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18/f - 19/m
The other night my boyfriend and I were having sex. The condom broke, but luckily he hadn't came yet. I know there's the whole pre-ejaculation thing, so what I'm asking is can I still get pregnant off of that? I've been told a whole aray of different things. Some being that yes I can, and some being that no I can't. I just need a straight answer. At the time I was just getting off my period (that just so happened to be two weeks early, so someone told me that I was just ovulating). It'd be really great to get an answer. Thank you. (link)
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yes, you can be pregnant from pre-ejaculation. thats the reason im pregnant ! i doubt you are though, just dont stress yourself about it. if youre worried, take a pregnancy test in a month.
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im 18 my boyfriends 20..and im pregnant.
we were so careful..we used condoms and bc but we ran out of condoms and thought it would be ok. i took every pill on time but im pregnant. he wants to give the baby up for adoption and i cant, i already love it. does anyone have advice on how and can convince him to keep it? no lectures please. (link)
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i faced the same problem, im 6 months pregnant now. honestly, if you and youre boyfriend can handle a baby, then keep it.
you really should consider this before:
- the expense of diapers, formula/food, clothes, stroller, crib, insurance, doctors.. obviously you need a good income.
- the time to take care of it. you need to stay home with your baby for a while while theyre young, so you wont be able to go to a job until your boyfriend gets home.
- the strength of your relationship. can you handle the baby alone if you guys break up ?
theres a lot of things to think about when considerin to keep a baby. if you really think that the things above are no obstacle then KEEP IT. but if not, give the baby a chance to have a great life.
tell him that you love the baby already, and you refuse to give it up for adoption. tell him you think that it will be a blessin to you guys and that its a beautiful thing. make a plan on how youre goin to handle it, take care of it, and how youre gonna handle the future. its really youre choice because you guys arent married, and youre the one givin birth to it.
im sorry if this is 'a lecture', but i think i can relate to you because i had to make the decision to keep or give mine up as well and these are things you need to hear !
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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okay, so i'm just going to describe myself and preferably guys but girls can also answer. i'm almost 5'4, more like 5'3 and 3/4, kind of skinny (like in my arms and unfortunately my chest) but where my hips and butt are i get wider. i take care of myself really well as far as hygiene, and i try to make sure my clothes, skin, everything is always clean and smells good. i have clear skin as far as acne, pimples, etc. and it's soft but i have freckles on my nose & cheeks and moles covering my body. :( they're not big and huge and hairy or anything like that, they're actualy kind of small, but i still worry about them. anyways, brunette, wavy hair, kind of pointy-ish nose... some people say it compliments my face, but i'm self-conscious about it. hazelish-brown eyes, and i don't wear a whole lot of makeup because i don't like the feeling of it really. i just wear a little eyeliner on my lower lids and mascara, and my eyelashes are dark naturally cause of my hair. i actually kind of like my eyes and some people have told me they're pretty, it's one of the only things i sometimes like about myself. anyways, what i'm most self-conscious about is my chest. it's almost non-existant and it's desgusting. i'm thinking of getting surgery when i'm older if they don't develop by the time i'm like 18-20, not so they're like playboy-model huge but just normal-looking. so, over-all, even if maybe i don't get surgery and do end up developing more, do you think someone might find me attractive? or are the things i don't like about myself a total turn-off? (link)
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obviously if you have good hygiene, have clear skin, people say youre features compliment you, people tell you youre eyes are pretty, youre attractive. i think you need to not look for approval from other people and just be comfortable with yourself....
x sweeethoney
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Okay well im 14 going to be 15 in like 3 months. Me and my boyfriend make 6 months on the 4th of December so tomorrow. We have been talking about sex for that past few weeks now and I think im ready, but I still have this little voice in my head telling me im not. I know I really love him though and I know he won't do anything I wouldn't want to because he always caring of me. I really know I want him to be my first though, but the thing thats getting me is that im to young I think that's the only thing holding me back. What is your opinion on this and does it hurt your first time I really want to know pretty much everything please? (link)
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i was 14 when i lost my virginity. honestly, i regret it a lot. if you have a voice in the back of your head sayin that youre not ready, then i suggest you dont. youre young, you have all the time in the world to have sex.
losin your virginity should be a special thing that you are absolutely ready for, and i strongly strongly suggest that you wait until you are certain that you are. and my first time didnt hurt but for a lot of girls it does hurt.
x sweeethoney
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17, Female
I had a dream a couple of nights ago and I need some help interpreting it. I think I have the gist of it, but I'd love to hear what everyone has to say:
I was in my school gym and this very attractive guy was telling everyone a story. I was listening (I don't remember about what he was talking) and when he finished, we just looked into each others eyes. It lasted about five entire Mississippi seconds. Nevertheless, when I looked into his eyes, I could see his pupils -- enlarged far too much for the light intensity of the room. His eyes were a light brown and he was an absolutely beautiful guy. The dream ended with me looking into the black of his pupils, which acted like magnets to my own eyes.
I read online that eyes are the "windows to the soul" and that if the eyes in which one looks are bright and beautiful, one has inner peace / a higher conscious understanding. His eyes were very large, open, and beautiful.
Does anyone have any interpretation for this besides that I have an "inner peace" and a spiritual understanding of something? I felt very attracted to his eyes, like I never wanted to look away. They were mesmerizing. (link)
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maybe the dream is tellin you to look into peoples hearts rather then looks.
or maybe the guy was just tellin you to start havin peace about something.
i dont know you so i cant really tell you how it will apply in your life. but thats all i can really guess besides what you already said.
hope i helped !:)
x sweeethoney
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I am such a big freaking failure when it comes to boys. I'm very vain and picky when it comes to boys as boys are with me. I choose the hot guy that appears to be mr. perfect over a decent one 99.9% of the time. So in a way I'm setting up myself for failure... I'm so tired of being ms. pretty perfect. Is it too much just to ask for a decent guy that makes you happy? Oh yeah well S-U-P-E-R-F-I-C-I-A-L-ness is what I'm surrounded but who am I to judge? I'm incredibly superficial myself. However unlike the rest of my blonde bimbo classmates here in Beverly I actually have the brains and a great personality to match. I'm so tired at being the TROPHY GIRLFRIEND. I'm tired of always ending up in tears after a failed relationship. Why is this? Oh yeah my ex is probably one of the biggest assholes you'll ever meet. He has anger management problems. He's judgmental, vain, rude, inconsiderate, homophobic, and he's a pathological liar. Only it took me several weeks to find this out... he was always on his best behavior around me and he was INCREDIBLY sweet. Mr. Perfect you could say. Anyways I just have given up on boys completely... seriously. Meh I'm in no position for another relationship. I mean I always choose the shitty hot guy and end up in tears. It's like a shampoo and conditioner repeat cycle. (link)
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obviously you know what your problem is ! you need to quit with the looks. i mean, any girl likes a good lookin guy, dont get me wrong. but if you find a guy that really likes you for who you are and not what you look like, why not give him a chance ? you might find yourself so much happier then you are with guys now. im not sayin he has to be ugly, but he might not be model material.
or, just get to know guys before you date them. dont just go for them because they're hot. actually find out hobbies/interests, life story... get to know them for who they are inside. that way you wont date the 'shitty hot guy'.
in beverly i know that a lot is based on looks and status, but i cant imagine anyone bein happy like that ! i suggest really tryin to get to know all different types of guys, and not just the ones you go for.
good luck, feel free to ask me anythin !
x sweeethoney
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Ouch!! Advice?
'Look, I know you like me... It's pretty obvious. And I really really don't like you. So you should get over me.'
I don't even like this guy. (link)
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sounds like a jerk to me ! if you really dont like him just be like 'i dont know why you even think i like you, but i really really dont :)'
just kind of mimick him for bein such a jerk lol.
he prolly is feedin his ego by makin himself think that you like him ! just ignore it because you dont need people like him in your life.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Okay so I got the depo provera birth control shot about 3 weeks ago. I would normally be getting my period in about a week. But my doctor told me that with the shot i would not get my period at all, just possibly some spotting. But right now i am feeling all the symptoms i feel the week before my period; cramps, bloating, etc. Is it normal to get your period after the 1st shot? Could these be signs of pregnancy? If i was to spot would it be in the time i normally get my period? I'm really worried. Oh and the only time my bf and I had unprotected sex he did not finish. (link)
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when i got the shot, i didnt get my period for two months, just slight spottin here and there. but by the third month i got it for 3 weeks !!! the shot effects everyone differently.
with birth control its common to feel like your gettin your period so dont worry. and spottin doesnt have to be the time you get your period. if you really feel like you could be pregnant go back to your doctor and ask for a test. but i think your fine hun :)
good luck!
x sweeethoney
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15/f
sorry it's kind of long.
lets just put this out here: i consider myself to be 110% straight. i could never even CONSIDER being with another girl.
another thing, i have never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone. although i've had MANY opportunities to be in a relationship, i've passed them all up. i think i have commitment issues or something, or just a fear of being "trapped" in a relationship.
ONE more thing-i have WAY more guy friends then i do girl friends. I find girls...very annoying and over dramatic, and i try not to get involved in drama. My closest friends are girls, but i get along much better with guys.
anyways, lately, some of my guy friends have jokingly called me prude. they've also told me i was a lesbian. my closest guy friend ASKED in complete seriousness if i was a lesbian (his reason being because i hung out with my best friend alot, who is a girl).
if theres ONE thing i hate, it's being accused of something i'm not. being called a lesbian really makes me upset and angry, and i've made it clear to my buy friends. whenever it comes up, i get quiet or i tell them to knock it off. it's a touchy subject for me.
the other day, i was out to dinner with my mom and my sisters. i told my mom something that was surprising to her, and she says "why don't you just tell me your a lesbian and we'll be all set!" (she said this jokingly) i looked at her and i said "don't joke about that", my natural response. my moms smile fades and she goes "you aren't are you?" and i said "no mom..." and then she was quiet and i started to talk to my sister. when i looked back at her, she was studying me strangely and i asked her what was wrong and she says "you AREN'T, are you?" which made me angry, and i said "MOM, i can't BELIEVE you would even THINK something like that. of COURSE i'm not."
I'm so afraid my mom thinks i actually am a lesbian. because, i mean, it would make sense. never having a boyfriend and all that. my sister TOTALLY didnt help when she said "mom, just because she doesn't have any feelings for guys doesn't make her a lesbian." if there was ever a time i wanted to kill my sister, it would have been then.
It is SO untrue that i don't have feelings for guys. me and my best friend are BOY CRAZY. we think almost every guy we know is either cute or hot. and i have crushes on guys on a regular basis.
it feels like NO ONE (except my best friend) can understand how i feel about all this. it gives me a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach worrying about why people would have to WONDER if i'm straight or not. i've NEVER done anything to make me seem like a lesbian other than the fact that i've never had a boyfriend (and that's more out of fear than no interest in it).
i just really need to know what to do.
please, DON'T give me the "it's OK to have feelings for girls" talk. because if i saw that i think i might cry in frusturation. i DO NOT have ANY feelings WHATSOEVER for stupid girls. thats why i asked this very long question.
it's not exactly something i can just ignore either. so i don't know if that's a good solution.
please, just reading this whole question and answering it with something would be greatly apreciated. it's a very frusturating and confusing situation and it makes me angry and sad.
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people just do it because they know it bothers you. thats why people make fun of people in the first place ! to get somethin out of them... your best guy friend prolly heard the jokes and just wanted to make sure. and your mom was joking.
but the way that YOU react to it makes you seem like a lesbian because you freak the hell out whenever someone mentions it. thats why youre guy friends keep makin fun of you, they think your reaction is funny !
im not sayin to go along with them callin you a lesbian, but i say just chill out ! learn to laugh it off and not think much of it, because if you know youre not gay thats all that should matter. dont worry about what everyone else thinks because obviously its stressin you out to a rediculous amount.
if you cant get over it, just tell your guy friends that youd really appreciate it if they stopped callin you that, it annoys you and youre sick of havin to defend yourself.
& dont worry, guys will come its just not your time hun !
good luck
x sweeethoney
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there is this guy in my class and he looks exaclty like my cousin but the only problem is that i really like like him and he only talks to me because he always wants to borrow a oen from me what will i do ????? (link)
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it doesnt matter that he looks like your cousin lol. its just a coincidence, its not like you have romantic feelins towards your brother.
be a little playful with him next time he asks for a pen. just be like 'whats in it for me ?' or '5 bucks !'. you know ?
if nothin takes off from there i say you move on.
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so like heres the thing.....i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 19 months but for the longest time i have felt like somethings missing....a female....i have always wanted to be with a girl relationship wise and sexually but i dont have the nerve to talk to any girl in that sort of way...my boyfriend is find with this because were both "freaks" lol...well how do i solve the problem of getting a girl??? (link)
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threesomes + relationships = trouble. this can cause jealousy between you too that could ruin your relationship. i suggest that if you want to experiment with a girl, do it on your own time and not with your boyfriend. if hes not okay with it, then i suggest not experimentin until youa re single.
make sure you actually want to do this and not because your boyfriend wants to. if you realllly arent worried about jealousy AT ALL and youre sure that it wont ruin your relationship, i say either recruit your third at a party or someone you arent that close to.
if you want to experiment alone, then i suggest it with someone you know because you will be more comfortable with it. :)
good luck , anymore questions just ask !
x sweeethoney
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help me out here of what to do if you can.(:
so there is this guy who i really like and who likes me. we have known eachother for like a year or so and we have talked talked a couple times but this time it was for real, we would be textinng almost everyday of every second. and this week he has came see me everyday. but now he just wont even talk to me. he tells me that he wants me to tell him how i feel and about my problems so that he can atleast try to help and i do tell him but two nights ago he was over and i just started ignoring him and being really quiet and he asked me what is wrong and i told him that i feel like he is using me because he dont bother to ask me out or anything, we act like we date, we kiss all the time and hold hands and all but he just dont bother to ask me out. my friend said that i am his make out buddy but i do kinda feel like it. i know that he likes me and that he isnt using me but i dont know what it is. yesterday i texted him asking if he even wants to date me and he said i do.. just not now and i asked why and he said just dont and i told him to tell me but he didnt reply but then later we talked on the phone for like one hour and nothing wrong but if i text him, he wont text back. i just want to know why he dont want to date. it dont make sense. and sometimes i feel like that im chasing him to much. sorry that its long. i rate 5. (link)
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let it be for a while. if it really bothers you, tell him that you dont wanna make out until he asks you out because hes leadin you on (or fill in how you feel).
just stop textin him though until he texts you first.
he might just be usin you because obviously hes not askin you out but still tryin to do things with you that a couple would.
i say you either move on and let him chase you, or find out why he doesnt want to date you.
feel free to ask more questions
x sweeethoney
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18/female.
i'm still a virgin. never been fingered or anything. when a guy fingers me .. obviously he will realize i'm tight but will he then know that i've never been fingered before? (link)
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no, theres no way to tell if youve been fingered because every girls width and depth of their parts differs naturally.
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16/f So I was recently broken up with by my boyfriend Jake who is now my best friend. I still do love him but I have gotten over the shock and most of the pain that I felt at first. I have accepted it. So I've been helping him because he really likes this girl who is bisexual and she likes Jake and this girl Jane. The problem is that she likes the other girl a lot more and things have been working out between them. So my best friend (Jake) is devastated. :/
So I saw a picture of Jane, and she's really cute. I mean, Jake knows her and talked to me about her and after seeing her pictures I'm thinking wow, I'll take her!! Ahaha. This has happened before. I liked a girl that my friend (another girl) was dating. So I guess I'm attracted to unavailable lesbians? It's weird, but wow I really want this girl. Could it be because bisexuality is so normal for me? Jake is bisexual and so is the girl that he likes...and I have other friends who are too. Any input is appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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honestly, you could just be curious because youve heard so much of it and want to see what it like for yourself. or you might really be bisexual. if you really want to find out, experiment ! you could always just realize you were wrong, or it can open a new door for you! i think itd do you good to find out for yourself. i found out that i was and ive felt a lot more comfortable with my feelins and such afterwards.
if you have anymore questions feel free to ask!
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Every time I make friends with a guy, they treat me like a kid sister. I am teased so much! It's nothing offensive, just playful, but I don't know what to think.
Like if they look at my homework assignments, they pick on me for being too neat, or the way I write my 6's, or the way I talk. They have to say something about everything, I try to laugh it off, but it gets really old! I think we are friends, am I wrong?
Am I dealing with jerks, or am I just being too touchy? To be fair, this happens when we talk about anything, it drives me crazy! (link)
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girrrrl i know how you feel. im always the target of all of the guys' jokes and i always get teased by them. honestly, i thought that the 'ill be mean to her cuz i like her thing' stopped in elementary school, but it doesnt. you just have to learn to take it as a joke and maybe shoot one back at them.
i learned that when you are too touchy it makes them wanna to do it more and more, just like a bully. just show that it doesnt bother you (even though it does) and take it as a joke.
but, if it does become harrassment and becomes waaay to personal, then you need to say somethin.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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i need as much advice as possible because i'm so confused and torn apart...
i don't know if you remember me but i'm that girl who asked all those questions about getting back together with my boyfriend over the summer and going on vacation with him. (we started dating aug. 11.2008 broke up april 26th 2009 then started going back out july 20th 2009 and now broke up again november 27th 2008 :/)...we both are 17 by the way.
okay so tonight he dumped me. again. i can't sleep, i can't eat, and theres this huge hole in my heart. i told myself i would never get this attached but its too late, because i am. it is impossible for me to get over him....three months wasn't enough i feel like its going to be longer this time if we don't end up getting back together.
he said he broke up with me because he feels like i contribute way more in the relationship than he does and he feels like its not fair to me. but then he said he loves me and cares about me and doesn't know what to expect after we break up....i said to him "i want to be sure this is what you want because i'm not coming back this time"....he said "yeah i know..id be a jerk to ask you out again" he said that ill always have an effect on him because its the first love kinda thing with both of us.
its really weird too because like a week ago he was telling me how the first time we broke up he was a mess and thought of me every night thinking that it would go away but it didn't for 3 months. so he asked me back out and things were good but then he said that he felt like he didn't want to hang out with me sometimes and wanted to be with his friends but thats understandable because i do too. ugh i know i said i wasn't coming back, but deep down i know i am if he will....im so crazy abot this guy....
and one more thing, everytime he says "i love you" like a couple months later we break up....i've mentioned this to him and he seems afraid of it...he says he meant it and i'm positive that he meant it becase i can tell especially the way he looked into my eyes but he says he doesn't want to be like an old married couple already and i think the words "Ilove you" remind him of that.
what do you think is the best way to play it so we can get back together? should i tell him all of this? he said he wanted to try the friends thing so we can hang out after a little awhile. but we hung out last time we broke up by ourselves and we ended up getting back together...he said he wanted to start hanging out in groups first though so that doesn't happen...but i secretly want it to :/ when should i call him/text him? like how long should i give it? i know i should wait until he texts me first but he told me to let him know when i'm ready to hang out again. this is seriously the hardest thing i've ever been through.
i want him back so badly. im trying the best i could to stay positive but things aren't going so well. i'm so in love and this is eating me from the inside out. i want him back. i know he loves me. he's just so confused and he has family problems going on at home (his mom is cheating on his dad overseas) and i want to be there for him i love him so much and i honestly think he's making a hugee mistake. how do i get him back? please help :(
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like the adviser below me said, gettin over your first love is one of the hardest things to do. i still beat myself over the head over my first love and its been waaay long.
the reason i had to let my first love go is because whenever we didnt talk to for a lil while hed go back to his exgirlfriend, and it hurt so bad everytime.
you guys break up a lot, and it obviously hurts you a lot. no matter how great this guy is and how much you love him, do you deserve the pain and heartache this relationship causes you ? do you really want to get back together so you can get hurt again ?
honestly, even though you think hes makin a mistake, you need to let him make it. its his right to do what he feels is necessary. you make think its crazy, wrong, or stupid - but you need to think of how he sees it. i say that you leave him alone for a while, even though it kills. that can give him time to see that either he cant live without you or he can. if you keep talkin to him a lot he wont get a chance to see what its like without you.
if it were me, i wouldnt date him again. love is blind, and youre blinding yourself as to how he keeps hurtin you. tellin you that he loves you and then breakin up with you a few months later REPEATEDLY ? thats a really mean thing to do to someone. if he comes back to you, you really need to tell him why you feel so hurt ! he wont know what hes doing until you tell him.
dont agree to date him again unless you seriously talk about where this relationship is goin. you guys are gonna be adults soon and that would mean maybe movin out together, careers, clubs...etc. if you dont know where yall are goin, the adult life could rip yall apart.
KEEP AWAY FROM HIM FOR NOW. surround yourself with good friends, pick up some hobbies like sports or art, and just do some things for yourself ! give yourself a little time to heal, then when youre really ready (id give it a few months a least), then hang out with him. hangin out with him to soon can make you just fling youself at him without solvin anythin.
i really really hope everythin works out for you guys and if you need anythin else im only a click away :)
x sweeethoney
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I have medium-dark brown hair, pretty pale skin, green eyes, and I'm 15 years old, sophomore in high school. I don't want to over do it, but I really want to start wearing make up that flatters my features. (link)
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natural, earthy tones would probably be the best since you already have brown and green goin for you. i suggest like a gold/brown eyeshadow kit - maybelline has some good ones. dark brown/black eyeliner liquid or the kind that comes in a tube (define-a-line is my favorite). & the bare naturals mascara.
hope i helped :)
x sweeethoney
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I'm sorry that I don't know the difference between House / Dance / Electro / Techno music, but does anyone have any suggestions for this type of music?
My favorite songs:
"Infinity (Klaas Remix)" by the Guru Josh Project
"I Love My Sex" by Benny Benassi
"Sexy Chick" by David Guetta ft. Akon
"Breathe" by Kaz James
I really like good beats. Please only respond if you're familiar with this genre of music. I'm already familiar with everything on the iTunes top 10 list, including Lady GaGa stuff. I have no problem with vocals but I need a good beat to dance to :) Thanks (link)
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deadmau5:
- i remember feat. kaskade
- ghosts n stuff
- afterhours
- attention whore
- clockwork
fedde le grand:
- put your hands up for detriot
- the creeps (fedde le grand vs. camille jones)
kaskade:
- angel on my shoulder (obviously)
- move for me
bodyrox:
- yeah yeah
- what planet you on
cascada:
- evacuate the dancefloor
thats all i got but hope it helped ! :)
x sweeethoney
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hi is there any way to prevent a ring from turning your finger green? (link)
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i paint the inside of the ring with nail polish - clear is the best way. but if you dont have clear, just paint the inside and make sure you cant see it on the visible part of the ring.
:) good luck
x sweeethoney
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my boyfriend used to smoke alot of weed his freshman and sophomore year (hes a senior now) he hasn't done it since but today he told me he did. when i told him that i didn't like it and he knows that he told me not to worry and that he won't become a pothead. but idk...like i don't want to be the pushy gf that yells at him for doing it...then he's gonna feel like he has to hide it from me...but idk i just don't want my boyfriend to do that then me having to kiss him...what should i do? (link)
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honestly, i think if he says hes not gonna become a pothead, then jus let him have a little fun once in a while. just tell him not to do it on a day when he'll see you. obviously he's been there done that with the pothead stage, so he prolly wont go back to it.. just relax.
if it really bothers you then break up with him, because he shouldnt be told what to do, because most likely you wouldnt like it.
good luck ,
x sweeethoney
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