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i'm a cutter. at least i used to be. i stopped once i started going out with my boyfriend. he's helped. he's also my first boyfriend. we've been going out for three and a half months. i really care about him, but i think that the only reason i stopped cutting was because of him, and that i might start again. i don't know what to do. i don't want to cut now, but a few times in the past few weeks i've wanted to. i don't know if i've honestly gotten any better or if it's just a temporary thing. it's just the only thing that has ever helped. therapy and pills never did anything.
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I would still try the therapy- and try to find out the reason for the cutting. There is usually something behind that that needs to be addressed.
Meanwhile, here's a trick to try next time you get the urge: get a big, thick rubberband and put it around your wrist. Snap it a few times. You will get a painful sting that can help give you that 'release' that you're looking for, but without causing any real damage to yourself.
It works!
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I never understood cutting... where are you going with it? Are you really trying to hurt yourself?
or do you sit there weeping over yourself and cry like a whiny bitch when you scratch yourself then back off? Are you doing it for attention?
Who gives a shit. Stop being weak. Tell yourself that.
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sweetheart ive been through this too.
i now look at my scars.
and i feel sick.
At the time I felt it was the best solution but now i feel regret.
i like you have the urges to do it again but i find alternative solutions.
i do activities to preoccupy myself.
and i know this sounds like a stupid suggestion but it does work for me.
find some way to make you quite for yourself not your boy friend.And when you do it wont be a temporary.
if ever need someone to talk to and i dont mean as a "counselor" but as a possible friend just email me or if you have a myspace.
((steph_rox_ur_sox_duh))
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ok i understand completely!!! i also used to cut, i did for about 7 years, i have 1 year clean... and i also stopped for a guy.. and once i went a while without it.. i always felt like i needed to, i understand ow you much feel, and maybe the way i got over it will help you too...
i just would think about how awful i felt when my boyfriend would look at them and say things about them, or the look on his face when he looked at them, i hated it.. and all time i felt like doing it..i would think about that.. and te feelings i have for him are so much more stronger than the feelings of doing that...
so when you feel down and feel lik cutting, think about something happy, think about how much you care about this person, think about all the people that love you and care about you and would hate that you do that to yourself, im sure your a wonderful person and beautiful in every way body soul and personality, and prove to the world that you love back the people who love you!
cutting is a serious thig, and i know that it is a hard habbit to quit expecialy if you have been doing if for a while, but trust me, you have the will power to over come the urge to do it...
there are a few things that help to make it so you dont cute
-tell someone to hide the thin you cut with, you dont need to tell them what the thing is for, or what you do with it.. but have them hide it.. so when you feel the urge to do it.. you would need to look for it.. and while your looking or by thetime you find it... you will be more calm and wont feel theneed to do it
-write, just get out a pen and some paper and write everything you feel down, just write until you cantwrite anymore.. get it all out.. just me you will feel better
-talk to something.. a stuffed animal, the wall, the air... just talk... get it out of you.. talking about it works too... scream it out, act it out, jump and shout, let it all out... and once you get it all out... once again.. you will feel better
-when you feel down talk to your boyfriend, bestfriend, someone you trust really well... someone you love.. they will help you
-take a shower or a bath to relax
i really hope this is helping you, and if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to talk to me... i understand what your going throught, andi know how important it is to gethelp with this, so i will be here if you need help
<3
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i used to a cutter too. and i used to be in the same position. after me and my bf broke i started to cut. but then i starting to my counselor and she recommended the rubber band method. and everytime i felt like cutting i'd hit myself with it. it sounds stupid but it really does help.
i hope everything works out.
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