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Okay.. I'm in love with my best friend whom i've known since kindergarten..but my best friend is also in love with him and she doesnt know i love him too. and he's been giving me these signals..but i have no idea wut to do..i dont wanna tell my friend b/c she'll get all mad at me and stuff..but i dont wanna ruin my relationshop w/ the guy..wut should i do?
Well, usually I'd say that your friend needs to come before the guy...but since BOTH are your friends, it puts an interesting twist on the situation. Still, what I would do is talk to your friend (the one who you aren't interested in dating, lol)first. Chances are, your friendship with her is stronger than your friendship with the guy (I say that only because if you DO date this guy and you break up, the friendship MAY deteriorate). If she's your true friend, then she'll stick with you. Don't be surprised if she's unhappy with the situation, however. THis may be one of those situations where you just have to decide which relationship is more important to you. Good luck!
well see in my religion its a sin to pluck or wax eyebrows but the thing is everyone i no who are also muslims pluck/wax their eyebrows except my mom and sister.. im almost 14 years old and i think its my choice wheater i touch my eyebrows ... and tonight my dad is goin to get his hair cut and i want to go w. him to get my eyebrows done wut cud i say to my mom to get her to say okay?
tnxs..ill rate u high
Try explaining to your mom how you feel. Maybe once she understands, she'll be a little more willing. If she still says no, just remember that there are more important things in life! Good luck =)
i dont wanna care what ppl think of me and what they will say about me but i dont know how to get over that feeling. if i have more confidence then people will think im cool and hang out with me. im not in public school but i have a youth group thing i go to and only like 2 ppl hang out with me. i wanna hang out with the "cool" kids, but they are all outgoing and not shy at all and stuff....how can i get like that???
Believe it or not, there are very few people who don't care what anyone thinks of them. It's just an image some people put off to feel "big". Although it's good to have confidence and not be discouraged by others, without caring what anyone thinks of you, you aren't going to get very far in life. As for fitting in with the "cool kids", I have no advice to offer on that one, haha. More important things in life, my dear. Sorry I couldn't be of more help =)
How do I put a music Playlist on xanga?
Use this:
Artist Name - Song Title
Artist Name - Song Title
Artist Name - Song Title
Artist Name - Song Title
Artist Name - Song Title
Okay I really like this one guy but he has a girlfriend. Shes one of my best friends. Should I tell him how I feel? If I shouldnt then wat should I do? How do I tell him? Hes so perfect and I dont think my friend appreciates him enough. Actually I kno she doesnt. Im so confused everyone thinks he likes me and that we are goin out. Im not sure how he feels but I kno how I do and I kinda want him to kno. Please help!
Go to this site:
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=stuff_fo_u
^^Just keep scrolling. You'll find it =) I was going to copy it for you, but it messed up my site, lol!
gah just got my period and im supposed to be seeing my guy this weekend what can i do to make it go away faster?
Haha, absolutely nothing. Have fun with that one, buddy.
I weigh 117 lb and im 5'4 am i big or "fat"? I want to get a flat stomach so do you know any tips for that?? thanks!
NO! You are absolutely NOT fat! You're perfectly normal for your height. If you want a flat stomach, eat right and hit the gym--crunches should do it.
ok this is a ? for the chicas... do girls like guys that are like medium sized and like really ripped? or do they like big bulkyness? jus been wonderin 15/m
That just depends on the girl. Personally, I'd rather a guy NOT spend him entire life at the gym (not to say that muscles are a bad thing, lol)....but that's just me.
hey peoples....my mom wants me to make a list for xmas and i am having a total mind blank, well maybe someone can help me with ideas..i'm 14 and i'm not preppy so no prep stuff lol this is what i have so far and maybe it can help-ps2 with games, sims 2, a digital camera, direct tv (man i want that so bad lol), blank cds, clothes from rave and deb- and that's all i have...
Geez! You sound pretty lucky to be getting all that and still ask for more...
Well I've Liked This Boi Jeff For 4 Years And He Finally Nos I Like Him and I Found Out That He Likes Me To. But I Asked Him Out and He said I Don't Know. But I'm Going to Hang Out with Him Today He's Perfect for me My Parents Like Him My Brother aproves of Him..(which that never happens). But he juss is a nice person i don't no how i could flurt with him Sunday like what can i do?..I gave him a hug and stuff but im scared to hug him all the time..soo??
If you already know he has feelings for you, then just keep on doing whatever it is that you've been doing! That obviously worked, lol. Maybe he just has his reasons for not wanting a girlfriend right now. Just keep talking to him and try to strengthen your relationship. Don't be too pushy though! Give him time.
i use to be best friends with this girl in 5th 6th and 7th grade we use to do everything together and then my bf at the time got s into a major fight and then we kinda justwent our sep........... do u think she hates me now??
Well, given that I don't know much of the situation, that's hard to say. Your best bet would be talking to her. Tell her that you're sorry for letting a guy come between you two, and that you value her friendship. We all make mistakes, and since you guys were such good friends for so long, there's a good chance she'll forgive you. Good luck =)
canu give me a music site so i can put it on my xanga or w/e..........
Sure, I know lots. Here are a few to get you started =)
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=StEfAnIeS_MuSic
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Music_Beats
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=g0t_mus1c
right click title of the song>>properties>>copy url>>paste
...if you can't find what you're looking for on those, let me know and I'll see what I can find =D Hope I helped!
I broke up with my ex boyfriend because i had been hearing stuff like that he was all over other girls. But then when i broke up with him he cried infront of all of his friends and everything. I still love him a lot and want to be with him but we've gone out 5 times and i just dont know if this time he means it. He's also my best friend and he told me that he loved me and would do anything to get me back! So what should i do.. go back out with him, stay broken up or just take a break?
That's a tough one. It always makes it so much worse when they cry, lol. No, but this guy obviously likes you. If you've already gone out that many times and it hasn't worked, then maybe you need to talk to him about WHY it isn't working. Instead of believing everything you hear, talk to him about it. You can't always believe everyone. If you both still have feelings for eachother, then there's potential for it to work. Just let eachother know how you're feeling. Good luck!
Ok its CREEPY thers this guy that i hung out with ONCE at a party who goes to a totally different school then me. he ends up calling me (even though i never gave him my number??) and we talk alittle but i really dont like him. then he calls me right before i left yesterday (ON MY HOUSE PHONE?!?) and i told him i couldnt talk and he said "why not" and i said "im about to go to the movies with my friends" and then i went there and guess who was there! yupp that guy!! and he decided to see the same movie at the same time! weird huh! how do i get rid of him??
Wow, sounds like this guy really likes you. If the feeling isn't mutual, then just let him down easy. Stop avoiding the situation and just tell him. Yeah, it'll probably hurt his feelings, but you aren't left with a whole lot of options. Besides, it will probably wear off after awhile, anyway.
Ok my best friend is a girl and im a guy. She and i have been friends for a while but weve had some problems. She always lies to me . And then when she says sry a week lata she makes up some lame excuse why she said all that stuff. well now she acts like a slut and i dont like her . what should i do and what should i tell her?
You need to talk to her! If you value her as a friend, then it's really all you can do. Of course, you COULD just blow her off and rid your life of her completely, but I have a feeling you already knew that, lol. Just talk to her. Maybe, once she knows how you feel, she'll go back to being her old self. If not, then it's up to you to decide whether or not she's worth having as a friend.
I have a friend and she dosent tell anybody but i found out..i think she was raped or abused or sumthin she is 13 and her boyfriend is 15 and i is always making her wear hoe stuff like if she wears long pants i rolld thumb up for her to be like short shorts then feels on her and (grabs her front) and back....and the other day she must have left my camra on at her house and when i got it it showed him strapping her to the bed and like you no and she liked it....yuk but im really worried about her..she is 13 he is 15 or 16 and this is like everyday...and she cant be with no one.....and like everyday she dresses bad and we were best friends in elementry and i no
Yeah, 13 is pretty young to be getting into that kind of stuff, and the fact that the guy is older can present a whole lot of pressure that she may not be mature enough to resist. If you haven't tried talking to her, do so. The decisions she makes now can affect the whole rest of her life, and she needs to realize that.
ok..well on e of my best friends is in 7th grade and the guy I like is in 7th grade and I am in 8th grade I told my best friend [lets say...Rache] that I really liked the guy and she was like awww all that shit and she was going out with someone at the time and then the night I told her that I liked him..she dumped her current boyfriend and asked out the guy I liked..and today I was ganna think hard about when I was ganna ask him out and then all of a sudden her name popped up when me and the guy I like were talking about something and he is like ya me and Rachel are going out and I am like aww kool..like kinda in a obvious way [and he doesnt know that I like him] and ya..and I'm about to cry what do I do and what do I say to the guy/ and or Rachel!! PLEASE HELP!!! i am ganna go under depression.....seriously...
~*Lost N Lost*~ ...again
Man, this Rachel girl sounds like a bitch. Asking out the guy KNOWING you like him? And she didn't even come to you first? Some friend she is! Don't be mad at the guy. It sounds to me that he had nothing to do with it. I think it's time for you to revaluate your friendship with Rachel. Guys shouldn't come between friends...
**hey guys! ok im 14/f. ive been friends w/ this guy since like 6th grade, and we r in 9th now. we have become better friends cause we have a class together, and we hang out sometimes on weekends w/ a group of friends. he talks to me a lot more now, and we r good friends. he even tells me like who he likes and stuff. recently he told me he stopped liking this girl cause he needed someone he could be himself around (his crazy...crazy self... lol) he'll call me babe and stuff like that sometimes 2 (im not sure if hes joking or flirting...?) what do u guys think? and... how can you tell if a guy likes you or not? for guys: what do u do to show a girl that you like her? thanks all**
It sounds like he may be flirting with you...but then again, he may just be one of those guys who flirts with everyone. Why don't you talk to him and find out? You two can obviously talk, from what you're saying. Just casually bring it up in a conversation sometime. You never know...
for xanga where would you get a url for music? i wanna put the song I hate everything about you by 3 days grace but idk what they mean by url.. maybe someone could just give it to me so i could copy and paste please =)
Sure, you can find the url for your song here:
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=rOck_MusiC_101
(Sorry, I was going to just GIVE you the url, but it was messing with the format of my site! hehe)...All right, right click the song title>>properties>>copy and paste the address (URL)>>paste into appropriate place...there you have it!
I know plenty of music sites if you ever want them =) Just ask!
Okay here is my problem, I have a boyfriend and i was sorta upset... i shouldn't of done what i did..... i went down to my ex boyfriend's house and i was talking to him and then one thing led to another and we sorta kissed... okay we did kiss ALOT! I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am afriad if i don't tell him what happened that my ex will, so he could break me and him up! So should i tell him or not.... maybe i could get away with him not knowing and everything will be fine! But then again i am always thinking about it and it gets to me. Please help me Thanks alot.
No, you need to tell him. It's sort of a risk you have to be willing to take. You got yourself into this situation in the first place, so you have to be the one to get yourself out. It isn't right to keep things like that from your boyfriend. If you respect him, then you'll tell him. Plus, what happens if he finds out from someone other than you? Chances are he's going to eventually, and it will be a lot better coming from you. That isn't to say that your boyfriend won't be upset, because of course, he will be...but you got yourself into this mess, so you have to face the consequencs. Good luck!