doesn't talk to me much outside of school when we hang out in a big bunch, he flirts a lot with other ppl) And I want to talk to him about it. I just need a way to find out what he thinks about me. So what should I say without being mean or too pushy?

Well...when you are alone...ask him "what do you think about us being more than friends?"
he might give you a real answer..or he might be like "uhh...i dont know" but at least by you asking it will show him that your thinking about being more than just friends.

you can also say straight out...."i like you ..more than just a friend.."

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heyy...thanks for advice! it helped alot..and thanks for making it like positive too u really no wat to say..u seem like a great person
thanks again
julie

thank you! my pleasure

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alright how do i say this my bf is coming in from out of town its been like a yr since ive seen him. now when i see him what should i do like i kno he is gonna call me and come to my house thing is when he comes i know autimatically im gonna like run out and jump on him huggin him and etc. but like ok if we go back into my house or somethin like what r some things we should talk about or whatever? like how should i dress and how should i do my hair?? lol!! please help me!!

well..i dont know ..hes your bf right? so just be you! dress like it was any other day..wear your hair like you usually do.(just my opinion) talk about what he did...whats been going on (its a years worth of stuff so there should be a lot) if he was in another country talk about how it was there..talk about how your family is..how his is..talk about how much you missed him...what your looking foward to doing with him now that hes back..etc.

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Yes, I'm going into high school next year and yes, I am freaking nervous. I know it's not as exaggerated as the movies make it seems, what with the plastics and all, but I'm not quite sure what to expect. Somebody enlighten me?

High school is usually bigger than the middle school...depending on your school..it might be huuuge or just a little bigger than the middle school. you can expect to meet new people..start to make friends with people from different grades, especially if you play sports..expect some peer pressure...although that was around in middle school..expect more homework and you need to study more..expect the seniors to not like you at all (thats the way it is in my school..maybe your school is friendlier)...expect people to change..i've noticed in high school some of the people you would never expect..will tell you (or you will see) that they smoke, do drugs, etc.

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This is your typical situation, I fell for my best friend. Guy, I'm straight. I never meant to fall for him, neither did I really want to, but I did. I'm pretty sure he likes me back, the thing is he's quite..self-kept, and you know all guys run from feelings. Well, to me anyways. There's also another major problem, I moved a few years back and so now we're seperated by land and water aka, I'm in a different country than he is studying. I fall hard when I fall, I'm just not too sure what to do now. Should I still wait? Because I definitely have been waiting a really long time, anybody have any similar situations happen to them and would like to share their advice? I'm 14 btw.

well this is kind of similar but not totally...

i had a really close relationship with a great guy..we broke up..then he moved 800 miles away and i probably wont see him again (this was when i was 14...im now 16 and i still cant forget him)
its hard..and i still miss him..but i had to learn and accept it that we will probably never see each other again..and it was very hard for me..

my advice is to try and move on..your 14...its not like your 18 or 20 something and you can hop on a plane and move back . if you were an adult i would tell you to move back , claim your love, etc..but its no reality at 14 because your still living with your family. this is one of the hardest things you will have to do..but i say move on..

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I'm taking a two week lifeguarding class and I have a huge crush on this guy in my class. You think I'd have a pretty good chance... (there are only 2 other girls in the class and about 17 guys.) But he doesn't talk! I think I've heard him say about 3 things ... "yeah" "i know" "ok". he sits kinda off by himself. The "i know" was when i told him that his shirt was backwards and inside out ... (trying to start a conversation). I'm shy myself so it's hard for me to initiate anything and just being the one to approach him was hard. how do i get him to open up a bit without being pushy? and i need to get his # within the next two weeks or i'll probably never see him again!

hm..maybe invite the guy to a pool party...invite the whole class! ask for everyones number and tel them you will call with the plan..this wayy you have his number and when you call him you can be like "so i was also wondering if you wanna catch a movie?"
so say youur planning a get together...pool party..house party...trip to six flags..or something..so you can get his #...even if you dont think it will work out(the get together) ask for it anyway and tell him its because you want to plan a party..when you call you can just say it never worked out but you would like to maybe see a movie sometime. he wont be able to resist!

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I'm 17, and I am in my first serious relationship (with a guy that is) and things are starting to become sexual. I have no problem being sexual, because I am not timid at all, I've done stuff, just not with any guys. He has touched me and stuff, but I haven't done it to him, even though I want to. I guess I just dont know how to go about it, what to do durring, or what to do afterwards (like with the possible mess) Any advice?

well..if your concerned about doing it right..ask him to kind of guide you..he might like that..a lot..you know..kind of move your hands on his penis the way he wants it. and then once you warm up you'll be fine! the mess shouldnt be a prob..im sure he knows what to do with it being that he probably masturbates a ton like all guys ...

obvious advice :

dont do it right on your moms beautiful blanket because you dont want cum stains on there now do you? lol
as long as you dont do it where cum can (potentially) get on things you dont want to ruin, you will be fine..

how to go about it? just get affectionate with him while watching a movie or someone private...and one thing leads to another..and your unbuttoning his pants!

you can let him guide your hand during this..or you can take charge yourself..you will be great...remember penises are sensitive so dont bend it..or hurt him..

afterwards lick up the mess! lol..im sure the guy will know how to handle it because like i said before..he probably masturbates and deals with the ejaculation all the time

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ohk so i was really upset one day because it is almost a year that my best friend passed away (rip) and i feel so sad right now, so then i took the blade and i cut its not a big deal or anything i also wanted to see how it felt like. well now its like a craving to cut and i keep doing it and im not even sad its just addicting. i feel so gay and stupid because i think im just doing this for attention ! god what should i do ?? and dont call me lame or poser because i alreay know i am !

your not a lame poser...dont put yourself down. you did harm to yourself which is a sign that you need medican attention..like talking to a counselor or someone who can really help. please dont feel embarassed or ahsamed that you need mental help..because its common! people just put down people who need mental attention ..thinking they should be able to control it ..but really...mental illness is jut like somoen who has a heart attack, etc..they should be treated with sympathy and support..so do the right thing..there is help out there... i remember in health class the statistics were something like 1 out of 3 people will develop a mental illness..and only 1 out of the 3 ppl with the mental illness will get help...dont be one of those people who dont get help! this can be fixed..they wont lock you up in a padded room...and you aarent insane....its ok and i think you should reach out to a trusted adult..counselor, parents...anyone!

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hi.. okay well i like this guy ALOT! like i am in love with him and i would do anything for him and we r like good friends and we talk alot... but i no he would never like go out with me and he knows i like him and i really really like him so like wat should i do? thanks

i have been in your spot too many times before..and unfortunately there is nothing to be done. its not like a potion that will make him like you can be made...a relationship can only be made when both people like each other. just keep it as good friends and talking..who knows he might see you in that way one day..be happy you guys are good friends and its not like he doesnt know you exist...enjoy being able to hang out and talk to the guy you like...be yourself...and one day he could see you in that way..
it sux that nothing can be done..but if i could make guys like me...hell, i would be with bradd pitt right now lol

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