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Am I to young?
Okay well im 14 going to be 15 in like 3 months. Me and my boyfriend make 6 months on the 4th of December so tomorrow. We have been talking about sex for that past few weeks now and I think im ready, but I still have this little voice in my head telling me im not. I know I really love him though and I know he won't do anything I wouldn't want to because he always caring of me. I really know I want him to be my first though, but the thing thats getting me is that im to young I think that's the only thing holding me back. What is your opinion on this and does it hurt your first time I really want to know pretty much everything please?
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Sometimes teenagers mistake love for lust, Do you truly love him? your so young how can you say you truthfully LOVE him. i think people that are in high school don't know the true meaning of LOVE and they mistake it with lust.
o.k. so I don't think you should have sex with him, because physicaly your body is not ready it is still growing and it can mess up your growing stages. Also at this age you don't no everything about sex and you proble don't have the proper things to keep you from getting pregnant. Can you imagine if you were to get pregnant?:( it wouldn't be good at all! Since you are second guessing your self i think that's a BIG sigh that you should wait. I think you should wait, sex isn't what every puts it out to be... in less it's right and done the right way.
At the end of the day it's you chose and all i can give you is advice and hope you will take it.
Just a little things to add-
I plan on saving myself till marraige, resons why....
I never have to worry about getting pregnant.
I wont be taken advantiage of to have sex with anyone " because they no i wouldn't do that"
I get to stay pure, which makes me special
I have something to look forward to on my wedding night.
My body is not a peace of candy, that any guy can have.
It's hard to explain this by righting it but... i incurage you to stay pure till it's the right time.
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I'm gonna play devil's advocate and say that sex is as big a deal as you make it. It can either be not a big deal or it could be the hugest deal. The important thing is to remember that whatever you do, it's the right decision for you. 14 isn't too young, and I disagree with people that say things like "losing your virginity is the most important decision in the world and if you wonder if you're ready or not, you're not ready". That's sorta a bad attitude in my opinion, because it makes sex into something negative, and it antagonizes you for not being completely sure. People will almost never be COMPLETELY sure about anything, the important thing is to do whatever feels right for you.
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Listen to the voice in the back of your head. The reason you're this "little voice" is because secretly you are probably nervous about the idea of sex and underneath your love for this boy, you are not emotionally ready for sex. Its a large commitment, and even if you've been with somebody for a long time, it takes a certain amount of maturity. Personally, at the age of 14 or 15 I think you are too young.
Losing your virginity should be something special. What a few years and see if you and this boy are still together. But I think you should wait. Always remember to use protection though, in case you decide to anyways. Hopefully you will recognize the voice in your head is giving you good advice :)
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usually the voice at the back of your head is always the one thats right.you think your ready because thats your heart talking but that voice in your head is your mind. choose your mind over your heart because its the right choice.
if you do choose to go with your heart make sure you use protection because you dont want to be getting pregnant at the age of 15 do you?
in my opinion your too young.in new zealand the legal age to have sex is 16.that law is there for a reason.
But again if you do have sex just make sure you use a condom or go on the pill
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i was 14 when i lost my virginity. honestly, i regret it a lot. if you have a voice in the back of your head sayin that youre not ready, then i suggest you dont. youre young, you have all the time in the world to have sex.
losin your virginity should be a special thing that you are absolutely ready for, and i strongly strongly suggest that you wait until you are certain that you are. and my first time didnt hurt but for a lot of girls it does hurt.
x sweeethoney
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