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Immature
I never thought I would say this about myself but I have been acting quite immature lately. My boyfriend has been too, but I no longer only blame him. I realized something today thanks to advice from very smart people on this very site.
Thing is, I've kind of screwed things up with my boyfriend. I am significantly younger than him, not a ridiculous amount, and don't worry I'm over 18, but enough so that it makes a difference.
Anyway I've had unrealistic expectations about our relationship. He has made many many promises when we first started going out 3 months ago, and its really gotten to my head that I started making all these expectations. He hasn't pulled through with everything he promised, but at the same time I expected ridiculous things from him because I AM immature and I DON'T know much about relationships.
Now, I've realized all this. The thing is that I have been childish. In the beginning, he was obsessed with me, he loved me SO much. Now, its barely dragging along, and I think its my fault. I started stupid fights, I blamed him for things that were not a big deal, and I made a big deal over nothing. I dont doubt his love is gone, BUT he is fed up with all the dumb things I have done. This is not to say that its all my fault, I only reacted to things as best I could, but I realized I have been wrong. Thing is, I didnt know any better. Hes my first relationship. I dont know what is a big deal and isnt and what to emphasize and what to let go.
I love him a LOT, and I really want to get him excited about this relationship again. Show him that its not too late, that I realize what I've been doing, and that I am sorry but I just want things to be like they were in the beginning. Thing is even if I tell him all this, it takes action and me proving it for him to believe me! So what can I do to show him that I understand things now and I am slowly changing??? HELP!
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hi there. The best thing to do is talk to him. Tell him that you have realized that the relationship has taken a bad turn, It's partly because you have been fighting over small things. Tell him you have understood this and would like to change it, and that he have patience. With co operation you guys can work it out and have a great time together again.
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Talking to him about it would be the best. If he doesn't want to get al gushy like that then maybe he's the childish one. Try to apologize but make sure he apologizes too. Love is Key, and when it messes up ,Talking is Key.
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