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Q: ok well im in love. i went out with this boy who is a few yrs older then me but im mature for my age so he really respects me and treats me rite. we went out [on & off] for a a yr and a half. he was my world we talked to eachother about everything even when me & him werent together and we went out with other ppl me and him always talked and always cared about eachother. but the last time we broke up everything changed. Me & him barely talk anymore, i am still completely in love with him and i would do anything to have him back in my life but he is always to busy our hanging out with his friends or something like that. I dont know what to do i want him to love me again.WHUT DO I DO?

instant message or emails or call him when ever you have time if not just make time. also you could plan like a week before to go to the mall with like 5 people more or less. that would be fun thats what we do. if you do it alot and he does it back trust me it will work you will be talking alot more. that happened to me but were the same age.

Q: okay i know I'm only 13 and i have my hole life a head of me but i'v never had a boyfriend or a guy even ask me out=[ i have some guy friend but only a few of them are single and all of my close girlfriend have boyfriends and i and i don't want to call them hores but they've all gotten passed 2end base and i feel like no one gives a crap about me and no one will love me=[ i meen i think I'm pretty and allot of the guys i hang out with don't say I'm ugly and i mean none of my friend say i am but still I'm a nice person and well i have my flaws but I'm only human and i feel alone but i dont want to seem like a hore just to get a date but i don't know what to do or how to get a boy to like me as in more then a friend.

im 13/f. its long but read the hole thing dont stop. i hear ya i was askin thoes same Qs too. i was depressed but i never cry at all. im the kind of person to get very violent and rough. but your lucky you have friends i didnt. think what you would do without them. i would stand alone. i had one best friend that could never even come over because hes a guy. and he did a lot of sports so wasnt always there for me. but at a party everyone was just so happy and makin out or with friends and i just broke down. i noticed how many people care about me soo much i had no idea. three people there had a crush on mee they were just unsure why i was alwazys alone and im freaky but peopl love me friendly and romanticly. flirt with a close guy friend that you like and might like you. at least one person on earth loves you. i found out the hard way. i was gettin soo depressed well i am still but its gettin better im startin to love life. live life to the fullest sounds cheesey i no. say whats on your mind. you have no idea how many ppl love you trust me i was the unwanted rebel. i would always think if i died who would notice and EVERYONE WILL i brought so many people together. be freakybe urself yell what your thinkin if you ever get deppressed scream how you feel. and for everyone w/ a bf or gf their just up to play anyone wait for your one true person. one thing to try is flirt with a guy for awhile then tell the loudmouth he will no and if hes up for it he will say yes if not alot of peopl will no your only human you deal with people who cant keep secrets its life your only real. do what you want say what you think. tell evryone your only human. have the time of your life now.

Q: I’m 14 and I’m really pissed because I have next to no decent clothes. I’m not exactly wealthy, but my family’s *far* from being poor. Okay, I have about 8 blouses that I’ve collected through the years, two skirts and two pairs of jeans that fit, and that’s it. My mom grew up in a really poor part of Asia and immigrated here about 15 years ago, but even still, she has no idea what teenage girls are like. I asked her to let me get a nice pair of shorts from American Eagle (which was $40) and she got really mad and gave me this lecture about how I should be thankful that I have any clothes at all because when she grew up, she only had, like, two pairs of cotton pants throughout most of her childhood, and how she breaks her back trying to support our family and I’m just being a greedy spoiled brat. She refuses to buy me any article of clothing over $30. What makes me even more mad is that she still buys $50 worth of earrings for herself (she gets loads of really cheap jewelry on those TV jewelry channels) when she doesn’t NEED any new jewelry, yet she won’t let me buy a $40 pair of shorts.

The worst part about all this is the other kids at school. I go to one of those expensive private schools and all of the other girls at my school who have entire wardrobes filled with those fancy designer clothes from stores like Abercrombie, Hollister, American Eagle, etc. I feel really ashamed next to everyone else because I don’t have many nice clothes at all. While all of these girls make monthly shopping sprees, I’m allowed two shopping trips a year. But even during these shopping trips, I can hardly find anything under $30 because nothing ever fits. Seriously, I’m way too skinny….my waistline is like, 22 inches and my hips are 27 inches. No, I’m not anorexic, it’s just the way I am. I don’t need any eating advice or anything, because there’s no way I’m going to diet and put on weight just to wear clothes. My pants size is 00 and my shirt size is XXS, and the only stores that carry anything flattering for really skinny people in those sizes are the expensive places, like Abercrombie. I would’ve ordered things online, but my mom doesn’t believe in shopping online-----she’s afraid someone will steal her credit card number.

I know this question might make me seem whiny and ungrateful and vain and spoiled because there are people dying in Darfur and I’m concerned about a pair of shorts, but still, it really makes me feel bad that I’m the only person in
What should I do about this? I tried talking to my dad, but he won’t make her understand. She’s got a one-track mind.

ask for $30 and go to platos closet. its a resale shop. you could find anything there. probly even thoes shorts! i go there a lot the clothes isnt bad its a good store everything is around like $3-$10 shirts mainly $5 i think its good go there with ur mom. she could buy some jewelery there to save money and maybe the money could go to clothes that you need. think she doesnt want you walkin around naked you need clothes. try it she would like it.

Q: does anyone know of a place that would hire me, i'll be turning 15 within a month and a lot of places only hire people who are older, does anyone know of someplaces that hire 15 year olds?

appelbees to clean the tabels i think they even do 14yr olds but ud need a driver and a parent to sign stuff but its still a job. or at a babysittin place. or at ur house and maaaybe dairy queen but im not positive about it ~hope i helped~

Q: my dog is thorwing up bright red blood what is the problem

for people when they through up blood they had or have a bloody nose or is cut up on the inside of their through sick i no. im not a vet but thats what i think about it. go see a real vet it sounds pretty bad ~hope i helped~

Q: Well i am really tall and have long legs and im thin but my small thighs jiggle much when i walk and i was wondering if there was any specific excersize i can do to make them firm or if this is the norm for everybody, Im hoping to be in shape in a month.

go running or walking with somebody for like a mile or somthing like every day or every other day its fun if you go with someone else

Q: i was just looking in the mirror and i noticed icould really see the veins in the back of my arm. is that bad?
what can i do to make it less noticable?
did i do somthing to cause it?
what should i do to stop this if it is bad?
could it have anything to do with gaining/losing muscles?
thanx! a trillion times thanx!!!

depends on what kind of veins. and how big and if it hurts. if their spider veins thats kinda bad. mine was one with a long name. just show your mom or someone if its bad theyd no. it could run in the family if anyone else has bad veins i have vein problems pretty bad if it hurts go to the doc. i had a vein around my ankel it is about half an inch width. eww i no i had a disese now if i walk for awhile i have to sit down and circulate it by pushing and rubbin it in fact in doin that right now its 12pm. so if it hurts get a doc fast but just show sumone first it depends cus ya need to see what kind hope i helped show sumone soon

Q: Im trying to decide wether or not to go to this dance on Friday and your opinions would be greatly appreicaiated. I am 13/F and my friend wants me to come with her to this "Rec Dance" in another town. Im kind of worried cause I have never been to a dance other than my school dances and I don't know what to expect. She says it will be suprivised. I know how to slow dance and stuff and im pretty outoing especially with guys but I don't know how else they dance at these. My friend from high school says that everyone in their school dance grinds and I have no idea how to do that and Im kind of shy to as well. I don't want to look retarded if someone asks me to dance and I don't want to turn them all down. I haven't had a boyfriend before on my choice (others have asked me out but I turned them down) and I guess its strange for me to interact with complete strangers.

Am I just being kiddish and of I decide to go how do they dance at these?

ive been to a dance before. but i hate dancing. exept slow cus i cant dance fast just slow dancin. and ive kinda had a bf im 13/f. i turn everyone else down too. go to the dance at least one dance. most dances are different but mine was like all fast and only like 2 slow and i only danced 1 song slow. just ask ur friend what they do at her dances. as for grinding if you dont or never had a bf i dont think you would cus i doubt som1 will just come up to grind dont worry. and its not strange to be around strangers well im strange lol and youll get to know more peopl. ask her before you go how they dance at her dances and when your there see what other people are doin and try it. hope i helped have fun

Q: i dont know why,but i cant make a conversation,i cant be funny,i dont know why no one wants to be my friend. im really self concious(sp?) how do i become wild,fun and outgoing? and funny? like i cant hold a convo. i have like no friends here for some reason. whats going on?i find myself boring,and blah,i dont like it! thanks for any help!

i an very random i wild and outgoing and funny and funn. just say what you think. if no one is talkin start a convo just start talkin about what ever. like if your outside i just started playin with a bee and sayin its my homie then the convo just goes on. if you hav random thoughts say it loud and proud 'i like pickels' or what ever. sit down with anyone start talkin to them ya meet alot of new peopl and friends .you could also dress up in costumes like halloween. i always were angel wings. hehe my trademark. i wear black clothes and angel wings. wear what you want. i used to care what everyone thought but now i dont give a fuck what ppl think bout me. now i have a very close group of friends i just made. i used to not have any friends but i just went wild and had fun and alot of ppl from different groups are together in my group there my homies. my friends i would do anything for. you need to go crazy and try all i do but im just crazy but my new friends are too there just like me. depends on your personality i like 'different' things. im sayin all i did to meet people. last month i had no friends but 1 my guy homie. im a 13 yr old gangsta and proud. hope i helped not sure if i wrote to much but i just went trough this i know how you feel ~hope i helped~ !be unique!

Q: hey i was wondering if singing loses some calories

cause when i went to japan and went to a kareoke place, i started singing some songs like mariah carey. and if showed me how many calories i lost.

Can you really lose calories by singing?

only if your moving around alot and havin fun ~hope i helped~

Q: I playfully punched my guy friend on the cheek. Now he keeps saying it hurts, and I should kiss it. Thing is, I really like him, but Ii'm super nervous to kiss it, even though he keeps telling me to. I want to, I'm just nervous. How can I work myself up to do it?!

kiss it, it will make him feel better since you hurt it, besides he even wants you to. do it

Q: Ok, so I have an acer laptop. It usually burns my cd's, but now it is not. What happens is, it attempts to burn, but then it shuts my whole computer off, turns back on, and says there is an error. I've tried different disks, but it is still not working. Any helpful tips or suggestions? Thanks!

you have a virus take off the virus and id be fine not sure if its on ur laptop but its on mine go to computer check in control panel then main ckeck then virus check then if it shows there is one then say taked off virus i know alot about computers~hope i helped~

Q: heyy! i'm a gymnast but i have this problem on bars, it seems that everytime i'm going to do my routine (kip, switch kip, birdie, straddleback, kip, birdie, kip, cast handstand, giant, giant, layout flyaway) my chalk comes off and the bar becomes very slippery after my straddleback. i've slipped off the bar on my giants before becasue of this.. i just a lot of chalk & water.. does anyone have any suggestions as to how to chalk my grips so it doesn't feel slippery? oh and does anyone know where to buy that butt glue stuff? the stuff that makes your leo stick so you don't get wedgies? haha thanks!

i used to do gymnastics. the only thing i coul do was bars and beams. i didnt use grips so i did get a lot of blisters anyway. use a a lil chalk. but i have strong hands so i dono about if you do of not but try it. and for your ?but glue? its at sports authority or you could just use hairspray i like hairspray.~hope i helped~

Q: 15/f

My school requires me to fulfill 24 community hours. I have only 3 and the hours are due by the end of January, but I don't know what to do for them. I got the three hours from camp, but it was from pulling weeds. PS it needs to be supervised like I can't go to the beach myself without anyone and clean it up and put that, it has to be through some function or organization

so basically what is a way to get more communtiy serivice hours I was thinking of an animal shelter but I'm too young for that.
PS. don't say babysitting please
thanks so much and I would love you if you could help.

get a lot of people and go to a relay for life its 12hrs but time there flies fast. i went to two and got all of my service hours.

Q: is it possible to somehow speed up how fast your body turns food into poop for you to poop it out?

eat alot of fiber

Q: i had my head slam into a desk...don't ask and now i have this big knot right between my neck and the line of my head.anyone know how to get it less swolen/red/sore! it hurts so bad i can barley move my head back!!!
it needs to go away in a couple of days! lol thanks though!

take tylenol and wrap ice in a towel and hold it on there.old fashion i no but it works the best~i have a metal bunkbed with a desk underneath and a spinny chair~i still have a line accross my head from last summer that i never put ice on but i was spinnin in my chair fast and hit my head and got unconscience for a while~im stuip i no im 13/f~i hit my head hard alot~USE ICE ALOT~if you dont itll be there for a realy long time~hope i helped

Q: At times it seems like I space out and I'm not all there. I've been doing that for it seems like ever since high school started. I'm 16 and in the 10th grade. Going to high school was hard for me because I had to leave my best friends. They were the only that ever made happy until now...now I have a boyfriend that makes me extremely happy but I worry that something will happen like he'll break up with me for some stupid reason every once in a while. Uh...I also seem to forget things easily. Like how to play black jack...to me thats one of the easiest games to remember how to play. But I seemed to have forgot. I remembered maybe 5 minutes after I was asked how to play. I really don't know but the spacing out all the time and knowing I'm not all there when I do that is so wierd to me. Sometimes I have make sure to make an effort to be all there. I don't notice much around me. It's just the big things. Nothing little. My mom notices every little thing. I wonder why I don't.

everyone does it sometimes~some people do it alot~i do it alot~just say o sorry i just spaced out again what do i do or what did you say it might be because you have stress or something on your mind or something bothering you anything or you might just hit your head a little to much lol~hope i helped~

Q: my family used to hang out with another family every so often quite a few years ago. but every now and then we see them around but we dont really get together anymore. the boy that is my age has gotten really cute and his sister is a little younger but shes really nice and i like her alot. i see the sister sometimes at sports but not too much. i wanted to know if you guys think it would be a good idea to try to get to know them again. like try to get their screen names or talk to the girl when i see her about hanging out sometime to catch up. what do you guys think? and if we did would it seem weird if i was to just i.m. the brother to say hi again, like what if he doesnt rmemeber me i know the sister does but im not sure about him would it be weird or should i go for it? thanks!

that sounds just like wat happened to me~but he has all brothers but now hes my best friend again~i dont think it would be weird just say 'hi do you remember me (your name) we used to hang out like a long time ago' then just start talkin~hey it works~hope i helped~

Q: Are airsoft guns dangerous?
Do they heart as much as paintball guns heart?
Can you use plastic balls instead of iron?

all guns are dangerous duh lol~but fun out in the woods or with targets or in airsoft or paintball fights~you can use plastic balls trust me iron balls hurt like hell~airsoft hurts more if you use iron~paintball hurts more if you use plastic airsoft~but it also depends on what brand and style and price~i based it on one of each about the same price~its so much fun~hope i helped~

Q: my friend was talking to me the other day at school and he said something about a doydle(sp?) i asked what that ment and he said look it up, cuz im not gonna tell ya.. i was just wondering if anyone knew what that means! thx!!

you probly mean what the other two people said but it also could mean doydle is a dog off a cartoon maybe, maybe not what you mean but i hope i helped

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