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fingering...hurts?
lastnight i hooked up with this guy and hes fingered me before as well as other guys but lastnight it hurtttt. it felt good but he put pressure or something over my bladder. no one has ever done this to me before. it hurt realy bad. what is this? do alot of guys do it? and also..when he was eating me out it kinda hurt a lil too.. like he was biting.. why? lol
im 19/f
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I noticed your question a few days ago and decided to come back to it. Why? You mentioned that you felt discomfort and pressure near your bladder or in general when he did this.
Just before final release of a G-Spot orgasm there's this pressure that can be uncomfortable and there's a need to push down. I'm wondering if this is what you were feeling before he stopped. it would seem to make some sense because you said it was pleasurable.
I don't knw for 100% sure if this is it but I figured I would toss a likely theory at you. The most important thing is you're in the driver's seat with your boyfriend. If it feels bad or hurts tell him ouch, stop, don't. That's your responsibility or he will keep going.
Also one person's sense of pain is really different from someone elses. What I mentioned about pressure and discomfort could for you really hurt and for others not. The word hurt doesn't really give an indication of what you felt. Besides pressure was it stabbing hard pain or not?
As far as oral sex goes for obvious reasons we can't/won't give tips. However, he's inexperienced here and you'll have to tell him gently that his methods aren't working and tell him what does it for you.
You might want to buy some books on sexuality or borrow them from a library and read them together. It will help him next time he's well down there.
Most guys his age have never seen female genitals or been given opportunity to do this with a girl. You have to educate him and teach him what you need. Give him some pointers and it will go much smoothly.
The person below who mentioned biting and him trying to do a certain technique and not succeeding is likely what happened. He needs to learn about your reproductive system as well as from you what you enjoy.
If something isn't working or doesn't feel good get him to stop what he is doing and listen to you. You need to guide him before, during, after on what to do. Once he gets what works for you things will go much better. Don't be shy about it or you'll be putting up with pain, discomfort or outright boredom.
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Some guys think that if they apply pressure the girl will get more pleasure out of what he's doing. The problem is, that yes, even though it is true in a way, there are key points as you may know that when pressure is added, there's a feel of increased arousal. The problem is, that some guys have haerd this, but they just have no idea whatsoever where it is that they're suposed to do it. ts more like trial and error.. haha!
And as for the biting, its the same thing. Although I'm guessing what he was going for was a nibbling feeling. Which if done correctly also makes you go over the edge.. its just very very good! haha!
But the guys that actually do do this aren't that many, since most are interested more on getting pleasured, than giving it... =/
Well, hope this helped! =)
VB
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um well i have never heard of a guy doing that.. like putting pressure on someones bladder.. and the fact that he was biting he was either really horny or maybe he was inexperienced and didn't know what to do ha.
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