Whatever your problem is, chances are I have dealt with it- either directly of indirectly- at some point in my life. I've worked as a Social Worker (with issues like mental illness, addiction, disabilities, eating disorders, etc.)
I've also taught school (to teens!)and have experience mentoring them.
In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
So go ahead- ask away!
PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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i'm a cutter. at least i used to be. i stopped once i started going out with my boyfriend. he's helped. he's also my first boyfriend. we've been going out for three and a half months. i really care about him, but i think that the only reason i stopped cutting was because of him, and that i might start again. i don't know what to do. i don't want to cut now, but a few times in the past few weeks i've wanted to. i don't know if i've honestly gotten any better or if it's just a temporary thing. it's just the only thing that has ever helped. therapy and pills never did anything. (link)
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I would still try the therapy- and try to find out the reason for the cutting. There is usually something behind that that needs to be addressed.
Meanwhile, here's a trick to try next time you get the urge: get a big, thick rubberband and put it around your wrist. Snap it a few times. You will get a painful sting that can help give you that 'release' that you're looking for, but without causing any real damage to yourself.
It works!
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i have a split persinality 1 of them im just a plain old teenager and im in a cristianrock band where i play base and sing and always do right the other side of me im a relly bad kid i did do drugs but quit but i still dip drink and do sexual things and steal and im always depresed but im not bipoler weve tested that and what should i do
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Maybe you are trying out different groups and just exploring, as all teenagers do, to see which is the best fit for you. Everyone wants to fid a place where they feel like they belong, but make sure that you don't LOSE YOUR OWN IDENTITY in the process. The pressure to conform to the ways of the group can be very strong, and sometimes you forget what YOUR OWN values and opinons are becaue you acquire those of the group.
I suggest this: instead of trying to find a group to fit yourself into and conforming to what they do in the group, try to find out who YOU are first...then see what group best fits YOU. If there isn't one, start your own! Like if your into environmental issues, for example (or whatever it is that you like) start a group at school. That's why I did and I met a lot of new friends that shared my beliefs and values- there was never pressure for me to change anything about myself because it was my own group.
But whatever you do, please stay away from the drugs stuff- it's bad news all the way around.
And you never know if it's laced with someone dangerous that could ruin you for life. I knew someone once who smoked pot that was laced with something and went completely nuts!!! She starting having hallucinations and thought that Satan was talking to her- really scary stuff! It drove her so crazy that she almost tried to kill herself and ended up in a psych ward.
Don't believe people when they say these things are harmless. Drug dealers sometimes get a weak batch so they try to 'spice it up' by adding everything from rat poison to embalming fluid (yes, you heard me right!) among many other poisons so that they can still sell it at a premium price. Which means that every time you do drugs you're taking a big risk.
You don't want to get involved with that. Take it from an older person who knows people who've made that mistake.
good luck. =)
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well first of, sorry if this is not in the correct category haha
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i am 1 1/2 weeks late in my period... i am normally not late... i have always been a very paranoid and stressed person when it comes to pregnancy...my stomach has been feeling sick lately and i have going pee an awful lots of times a day compared to how much i normally go.. now i dont know if me peeing a lot and being late are leading to the same thing(im pregnant) or do you think it is all in my head... i have been known to over think things.. such as for example .. sometimes i get so stressed and paranoid that i might be pregnant, my body gets stressed also and i amthe cause of me being late... im not sure if this is the same because it has been 1 1/2weeks and i think that is kind of a long time... do you think this is all in my mind? the peeing all the time, and my stomach hurting?? (link)
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Stress can sometimes put off your period. So there is a chance of that. And it is possible to get psycho-somatic symptoms (meaning they are real, physical symptoms but brought on mentally- by thinking about it, you make it come true).
But the fact that you are concerned about this leads me to believe that you may have some reason for concern other than just being 'paranoid' about getting pregnant?
Like, maybe you had sex without protection or something? In which case, there is a chance that your fears are right. You won't know for sure unless you do a pregnancy test.
You can get them at any local pharmacy or supermarket. If you can't afford it, try your family doctor, if possible, or planned parenthood.
www.plannedparenthood.org
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I am 42 and I just recently got married to a woman I have known my entire life but we both got married to other people shortly after high school. She has three teenage daughters Sam is 19 Meagan is 18 and Audree is 16. Their father left them shortly after my wife had her youngest daughter and so she has raised them all by herself. They have always been pretty affluent because my wife's family has quite a bit of money and she is a magazine editor. She lets the girls get away with murder and they get everything rthey could possibly even dream of wanting. I have a very big issue with this since my three sons (19 18 aand 17) are expected to follow very strict rules. I was in the army for several years and my children are expected to abide by my rules or face the consequences.
The girls however are completely out of control, especially the youngest one, Audree. My wife and i both agreed on a curfew for the all six kids when they moved in. She convinced me to change the curfew of my sons to be midnight for all of the kids. I agreed but with hesitation. Like always before my kids have always gotten here on time or before their curfew while her daughters completely disregard the rules. For example, Audree was late for curfew 4 times out of the 7 days last week. My wife didn't even talk to her about it. When i confronted her al she said was "She is only 16. I think we should just let her live her life." I found out the other day that her girls have never been grounded, never had acurfew, and are very open about teh fact that they go to parties and drink. Sam has gotten in 4 accidents since she has lived here, and Meagan has her boyrfriend over all the time without supervision, all things i dont tolerate from my own kids. Audree came home in tears the other night because she got a ticket for driving 19 MILES OVER THE SPEED LIMIT! My wife just hugged her and tried to calm ehr down the entire night and i never heard a single word about the ticket, which i had to pay for sicne none of her kids have jobs. I almost feel as if she is condoning this outrageous behavior since she never repremands her kids. I don't know how to explain to my kids about thsi double standard in our house but i feel like i can't interfere quite yet with her disiplining (or lack there of)since i am not their real father and have only been in their lives for 3 years. I just don't know how much more of this disrepect i can take from them. They are beautiful girlsand i love them like my own. I wish i could treat them this way though. I feel like i owe it to them to lay down the law and punsih them for things like curfew and partying and bad grades but i dont know if it will just put more stress on our relationship that could eventually cause tension between my wife and I. How should i handle this? (link)
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Wow! You have a real-life Brady Bunch! But unfortunately, things are never as easy as they are on tv, are they?
I think I can make a few suggestions that might help though. (This is a LONG answer- but it's not so easy of a problem) =)
In Dale Carenegie's classic book 'winning friends and influencing people' he says that only way to make someone do something is to make them WANT to do it.
Having been in sales for a long time, I know that this is true. It's very hard to change people, or even persuade them to your way of thinking- if they don't WANT to make that change. You may succeed in other ways but this will usually just end up leaving them resentful for being 'forced' to change their ways.
So how can you get your wife to adjust her habits and share some of the same practices that you have with raising the kids? That is, by making her WANT to? One thing that might help is if the two of you can have an honest talk about this and explain to her that a parent's main job is to prepare their children for the outside world.
Some parents believe that they are being a good parent by giving their children everything that they desire and don't realize that they are often doing MORE HARM THAN GOOD. Why? Because they aren't preparing the children to go on and live independent lives, the kids learn nothing or very little about how the real world works, I can go on and on with this- but the bottom line is that your wife is neglecting the MOST IMPORTANT part of the job.
It's not her job to be their best friend. She has to be willing to be the 'bad guy' sometimes or they will miss out on a lot of important life lessons- and they will NOT BE PREPARED for the real world. She needs to understand that she is not doing them any favors by giving in to their every wish. And that the kids may hate her for it now, and kick and scream, but will be grateful for this later.
If they don't learn that there are limits, learn responsibility, etc. then they will have much bigger problems down the line- problems with relationships, jobs, etc.
And there could be more serious problems than that if they are drinking, speeding, etc.
Again, bring it to her attention that being a parent does NOT mean being a friend.
I know a family that was well-off and did similar things with their kids. The kids are all in their 30's now and STILL dependant on the family for support because they never learned to do things on thier own, never had expectations, and frankly, just never lived in the 'real world' so now they have no clue how to survive and support themselves on their own. I'm sure that this is not what your wife wants for her children. So unless she wants to be supporting those kids until the day she dies then she better makes some changes ASAP.
But you will also have to probably make a few adjustments yourself in order for this to work. First, you need to understand that's it's very hard to change a habit OF YEARS overnight....so you will have to be patient and work with her on this. Think baby steps. Try to break things down into small, achievable goals and tackle them one at a time. Maybe first deal with the drinking issue, then the curfew, and on down the line. Don't insist on making a dozen radical changes all at once- that won't happen, and it might cause an all out war in the household. You can't reverse the habits of years in a snap.
Second, given the way you described yourself- with a military background and a strict, 'rules' kinda-guy, you may have to make a few compromises yourself for the sake of sanity in the household. It sounds like you have already made some attempts- which is a good sign- so see if there's a middle ground that you can agree to and try to stick to that. (I know this is much harder to do than it sounds, but keep working at it). Counseling can help there, because you have an OBJECTIVE MEDIATOR to help you reach this common ground and work out the details. A counselor might also be able to determine if there are underlying causes for your wife doing the things that she does.
Ex: is she afraid of distancing her kids- that they won't love her anymore if she's tough? Too insecure to play the 'bad guy' when needed? Sometimes parents try to fill a void or an insecurity by raising children that are ever-dependant on them, so that they always feel needed. It gives them a sense of worth and value that they may be missing otherwise. So seeing if there's a root to this problem- and dealing with that- is usually the best way to go. Otherwise the problem may just keep repeating itself if you don't get to the root of it. Like a weed that re-grows if you just pull of the end of it.
That's the best that I can tell you.
It won't be easy, but like they say, nothing worthwhile doing ever is. =)
Good luck, and hang in there!
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I live in a residential home and I have 10 days to find a job.I had 21 but those days are gone.I keep filling out apps. but no one calls me back.Theres nothing wrong with me.I have my HSD.I'm over 18 but under 21.I am drug free,no felonys, and I can work any time day or night.Most places my problem is I don't have my DL or a car but other places that is not required.Does anyone know any places in St.Louis MO is hiring? And why they may not be hiring me? (link)
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The other poster is right, you have to either go in a meet them personally (if possible) or call over the phone and ask for the interview.
They get dozens of resumes and half the time don't really even read them. Yours could be passed up for some silly reason- so also make sure that your resume really looks good, no grammar errors or anything, clean layout, highlights skills, etc.
NETWORKING is the MOST effective way of them all. Talk to everyone you know, friends, neighbors, family, whoever and ask if someone they know is hiring.
It can be frustrating, but stay confident and keep at it.
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Please only absolute answers!
My dog has an inflammed area on her front paw and she wont stop biting it. Would anti-biotic ointment help?
Can I even put in on my dog, would it hurt her? (link)
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yes, you definitely can.
If it's something like a cut, or looks infected or something though, be sure to clean it first with alcohol, iodine or hydrogen peroxide.
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okay so my parents got divorced like 2-3 years ago about. and my dad started dating this girl that is really nice and they have been going out for like a little more then a year maybe. so anyway my dad told me and siblings that she was pregnant! it came as a complete shock to all of us. they earn't even married. so anyway i don't really like talking about my feelings and stuff to anybody and i don't want people to like feel sorry for me or anything, so i don't no how to tell my friends. my best friend already know's because our moms are friends, but i don't know how to tell my other friends. you can definatley tell that she's pregnant now because she's on like month 7. i don't even no if i should tell some of my friends because alot of them don't even come over to my house and we just hang at the mall and stuff. so anyway, how do i break the news or should i even tell them? i no i have to tell my close friends but how? please hurry and thanks in advance! (link)
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Look at all the movie stars that have babies and aren't married! Brad and Angelina for one.
While, I personally don't think it's the best way to go, everyone has to live their own lives according to what they think is best for them.
Only tell who you feel comfortable telling, and if they're good friends it shouldn't matter. After all, they are friend with YOU right? Not your parents. You have not control over your parents decisions- so it's not a reflection on you.
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how can i get the 'abortion pill'. and do i need a parent with me and do they have to know. because i wanna keep this a secret. && how do they work ? (link)
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Definitely talk with someone at planned parenthood. They will give you all the information that you need and help you with whatever you decide to do. Call the one closest to you and set up an appointment.
Here's their website:
www.plannedparenthood.org
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whats a good type of birth control? (link)
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The pill will NOT help prevent STD's though. Only a condom can do that. So if you go on the pill, a condom should still always be used.
If you can't talk with your family dr. about this or your parents- check out www.plannedparenthood.org
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how much does an abortion range from (link)
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planned parenthood's website:
www.plannedparenthood.org
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can you buy birthcontrol at a store? (link)
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Condoms you certainly can. For the pill, you need a prescription. If you are considering this then you can try a planned parenthood in your area- www.plannedparenthood.org - that is, if you can't go to see your family dr. or you can't discuss this with your parents.
But the pill isn't always a good idea- that's why you need to consult your doctor first. And some people have side effects- moody, gain weight, etc.
And keep in mind that it won't prevent you from getting std's- only a condom can do that. So even if you DO get on the pill, a condom should still be used.
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Okay so, This may be a bit confusing but bare with me. And I also apologize for any graphic descriptions. This is very hard for me. I am having trouble deciding wether or not I had a horrific dream or if something really happened. You see, I think my father molested me when I was about 6. But I am unsure as to wether or not I dreamed it. I recall him coming into my room several times when I was masturbating (humping a pillow)and I can remember him rubbing his penis on my vagina. I don't remember him ever actually sticking it in. The thought of it makes me sick. But I can also vividly remember him wiping my vagina with a washcloth when he was done, then telling me not to tell mom and then he left. I can remember the way it felt and everything. It disgusts me. I can also recall another time after that when I told my mother as my dad walked through the door but I dont remember anything that happened after. Its disturbing to think about but I have no proof that it really happened. Thats part of the reason I think its a dream. I also have had a dream or 2 before when I woke up and thought it really happened. I just need to know if it really happened. I cant even look at my dad the same way because of this and I dont dare ask anyone. What is your opinion? Did I dream it or was it real?
If it helps your decision any, I once found a porn video on his computer that was titled something to the effect of "Dad f**ks blonde teen daughter". I watched it and it didnt look that way and I know sometimes things can have a different title than what it really is. I mean it was an older man that had sex with a blonde girl and she called him daddy. But... :// I dont know!
:( Any answer is appreciated. Just elaborate your thoughts on it please. Thank you. (link)
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This is a VERY tough situation to be in- and I know people who have been in it. It's very hard to say if this 'dream' was a repressed memory coming back or not. This can happen. But there have also been instances where people have been wrong about these things. So it is a very tough call.
This was a big topic a while ago- like early 90's- and lots of people were coming out with repressed memories. But it turned out that some of them seem to have been induced by therapists, hypnosis or other things.
You didn't mention if you were in counseling or not, so I don't know if that's a possibility for you. They have since changed some of their practices and theories about this because of what happened a decade ago, but this is still a possibility. Which is why you need to also be careful in the counselors that you speak with and make sure they aren't the type to jump to a conclusion too fast.
Having known people who have gone through this- my advice is that you need to tread VERY carefully. Confronting a potential abuser on something like this, is a big thing to do. Even if they did it, there's a very real chance that they will just deny it, and chances are your relationship with your family will be forever changed.
So YOU NEED TO BE PREPARED before doing something like this. I know someone who did it and then was estranged from her family for a decade afterwards. Something she wasn't prepared for, and it was incredibly difficult for her to deal with it. Spending the holidays alone, not even knowing if family members were dead or alive because she was cut off, etc. Unfortunately, her therapist was a little too optimistic about what would happen in the confrontation and didn't prepare her for this, so she was shell-shocked and didn't know what to do with herself.
I'm not suggesting that you NEVER confront them, I'm just saying that if and when you do, you need to be in the right place and be prepared for the worst- because this often does not end well. Rarely do abusers admit to what they did. And this can sometimes just makes things worse, so you need to decide first, if it's the right thing to do (that is, if you feel that this really happened), and second- if you can deal with the consequences.
Given that, it will be helpful to speak with a counselor and try to sort through some of this stuff first. It doesn't sound like you are in any danger now, so take some time to work through this with a PROFESSIONAL. Dreams aren't always what they seem so it could mean something else. On the other hand, if you have other pieces of the puzzle that fit together then maybe this could be more than a dream. This stuff can be very complex and it's hard to say 100% one way or the other.
I'm sure that you want a definite answer right away and it's only natural to want to resolve this- but for the sake of your sanity- don't rush it. Get some help first and work through it. Especially given that you are only 17, and I assume still living in the house? That will make things even harder if you confront them. So you need to make sure that you are strong enough and in a position mentally and otherwise to deal with whatever could come out of that.
A good counselor can help you with that. And will help you plan the right course of action. If you have no access to counseling, you can start with a school counselor. You can also check and see if there are other options (like free counseling) in your area. Your school counselor may have some suggestions.
I can't write everything here, this is a very complex matter. But if you need to talk further just contact me.
I will be thinking of you. I know how hard this is.
Meanwhile, try to take care of yourself.
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I'm 15 almost 16 and i just recently graduated early with honors, and got a few full ride scholorships ( I always did summer school to get ahead and online schooling). But the problem is Laila and Kennedy, my 3 month old twins. I love them and they are my pride and joy. But i'm going off to college and i'm going to be living with my older sister in her dorm because we are attending the same school, and i can't take Laila and Kennedy. My boyfriend doesn't want to take in the children because he is going to be a senior this year and just wants to PARTY. My mom loves the children, but i'm afraid she is going to convince my boyfriend to give up all custody and have the children put up for adoption behind my back, because she is like that. She loves them but she doesn't them to screw up my life. And they aren't. They are just a big speed bump.
Any advice on what i can do with Laila and Kennedy? (link)
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First of all, that's amazing that you graduated so early and with honors! And even scholarships!
You should be very proud of yourself.
And now you are making a decision to go on to college, which I think is wonderful. Many people would just give up, with a 3 month old- let alone twins!
So you obviously are one smart chick. You may have made a poor choice in the past, but you definitely seem to have a good head on your shoulders now.
So what to do about the kids? It's hard to say exactly because I only have a little bit of info. to go on. For example, you didn't mention how far away the school was. I think that will be a big part of your decision, because if they aren't close it will be VERY hard as a mother to be separated from her babies.
You also didn't say why you can't bring your kids. I'm assuming it's because it's a dorm? If so, you should contact the university housing dept. and ask them about other options. Many schools have family housing, or apts. for people who are married, older, or have children. See if they have this, or can suggest anything. I think that would be your best bet.
And since your sister is there maybe she could move in too and help out while you are at classes.
About your mom- in order for her to adopt she would have to have consent from BOTH parents, not just one. But frankly, by the way you are describing her, I don't know if I'd want her to take them.
See about bringing them with you. There are always options. "will there's a will, there's a way'. This may not be what you had planned for your college life, but the alternative isn't that great either is it? And you may regret it in the long run. You will miss out on a lot of their lives- their first word, etc.
Think it over long and hard. Talk to counselors, housing people, etc.- get ALL of your options laid out- then chose the one that you think is best for you.
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if you go to planned parent hood for an abortion. will they let you do it with out letting your parents know ? and how much does it cost ? (link)
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To the best of my knowledge, the laws vary from state to state. I think some states require parental notification if you're below a certain age, and others don't.
And I don't think they charge. If they do, I'm sure it's on a sliding scale based on what you can afford.
The best thing to do would be to contact pp centers in your area and just ask. Only they will be able to tell you exactly.
you can check out their website www.plannedparenthood.org
I'm sure you can get info, locations and phone numbers there.
take care. =)
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my best friend and i are so fucked up. 13/f. punk goth scene emo wtf i dont even know anymore. but weve been dealing with things since forever and none of it was good exept when we became bestfriends this year. we are helping eachother through the cutting and everything. but i think im bipolar and she does to we took online tests and outa 25 i had all but 1 and she had all but 3. i do not get along with my parents she kinda does. were always together. we dont know how to ask our parents and our parents dont get along as in mine to hers but they were together and were talking about us and later on she told me IF I EVER BECOME A DEPRESSED LITTLE BITCH ID BE IN SO MUCH TROUBLE AND IN THEREPY FASTER THAN ANYTHING. but wtf is she blind. and i yelled it and thers always yelling. one time she said theirs something wrong with me i said MAYBE THERE IS and she said you little bitch dont say that. i just dont know what to do and how to ask to go to the doctor for bipolar. i need an ecuse for whats wrong with me. but my bestfriend says i have it worse but her parents are always fighting and are drunk and tried to beat her a few times. were in this together and us as friends is what kept us alive. no therepist or phsyatrist NO just help me! please... (link)
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I'm sorry for what the other poster wrote. That was completely out of line and uncalled for.
Now for my answer- First, I do completely understand where you are coming from. When I was young I was part of the 'alternative' crowd in the 80's, which is pretty similar to the goth / emo thing today. And, by the way, I am also bipolar.
Listen, the best thing that I can tell you is that the teenage years are REALLY rough, on EVERYONE- not just you and your friends. Trust me, even the kids that look like they have it all and not a care in the world, they are going through some s**t too.
Your body is going through changes, so mood swings are normal, even if you're NOT bipolar. You are also growing in other ways- finding out who you are as a person. You're starting to find your own opinions, values, etc., yet your parents still want you to live by theirs- because, technically you're still a kid.
All of this makes it tough. Then you add to that how cruel kids can be, the pressure to wear, say and do the right thing and to be accepted...the list goes on an on. It's no wonder that so many teenagers feel so lost, confused, and crazy!
I can't offer you much more advice than that- just to keep in mind that these are tough times but everyone goes through it. And just as I and every other adult made it through, so will you!
I do think that a therapist might not be a bad idea though, if your parents are willing. I don't know about a psychiatrist...but a therapist can, if nothing else, give you a place to vent and to sort through your thoughts.
Otherwise, hang in there! People that say these are the best times of your life either have short memories or are full of it. It's hard. But you can make it. Just do what you know in your heart is right. No self-destructive stuff or anything, that will only give you more to worry about.
Good luck. Hope this helps. =)
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15/f.
I'm a vegetarian and have been for a while now, after having begged my mom to let me be one for over a year. I love being a vegetarian and I'm planning on being one until I'm 18, then turn to a vegan. My main, and pretty much only reason, of being a vegetarian is because I'm an animal rights activist [I know what you're thinking. I'm only 15. What can I do?] Well, I haven't done anything yet, to be frank, because my mom would put me in an asylum if I joined or led a demo in front of KFC or at some crowded event. I have my goals set to be a renown animal rights/gay rights activist later on in life, though. Anyways, most people think that I'm a vegetarian because I want to lose weight, and while I DO want to lose weight, that's not what I became a vegetarian, as I've stated above. My family hassles me about it almost every day about how I don't need to become a vegetarian to lose weight *sigh*.
I've tried to get through to them that what they do in animal factories is just f*cked up and I don't support it and I don't believe I'm so greatly important to have an animal killed everytime I'm hungry and that people can live without meat and blah blah. But most people don't care/don't know about what really goes on in animal factories and what not. They don't really care, so even if I do try and get it through to them, they don't believe me or they stand by their justification of dying if they can't eat meat.
What should I do? I'm sick of people telling me that being a vegetarian is another reason to be anorexic & people putting down vegetarianism/ veganism. I've had some lady at a store tell me that being a vegetarian is another reason to be anorexic and another lady at a market saying that veggie burgers/patties are nasty and what not.
Just any reply would be great =) (link)
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I've been a veg for almost 20 years, for pretty much the same reasons.
And this was long before it was cool, like any celebs did, and at that time, it was really hard to even eat out because they had no veg options.
but things are changing a lot now. some people will still be close-minded or jump to conclusions, or not understand why you do it- but who gives a crap?
You be your own person. THey don't need to know why, that's none of their business. And don't feel like you have to 'convert' other people either (unless you want to, but that could make things much harder).
When i go out to eat with non-veg friends and anyone says anything I just say 'look i won't try to tell YOU what to eat, so please don't tell ME what I should eat'.
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My boobs are far apart, I use a pushup bra but that doesnt help me to achieve any cleavage. Any suggestions? (link)
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you can also try halter straps- you know the kind that go around the neck?
There are halter tops and also halter bras for them. A halter- by design- will lift you up but also in since it's holding your boobs up toward your neck and not your shoulders (like a normal bra) they bring them in closer together.
A lot of women with smaller breasts use this trick too. Check out the smaller chested celebs- you will se them a lot in halter bikinis.
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if i made a dildo out of clay(im underage, crafty and horny), so if i made one out of clay would that be safe to use? (link)
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Not to hurt your feelings, but please, don't even think about it!
It could break and cut you, or a piece gets stuck up somewhere where you might have to get a doctor to help you remove it.....
File it under 'seemed like a good idea at the time' and leave it at that.
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well last night i spent the night at my boyfriends house because his parents were out of town . we had sex like 5 times all night . but everytime he cummed , he pulled away &nd we stopped for a few minutes . one time there was a little bit of cum next to my vagina &nd i think may just A LITTLE tiny bit might of actually touched my vagina , but if any did at all , it wasnt alot . could i possibly get pregnant for just a little bit touching ? &nd i woke up this mornign &nd my stomach has been hurting ever since &nd i even felt like i was gonna throw up a couple times today . does that mean anything ? its jsut the next day , that doesnt mean anything about what happened last night right ? (link)
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There is such a thing as the morning after pill, but I think you can only take that the day after Not positive on that though.
Listen, do yourself a favor in the future, if you are going to be that active you really need to educate yourself about sex.
****I'm not lecturing here, I'm just saying, for your own good, please do this! Take some advice from someone who was once a teenager and had friends who DIDN'T educate themselves and paid the price.
You CAN get pregnant even when he pulls out. Sorry, if I'm sounding irritated, it's just that this is like at least the 5th time I've told someone this in like a week. Why don't they educate you more so you don't get yourselves in a bad situation?
Anyway, check out www.plannedparenthood.org
they have offices all over the country, should be one near you. They have a lot of helpful information and can provide help and couseling if (God forbid) you are pregnant.
If you're not, please at least get the info. from their site and educate yourself so you won't have to go through this again. And while you're at it, educate your frinds too!
They are a great place that can give you a lot of guidance.
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I firmly believe that I have a mental illness. Not something serious. Just like a personality disorder. However, my parents think I'm perfectly normal...and just exaggerating. However, I'm not. But whenever I try to tell them, they shrug it off and refuse to let me go to a therapist or something. What can I do to make them listen to me? Is there some kind of online or on-the-phone service? Thank you. =] (link)
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You may very well have something going on, but you can't diagnose, and if necessary, treat yourself. Only a professional can do this.
So if you really think you do need and want help then here's what I'd do:
1. Make out a list of all the reasons why you feel you need help and are beyond normal teenage problems.
2. Be SPECIFIC- and give specific EXAMPLES- because this is the only thing that parents understand. If you just speak in vague terms they won't think it's anything serious.
For example; If I thought that I had severe depression, I wouldn't just say "I'm feeling down and have no energy', I'd give specific examples of things that happened- like this: "My friend Judy came and asked me to go see the harry potter movie, which you know is my favorite, but I was felt so down and tired that I didn't even go". (this is just a random example)
When they hear examples of how it's interfering with your normal life, and you are not your normal self anymore (beyond just teen mood swings) and you can give several, specific examples, then they might listen more.
If they can't help, maybe a school counselor or other family member or someone can help?
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