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Boyfriend doesn't want to go to prom :(
We're both juniors, btw.
I've been dating my boyfriend for just about a year and we've always talked about going to both junior and senior prom. I was super excited! I've been looking at dresses and planning things and doing all this stuff. A couple of days ago my boyfriend comes up to me and says "We can't go to prom this year, I have to go to History Day." (For people who don't know who that is, it's like Science Fair except you do a project on history.)I was super upset. I was really looking forward to this... And he actually doesn't HAVE to go to HD, it's optional and he'd still get credit if other people from his group went. Plus, there are some other problems:
1. HD is in the day, prom is in the night. When I told my boyfriend that, he said that he'd need more time to get ready (4 hours isn't enough?).
2. He says if we go now, it'll ruin our senior prom... even though he assured me he wanted to go both years.
3. He says he's gonna make it up to me, but I don't know how...
4. All my friends are talking about prom amd it's making me said because we had planned to hang out there. I feel really left out.
5. I feel like a whiny bitch and I'm scared I'm demanding too much of my boyfriend and getting on his nerves. I really don't mean to complain or take any precedence away from him going to HD... It just meant a lot to me and I'm down about it.
Am I in the wrong to be upset?
Have any suggestions about this?
Thanks so much!
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The best you can do is tell him your feelings, and how they would be hurt by his decision.
He has to decide on his own to go or not, you really can't make him, unless you want to hear about it for the next few years. :o)
You could point out the fact that the only person that he really will need to talk with is you, and that many other people will be feeling the same way he is. In fact, why not get a group of your friends (that he already knows) to hang out at the prom together? This way he can be assured of being in a group of people he knows he can already get along with.
Have this group already set up the next time you discuss the prom, and it should go better for you. But listen to his specific concerns and fears, please.
Good luck!
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He's dodging.
You're not wrong to be upset, and if I were you I'd go to prom anyway. I went stag my junior year... in fact I wasn't even talking to my friends that year. I just went because I wanted to go... and I'm glad I did because my senior prom was craptacular.
Anyway. You need to tell him that you're hurt, that prom is important to you and that you're sad. Then tell him you're going with or without him and watch his face. It'll be interesting, I swear.
If he doesn't want to go to prom after History Day, then he doesn't need to go and ruin your time anyway. I know that no one likes going to a dance alone... but it's not really a trauma. You just end up dancing with your friends when you go with guys anyway. Just go have fun.
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Wow, this is tough.
He is probably trying to tell you he doesn't want to go If you think thats the case then talk to him about it, if he doesn't want to talk about it then he's not worth it. you need a guy that is willing to do anything his girl wants. History Day? Seriously?
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