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I never thought I would say this about myself but I have been acting quite immature lately. My boyfriend has been too, but I no longer only blame him. I realized something today thanks to advice from very smart people on this very site.
Thing is, I've kind of screwed things up with my boyfriend. I am significantly younger than him, not a ridiculous amount, and don't worry I'm over 18, but enough so that it makes a difference.
Anyway I've had unrealistic expectations about our relationship. He has made many many promises when we first started going out 3 months ago, and its really gotten to my head that I started making all these expectations. He hasn't pulled through with everything he promised, but at the same time I expected ridiculous things from him because I AM immature and I DON'T know much about relationships.
Now, I've realized all this. The thing is that I have been childish. In the beginning, he was obsessed with me, he loved me SO much. Now, its barely dragging along, and I think its my fault. I started stupid fights, I blamed him for things that were not a big deal, and I made a big deal over nothing. I dont doubt his love is gone, BUT he is fed up with all the dumb things I have done. This is not to say that its all my fault, I only reacted to things as best I could, but I realized I have been wrong. Thing is, I didnt know any better. Hes my first relationship. I dont know what is a big deal and isnt and what to emphasize and what to let go.
I love him a LOT, and I really want to get him excited about this relationship again. Show him that its not too late, that I realize what I've been doing, and that I am sorry but I just want things to be like they were in the beginning. Thing is even if I tell him all this, it takes action and me proving it for him to believe me! So what can I do to show him that I understand things now and I am slowly changing??? HELP! (link)
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Talking to him about it would be the best. If he doesn't want to get al gushy like that then maybe he's the childish one. Try to apologize but make sure he apologizes too. Love is Key, and when it messes up ,Talking is Key.
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We're both juniors, btw.
I've been dating my boyfriend for just about a year and we've always talked about going to both junior and senior prom. I was super excited! I've been looking at dresses and planning things and doing all this stuff. A couple of days ago my boyfriend comes up to me and says "We can't go to prom this year, I have to go to History Day." (For people who don't know who that is, it's like Science Fair except you do a project on history.)I was super upset. I was really looking forward to this... And he actually doesn't HAVE to go to HD, it's optional and he'd still get credit if other people from his group went. Plus, there are some other problems:
1. HD is in the day, prom is in the night. When I told my boyfriend that, he said that he'd need more time to get ready (4 hours isn't enough?).
2. He says if we go now, it'll ruin our senior prom... even though he assured me he wanted to go both years.
3. He says he's gonna make it up to me, but I don't know how...
4. All my friends are talking about prom amd it's making me said because we had planned to hang out there. I feel really left out.
5. I feel like a whiny bitch and I'm scared I'm demanding too much of my boyfriend and getting on his nerves. I really don't mean to complain or take any precedence away from him going to HD... It just meant a lot to me and I'm down about it.
Am I in the wrong to be upset?
Have any suggestions about this?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Wow, this is tough.
He is probably trying to tell you he doesn't want to go If you think thats the case then talk to him about it, if he doesn't want to talk about it then he's not worth it. you need a guy that is willing to do anything his girl wants. History Day? Seriously?
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My best friend of 7 years and I are fighting a lot recently. I hate when we fight and we never fought before. He is a boy and I am a girl, we are both fifteen. I know we still care about each other, I just hate that we fight and the we started fighting more after a rumor went around the school that we like each other. Why do you think we're fighting? Because of the rumor? Thanks (link)
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Wow! This is tough but the best thing for you to do is just talk it out with him. Wow, 7 years that's a lot and i would say try hard to work it out because you guys have a very special relationship here, if anyone spreads rumors about your friendship ignore them and tell him how you feel about those rumors I'm sure he'll understand.
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