Hi. My name is Alissa-marie, by friends call me Alissa or lis. I'm really open to comments and questions, because i get them alot. OK, Im supposed to give some sob story of why im here. But thats not gonna happen. Because im here because i feel the need to help some one, and i like to do it. You dont like what i say, oh well. I am an up front person. I know how to beat around the bush and i know how to jump into it.(perferably, jumpin, lol)So, now u know a little bit about me. But this is all you need to know. Why? Because this column isnt about me and my woes-you can go to my live journal for that. This is about you. Ask intelligible questions, and you get one back. If you ask a dumb question -and i dont always have a sence of humor- dont expect an answer.**There is a wonderfull button called 'reject'...**
Ok, have at it!!
Website: my live journal!!
E-mail: mizsweetheart101@msn.com
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Location: I live in fl but born in NYC
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Member Since: August 17, 2004
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LilMia811
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my lil bro had a bbsitter cuz i waz out... and when i came home she was screemin and yellin @ him. She grabbed his arm and he said to our dog.. "Daizee help help! Help Daiz!!!" the dog didnt do ne thing... but ne way.... shud i tell my parents? (link)
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Yes, tell them she might be a little crazy. And get your brothers side of the story!
ALissa
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hey..i am g0in thr0 al0t latley..me and my bf have been fighting n0n st0p..and its scaring me..but ne ways..im almost 16..and i weigh 115..i HATE triple numbers..i want the perfect b0dy..my b0yfriend says im beautifull all the time..but thats kinda what b0yfriends r supp0sed t0 d0..i want to get down to 99..i was belimic way back in the day..but i was 0n the f0ne with my friend and i t0ld her i want t0 bec0me an0rexic..she flipped 0ut and hung up..so0oo i was like fine i w0nt d0 that..and last nite i made myself thr0w up t0 see what its like..i kinda s0rta liked it =\..well my bf said if i ever d0 ne thing "physc0" it w0uld be 0ver f0r g00d..and i was w0nderin w0uld he n0tice if i g0t t0 99..and if ne 0ne else w0uld n0tice..well i neEd helP! =(..MaNdiE x0 (link)
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OMG girl, i cried reading this! You in know way need to loose wieght!! Girl, i know how it is to just hate your body, but youve hinted that you really love your bf. You need to keep it tight with him. In no way go on a diet. And, yes he will notice, WHY, HOW? Because as soon as you loose 99, you want 95, then hey why not 85, and you will get worse! Please, if their is anything you can do, dont start. You could die because of throwing up and stuff. Please dont!!
XoxO ALissa
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Well, my question is very odd, but i need help coping with the fact that i have oversized ears. They are around...2.6inches, and they look huge on me. I can never wear my hair up, and someone always comments on them and stares. I just don't know what to do and i need some advice. Also, i'm 14 and i havent even had my period and i have small boobs!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?! (link)
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You should never fret about something like that. If you see someone staring at you, go over and be like "Hey are you staring at me? I do that all the time in the mirror!" Just be natural, and you know what, live a little. WEAR YOUR HAIR UP as practice. It'll be like getting over a fear. You never know, your body might porportion out right!
XoxO ALissa
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ok i have like this guy for over a year now and i really like him but hes kinda popular and i am on the lower side of the social chain but hes been single for some time now how do i ask him out and also how can i make it so that nobody likess make fun of me or ihm for it ?!?!?! (link)
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im him saying, if i was...(.. will be a description of you) would you go out with me? And if he says yes, then the next day, talk to him, get to know him, and then ask him. If you gradually ask him, but dont totally stalk him, you might get something going!!
Hope I helped ALissa
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I am going into my junior year in school in about 2 weeks. Ever since freshman year, I have had the reputation of being the "goofball" or the "non serious" one. I think this is what caused somebody at school to always say "I hate you" and make fun of me. I never hear her say anything nice to me. Once in a while she'll be like "Oh you know I'm just kidding right?" And I'll be like "Oh yeah! I know!" It doesn't bother me that she says "I hate you" once in a while just kidding around, but it does bother me that she treats me differently than everyone else. I think she thinks it doesn't bother me because I usually just laugh it off. But it does bother me. I'd like to be friends with her without her treating me mean. I don't really want to tell her it bothers me, because that would be embarrasing to me...and her. So, what's a goofball to do? (link)
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Pull her aside and tell her, hony, its id like to be your friend and all, but the i hate you thing has got to stop. Be honest!
XoxO ALissa
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0k im 13/f. i have bl0nde leg hair s0 i have put shaving 0ff f0r awhile. n0w i feel like i sh0uld start, s0 i need a little help. h0w d0 i shave¿ im afraid im g0nna cut myself! please give me a g00d 0utline 0f what i need t0 d0. als0, is it the same meth0d for the armpits 0r n0¿ thank y0u f0r n e help! i will rate :)
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Ok, your afraid to cut yourself, hony the only way you would cut yourself is if you pushed down to hard. You can just lightly do it. If youd like, get the intuition that you can do in the shower...ive heard that it really works. If yourstill afraid, use any of the nair products. They work real great on the legs. Now about armpits, I do not know. Sorry!!
XoxO ALissa
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hey i just made a xanga site and i was wondering how u add the music? please help (link)
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At the bottom of each entry you make it says that the current song playing is....so if you change that, the ppl on ur site should hear it
XoxO Alissa
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Does anyone know of any side effects of the Birth Control Patch? The pill makes me sick, the shot made me gain 50 pounds and took away the urge, and I really want something that is low maintenance. (link)
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If you dont want the side affects, stop having sex. You can still get diseases, so which would you rather have?
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well.. see my ;ofe isnt really perfect or not near it my parents fite n yell at me ALL the time
and one of my best friends loves this other girl doesnt even talk to me ne more and the only good thing is my othher bbff! but ive liked this guy for 8 months! and he was single bout to ask me out wen he asked out some1 else hoo said she hated him, shes a really good friend but like ya..also on my bus r all the popular guys and u see them whisperin u kno its about u it usually is! so i hate myself i got new make up n got hiarcut and highlights n everythin just how do i get my old friends back n make my life better?! sry if its so long.. ill ratE REALLy good! (link)
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Wow, you did all of that? Girl, life gets way better than that! You cant expect anything to change because your apperances do. Your personality should be what gets your friends back. Try talking to them again, calling them, but not all at once. Do it gradually. You'll feel better about what you do, getting the confidence you need. If you have any more queations, you can email me at alissag4@excite.com.
I honestly hope that i could and can help,
ALIssa
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I'm searching for an apartment right now, but am finding it extremely difficult because of my dog. I have an very friendly dog that is great with people of any age, but he is also a rottweiler, and because of their bad reputation, most insurance companies are allowed to turn down people from owning any rottweiler, no matter what temperment, from living on the property that they insure.
I think it is wrong for them to be able to do that, and is just another form of discrimination. I believe that there are no bad breeds, just bad owners. It is never a dogs fault when they are aggressive, because they are all subject to their environment. They depend on humans for everything, and when they have a bad life, they have no way of running away and finding a better one. I believe it's always the owners fault when a dog hurts another animal or human, and that no matter what size a dog is, they still need to be in complete control, and never even get the chance to hurt a person or animal.
I want to try to make a pettition of some sort to stop the discrimination against "bad" breeds such as rottweiler, pit bulls, and german shepard dogs. And make people in the US realize that they need to start to focus on the bad owners instead of the poor dogs who are forced to live under bad ownership.
The problem is that I don't know where I would start. I know of a web site where I can start a pettition, but I'm not the greatest writer, and I don't know how I would actually make my pettition seen by the government at least in my town, if not my state. Can someone point me in the right direction? (link)
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Try going door to door in your current neigborhood and opffer them the opportunity to join you on another date. Then you can take that opportunity to goo in other neighborhoods. Soon you will have a good amount of ppl who want to help you out, and then you can start a website....things will become clearer with progress. This is a very interesting question, and i agree with you, so pleaze, keep me posted!
Hope I helped, ALissa
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Hey..my good friend's parents are having a divorce..and her dad doesn't even know yet? The court date is on monday?! Whenever I go to her house...their parents seem fine? I know for a fact they don't fight at all! Ahhh and My friend is acting like nothing is wrong?!?! PLEASE HELP (link)
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She maty not know the full facts, or maybe her day still doenst know... He wouldnt know untill he got the court order and papers that needed to be signed. They may not want to fight in front of you, and you know, youve got to see if your friend is in denile...it happens alot. her parents may have decided that it was for the best, but they dont hate each other. So they dont fight. However, your friend may not understand. She may be in denile because they seem fine and dont fight. Really, they may be. Have a serious talk with your friends to find out the deal, and them try to peace it all together. If they are really getting divorced, she going to need all of the support and love she came get that she will feel she is lacking from her parents.
XoxO hope i heped ALissa
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ok well I am Indian and my parents are like WAY over protective..and like they won't let me have a boyfriend until what? like I'm in colege or something!? I mean come on its on like old times anymore..Its like every Indian parent thinks that and it's just crazy...like I can't even have a guy come over...or like go to a guy's house just for FUN...even if they're my friends...HELP! (link)
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Your parents arent tring to ruin your life, even if it seems that way. They are just trying to save you from hurt. Believe it or not, your parents are smarter than you, and there is no way around it. You live in their house, so.... srry, but you have to respect them. But... you should al;ways try to talk about the situation, ask them if you can go over to your friends house because these other girls are there....just so that they dont feel as if they are sending their daughter of to a guys house with the ability of getting raped or something. Indian parents are not the only ppl that treat their children like that!!
XoxO Alissa
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Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!
*amy (link)
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You should always be up front with the guy that you like, because if you really want to be in a long term relationship, then you have to be able to speak your mind. If you get a friend to ask him, then what if he says yes? It will be kind of akward if you have to come up and talk to him, or atleast it will be for him. He will always remember that you had your friend ask. A guy who asks you if you need a ride every single fricken day should be dealt with up front!!
XoxO Alissa
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ok.. how many of you think its possible to love at 15? i kno there's girls on here and guys that say they love their bf/gf. but do most of you take it as "puppy love?" i think it is possible. bc see my bf now.. ive been with him 9 months and i lost my virginity to him and the thing is my mom and family dissapprove of me and him together... because hes black n im white. but i still go to see him and he comes to see me at like the park and stuff and we hang out. and im 15 and so is he. i mean i kno this may sound stupid but i really can see myself with him forever. like i dont want to be with anyone else. i kno i love him and not that fake stuff. i would do anything for him. i kno u all dont think i kno what love is bc im so young but thats ok. but i do love him with all my heart and i would die for him... but how many of you believe that u can love someone at 15?
id like to hear ur comments. ill rate. thanks..
Manda (link)
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Youth doenst matter. Although you must take what your parents say into consideration, they do not rule your lives. Talk to your parents, and maybe invite him over for dinner!
Hope I helped!
P.S. Its not to young. I've been in love with the same guy since i was 10 and i already want to marry him!lol Plus, i kno this author who fell in love with a girl at 13 and they've been married for 20 years this year. And the same thing with my parents, 21 years. Like aaliyah said, age aint nothing but a number...(rip)
ALissa
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Im 21 and female. I broke up with a guy about 2 years ago and ive had feelings for him ever since. I basically broke up with him because of another guy and regreted it after. Weve kept in touch and im pretty sure im in love with him and have been even since we broke up. I recently found out he is going to propose to his girlfriend. This really upset me and i dont want him to marry her. I guess my question is, is it wrong for me to tell him how i feel about him since hes planning on marrying this other girl? Should i tell him or should i just leave it alone and try to move on?
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You should tell him. If you dont, then you'll be regretting it forever, and you'll be overcome by the "what-if" syndrome...and that might stay with you even if you get married yourself!! Before he asks her, if you can, tell him how you feel, but dont make it really loud...tune it down alittle so he doesnt think that you are crazy and obsessed.
Hope I helped!!
ALissa
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Im going to a new school this year, and its my freshman year. The school that i'm goin to has a freshman building so it wont be as hard by bein picked on by older kids, but im still scared. i went to a private school for quite a while and now im not sure what to expect! And me and my best friend were both going to leave our private school and go the same public shcool , but at the last minute --7 or 8 days. her mom changed her mind and now shes not goin there any more with me so im really scared! Can you give me any advice to help out or anything? ive never really had problems fitting in but im not sure if i will. Thanx a bunch!! (link)
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Be yourself! If you act like yourself, then you will become more confident as the day goes on. I know, cause i went to a new high school, and i made alot of friends just in the first two weeks. If your still a little worried, find someone that you have the most classes with and start up a conversation. I actually have 6/7 classes with someone! Always look at all your opportunites before you give up!!
XoxO Alissa
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i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please. (link)
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If he keeps on treating you like that, then he really isnt the one for you. Instead of wwondering if you can get it back, yuo have to leave him. How can you have a relationship with someone who has feeling for another girl? If you go back out with him, then your both in denile, and the next time she wants him back, she won. If you tell him its over, then you have won. Dont let that stupid hormonal thing take you over!! Belive you me, sometimes you think you love him, but hony, you may not understand it fully. Give it sometime!!
Hope I helped...
ALissa
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Are the new colored ipods any different that the original ones? (like other than the color, like do they do anything else?) (link)
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i have heard that they are totally upgraded and rebuilt...whatever that means.**lol**
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What should I do about this...me and my boyfriend were talking about college and I got upset that he wasnt goin to be going to the same college as me the first semester, he wants to start the second.So I got upset over it and then he told me to drop him off so I did at like 3ish yesterday. An hour later he shut his phone off and it has been off since. I called his sister who I'm friends with because my boyfriend didnt show up to work today (he works for my dad) and she said he didnt come home last night. She also said that him n his friend went to her work last night but his friend is on vacation 2 hours away. He could of came back to pick him up though. If he went he wont be home untill Sunday. I tried calling his friend and his friend isnt answering his phone. What should I do? I'm so upset that my boyfriend would just go away and not tell em especially when I was so upset. What should I do if I can't get a hold of him? I feel like I'm lost (link)
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like icy said, give him space, dont pressure him. The next time you see him, approach him with a smile, and dont automatically jump to the subject thats on your mind. Ask him how his day was....just untill he talks to you about it or you feel that hes ready to go on that subject. Remember, the first step in a relationship is to LISTEN, as i have all so often reiterated.
Hope i helped!!
Alissa
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Hey! I was wondering if anyone new any "Inspirational" Friendship type songs. The songs I have so far are; Wind Beneath My Wings, I Believe I Can Fly, I Turn To You, Live Like You Were Dying, Ask Me, Coming Out Of The Dark, Hero, Angel, Angels Among Us, Angels In Waiting, I'll Be (By Reba). I know not all of those are Inspirational songs. But if you know any that someone can realate to because of a hard time. Like Ask Me is about sexual abuse, or songs about anxiety or depression post them too! Thanks! (link)
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Stole by Kelly (from destinys child). Stole is about a girl who had a chance to stop ppl from killing themselves and she didnt make the efort. I heard that the music video was perfect for the setting of the song.
Alissa
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