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i wanna be more outgoing.....
i dont wanna care what ppl think of me and what they will say about me but i dont know how to get over that feeling. if i have more confidence then people will think im cool and hang out with me. im not in public school but i have a youth group thing i go to and only like 2 ppl hang out with me. i wanna hang out with the "cool" kids, but they are all outgoing and not shy at all and stuff....how can i get like that???
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im like u on my own im really shy, with my friends im so outgoing. when u go the this youth group take one of ur friends like a really good friend and hang out with them and try to go to the cool kids with ur friend then u might be a little more outgoing and comfterble
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You just need to trust youreself...Not everyone is made out to be with the so called cool kids *Note the cool kids might not be as cool as you think* sometimes having one or 2 close friends is better than a bunch of fake friends...but if you really wanna try to get with them and all make sure you dress in name brand clothes and everything like that then just BE YOURESELF...everyone talks about everyone....thats how ppl are so dont let it upset you too much...in a few years youll be all grown up and out on your own and youll never even see these ppl anymore so dont sweat what they say...just act natural and dotn be afraid!
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jus b urself....im kinda shy to and i do care wut ppl thing...i learned that if they dont like u for who u r then screw them
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Hmm, I've seen this before.
Those kids just want to be around the people they are around everyday, its can be hard to fit in with those kinds of people. It just takes some time.
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hi, well yesterday i was having a lil convo wit mah cousin...and i was sayin that when i get to college i wont b so out going and bla bla ...and i'll just b on mah own lil world and w/e w/e...you kno (sometimes you get tired of being friends of everyone) anyways...mah cousin made me realize that no metter what i do...that wont b happening b/c they way i am its loud and just outgoing and that i dont care wut ppl think and i just talk to everyone and i wanna have fun...so no metter wut i do i'll still go out there and get to kno new ppl and have fun and b loud and crazy....so the way you are its like that and i dont think you can change ti but if you relly want to then u cant b shy...i dunno wut to tell you the way i am is loud and i just dont care wut ppl think...i just go out there have fun...talk to ppl i dont know and i dunno stuff like that xoxo effy
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Believe it or not, there are very few people who don't care what anyone thinks of them. It's just an image some people put off to feel "big". Although it's good to have confidence and not be discouraged by others, without caring what anyone thinks of you, you aren't going to get very far in life. As for fitting in with the "cool kids", I have no advice to offer on that one, haha. More important things in life, my dear. Sorry I couldn't be of more help =)
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hmmm well i can honestly say that i am a very outgoing person, and i guess it doesn't really come naturally. i used to be shy and layed back like you. my advice is to just smile ALOT, every time you pass people say HEY WHATS UP! and smile, and when you are involved in group conversations raise your hand alot and give your input. also, be very opinionated. thats part of being outgoing. be nice to EVERYONE even if you cant stand the person. people love nice people. if you're out with your youthgroup, don't just sit there and look bored, walk around and say hi to everyone and ask how they are. in school, i get lots of people to talk to me because i just go up to random people and ask how they are and how their weekend was, now they all talk to me. so you should show that you are an open person and they are welcome to talk. if you look like you're shy and uncomfortable then no one will want to talk to you. just look happy and giddy all the time and make small talk. i hope my advice goes to good use.
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Now i am like that somtimes. but yu'll grow out of it.. i have so many friends cause i am outgoing and i am not shy. i am loud and proud. all you have to do is start talkin' to the people you want to. they wouldnt say anything like get away from me freak!
if they do u dont to be hangin with them anyways
but if u want to tlk to them to be cool or popular then dont.. u should be your indivisual self and not want to be like anyone else
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hi. i know what it's like to be in your position. I have been though the same thing and i know what it is like to atually believe that noone likes you because u can't mix as easily as others.
It's not like you can't socialise you just find it hard. i can't tell yo to just go mix cos i know it is harder than that.
What you can do is believe in youself, you are as good as them! and when you get to know people you probably are out going, it just takes you a while to relax!
If you really want to "fit in" then try speaking to them more, even an hello will get you noticed, just relax and think to yourself that you are as good as them if not better!
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I know exatly what you mean! I am 15 and realize what it is like to wanna be in the popular group. Get some confience and if someone takes the piss dont bitch back just laugh along with them, be outgoing take a risk seize the day remember theres always something good on the other end of the tunnel.
I hope my advice helped!
love stef
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There are a few things you can do, depending on the sort of person you are.
1) Think about one of these kids you admire the most, and then try to say specifically what characteristics you like. Pick two or three of these, and work on them. It's easier to change things about yourself if you have a clear idea of what you are trying to accomplish.
2) Think of yourself as an actress - and I do not mean you should be fake. Simply think of yourself as in a role...a slightly more outgoing you. You could be nervous on the inside, but make an effort to appear calm and cool on the outside.
3) Do something funky. Wear that shirt you bought because you loved it, but you've never worn it because it's a little too weird. Put crazy shoelaces in your shoes. These are little confidence boosters. You CAN be different and more outgoing, and people will most like react positively.
4) Make up a little mantra for yourself. It sounds all new age, but a few repetitions of something like 'I am confident and fun' can remind you that you're trying to get over your self-consciousness.
5) Finally, remember this isn't going to happen overnight. It'll be especially hard with people who already know you, as you fit into a certain personality slot in their minds, and it will take time to change their mind (and yours!)
Basically, you ARE cool and fun and together. You just need to believe it before other people will.
You can do this.
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