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when is it gonna be over???
Okay so I'm 14/f and I've been sad for oh! about a year. After next month it will be a complete year. When I was 12 everything was great and I don't know but nothing bothered me. People would be mean to me and I just wouldn't care. It just makes me sooo mad that I'm still freaking sad! It's not right it's almost been a whole year of this. I'm fed up with it. Anyways there are so many things missing in my life like a boyfriend, friends and just people that arent mean to me. Like there's a lot of people that hate me and think i'm really annoying. I don't want to kill myself but I want to beat up everyone thats mean to me. I'm sick of not having a guy to call my own or friends. Everything makes me sad. Like thinking about all the other girls that have boyfriends and guys that like them. And the fact that those girls are nearly the same age as me and their lives are great and everyone treats me like I'm a baby and like i'm not old enough to have friends. Like I can't have a b/f. I'll be 15 in 5 months and if I don't have a b/f by then well I'll consider suicide and probably commit it. I've been sad since i was 13. 3 months after I was 13 is when it all started. I mean I know a lot of people dont have boyfriends when they're 14 but 15! That's crazy I've been waiting wayy to damn long to have a life where I go places and people like me.
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You need to accept that everyone, even that sad lonely girl over there has a soulmate, but sometimes they are hard to find. You can have more than one soulmate, but you need to stop running and stop to smell the roses. I suggest you take a deep breath, give a smile, and walk up to those girls that seem so happy. Be confident. Dress happily, and people will think you are a happy person. People like others who are happy. They think "Wow, that person is so happy, I bet that if I'm friends with them I'll be happy too." Everyone thinks it. It's biology. Like when people think "Wow, that person is so beautiful and healthy, if we have kids together, they'll be beautiful and healthy too." That's biology. You, who is sad and miserable, people will see you and think "Wow, that person is so sad, if I associate with them, I'll be sad too." I'm not saying that's true, but it's going to be what people are going to think. The right person for you will come around, but you can't set a DEADLINE for it. You're impatient and emitting negative thoughts, which, are again, going to make people think "That person is impatient and negative, I'm going to be impatient and negative if I hang out with them." Which is why people avoid "goths" and "emos". Be happy, smile and put on your rose-colored glasses. Everything will take care of itself from there. Write down the things you want, at the top of the page write "I am so grateful now that..." and write the list. They'll just happen. I was skeptical, but I've been happy and getting everything I want for the last 5 months.
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ok...well i know it is sad and u jsut really want a b/f but you can't force things to happen. i havn't had a bf yet in my whole life and i have been dieing to have one and i am 15 and 16 in four months..it is something that you have to just let come naturally. no matter how much you like someone, you can't make them like you back. trust me, there is nothing you can do. and about your friends, i don't htink i have a lot eaither. it is sad but you just got to put yourself out there. You need to jsut talk to some girls in your class and just hang out with them. it can't be that hard, ok....maybe it can. but you just need to try. it is very important to have friends to hang out with or you will miss out on things and great oppertunities. i know that i have. maybe if you make some new friends then they can help you get a guy too. hopefull this is the advice you wanted. i didn't know exactaly what you were asking. good luck and hopefully you get some nice people to hang out with. good luck
~sealgirl~
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