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how can I make a girl friend
Hi everyone, im 20 years old guy, I was pretty busy with my life minding my own business and I never had a girl friend. I,m a good nice guy, help others and good friend but never made a girl friend. Now I feel alone and need support but it seems to me that no girl likes me in that sense. I feel they don,t want me to be their boy friend. I,m really isolated how can I make a girl friend ant suggestion and please don,t advice to use dating sites they are useless.
I want a real girl in my life.
Thanks.
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Alright, I'm gonna be straight with you here... no girl wants a needy man. We don't dig it. We don't dig sad men. We don't dig men that come off as super lonely, either.
Am I telling you to fake everything about yourself? No, but you cna't be a sad sack and expect women to flock to you. It's illogical. So you need to put on a happy face and actually go out and try to meet someone in real life. You can try clubs... but I hate clubs... I never really understood how people hook up at clubs...
Figure out things you like to do... or better yet try something new. Join some interest group (you can look on meetup.com for groups in your area) and go meet some people. It's probably not going to be love at first site the first time you ever go out. You're going to have to be social and talk to people and generally be interesting and pleasant.
You can't isolate yourself and expect people to come find you. People are everywhere. Get to know some.
Also... once you have a girl around a little bit, don't be that guy that tries to shove his tongue down her throat on date 2... pace yourself. You also can't dump all your loneliness and whatnot on new people. Save it for when you're sure they won't run off. That's a lot to absorb and people have their own problems. Again. Pace yourself.
Finally. Dating sites work if you put in a little time and effort. I found my last 3 boyfriends online. We didn't get married and live happily ever after, but that has nothing to do with the internet... that's called life.
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You could try interest clubs, singles holidays or just go to clubs with friends.
But the main place you meet a potential partner is when you're not even looking. Try an achieve something you always wanted to.
Unfortunatly, being isolated makes the dating game a little harder, but their are also many introverted girls in the world who are equally having a hard time of it. You have to put yourself out their-both parties do. No one will spot you if you hide away!
My advice though would be to not talk to a girl with the sole view that she will be your girlfriend. Not only is this the wrong approach-you've got to be friends first, but girls can see right through it. So approach it like this. 'I could do with a few more friends in my life that are girls' rather than 'I need a girlfriend'
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