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Hi everyone, im 20 years old guy, I was pretty busy with my life minding my own business and I never had a girl friend. I,m a good nice guy, help others and good friend but never made a girl friend. Now I feel alone and need support but it seems to me that no girl likes me in that sense. I feel they don,t want me to be their boy friend. I,m really isolated how can I make a girl friend ant suggestion and please don,t advice to use dating sites they are useless.
I want a real girl in my life.
Thanks. (link)
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Alright, I'm gonna be straight with you here... no girl wants a needy man. We don't dig it. We don't dig sad men. We don't dig men that come off as super lonely, either.
Am I telling you to fake everything about yourself? No, but you cna't be a sad sack and expect women to flock to you. It's illogical. So you need to put on a happy face and actually go out and try to meet someone in real life. You can try clubs... but I hate clubs... I never really understood how people hook up at clubs...
Figure out things you like to do... or better yet try something new. Join some interest group (you can look on meetup.com for groups in your area) and go meet some people. It's probably not going to be love at first site the first time you ever go out. You're going to have to be social and talk to people and generally be interesting and pleasant.
You can't isolate yourself and expect people to come find you. People are everywhere. Get to know some.
Also... once you have a girl around a little bit, don't be that guy that tries to shove his tongue down her throat on date 2... pace yourself. You also can't dump all your loneliness and whatnot on new people. Save it for when you're sure they won't run off. That's a lot to absorb and people have their own problems. Again. Pace yourself.
Finally. Dating sites work if you put in a little time and effort. I found my last 3 boyfriends online. We didn't get married and live happily ever after, but that has nothing to do with the internet... that's called life.
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Hey guys. So I know this is kinda weird but I wanna dress like a cool old-school 60s-70s rock star. Something about the styles really fascinates me. I don't want to be subtle, I want to go loud and proud, I don't care if I get made fun of. Any tips or suggestions? Where can I find good clothes/ accessories?
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Thift stores.
Not necessarily Goodwill. I mean random, obscure thrift stores you'll find around town. Also called curio stores... and antique stores usually have some good stuff if they have a clothes section.
Good luck. ^_^ Love the look.
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I have been liking this guy for over a year and a half. Eventually last year I thought that he wold of asked me out but he never did, but I don't get why? Ok so we would have two classes together and we got pretty close, eventually I would get mixed signals, because he would stare at me during lunch class and sometimes even in the hallways, but then he would always be around this other girl who is extremely pretty. He would walk her to class and talk to her i front of me, and would glance at my direction. We always held glances and I would feel chills. And a couple of days ago when we were in art detention we both sat together and I was like someone smells good and he was like I know I do, and I was like sure... Eventually he then said that people get attracted to certain cents and I just looked at him and smile. He looks back at me and smiles back, but when we are in regular school he doesn't even say hi to me, I'm confused please help (link)
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I know you're in high school, and this is probably totally unheard of...
But why don't you just ask HIM out?
He's just as scared of you as you are of him, you know. Being a guy doesn't mean that you're any better equipped to handle possible rejection.
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i know he has another grlfnd.i quarelled him alot of times.but nthng of use.he says i'll marry only u.but he asks to be happy with him irrespective of wat he is doing.but how can i forget about her and be happy with him.how to make him happy and how to attract him more.and how to make him forget about dat grl.and how to make him feel that iam good for him than that girl?plz suggest me what to do?..plz (link)
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You're not going to like this answer... but if your boyfriend doesn't just want you, then you should go find someone that does.
He's a player and a polygamist, which can be totally fine if you're also a polygamist, but you don't seem to be.
So here are the options...
A) grovel and beg him to give her up.
I don't recommend that, it's low and not good for your self esteem.
B) Find another guy.
I like this idea, because you deserve someone that respects you by being with only you and not asking you to accept another woman in his life.
C) Become a polygamist.
Not my first choice, but if he's going to have 2 girlfriend, then you should get another boyfriend. Why not? If you can't beat them, join them.
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Thank You In Advance For Reading My Story, Giving Me Advice, etc. I apologize if it sounds like I'm whining but I really want to know why I am the way I am and how to better myself.
Hi , I'm a 16 yr old girl. I never kissed a guy, been on a date , hung out alone with a guy or been in a relationship. I don't go to parties, sneak out or hang out late. I don't feel like I do normal teenager things and even my mom complains that I'm being antisocial. I have been to three different high schools and in my current high school, unlike the previous two, I have almost no friends. I hide during lunch because sitting at a lunch table alone as a Senior is just too unbearable. I talk to no one in class unless I am forced to. (I do clubs and activities outside of school and I get along with the other teens there great so why not at school?) I can't figure out what has gone wrong with my life. Guys try to talk to me on the street and I ignore them, even if I think they are cute. If guys try to make eye contact, I look the other way. If I see guys approaching me , I try to take a detour , going into a store until they pass or crossing the street. Guys who I've like at one point and even gotten the courage to talk to, I always chicken out of plans or tell them I am too busy for a relationship. This one guy who liked me tried to kiss me repeatedly and even though I wanted nothing more than to kiss him, I would always back away and make excuses. My friend wanted to hang out but I've only hung out with her in group settings so I lied and told her I was busy. I mean what if we hung out and guys approached us, and I couldnt handle the situation? I see my younger cousins running around with really good looking guys, asking me for relationship advice and I would always have to lie. What do I know? I can't pin point my fears . I want to be social, and hang out with people. I want to have a relationship. I want to kiss and get my heart broken and call someone baby. But I just can't . I'm afraid. I panic sometimes.I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. At this rate it's possible. What do I do?
Thanks again, my fears are ruining my life. Ps I have no money for a therapist. (link)
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It sounds, to me, that you have the beginning stages of an anxiety disorder. The most direct answer to that is to seek professional advice, possibly get some therapy and some antianxiety meds and push through... but I didn't manage to do that until well after high school, so I don't much expect you to.
So. You're antisocial and nervous. I don't blame you, I was too. What you have to do is grab your anxiety by the gonads and keep it in check. It's hard. It's mentally draining. It's generally crappy at first... but like all things, with practice, it becomes second nature. When you successfully overcome something the first time, you will feel relieved and proud... and it will make you want to try it again. I promise.
Start small. Your friend wanted to hang out, so you have her come over a few times. Don't go out in public if it makes you freak out. You don't have to throw yourself into a situation like that. If you can build on a friendship, though, then when you do decide that you're going into public with her, she'll know your anxieties and be there to back you up. People can't help if they don't know, though.
Okay, so say you've built a nice little friendship with this friend and ya'll actually go out somewhere. You probably won't be approached by guys. Even guys without tact usually avoid girls in groups. On the off chance you get approached, you should have told your friend that it makes you nervous... if she's a good friend, she'll blow the guys off and you'll go about your business. If she doesn't do that here's what YOU do: just say NO THANKS as abruptly and rudely as you know how and walk away. You don't have an obligation to be nice to random guys. When you kind of get used to similar situations, you can work on being nicer, if you want. The important thing at first is to neutralize the situation. You shut it down and you walk away. That's it. Don't look back and don't answer anything else they say.
The thing to remember is BABY STEPS. Progress is progress, no matter how small it might seem. Start with things you think you can really deal with. Anxiety is really hard, especially at a young age. I'm 24 and I'm still learning to deal with it. It springs up out of nowhere and I have to crush it before it can overwhelm me. And that's hard, but it gets easier all the time.
You can have anything you want in life. You just have to work at it. Relationships are hard and suck, but you get used to them. Anxiety is hard and sucks, but you are the master of you. Life is hard and often sucks, but once you learn how to move through it you can focus on the good spots instead of the fear.
You're young, you have time. Use it.
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I have just been feeling depressed for a while now. I have no friends,just only the co-workers I work with. I really don't talk to my family like that anymore. I just go thru the same routine everyday. I feel like no one is there for me. I have struggle to keep myself together for the last past three years. I graduated High School about 3 years ago. I lost all my best friends. Arguements,lies happen after high school. So, No more friends. I don't want to go to school or work. No one ever texts or calls me unless it's family members wanting someone or asking something. I just don't know what to do. I never make plans because i'm always alone. I never been on a date. I'm have been single my whole life. I'm only 21 years old. I'm gay. I gotten sick with the shingles about 6 months ago. Because of stress and it was really bad. Cause of work,ex-friends,lonely,didn't feel like i belong,hiding about beening gay(which i am still). I need someone to talk to. I hate this feeling. I sit at home or ride around before i go home everyday or go to the park and just think and cry all the time. I dreamed about me dying in a car accident all the time and wondering what would my family do with out me. I just don't know who i am anymore. I need answers and help.It's not the world's business to know what i'm going thru and to know that i'm gay. Not,my families either because i will get disown.:/ My family is so christian. Now, It hurts. Having to lie to them about everything and can't be my own self. Advice please?
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While a clinical evaluation of your mental state is impossible via internet, depression is a common diagnosis with relatively simple treatment.
I do think that you should see a professional, but having been under the care of shrinks for many years, myself, I can understand any reservations you may have about such things. There are things you can try first, on your own, if you're not ready to submit yourself to a shrink.
First of all, you should get active. Now, I am the last person that advocates exercise very often. I would much rather eat a whole cake and watch the Discovery Channel than go on a run, but whenever I get low, exercise does help. The endorphins you get from being active lift your mood, and when you lift your mood, even a little, life looks better. You need to crawl out of the depression before you can really take affirmative action.
I know it's hard when all your high school friends disappear. Happened to me. You have to just go make new ones... which sucks and can be really hard if you haven't made friends in a while, but it's really very easy once you get the hang of it. You just go do something you enjoy (which can be hard to think of, I know, but start small and just go be around people). If you're out amongst people that like things you like, you just have to start a conversation with someone. It won't be magic. You probably won't make life-long friends every time you talk to someone, but it's a start. You talk, you exchange numbers and you call them later. You have to do the work.
As for your family... I don't talk to my family either, and that's not really totally uncommon. Fmailies have problems, and just because you're related to people doesn't mean they'll understand you, and it doesn't mean you'll like them... it just means you share some DNA. If your family is going treat you like a black sheep... then you just have to file that away and try to not let it get to you. My family sucks and they don't like me for a lot of various reasons. I stopped caring. Sure, I still get upset about it. Whenever my dad calls me (birthday, thanksgiving and christmas) I get really upset and wonder why he's such a bad father and why he doesn't care except on mandated holidays... but then I get out that anger and frustration at my situation and life goes on.
You have a long way to go. I'm 24 now. When I was 21 I had a lot of sh*t going on that I didn't think I could deal with, too. I was horrifically depressed, along with being on medication for a mood disorder that kept backfiring, my family was growing farther apart all the time (or dying... lots of them just up and died on me), I had no friends and no way of knowing how to get some...
But things get better. You just have to help it a little bit. You have to try. You also have to accept things you can't change and learn to celebrate things you can change instead. It's crappy but it's just how life is. You either roll with the waves or you drown.
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So I have naturally brown hair but I get it highlighted blonde at a salon, but each time it's $150 and that's a lot for every month! So I really want a cheaper way to color my hair and I hate my natural hair, I love being blonde. But my hair is already so damaged, It;s pretty long right now but it constantly breaks off and I have so many split ends so I know it's bad to color it! But I really want to just buy one of those boxes of color from the store and try that but if it totally messes it up than i'm skrewed. Right now it is lots of different colors of blonde and it's really pretty but I hate having dark roots, but if I dye it with a box will it make it all the same color? I'm honestly just desperate to get rid of my roots, and I have tried the root touch up stuff but it's just so hard! What should I do?? (link)
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Peroxide.
Regular old hydrogen peroxide is how lots of people add highlights all the time.
If you're doing all over highlights, you fill a spray bottle with 1/3 of peroxide and the rest with water, shake well and spray into your hair in the morning. It will lighten all your hair a little everyday.
To get rid of your roots, get a toothbrush and some peroxide and scrub at your roots With the peroxide. If you want all over bleaching, soak your hair in it... but keep an eye on it so you don't go too blonde.
You'll also need a really good conditioner. I recommend It's A 10, if you can find it. It gives life back to your hair.
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should u wear jeans when working out? (link)
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I don't recommend jeans for working out at all, and here's why.
Denim is not designed to breathe. It holds in heat and moisture, which can cause you to overheat. Also, the moisture from sweating will make the jeans heavier and put strain on your muscles.
You should invest in some yoga pants.
They're comfortable, they breathe and they wick sweat away from your body so you don't feel damp all the time.
They're also great for lounging around and eating ice cream in.
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I'm 21 and married. I'm 10 weeks pregnant, and as time goes on I become more and more scared. It has made me very aware that I honestly don't think I'm ready for it. I don't want an abortion, I'm very against that. What I want is advice on how to cope. I know that if it ends up being a successful pregnancy then I will be a mom in May. How do I come to terms with not being able to do some of the things I wanted to? I LOVE kids, but I wanted to be established in a career, have a few more years with my husband - just him and I - and to live life for a little bit with only having to worry about rent and how to handle a disagreement I have with my husband. Now, I will have so much more to handle on a daily basis. How do I do it? I wasn't expecting to have kids for a few more years... (link)
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I know it's scary, now, but you're going to fine. Life happens when it happens and not when you find it convenient... but you're going to be just fine.
You don't have to give up on your dreams. A baby doesn't mean you can't work toward your career and get yourself where you want to be. A baby doesn't mean you have take anything you've ever wanted to do off your list. In fact, MAKE THE LIST. Sure, things will be different, and you'll have things to worry about... but a baby will be part of your life and you'll just fit in him into your plans.
I'm the oldest of three girls. I'm the only one that didn't have a baby yet. My stepsister was the first and she was scared, too. After she had my nephew things got even shiftier when her boyfriend dropped him and social services took him away... as scared as she had to have that baby and everything having a baby meant, she cried for months. You end up loving them whether they're planned or not and you end up making things work. My other sister loved her baby very much, and she was only 19 at the time... he dies, however... and it's still killing her. She only had him for 5 months but motherhood was the most fulfilling thing she ever did.
You're scared, I get that, but you're going to be fine, and you're going to be happy.
One day you'll look back and wonder what scared you. Love does that to people.
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My leavers dance is in a month and i really want to take a date. I've already asked four different guys, the first one, his girlfriend said no, the second and third are already going and the fourth was unbelievably rude to me. I've given up hope because i don't really knw any other guys as im quite shy. It really sucks not having a date as every one else at school is so excited and i just want to take someone so badly. This is my leavers dance, i want to have a blast. i i don't find one maybe i just won't go. I just feel so inadequate not having one (link)
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An answer you don't want to hear: You should go alone or with a group of friends. I don't know what a leavers dance is, but I'm assuming it's like prom. I went to both my proms alone. I ended up dancing with friends because all the guys didn't want to dance in the first place.
I always had way more fun going to dances WITHOUT someone else. Guys can be such downers when you're trying to have a good time.
The dance is about having fun. FOR YOU. You don't need a date for that, and who knows... if you go alone you could run into a cute guy that ended up alone too and ya'll can dance together and have a blast and live happily ever after or something.
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is there a faster version of the song american honey by lady antebellum. (link)
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No there is not, unless you've discovered a remix I have not yet heard.
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We're both juniors, btw.
I've been dating my boyfriend for just about a year and we've always talked about going to both junior and senior prom. I was super excited! I've been looking at dresses and planning things and doing all this stuff. A couple of days ago my boyfriend comes up to me and says "We can't go to prom this year, I have to go to History Day." (For people who don't know who that is, it's like Science Fair except you do a project on history.)I was super upset. I was really looking forward to this... And he actually doesn't HAVE to go to HD, it's optional and he'd still get credit if other people from his group went. Plus, there are some other problems:
1. HD is in the day, prom is in the night. When I told my boyfriend that, he said that he'd need more time to get ready (4 hours isn't enough?).
2. He says if we go now, it'll ruin our senior prom... even though he assured me he wanted to go both years.
3. He says he's gonna make it up to me, but I don't know how...
4. All my friends are talking about prom amd it's making me said because we had planned to hang out there. I feel really left out.
5. I feel like a whiny bitch and I'm scared I'm demanding too much of my boyfriend and getting on his nerves. I really don't mean to complain or take any precedence away from him going to HD... It just meant a lot to me and I'm down about it.
Am I in the wrong to be upset?
Have any suggestions about this?
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He's dodging.
You're not wrong to be upset, and if I were you I'd go to prom anyway. I went stag my junior year... in fact I wasn't even talking to my friends that year. I just went because I wanted to go... and I'm glad I did because my senior prom was craptacular.
Anyway. You need to tell him that you're hurt, that prom is important to you and that you're sad. Then tell him you're going with or without him and watch his face. It'll be interesting, I swear.
If he doesn't want to go to prom after History Day, then he doesn't need to go and ruin your time anyway. I know that no one likes going to a dance alone... but it's not really a trauma. You just end up dancing with your friends when you go with guys anyway. Just go have fun.
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im 17/f
hes 19/m
so i've had about 13 or so boyfriends, and hes had about 5 girlfriends. (im not a virgin, he is) we met on a site called myyearbook and we met at restaurant ,had dinner and its been a week and we've hung out/gone out together 4 or so times. we've kissed,held hands,he compliments me,ect. im interested in having a mature relationship with him. not just a high school fling, if that makes sense.
he texted me "how do you like me so far?" and i told him how he was smart,cute,funny, and how i felt being with him, ect. then i asked him the same and he said "i think your really cool. i like that you accept me for who i am and that you want to hang with me?"
sounds like something a friend who say to another friend.
i didnt wanna scare him off by asking bluntly "are we boyfriend and girlfriend" so i texted him " what are you looking for in a relationship, if one at all" he replied "i don't really know right now...what are you looking for?" i fell asleep before i could answer, but he seems really into me when were in person. but we hung out yesterday and we started kissing but then when star trek came back on it seemed like he'd rather watch that.
im trying to be understanding that hes shy, and hasnt had a lot of girlfriends, but i really like this guy, but im so use to having 'in charge' boyfriends, im not use to shy guys.
i dont want to scare him off, its only been a week.what should i do? (link)
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Take the initiative, tell him you really like him and would like to make it into a relationship.
You can't be the passive one all the time, it's just not plausible.
I'm not saying be in his face and say "We're dating now." That's wrong.
Something more like "so, I was thinking about it and I really like you... would you want to make this more serious/official?"
That's less abrasive.
And... you should realize that we Trekkies will always pick Star Trek over making out... It's a trekkie thing.
He's shy. Be willing to move slow or find someone less shy... that's what it boils down to.
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I made these new guy friends in a class recently that I sit with.
Two of them are best friends...we'll call them...Tony and Kyle.
Tony is kind of perverted and loud but really funny and nice at the same time.
Kyle is really sweet and funny too, and he's a lot more quiet than Tony.
So over Christmas break I was texting Tony a lot and we talked about a bunch of stuff...and he started telling me about Kyle and how he likes me and wants to go out with me. And he kept asking me if I like him (for the record, I do, a little =]...).
Then, I texted Tony and said "so, do you like anyone?" and he texted back with "yeah, you" so I said "haha. ok no really who do you like?" and he says "no really, me and kyle both do"
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so i asked "if you like me to, why are you trying to get me and kyle to go out?" and he said "because i'm nervous" and we kind of left it at that
So...
I'm sort of torn between two guys?
like I said before...
Kyle is really sweet and I sort of like him
but Tony is also really nice and I'm closer to him
If you were in this situation, what would you do...?
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So you have 2 courses of action here.
1. Be responsible. Sit down and think about which you like better. Then you have to ask yourself what it will do you friendship with them, plus what it will do to their friendships with each other. From there, you weigh the options and figure out if dating either of them would be worth the costs.
2. Become a player, like the rest of us. This requires a complete and utter disregard for their feelings, really, and also requires a certain level of conniving effort to keep it under wraps while you date both. It's complicated, but a lot of fun.
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hey are satin sheets comfortable? do they get cold like cold to lay on? any info is appreciated thanks. (link)
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I love Satin Sheets! They're so soft, in a silk kind of way but smoother. They can get cold, and tends to be thinner than a typical bed sheet, but couple the sheets with a down comforter and you're set, plus you're in the lap of luxury.
Also be careful of "jumping" into bed. There is a high possibility of sliding right off the bed.
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hi, i was just wondering: is it weird to be still "spooning" with my 25 year old brother every once in a while?
not that it's sexual in anyway but ever since he left college when i was younger, i've tried sleeping with him and being as close as i possibly could because i missed him so much.
i'm not a little girl anymore and he's DEFINITELY not a kid either...but it's ok...right?
i'm just wondering what most peoples opinions are on this since most of my friends think it's weird. :P (link)
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It's not weird, not if you have a sibling or parent you're particularly close to. I mean, I used to sleep in bed with my mom until I was like 14, because when Dad left she HAD to know where I was, and then it just became habit.
It's not that odd, not really. ^_^
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i know sometimes people get tiring of asking these types of questions.. but i have to know to relieve my mind. no, at the moment i don't have enough money to buy a pregnancy test. but my period is supposed to come between december 29 - janurary 5 because my period is pretty irregular and whenever my period last started and ended is where it's supposed to be between ever time i start. yes, me and my boyfriend did have sex, safe sex. we checked the condom during the sex, and after the sex, we also change it if it feels weird. i asked him a whole bunch of times if i was pregnant and if he was sure, he said he was 100% positive, and the stuff on him was from me.. but it's bothering me that my period still hasn't came yet. i may have gotten him scared too, but he still said he's 100% sure i'm not. is it probably my diet change would that still skip a month or something? (link)
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You, by your own count, have 3 days (it's the 2nd now) before it's actually late. So I wouldn't worry too much.
I'm pretty sure you're not pregnant. There is a .01% chance of getting pregnant with the use of condoms, and that's only if there's a tear in the condom, which you said there wasn't. So it's logical to assume you are not. ^_^
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i go to a small high school and i pretty much know most of the people. me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 3 months ago and i think its time for me to meet new people....but idk how to do this? like you don't just go out on the road and yell when you see a goodlooking guy and i don't wanna seem desperate...so how do i meet new people my age? and i dont know of any underage clubs or anything.. (link)
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Hang out at the mall. Start a conversation with someone... I hate advice like that. I'm a shy person, so I meet people the shy person way.
I use the internet. Craigslist, MyYearbook, hi5, FUBAR, and various other sites like that are designed for people, like me, that hate meeting people off the street because we think we sound like morons.
Also, try meetup.com it's a site used to put you in touch with people with similar interests. It's a good way to meet groups of people as well as cute men.
If you're more direct than me... I dunno. Try malls and things. I'm not good with direct contact, really. Lol.
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i notice that ever time when my boyfriend cries really hard, he ends up getting asthma attack. and i don't mean those regular asthma attacks, i mean he went to the doctor and they said to stay away from whatever makes him cry.. cause nothing can't stop those type of asthma attacks. so basically, he won't breathe until he dies.. and that gets me really nervous. i feel like i'm the one causing it, cause he cries because of me. i feel like i push things too far or something when i'm angry, and i've been trying to control that. but when i'm angry nothing really runs through my mind besides negative things, and it just gets me more upset and i just end up speaking my mind. but he says it's not because of that, just that he always thinks that i don't want to be with him anymore, since ever little thing he does he thinks he gets me upset when i don't. it just gets me nervous, because i know if he stays with me.. he would get an asthma attack, if i don't.. he'll get an asthma attack. what can i do? he told me to stay with him and he'll try to control his crying, cause that's the one thing he will be able to control and that he promises that as long as i'm breathing, he'll breathe. but i still feel like it's partially my fault that it's like this, i don't want to cause anybody's death. i care about his health, and now i'm trying really hard to not push it really far. but either way, i'm stuck in the middle.. because there are sometimes i think that we shouldn't be together, cause sometimes it's not just working out. but i'm worried, asthma attack.. and if i stay... asthma attack. part of me wants to stay cause i do care for him and i still really like him. but part of me wants to leave because i don't wanna feel like i'm causing the pain and sometimes it just gets tiring at times. what should i do? (link)
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It's pretty hard to make a guy cry, in most of my experiences. So, what are you doing to make the poor boy cry? Typical arguements and insecurities shouldn't cause that sort of thing...
Anyway, assuming he's just extremely sensitive, because it's totally possible, you need to think about something RIGHT NOW. That is, do you love this man and will it last forever?
You said that you like him, and that's cool, but when someone you're involved with has some medical thing, you have to decide if you can make the changes and live with what's going on.
For instance, I'm an awful bipolar case. This means lots of crying fits, confusion, random mood swings, suicide attempts, etc. My boyfriend LOVES me, and he's willing to deal with me, filter what comes out of his mouth to avoid triggering me, and holds me during breakdowns, freakouts, medication changes and everything else that comes with it.
Are you willing to put a filter on your mouth so that you don't hurt him and make him cry? Are you willing to keep certain things to yourself, be sure he gets all the medical help he needs if he has an attack and be there for him when he can't breathe?
If you're not committed to this guy, you need to leave him alone. It seems like your words hurt him enough. The risk of a single attack as a result of doing the right thing to leave him, simply because you can't deal with what's going on, is better than risking doing this to him for an extended period of time, isn't it? You two can always still be friends, and maybe, when you're older and more mature, you two could try this dating thing again. There IS always that option, you know. Maybe your tongue will stop slapping him across the face by then. Maybe his asthma will have subdued itself more.
I'd think long and hard about this. If it were me, and I have a tongue sharp enough to cut you before you notice it, I'd leave him for the betterment of his health... and stay his friend.
EDIT
I still think it's weird you make him cry.
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Lately I've become slightly addicted to uh.. classical-ish music, I guess? I don't really know how to classify it; I just like various piano / string songs, such as Yiruma's "River Flows in You", Apocalyptica's "Farewell", etc.
Anyways, I don't know of any similar artists and was wondering if you guys had any suggestions. (link)
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I don't know any off the top of my head, but...
Pandora.com is an online radio server that builds your channels based on information you give it. If you type in Apocalyptica in the channel builder and Yiruma, it will search the database for music with similar qualities and give you a good selection of other artists that you might like.
It works like a charm. I love Pandora. Hope that helped.
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