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pregnant..adoption?
im 18 my boyfriends 20..and im pregnant.
we were so careful..we used condoms and bc but we ran out of condoms and thought it would be ok. i took every pill on time but im pregnant. he wants to give the baby up for adoption and i cant, i already love it. does anyone have advice on how and can convince him to keep it? no lectures please.
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Hi,
I'm adopted. I wish I knew my birth parents, but I don't. I am happy though. I have a great family and they take care of me everyday. I have a great life and it's a gift. If you can't take care of your child, adoption would be best. Sorry to say that. If you think you can support your child then don't put him/her up for adoption. If you do put him/her up for adoption let him/her know you exist and it was painfully hard for you to chose. Also try to connect with the child even if he or she is not living with you, they will appreciate it trust me. Showing you care makes all the difference for your child's life whether your living with him/her or not. Your boyfriend does have to know that it is your body and your choice ultimately. I wish you luck. :) It's a hard choice... you'll know best :)
~Sky
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Your boyfriend cannot make you abort the baby, he cannot make you keep it, and he cannot make you give it up for adoption if you do not want to. It is your body, and your life - therefore it is ultimately your decision. Yes, he helped you make that baby, BUT since it's your body, what you say goes. If he doesn't like it, that's too bad.
If you want to keep your baby, then keep it. Just know that nothing about this situation is going to be easy. It is very hard to raise a baby alone & even with a spouse sometimes. They are very expensive, and take lots of time & care. It's not something that just anyone can do. Make sure you read lots of books, maybe take some classes & get yourself as prepared as possible.
Good luck.
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Hunny i was 15 when i had my first child. its tough but i managed. take your time and sit down and talk to him tell him you have thought it through and you are wanting to keep the baby. A baby is a wonderful thing and can be expensive but its amazing life changing thing. i am pregnant now with my second im 18 i am 7 months and i just love it.
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i faced the same problem, im 6 months pregnant now. honestly, if you and youre boyfriend can handle a baby, then keep it.
you really should consider this before:
- the expense of diapers, formula/food, clothes, stroller, crib, insurance, doctors.. obviously you need a good income.
- the time to take care of it. you need to stay home with your baby for a while while theyre young, so you wont be able to go to a job until your boyfriend gets home.
- the strength of your relationship. can you handle the baby alone if you guys break up ?
theres a lot of things to think about when considerin to keep a baby. if you really think that the things above are no obstacle then KEEP IT. but if not, give the baby a chance to have a great life.
tell him that you love the baby already, and you refuse to give it up for adoption. tell him you think that it will be a blessin to you guys and that its a beautiful thing. make a plan on how youre goin to handle it, take care of it, and how youre gonna handle the future. its really youre choice because you guys arent married, and youre the one givin birth to it.
im sorry if this is 'a lecture', but i think i can relate to you because i had to make the decision to keep or give mine up as well and these are things you need to hear !
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Tell him that you want to keep ARE baby because I birthed tis child. This is are bundle of joy. Don't lie him. Don't tell him its going to be a piece of cake. Tell him the truth its gonna be hard. But the reward to see that child grow up and love his REAL parents is priceless. No lecture, bt pleaz know its more than saying I want to keep it. Just know that
Lillian
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Don't worry. I won't lecture you. Tell him you want to keep it! Tell him there is no force in the world that can keep you and the baby seperated!
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trust me once you give birth to that child your not going to want to give it away..look him straight in the eys and tell him that theres a creature inside me that i want to see grow up.i want to be able to tounch, hug, love it.dont you want to see how it will turn out??
if he doesnt want anything to do with it and you want to keep it then you shouldnt have to go through hours of child birth and forcefully give away a child that youve grown to love.itll rip you up from inside.
i say keep it.my friend fell pregnant and the guy didnt want anything to do with the baby so shes raising it on her own and doing fine.if you have the support of your family and friends then why not?ofcourse itll be hard but its always hard raising a family whether your bf is with you or not,its always going to be hard.
in the end the decision is yours just as much as it is for him.once the baby is alive and in his arms he may change his mind
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if you want to keep your child then that's wondrful but are you ready to take care of another life? bringing a child into the world is easy but raising one can be difficult without proper help. if the boyfriend does'nt want to a part of the childs life then there are steps that you can take to make sure he keeps his legal obligations to the child(ie child support). remember that you didnt make this child on your own so you shouldnt raise it on your own. you cant convince a boy to be a man and take care of his responibilities, so if he isnt willing to step up to the plate and help you then it may be time to cut your loses with this guy and raise the child on your own. it may be a difficult journey for you but in the long run you will be a better parent for it.
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