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Hi my name is Jen. I'm here to help anyone that needs it! i'll try my best to answer =)
E-mail: sealgirl07@yahoo.com
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Age: 18
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I just bought a thing of memorex blank cds and everytime I go to burn a cd onto them its like it burns half of them or 3 of them then stops. My computer pops up saying windows cannot record this info..... is it the cds or my computer? (link)
if you have done it a couple of times with the cd's and it isn't working then it is probally the computer or it might actually be the songs. i am not sure. but if you tried a couple of cd's and it isn't working then it is the songs or the computer. it might work if you reload the songs and thn put them on the cd's. tha tmight work. good luck and hopefully it will work for you.
~sealgirl~


Okay so I'm 14/f and I've been sad for oh! about a year. After next month it will be a complete year. When I was 12 everything was great and I don't know but nothing bothered me. People would be mean to me and I just wouldn't care. It just makes me sooo mad that I'm still freaking sad! It's not right it's almost been a whole year of this. I'm fed up with it. Anyways there are so many things missing in my life like a boyfriend, friends and just people that arent mean to me. Like there's a lot of people that hate me and think i'm really annoying. I don't want to kill myself but I want to beat up everyone thats mean to me. I'm sick of not having a guy to call my own or friends. Everything makes me sad. Like thinking about all the other girls that have boyfriends and guys that like them. And the fact that those girls are nearly the same age as me and their lives are great and everyone treats me like I'm a baby and like i'm not old enough to have friends. Like I can't have a b/f. I'll be 15 in 5 months and if I don't have a b/f by then well I'll consider suicide and probably commit it. I've been sad since i was 13. 3 months after I was 13 is when it all started. I mean I know a lot of people dont have boyfriends when they're 14 but 15! That's crazy I've been waiting wayy to damn long to have a life where I go places and people like me. (link)
ok...well i know it is sad and u jsut really want a b/f but you can't force things to happen. i havn't had a bf yet in my whole life and i have been dieing to have one and i am 15 and 16 in four months..it is something that you have to just let come naturally. no matter how much you like someone, you can't make them like you back. trust me, there is nothing you can do. and about your friends, i don't htink i have a lot eaither. it is sad but you just got to put yourself out there. You need to jsut talk to some girls in your class and just hang out with them. it can't be that hard, ok....maybe it can. but you just need to try. it is very important to have friends to hang out with or you will miss out on things and great oppertunities. i know that i have. maybe if you make some new friends then they can help you get a guy too. hopefull this is the advice you wanted. i didn't know exactaly what you were asking. good luck and hopefully you get some nice people to hang out with. good luck
~sealgirl~


I HAVE A HUGE ISSUE. Ok well,this ex boyfriend I dated for 4 months is now dating one of my friends.
They talk very perverted to eachother and one day me and my friend (the one dating him ) went to the movies and she had to go to the bathroom,so she had me hold her phone and i was just looking throught her inbox and outbox not looking for anything specific. But then I saw that my ex's name appear in a text with her saying she wants to get pregnant with his baby and marry him, and run away etc... (she just turned 13,and he's 17). It hurts me really bad that she would do that to me. i thought i had no feelings for him but one day he texted me saying he still loved me. we haven't talked since then cause i know he was playing both of us. ( i dont like him,but shes going to get hurt...shes going to wind up getting pregant and he is going to leave her)
heres some stuff about him
1.has a kid
2. was married.
3.only 17
4. a big player.

heres stuff about my friend
1.just turned 13
2. was pregnant 2wice already.
3. is a slut..

I dont know what to do.
She still don't know that i know they're together.

HELP. (link)
Why don't you just talk to her about it. i mean she is your friend she would understand. Just tell her to becareful because you know how he is. and say that you don't wnat to make another mistake so becare ful. just don't bring up the fact taht you read her messages. Just tell ehr that you noticed her hanging around with him and stuff and taht i know that you are going out but i just wanted to tell you to be careful and to not do anything that you will regret.
~sealgirl~


Please don't answer this is you're going to be really mean and insensetive.


Lately I've felt so lonely, and I know I do not need a boy to make me happy, it just sucks because its my nature to want to love someone, and be loved back. All my friends seem to be in a relationship, and I know you dont need to be, especially in highschool since they normally dont last, but that still doesnt change how I feel about it.

How am I supposed to put myself out there?
I really dont have a lot of guy friends..
please help? (link)
i am in the sam situation and i feel the same way you do but i am just to scared and shy to do anything. But f you want to put yourself out there then maybe you could just go up to a guy in your class that you think is cute or something and just start a conversation with them. or if you want to start slow then just ask them if you can borrow a pencil from them or somthing just so they can notice you and talk to you a little more. hopefuly this is what your looking for.
~sealgirl~


Ok so theres this guy, and i like him, and one day im sure that he likes me then another day it seems like he's not interested cuz like some days he always looks at me and i always unexpectadly see himmm in the hall at school, and stuff like that, and then another day hes looking at my friend and stuff, and im always hanging out with my friend, so i dont know if hes interested in me or her...i know this may sound selfish, but i really want him to like ME! im so confused because im getting mixed signals, and i really need help.
Thanxx (link)
ok..you have two choices...one-you can not hang out with you friend for a day and just go with someone else and see waht happens...but don't ditch your friend...that wouls be mean. the second, you make a move and see what he does. if he becomes distant then you know he likes your friend but if he gets into it then you know u got him hooked and he is just making you jealous. Just try and figure it out an easy way, find one of his friends and ask them if he likes you or something like that. sorry that, that sounds lame but jsut go for it. you decide..have fun and good luck with everything, hopw you get what you want.
~sealgirl~


Okay so ill give u sum background.. me and this guy we'll say his name is tyler dated for 5 months. I fell so in love with him at the beginning of the relationship then he was different later on in the relationship and all we ever did was fight and argue and he was insecure so he was really protective and would freak out if another guy talked or texted me. So then we finally broke up. We broke up almost a week ago. Well, we still talk and he wants to be with me but thinks he messed up too bad. most of the time when we talk he acts like im still his girlfriend or like im his property and goes around threating people. He irritates me soo much but I cant seem to get over him and when he mentions his chick friends it drives me crazy and makes me sort of jealous. When other guys ask me out and things i feel like im cheating. How do I get over him? So i can move on with my life?? (link)
You can't just get over someone. It takes time for that to happen. if you want to get over someone try to not think about them or try going out with another person in which you have your eye on. but you can't jsut tell your self that you are over someone and for it to work. it takes time and you have to be patient for everything to work. but if you want to move on, then just try and forget about him, or look at all the bad things that you didn't like about him like him saying that you were his property and just say o, well i guess i don't like him as much as i thought and that might help you get over him but you will need time, don't puch it. it could just make the situation worst if you push it. so just relax and try not to think about it but have fun. Good luck and i hope everything works out.
~sealgirl~


Hi! I told my bgf that i love him but not in love with him and not exaclty romantically but we were talking alone. I had hugged him bye and then was like wait 1 more thing and then i said I love you but im not IN love with you..." He was just like ok during this my hand was gently in his not exaclty holding hands but i had my hand in his which was cupped and i hugged him again and left. The other thing is we're not exactly friends w/benefits but he can't date until his next birthday (may!) and I don't even know if I want to date him (but prob. will) and we've kissed and I feel totally confortable with him. I dont know if everyone gets that but like when he held my hand i didnt even realize it. And he flirts with me sometimes overly and we flirt in general. The thing is when I told him that he didnt really respond. We've still kinda talked and it wasnt like awkward or anything but i dont know. I pretty much know he does too even if he doesnt tell me because i mean more like in a close friend way not marry me or anything like that haha. I really want to talk to him about it but i dont know how to bring it up and do you think thats a normal way for him to respond to it? Also do you think hes thinking about it or was just like ok whatever? i think he probably is thinking about it but i want others opinions. Lots of them lol :D hanks so much and I will rate all helpful posts!!! (link)
well when you tell people that you love them they don't respond because it was a surprize to them but he probally loves you back. He probally did think about it because it is something that took him to a surprize or shocked him. If he likes you and wants to be your gf then everything is all right. If you want to talk about it you just need to go out and say it. i mean at some point, if you eer get in a relation ship, even if you r not, you should always tell the truth and don't hold back. Just ask him say like, the otehr day when i told u that i loved you, i meant it in a friendly way, sry if i scared you. or say somthing like that, i mean, if he feels the same way then he will say i love you back, and if he doesn't then he eaither isn't ready for that commitment to say that or he just doesn't love you, sry that that sounds mean, but it is probally the truth. So just talk to him and be truthful and you will probally get the answers that u r looking for. good luck and have fun.
~sealgirl~


i met this AMAZING guy on myspace a month ago, from just randomly searching. yeah, i know it's not safe but he gave me his cell number after i messaged him. the next day we talked for like 4 hours on the phone! then we text on and on. every night he would call me. one night he told me he was starting to really like me, so i told him the same back. i felt confused because i didnt want to say i liked him because im scared of getting hurt again due to my last relationship a year ago. the next day, he told me he didnt like me more than a friend. i was upset, but i got over it. anyways, me and him met in person a week or two later and i knew right then and there he was so different :). we continued to talk and everything was great. i began to really like him but NOT in love with him lol. i went to his house one day, and we kissed. it was so different because it was a very different like they were alot of feelings between us. anyways, there has been alot of times when we would talk about sex and everything. hes not a virgin and i am. but he told me he would never force me or make me do anything i didn't want to do. it was hard for me to believe that because my ex boyfriend had forced me to have sex and broke up with me because he didnt get "any". the new guy though always say the most perfect things to me, he told me that my ex was jerk and its his loss. anyways, he CALLS ME ALOT, texts, and he always surprises me. anyways, he told me again he liked me alittle more than a friend a few days later. it made me really happy, and so then the next day he told me he didn't anymore. i really don't know why. i mean i DO NOT want a relationship just yet and he doesn't either. i mean i have never had a guy treat me so good like he does. were so much alike, and we've deff seen our differences. but i want to be more then friends in the future. my question is does it seem like he likes me? ive asked friends and family and they all believe he does but hes confused and maybe he just doesnt want to have a relationship so early. ive asked him why he keeps saying he likes me and doesnt and he just says "idk". (link)
May be he is like you. he just got over with a relationship and doesn't want to be in one right now but if he keeps telling you that then he will hold onto you so you won't go out with anyone else. it could be his way of keeping you away from others because he likes you. I think he likes you and he is just playing a game with you to have some fun. Just give it all some time and things might change. so if he asks you out then go for it. if you don't like it then just break it off nicely but have fun.
~sealgirl~


How can I make my photo show up beside my name on yahoo messenger? It used to show up....now when I choose display image and browse and choose one it shows up for me and when i am talking to somebody the display picture shows up in the box. When I look at the list of people online all that is beside my name is the little yellow smiley thing. How do I get my pic to show back up here? Thanks for any help. (link)
it should just show up on there. I mean..if you talk and it shows up in the corner then it is there but it jsut sin't working right. there is no way that you can fix taht. at least i can't. just give it time and maybe it might click in. Or just try signing out and signing back it. But i don't think there is anything you can do. sry
~sealgirl~


Is there ANY way I can lose a few pounds before friday or saturday?

I'm hanging with a old friend and I want to wear these jeans but they make my butt look big.
I plan on walking 1 hour in the afternooon, don't eat high calorie stuff and drink ALOT of water, (only)


do you think I'll lose a few pounds if I do this?
HELPPPPPPP! (link)
sorry to bring you down but i don't think that you could lose any weight in a couple of days. it is just phisically impossible. you could do some sit ups to help because that is what made me loose some weight but you really can't loose weight that fast, and if you did, it wouldn't be good for you. sry to bring you down but you just can't do it.
~sealgirl~


Every time I swallow anything, even liquids I get a pain at the bottom of my throat where it connects to my chest. i know its not heartburn because it happens right when i swallow. also, after i finish eating, the back of that same part of throat feels very cold, almost like i just ate a peppermint. it just started yesterday but its kind of scaring me. does anyone know what this migth be???????// (link)
I have no idea what it could be but u might just want to get it checked out at the doctor..it could be strep to..hopefully u feel better
~sealgirl~


Hey this question is for anyone and I'll rate you on how truthful it is, just tell me about a time when you were left out of something.

I need to write kinda like an article so the more the merrier!

thank you very much for taking your time reading this (link)
ok, so this time i was left out was when my best friend in the whole wide world didn't invite me to a big party that she was having. i felt so bad for myself and wondered what was goign on and what made her not invite me...it was the worst thing in my life for my best friend to leave me out of something so fun. Then after that we got in a huge fight and didn't talk for 6 months and know we are all better and we are best friends again..hopefully this will work for u article...
~sealgirl~


its my sweet 16, and its a Halloween costume party but i want to wear something like gorgeous, and if i just took off the acessories i could go to say a homecoming or something. i was gonna be marilyn monroe but all i can find online is cheap costume dresses. any idea on what i can be? (link)
Well since it is your party and a big one at that, maybe you should dress as somthing that is really pretty. If you have seen the movie, cinderella story, you should do something like what hilary duff(sam) dressed up in. a really pretty dress with a simple mask. i love that costume and it is really pretty. it would be cool for you to go to like, david's bridal and go to tthe sale rack and see if they have any really cheap dresses for anything, or since it is by homecoming you might be able to find some really cool dress. And then you could get a really pretty but palin mask to go with it. i think it would be a awesome outfit!
~sealgirl~


I have trouble when the teacher gives me a reaing article and i have to find an answer to it!

for example, the question is: "What is the population (in canada and the United States) of the great lakes ecosystem?

and the site: http://www.great-lakes.net/

But I don't even know where to start looking!

Can someone help me? Like tell me the key word to search, or tell me the page name so i can search? (link)
well instead of doing that..my friend made this website for hw help.. here is the link if you want to try it: http://www.freewebs.com/cuxmibecknow7/index.htm
hopefully it will help you out...u might need to be a member and stuff to do it so u might have to sign up but it isno big deal...try it and hopefully you will get your work done faster.
~sealgirl~


I have a really huge fear of showing up in the same dress as someone and it happened last year! I know it's almost impossible to find a dress that 600 other girls won't wear but I want to get one at a unique store. Not Macy's, JC Penney, Kohl's, Jessica McClintock, or Windsor. I just want to know some stores with good dresses.

Thanks. (link)
i dont' know if a lot of people shop at deb but they have cool dresses there..
~sealgirl~


So I have an amazing boyfriend. I seriously think that I am in love with him. And this new kid came into my class and he is cute and funny and extremely nice. I am an all around flirty person, and I can't help but flirt with him naturally. We talked a lot today and I can't help but like him as more than a friend. I don't know whats wrong with me, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!! I really want to stop liking the new kid because things between my boyfriend are great. What can I do. I feel like such a bad person for liking someone besides my boyfriend.

HELP PLEASE.

Love,
CONFUZZLED :/ (link)
well ur a girl. all girls like more then one guy in the life at a point..even if they have a boyfriend. so there is this cute boy you like but you like your boyfriend more. so i say jsut stick with your boyfriend and jsut stay friends with this new kid..all u have to do is tell the new kid that you have boyfriend and jsut talk to him as a friend. i mean you will get used to him being there and he will end up just a inocent friend.but if somehting goes wrong and you end up likeing this guy more and more, you will probally need to tell your boyfriend what is going on. or you could just talk less to the new kid so you can keep him off of your mind. well good luck with your boy problems and hopefully everything will work out inthe end.


is it posibly to like a guy but dont want to like him but cant get over him??? (link)
As confusing as it sounds...i think there is..it has happened to me and it is just weird and you just want it to end..it takes a while but you finaly get over him and move onto another.
~sealgirl~


I hadn't played it for like a week and now when I play the Broke family, like I made them all picture perfect and stuff, but they have like no wants! Only fears. beau has 0 wants, brandi has 3, Dustin has 1, and only Brandi's baby has wants.. HELP! (link)
you might want to try and shut down your computer and the game and see if that makes a difference..if it doesn't then see if a different family has wants and if it doesn't then it is the game that is broken. Maybe the game got scratched and isn't working properly and if it isn't then try and clean it. That is all i can think of you can do..hopefully it works!
~sealgirl~


14/f

Recently I've got together with one of my best boy mates, we knew we liked each other for a couple weeks, then we talked for about half an hour before deciding together to be a couple.

But we don't really act like it cause both of us are really shy...

And there's always other people around and I'm really self-conscious about it.

I mean, if it's just me and him I'm much more comfortable. But I feel awkward when other people are there.

So yeah, what should I do cause we're both shy and I don't it to not go anywhere?

xxx (link)
ok..well..a lot of people are shy.. but when you are around others...just hold hands and be like normal people. You don't have to show your emeotions in public if you don't want to..i mean...if you are not comfortable..dont do anything you dont' wnat to do..just be friends in public an hold hands but don't do anything more untill you are alone..you will probally get more used to the idea of being gf and bf as time goes by. so good luck with your bf and have fun..don't be scared..
~Sealgirl~


Hey- I have my play auditions at my school on Monday. I just found out yesterday. We have to memorize a monologue. What is the best way to memorize it?

Thanks Jen. (link)
well...um..the only way to do this is the really practice hard and to know what you are saying..it helps to have someone with you telling you what you are doing and asking them if it sounds right...you need to make sure that you put emotion into what you are doing...i really don't know what else to tell you..except...good luck...and hopefully it goes well...tell me how it goes..
~sealgirl~




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