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Is "he" lesbian??
I met my bf online a year ago. We talk a lot, like everyday. We usually talk on skype, which is by the way a good program. One time, I called his house phone and asked for his name but an old lady said there is no one by that name who lives in there. I called the next week and i got the same answer. For some reason, he gave his password in his e-mail and maybe he forgot to delete his sent mails and read that all his mails had a a girl's name on the end. I asked him about it and "he" vehemently denied it. He said, he's sharing an e-mail account with his cousin Leah. Well, the pictures he gave me was that of a guy and he sound like a guy..he sounds husky. I am in love with him and I don't think I could accept the fact that my bf is a lesbian pretending to be a guy. He sent me pics of a guy, and even a driver's license with his name and picture on it. I asked him many times if he could get a webcam so i could view him but he always say, "yeah, next month baby..." until i completely forget about it. We plan to get married and he's coming over my country this christmas (as what he said). Now, im really confused. I don't know where to seek help to make sure if my bf is really a guy... My bf is from ontario, canada.
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I think you should hold off on the wedding plans. It's easy to fool some one over the internet.
web cams have gone down in price so there is no reason why he or she doesn't have one. I know you are not a fool. What ever you do DON'T SEND MONEY!!!!!!
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Ask him are you lying to me
ask him are you really a guy
ask him plz today show me a webcam and i belive you
if doesn't show you that means he is probably lying to you.
ask him why does every time i call i answer to a old lady
ask him why does you never show me the webcam
tell him he better not be lying to you or the realationship is over
hope i help!!
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One thing is fairly certain in all this - this guy is not who he claims to be.
Consider:
He's probably given you a false name. The person who answered the phone could have been his mother, or his wife for that matter, and since you didn't have his real name she assumed it was a wrong number. Have you EVER called and gotten someone else who knows him by the name he gave you? Do you have any independent verification - something you didn't get from him - that the person he says he is exists?
There is NO REASON why someone would share an E-mail account with a cousin. They're free! I could go out and get a hundred E-mail accounts on a dozen different providers and never pay one thin dime. Why would he choose to share an account with someone? "Leah" is much more likely to be another alias he uses.
The pictures he sent you could have been anyone. Don't trust them. As for the driver's license, such things are easy to fake, especially since I'm guessing you are not a law-enforcement officer or a bartender and don't have much experience in detecting fake IDs.
It's suspicious that he won't get a webcam. I don't have one either, but I'm not having an online relationship with someone, and besides it seems strange he would tell you he plans to get one repeatedly and never actually do it. Clearly, he has something to hide.
If I were you, I would have serious second thoughts about this! If you've given him any personally identifying information, like a real name, address, and phone number, DON'T give him any more. If you plan to meet somewhere, do it in a public place and make sure someone knows where you are going and when you expect to be back. Better yet, have a friend go with you. He/she could stay out of sight, but you would have the backup if you needed it. (If he refuses to meet you unless you're alone, that's a red flag - don't agree to such terms!)
Whether he's a man or woman is the least of your worries. He probably IS a man, but he may be lying about everything else. Check the fact he's given you thoroughly before agreeing to meet him. If he gave you a driver's license, you must have his address; a quick look at Google Maps should tell you if there actually is a house there, and an online Canadian phone book should give you a phone number.
It is SO easy to lie and deceive in an online relationship. Before you progress any further with yours, you need to have some solid, independent evidence that he is who he says he is. This is not needless paranoia and it is not exaggerating to say that your personal security is at risk. Even if he's not a psychopath, he could be an identity thief or other form of con artist.
Seriously. Please. Check your facts before giving him any more information about yourself, and certain don't agree to meet him until you can be SURE of who he is.
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first off, you can't trust anyone online. and if you plan on meeting him, you shouldn't do it alone. trust me. there is a chance that he is lying and is trying to hide something from you, but there may just be a chance that he's not and he's just embarressed to let you see him. I don't know the situation entirely, but you need to ask him directly, i know it'll be embarrassing and if he says he loves you, then tell him that he needs to tell you the entire truth and if he can't do that then maybe you shouldn't be meeting him. and i just want to warn you be really careful about what you tell him, he may not be who you think he is and it could turn out really really bad.
hope this helps in any way shape of form.
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