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newly long distance relationship
THIS IS A LONG ONE!! SORRY BUT I REALLY NEED ADVICE!
Hi, First of all, thank you for reading my question and answering it...ok here it goes!
I just got into a relationship with this super sweet guy. He makes me sooo happy. We met online, and after a few weeks we exchanged numbers. We started texting, then I came over my "shyness" and talked on the phone. To be honest, I never met anyone online before, and neither did he so we was kinda iffy about it. I joined the site the same time he did, and he was the only one that caught my interest! He doesnt live too far away, but it is far. I live in South Florida, and he is in Tampa.
Anyways, me and him really hit it off and we finally became a couple. We talk all the time on the phone (something like 14 hours a day! ) We constantly text, whether Im at school, work, wherever.
I know he isnt cheating on me, but I have been hurt so much I cant help but think so. I have been in only one previous relationship before this. I am 20 and he is 29. I have spoken with his parents. All his friends and family know about me. We talk about everything. I know his deep dark secrets and he knows mine.
In my past, I have been molested, cheated on, and lied to. I really find it hard to trust anyone,mainly men; including my family. But I want to trust him, and I am trying. I like him soo much.
**I feel like it was fate because I was transferring schools for next Fall in the area he lives, and then I met him.
But the problem is that when we are phone, I usually have nothing to say! I Dont Know what to say! I have nothing to say. Just hearing his voice makes my day, but I know I have to say something. The last relationship I was in was like absolutely no communication, and now him, he wants to talk all the time...and I love that about him. But Im used to hiding my feelings, and not sharing. How do I break that?
I have been trying, but I can see sometimes he gets frustrated. Its very hard for me to open up and express my feelings, and the crazy thing is I want to so bad. Its like Im expecting something bad because he is too good to be true. I just dont want to be hurt again, because my ex hurt me bad! I know him, he would never hurt me, he tells me all the time, but I cant help thinking this way.I been hurt all my life.
The last relationship I was in wasnt really a relationship now that I think about it. So this is my "FIRST" real relationship. He used me for my virginity, and I was too stupid to see. He cheated on me, the whole nine. But I thank God he did that because it was a life lesson. And now, I got the best man in the world.
Also, How do I make this long distance relationship work. Its very hard not seeing each other. I want to be near him so bad. I never seen him before, but I have so many pictures of him, as he does of me.
We wont see each other until 2 more months when I go on orientation to my new university. And then after that August, when I move into my dorm or apartment, i dont know yet (sorry! off track)
and please dont tell me about the dangers of the internet because I know, and with him its nothing dangerous.
P.S. Thanks sooooooo much for answering this question, I know its alot to read and I just want to thank you for your time.
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If he knows your deep dark secrets, this must include your past. It takes two people to make any relationship work. It will take both of you to help you open up more to him. Tell him what you told us! Let him know the reasons why your finding it hard. With his support, it will get easier. You need him to work with you on it.
One of my favorite words of wisdom that I came across applies here: "If you hold back your feelings because you're afraid of getting hurt, you wind up getting hurt anyway."
As far as making the long distance relationship work, I think besides this commiunication issue, you guys can make it. You know his family, you guys talk all the time, you'll be living near eachother soon... Try to relax!
I hope I helped. Good luck. If you ever need anything else I'm here!
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