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Last Update: July 22, 2007
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So my boyfriend said I could use his computer to edit photos of the two of us. While I was doing so, I threw one away accidently and went to the recycle bin to retrieve it. I found all kinds of porn movies that he had downloaded. It literally made me sick: especially since he and I took dirty pictures and made dirty movies that he has on his computer. Why would he want to watch other girls and not me? It makes me extremely jealous.
My question is: how do I bring this up to him? I was by no means snooping, but I think it might come of that way. I have a feeling he'll get defensive as well. I just need a place to start from. Do I tell him the story of how I found it? Do I just come out and say "You looking at porn is hurtful to me"? Thank you for the advice in advance. (link)
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Most men look at porn. It does not mean he's any less into you. My own boyfrind watches it. I understand that is made you sick to your stomach.
Next time your together ask him to play the movie of the two of you. However, I highly advise you against making another with him cause in today's world he could post your home made movie on the internet. He could post the naughy pics of you on the internet.
he cares for you but views the women in the porn movies as objects. You know he doesn't have feelings for those women. Think of them as the bad girls. Think of these women as jerk off material.
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What exactly is a panic attack, like all the signs or how you know your having one ? (link)
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dizziness, sweats, not just the under arms but all over, like the palms, stomach pain, blurred vision, weird thoughts in your head. If you are having a panic attack on the scale of 1 to 10 it's possible that a 10 will make you faint.
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just curious..my friend asked me how to reduce the redness in her eyes when shes high so her parents cant find out..like certain things she can use? (link)
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Visine. There are a few kinds of visine. get the one that on the box says "gets the red out"
Visine can get the red out but it can't stop the munchies, laughter or silliness.
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im super selfconscience of my face. i am not ugly, and i dont have pimples or acne. my skin tone is white? i get tan in summer and i have an oliveish skin color. my eyebrows are brown and i have natually light brown hair. i have freckles, also some faical hair. its even imbarrasing to ask a private question about. i have kinda of a unibrown when i was younger (really light though), but its not there anymore because ive had my eyebrows waxed once and i get my eyebrows stringed at times, also i tweeze them. i also haev a mustach. its not dark but you can see it. i hate when people get close to my face and i have to look at all the pictures of me so my mustach isnt obvious. i am not going to get it waxed or anything, but is there any home remedies or something i can do to lighten it or make it less noticable? please and thank you
ps. my sister put lemon juice in my hair before because she said it lightens your hair, could i use that? (link)
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You can get a bleach for facial hair at a drug or a beauty supply store but then you just have a white mustach. I do not know of any home remedies and when I was younger I tried every thing. You can get a hair removal cream from a drug store. I used those for years. I've gone to a dr. and had laser hair removal and now I'm hair free!!!!
If you want the hair gone you need to use a hair removal cream or wax. You sound like a beautiful girl and you don't want a white mustach.
I've never tried lemon juice but it sure can't make the hair any darker.
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im 15 years old and i would like to start modeling...my parents said they would look into agencies for me. the problem is im conserned about mmy weight i have been trying to eat healthy to lose weight and it helps that i am very active but for some reason i dont lose weight easily...
i am 5 foot 6 1/2 and i weight 138 pounds should i lose weight? does anyone have tips on how to lose weight fast? (link)
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I am on the abs diet. you can get the diet for free from google.
The A stands for almonds and other nuts. The T is for turkey and other lean meats.
Avoid soda because it's empty calories. Drink water instead. No junk, fried or fast food. You can't lose weight without exercise. get yourself on an exercise routine. Get a gym membership or run. You need cereal or oatmeal and fruit for breakfast. You need vegetables. Avoid red meat.
You can't lose weight fast without gaining it back. Many experts agree that you should only lose 2 pounds a week. I think you should take my advice I've never been overweight and was always the thinnest girl in my class.
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what are all the diseases it is possible to get from giving handsjobs & blowjobs? (link)
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If you have no open wounds on your hands your safe from HIV. However, you can get herpes from skin to skin contact. Some people are so stupid they think there is only oral and genital herpes. You can give your boyfriend a handjob wearing a latex glove safely.
putting a penis in your mouth exposes you to all kinds of STD's including herpes. I know you don't want herpes on your mouth. The only difference between true love and herpes is that herpes is forever.
Men are so stupid they think they can receive oral sex safely. this is so wrong. if a woman has herpes and she gives a man a blowjob she can transmit the herpes to his penis. 70% of people got herpes from their partner when their partner had so signs of an outbreak. Just because it looks clean don't put it in your mouth!!!!! If a man ask you for oral sex you should ask him when he had his last HIV test. All men will tell you just to put it in your mouth and when they do RUN. You don't want anything funky.
Giving oral sex is not safe, neither is receiving.
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This will be verry long, but please bear with me and help.. I am desperate for advice right now..
I feel like there is no reason for me to live anymore. The past week my friends have stood me up and lied to me. My mom is a huge alcoholic so all she does is yell at me (like now), blaming me for her personal problems. My dad is always angry at me. I never know why, actually. I am always doing something that makes him mad. Whenever I have something to say, nobody listens. Usually they later regret it but that doesn't stop from ignoring me again. Also, my cousin cheerfully (at least it seemed like it) said I am invited to her birthday party. It would be a huge blast since she just turned 18. She said she would tell me when to get there.. but later after asking she never responded back, because she never told me. So she went without me. First of all, this meant SOO much to me because I haven't seen her in months, so I was looking forward to it.
She also did this a few other times so I wouldn't consider it an accident. She never wants to take me anywhere.
It's the same with my friends. I post bulletins on Myspace, saying how hurt I am or something, and nobody cares to reply back. You'd think out of 100 friends, one of them would, right? No.
I feel hated, betrayed, and lied to. I feel like I am everyone's punching bag.
I am mentally ill, actually. I have attempted suicide numerous times, once ending up in the ER. I get panic attacks and mental breakdowns. I do see my school counselor, but all she can do is calm me down. She doesn't help the problem, she just helps the way I feel. But I want the problem to be helped because all it does is it gets worse. I am sick and tired of being treated all crappy. I do nice things for people but the favor is never returned. Usually I don't expect any to be but I never get one returned.
My parents refuse to get me to a Psychologist. The most I can do right now is school counseling. I live in a crappy city so there is no shelters nearby or anything.
I want to die. I want to be gone. I am sure if I do die, everyone will be happy because right now everyone just gets mad at me for no reason. I have done nothing wrong, but I blame mysef everyday for just existing.
What can I do?? PLEASE HElP!!=[
ps - please don't ignore this because I know this site gets many questions about depression and suicide, and I know I am annoying you people for adding on to it. But I am ill, and I need help. Thanks. (link)
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I'm not going to ignore you because I understand. My parents were mentally and physically abusive. In high school I used my school counselor like a psyschologist too. Glad she was there and you are doing the right thing by seeing her. She has experience in these matters.
don't understand why your parents would refuse to get you a psychologist after your suicide attempts. Perhaps if you school counselor would recommend it your parents would listen. I have known people who have tried to kill themselves and ended up on a 72 hour mandatory stay in the psychiatric ward. However, I do not recommend nor do I want you to try to kill yourself again. I assure you, no one would be happy you were gone. Your mom would probably bitch about having to pay for the funeral.
Even when you do nice things for people it certainly doesn't mean they will go out of there way to do anything nice for you. Unfortunately that's the way people are. Most people are takers but not givers.
Your mom is an alcoholic so don't expect her to help you. She's to busy being a drunk. That's why she's always screaming at you. She has an addiction problem. It's not your fault she screams.
ever hear that song by Eric Clapton entitled No one loves you when you're down and out? Basically some people just can't be bothered to be around some one who is depressed. It brings them down.
I did not get the professional help I needed until I was 18 and moved out of my parents house.
By chance is there a free clinic close to your home? If so go there. Do you have grandparents? if so go there.
If you feel like a punching bag I think you should get your own punching bag and hit it when ever you want. I had one hanging in my closet until I recently moved.
You are not annoying people by asking for help.
please don't try to commit suicide again. I know things are bad right now but you have a future.
Send me a private message and I will give you me private e mail. You can get through this. Think of it as a dark cloud or a storm and remember that after every storm there is a rainbow.
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around my vagina it's dark and around my inner thighs too....is this normal?
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Although mine is the same color but lips are pinker than rest of me. The right work for outer lips is outer labia.
Yes it's normal. Sometimes the crack of your butt can be a darker shade than the rest of you too. Don't go by what you see in mens magazines cause all those pics are photoshopped or airbrushed.
Do you mean the inner thigh close to the vagina or your entire inner thigh?
All women look differnent and we're all beautiful and special.
One day you will have to get naked for a dr. hopefully your mom won't be in the room and you can discuss it with dr.
But I think you're a normal girl.
Can you wear a bikini without anyone seeing the 2 different skin colors?
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How do i tell if i have broken my hymen? (link)
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Has a man put his penis inside of you? The only person who could tell for sure is a ob/gyn.
Someone recently told me that a girls break their hymens earlier these days than they used to. This is because girls play aggressive sports today and they didn't in 1920. In theory I think it's possible. If a man has put his penis in you it's broken. I think I broke mine by using a tampon.
A finger in the vagina will also break the hymen. I did not bleed the 1st time I had sex but it sure did hurt.
When you have sex you need to use a condom each time you have sex. Read the instructions that are in the box and use it properly.
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I have heard people say "his penis touched your vagina so you are not a virgin" so that would be vise-versa with a guy too then? Or is it as soon as you finger a girl or get a handjob as minimum?
who the hell made up the word virgin anyway? (link)
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I'm not sure. The first time I heard the word I was 6. My parents sent me to a privare Christian school. I heard the story of the virgin Mary. So the word has been around for a while. In the world we live in it's such a double standard for men and women. There is no way a dr. can tell if a man is a virgin unless he has some kind of VD but a dr. can tell if a woman is a virgin. So a man can always lie and say he's a virgin.
If a man's penis only touches but does not enter the vagina technically the woman is still a virgin. But you need to know that you can get crabs and herpes through skin to skin contact.
I'm not an ob/gyn but I think I tore my own hymen by using tampons though technically I was still a virgin cause it was a tampon and not a penis.
Safe sex always okay. No glove no love. I'll do all I can to answer any question you have about sex honestly with no BS as I am an adult and have shall we say experience.
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whats going to hell in a handbasket (link)
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It's an expression. Means things are going bad and fast. Haven't heard that since I was a child. My dad used to say it.
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wahts culture shock in greater detail (link)
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I lived in Norfolk Virginia as a child. there were all different types of people of all skin colors, religious beliefs, is was racially and culturally diverse. There was always something to do and a variety of foods. We had public transpertation and shopping malls.
then my parents moved to a small town in Utah. Every one was white and Mormon. All the girls wore long frilly dresses. Caffeine was against their religious beliefs. They were "good girls" I couldn't wait to get out of there. There were no shopping malls or public transpertation. No place for teens to gather. To me that was culture shock.
A better example would be for an American woman to go to Saudia Arabia where she has no rights and is treated like property. In America a woman needs to know one word when it comes to divorce and that word is half. There is no such thing as community property in Saudia Arabia. In America a woman can go whrere she wants when she wants not the same in Saudia Arabia.
When an American woman goes to Saudia Arabia she would experience culture shock.
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what exactly is a victimless crime (link)
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It's a crime where no one got hurt and no property is damaged. Like disorderly conduct, or prostitution.
If you hit some one over the head and steal their wallet that is a crime where there is a victim. If you rob a bank that is a crime where there are victims cause you scared people and stole money. If you go to a store and steal there is a victim cause the store loses money. If a woman is sexually assaulted she is a victim of a crime.
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Okay so ive been with this guy for about 6 months and well, we've been getting more physical as time goes on. Last night, as previous nights, he inserted his penis, not all the way however. well that's what he says anyway. I mean it hurt and everything but as I started to pull him into me he stopped me and said "no, don't put it in all the way." Does this mean we are still both virgins? Another thing is that he likes oral but im not too crazy about it. Ive told him before that im not too comfortable with it and he said he was fine with it, but when we're in the moment he starts to beg for me to give him oral. what do i do? (link)
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If your hymen is broken you are no longer a virgin. If he put it in you you are no longer a virgin. I hope he used a condom because even if a man puts just the head in you can get a STD. The only difference between true love and herpes is that herpes is forever.
All men beg for oral sex. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you should not do it. Don't allow someone to preassure you into something you don't want to do. You can also get a STD from giving oral sex.
Of course he is "fine" receiving oral. If you know he's going to preassure you to have sex with him I think you should stay away from him. You don't want to get a nasty STD or pregnant.
I assume you are a teenager and you shouldn't give it up for a boy you've only been with for 6 months. Does he love you or does he just want sex? I say let him get sex elsewhere.
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14/f
my usualy daily meals are for
breakfast 7;30 am- cereal (wheates or cheerios) maybe some fruit
lunch 12:45 am- sandwitch, fruits, carrots, some wheat thins or crackers
snack 3:30 pm (aferschool): wheat thins or some snack (no junk food)
dinner: depends? usually a meal
then before bed: sandwitch or small bowl of cereal
is this too much or just enough? i am trying to loose some lbs and mostly just be healthy. i dont eat junk food really and no candy for lent. i also run for 20 minutes a day. what else can i do or am i fine? (link)
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I think you are on a healthy diet. If you're trying to lose weight avoid eating after 8pm.
It's rare that a 14 year old avoids junk food like you do. I hope you avoid soda too. You need 8 glasses of water a day. Also milk and orange juice. Avoid fried foods and fast food. A turkey sandwich is healthy because turkey is a lean meat.
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I met my bf online a year ago. We talk a lot, like everyday. We usually talk on skype, which is by the way a good program. One time, I called his house phone and asked for his name but an old lady said there is no one by that name who lives in there. I called the next week and i got the same answer. For some reason, he gave his password in his e-mail and maybe he forgot to delete his sent mails and read that all his mails had a a girl's name on the end. I asked him about it and "he" vehemently denied it. He said, he's sharing an e-mail account with his cousin Leah. Well, the pictures he gave me was that of a guy and he sound like a guy..he sounds husky. I am in love with him and I don't think I could accept the fact that my bf is a lesbian pretending to be a guy. He sent me pics of a guy, and even a driver's license with his name and picture on it. I asked him many times if he could get a webcam so i could view him but he always say, "yeah, next month baby..." until i completely forget about it. We plan to get married and he's coming over my country this christmas (as what he said). Now, im really confused. I don't know where to seek help to make sure if my bf is really a guy... My bf is from ontario, canada. (link)
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I think you should hold off on the wedding plans. It's easy to fool some one over the internet.
web cams have gone down in price so there is no reason why he or she doesn't have one. I know you are not a fool. What ever you do DON'T SEND MONEY!!!!!!
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I called my mom an assh*** and an idiot because I was upset with her and she took away my computer for the whole Saturday, she stole all of my money I'd been saving up for years and won't give it back. (It was about $130.00) and she slapped my head three times. while I was doing my duty in the bathroom. Oh yeah, and she hasn't stopped yelling at me for an hour and I can't do anything this whole weekend. Did I deserve all of this being taken away? Did she overact?
And I told her sorry but she doesn't believe me. I need to hang out with my friends! But how can I? (link)
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even though you called your mom an ass she had no right to steal from you. what she did is called theft and there is a law against it.
If your mom hit you that's called child abuse. Especially if she did this while you had your pants down on the toilet. You need to call Child Protective Services
You can forget about hanging out with your friends but you can file a police report for theft and child abuse. I hope from now on you find a safer place for you cash.
If you paid for the computer she had no right to take it away from you cause it's your personal property. If she paid for the computer she had every right.
Ask your mom to give you your money back because I assume you earned it. If she doesn't file a police report.
My mom stole $1500 from me when I was 17 and I never saw it again. I had planned on using that money for community college. Basically she stole my college money and today I don't have a degree. I have pleaded with my mom for the last 20 years to give me my money back and she hasn't. I should have filed a police report. You need to get your money back. If she doesn't give it back it cost you $130 to learn that your mom is a thief. Never trust her again.
If she still refuses to return the stolen cash you need to tell everyone in your family, your neighbors and your moms coworkers she stole cash from you. You can even post the fact she is a thief on Craig's List in the rants and raves section. Identify your mother by first middle and last name and the area of town she lives in.
I advise you not to call your mother an asshole again but perhaps thief if she refuses to return the stolen money.
GET YOUR MONEY BACK
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Has anyone been to guatamala? is it worth going for my 16th birthday? (link)
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I hope you choose another place other than Guatamala for your 16th birthday. It's no place for 16 year olds to be running around. If you must go you should bring many adults and stay in groups and never leave anyone alone. The crime rate is high there. Perhaps you should consider the Bahamas, the Virgin Islands, Florida, or the Florida Keys, Hawaii, Hollywood, California. The possibilities are endless. Hope you have a fun, happy yet safe birthday. For my 16th birthday my dad gave me a remote control car. Was I ever disappointed.
Can you afford to go to Paris? I know the Euro is more valueable than the American dollar. A $1.35 American will get you $1 Euro.
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when you have sex is it really necessary to be on the pill and have the guy wear a condom? or is it safe enough to just have a condom (link)
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Condoms are not 100% effective because most people don't use them properly. I highly suggest you read the instructions in the box. I use both methods of birth control myself just to be sure. The pill does not protect against STD's. A condom will decrease your risk of getting a STD but birth control pills won't. Also birth control pills will regulate your menstration cycle.
Use both not only to prevent pregnancy but to protect your health.
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uhh how long is a guys penis when he's 16? (link)
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the adverage size of an adult male's penis is 6 to 6 and 1/2 inches. However, I've seen bigger and I've seen smaller. When it comes to satisfying a woman it's about more than size. Anything over 8 inches is to big but under 4 inches is not enough in my personal opinion. Once I saw a guy with a 9 inch penis. It frightened me I did not have intercourse with that man. Thought he'd rip me apart.
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