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Q: 14/f. I have a hairy stomache. I thought this was normal untill my one friend said something to me. Theres like blonde hairs on my stomache, its not that noticable, but it is somewhat. Is this okay? If not what is wrong with me?

You're normal. =)

Of it gets to the point where it bothers you, then just shave it.

Plus, you're probably growing a happy trail, a lot of girls get those.

Q: Ok, so I have really, really bad period cramps and I want to make them go away fast because I'm going out in about an hour. Any ideas?

Midol works wonders.
It's amazing, it starts working in like 20 minutes.

Q: ok so i need major help. about a month ago i had a pregnancy scare and i got 2 tests done that both came back negative. i had all the symptoms and i mean ALL [[my mom even questioned me about it]]. but i had only missed 1 period. so far now i have missed 2 and continue to have these symptoms and they keep getting worse. whats worse is my bf broke up with me a month ago after it came back negative [[he was my one and only so no other guys are involved]]. i am a verrry thin girl like, i'm 5'8 and 110lbs [[no i'm not anorexic, i eat a lot, it's just genetics]]. and i have really tight abs. . .well, not anymore and i'm starting to pooch a bit haha as funny as that sounds. are these symptoms just in my head? am i just gaining some weight? should i get another home test? i can't go to a doctor because i am only 17 and would die before telling my parents anything i've done. i need help [[please, no internet links cuz my dad might monitor what all i do]]

Well if you're saying you've got all the symptoms, and your mom even asked you about it, AND you missed your period for 2 months, you're probably pregnant.

take a test again, 2 weeks after your supposed to get your period.

Q: Im not sure if this is coincidence or not but do you think the terrorists planned it to be on the day in which the numbers are the same for if you have an emergency (911). The cahnces are 1 in 365 which seems pretty uncoincidental. Any opinions??

It was our government, of course it was planned.

Go search "loose change" on youtube or google videos, it explains it all.

Q: I want to wish my crush happy easter, the thing is im afraid ill regret it, he lives very far away, ive had a crush on him for 4 years, we emailed regurarly for 3 years, and then i guess he lost interest in me, and now i havnt seen him online for about 6 months (i think he blocked me, dont know why) should i still wish him a hapyy easter? im afriad ill be crushed when he doesnt answer, is there any funny way of wishing someone happy easter (not too sentimental?) so he thinks im doing it as a friend and that i dont like him.. what do you think? should i?

xcheerbabex108 gave some good advice on what to say. =)

As for your additional information, i think you should try to find other another guy to focus on. After what you said I think you should try your hardest to get over him, he doesn't seem like a nice guy to all of a sudden just stop talking to you. On top of that, you said you won't see him again, so that would be a very very hard relationship to maintain. So try to find some new guys to think about, it'll be worth it. =)

Q: what does it mean to kiss spiderman style?
and what are other styles of kissing or positions?

I haven't seen Spiderman in forever, but I would assume the "style" is the upside down kiss.

Where he was hanging upside down from a building and she was on the ground, then they started making out.

Q: well ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 9 months.. and i was thinking about giving him one of these two.. preferably a hj.

but if you could answer these questions for both hjs and bf that would be great.

1. How old were you when you gave your first one?
2. Do you think doing it when youre 15 is slutty?
3. How do you do it exactly?
4. Does it feel weird?
5. How long does it take?
6. Is it fun for you?
7. Does it hurt your arm/neck/whatever?
8. How do you know when to stop?
9. Exactly like what part of his.. you know.. do you do it on?

thanks.

All this happened with my boyfriend, that I am still with, and have only did it to him. (Just so you know haha)

[1] Hj & Bj - 14.
[2] Nope.
[3] Hj - Just stroke your hand up and down the shaft of his penis. Bj - Start off by kissing the head and make your way to going up and down the shaft with your mouth.
[4] Hjs - No. Bjs - For the first couple times, it's a little weird, but you get used to it.
[5] However long it takes him to orgasm(cum) or when he asks you to stop.
[6] It's more fun for him than you, in my opinion.
[7] It can get your arm tired if you go for a long time, but it doesn't hurt. Bj - Nope, unless you go too far and you start gagging, if you consider gagging pain, lol.
[8] If you get uncomfortable, he asks you to stop, or he orgasms.
[9] The head is the most sensitive part of the penis, so for bjs that would be good, and for hjs the shaft.

Q: 15 in 9 days/f
well when me and my boyfriend make out.. its not that i dont really like it.. i mean i try to.. and i tell him i do.. but honestly its not like amazing. i know that im the first girl hes made out with. and like his kisses are a little too wet for me.. and he goes a little too fast and too fast into the kiss. like i want to kiss a little first before he actually puts his tounge in my mouth.. but he just like puts it in right away and keeps it in there like the whole time and like i cant even put mine in his mouth because his is in mine the whole time. like its apparent that he doesnt really know what hes doing. but i love him and weve been going out for like 9 months and hes great with everything else but i just dont know what to do about this. like i dont wanna tell him.. but like i dont wanna not enjoy it and have to lie too! Is there like a way i can like lead the kiss so i can have it how i want it?? HELP!

Haha, I kinda had the same problem the first time I made out with my boyfriend. Only, technique didn't really click with us, instead of not knowing what we were doing.

You just have to talk to him about it nicely, that's what I did, now when we make out it's how I like it, haha.

Just say after you guys kiss how you feel about it, and tell him how you would like to kiss. If he gets embarrassed, don't let him be, just comfort him. Say something like, "Aw it's okay, I just would like to try something different and to see how I like it."

Hope I helped!

Q: i am in love with it
i have it on repeat on my ipod as i type
but like what does it mean?

does it mean this guys like this girl
who likes this girl
who is 2 timing him?
as he watches her play him?

i want to know
just wondering

It would really help if you named the song...

Q: jobs . . . . . . . .

yea tomorrow im gonna be with my bf and we are gonna play around haha
its gonna be my 1st time
but i want to know

1-are they fun?
2-how old were you when you 1st gave or recied one ?
3-how long do they last?
4-does it feel weird ?
5-do you enjoy them?

[1] Ehh, kinda, more for the boy though.
[2] 14.
[3] Until he cums, until he asks you to stop (not likely) or until he wants to take over with his hand.
[4] First time, it's like a weird feeling because I'm sure you've never had anything of that shape in your mouth, but you get used to it quickly.
[5] Ehh, not really, but he does so it equals out.

Q: okay yeah. im flat. like speed bumps. im 13 f and like... 30 A or what ever. im thinking about getting like.. those like gel things that you put in your bra to give you like. . . bigger looking boobs.
do you think i should?
like... are they natural and like.. idk like would they fall out or anything..?
please help.! any info on them let me know.!
like price etc.

You're 13.
You're not supposed to really have boobs yet lol.

Don't get the gel things, just get a padded bra.

Have some patience, you shouldn't be worried about your boobs being small at 13.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months today and i was wanting to know what should i get him for our 3 month anniversary and i wanted to do something really special for him but the problem is that i don't have any money what should i do?

p.s.
If it would help to know how old we are i am 18 and he's 16.

Not to sound rude or anything, but 3 months isn't really that long. Maybe you can save up for your 6 month anniversary, and that would be a a good day to do something special for him.

What you can do though is go out to a nice dinner, maybe you can get him a card to show him how much you "love" him, and just spend the day/night with him. =) That should be enough for him, because I'm sure he'll enjoy it.=)

Q: My friend Gary has a friend with a couple of sidekicks. He's basically rich, so he can buy as many as he wants.

Anyways, my friend is asking his friend for two. One for him, one for me. In return, I'm giving my friend Gary my current phone [I have the RAZR].

I'm on Cingular, and TMOBILE & Cingular are the only two phone companies who use SIM Chips. I'm just wondeing..Can I put my SIM Chip from my phone into the sidekick & will it work?

Unless he gets the Sidekick unlocked for you, then no, it will not work.

Q: is it just me, or does anyone else think that it would be hilarious for Sanjaya Malakar to win American Idol? I know it's improbable, but each week he escapes elimination I am laughing on my couch...he's just so bad, and in a way i am rooting for him.

A botched american idol seems pretty funny to me even though it's supposed to give someone an opportunity for a career.

american idol needs something else besides the mundane like the past seasons.

maybe it's just me ha.

If he wins, I will never again watch the show. He's a goof, and he cracks under pressure.

Anyway though, look at it this way..

Fantasia - What the hell is she doing these days? no one knows, nor cares!

Ruben - He had one song that was a hit, that I don't even remember, no one cares about him either anymore.

Taylor Hicks - What's he doing? NOTHING!

Only Kelly Clarkson and Carrie Underwood are the only ones that really have had American Idol be some sort of amazing happen to them, and make them actual stars!

So if he wins, it won't really matter. He won't be doing anything just like those three, and probably some other people that I haven't listed.

Q: I feel really awkward when people ask me about my religion and stuff because i'm agnostic and don't think there is a way to prove if god is real or not. I really don't want to tell my friends that because most of them are really religious and i'm scared they wouldn't like me if I did. Why do people think it's such a big deal if you don't believe in god? I don't know if I should tell them or not.

Everyone else pretty much said it right, but I'd like to tell you that, being Agnostic is when you believe in a higher power, but just not "God".

I'm an Atheist myself, which is not believing in anything.

Q: i have a dell..if i download limewire will it put any viruses on my computer? i have virus protection and everything but will it?

I don't think Limewire itself will give you the virus, but be very careful about what you download, because that will be what gives you the virus'.

Q: My best guy friend Luis asked me out today. I was extremley shocked when I read,''Don't tell nobody but will you go out will me?'' He asked me while I was on the computer. I don''t know what to do now. I mean like if I say no then it might hurt his feelings and I'm afraid he might not ever talk to me again, but if i say yes then he might dump me, and I don't want that.

If he asked you out, why are you thinking about him dumping you? Maybe he doesn't want anyone to know because he's shy. I don't think your "best friend" would ask you out, and then dump you immediately. If you like him, go for it, and think of positive things, not negative.

Q: I'm from England and their used to be this place where a group of people could have a party and sing in groups or alone and get it all recorded and put it on Cd? In Florida, US?

thanks in advance

Karaoke?

Some karaoke DJ's do that.

I'm not sure if that's what you mean, but it sounds like that.

Q: 15/f. ok so when i straighten my hair i would like their to still be a little volume to in, maybe by the scalp. how can i do this?

I get volume by doing the following in order:

- Shower at night.
- Let your hair air dry (or hair drying doesn't really matter), but make sure it's damp.
- Put your hair in a pony-tail and sleep with it up.
- In the morning, take your hair down, and straighten it.

That should work. =)

Q: How would I curl my hair to make it look like this? i'm doing this by myself so what direction would I have to spin the curling iron?

http://www.pageantrymagazine.com/assets/images/features/2006/c06/c06_hairstyle_hollywood/c06_HairStyle_Elisha01.jpg

This site should give all the necessary steps to getting your hair like that. =)

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Loose-Waves

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The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
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