I'm a fourteen year old girl from California. I'm a rabid liberal/feminist an a writer. I've been through cutting, and I'll try not to give bad advice. Ask me whatever you like . . . I'm not so good on romance questions, with a lack of any significant experience, but I'm good on everything else.
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Hey, ive been told im "hott"or"sexy" and i just dont feel that way. . .i mean other paeople may think so but im 14 and i have long blonde hair, dark green eyes i fill a large B cup have okay hips and my butt is a lil big. . .i personally think im too skinny im about 5' 6" and i only weigh 115 lbs. i dont kno if thats a bad thing. . .but i was wondering if i could have some advice about how i could make myself look better make-up, or maybe even gain weight? i dun know but if you wanna, can you halp me plz. . . .?
-Candi (link)
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You're not underweight. Your BMI is 18.6, and the cut off for underweight is 18.5. So you're quite skinny, but still perfectly healthy.
Just eat right and exercise. About the butt, go to http://exercise.about.com/cs/exerciseworkouts/tp/butt.htm where they have some butt exercises. Google around for more. Exercise is always good.
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Hi I am a 26 yearold lady and my husband has been beating me eversince we got married he even beats are adopded child and she is only 2 I am always trying to keep me and Shauna (my daughter) away from the house when people call for me he says im not there and hangs up and then throws the phone at me this may sound wierd about me asking a 15 year old for advice but any advice will help thank you (link)
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You have to get out of there and away from him as soon as possible. He's beating you and he's beating your kids. Pack your bags and leave with the kids while he's out and go to a relative's house, a friend's house, or a battered women's shelter. Then divorce him. You'll get custody of the kids if he hurts them too.
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ok well this is kinda weird, ok well usually white people try to act black, but my friend shaniqua is black but she tries to act mexican! i am soo serious!! she has only mexican friends (besides me) and she calls herself a beaner and eats tacos and beans all the time, i mean constantly and personally its gross because she farts a lot from the beans, even on her webpage it says im a beaner, and mexican signs n shit, what do i do??????????????
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Let Shaniqua do her thing. She must like it. And tacos are delicious (at least in SoCal, close to the border. Taco Bell and Del Taco ones are nasty) so don't blame her. If it's just a phase, then she'll get over it.
The white people who try to be black are odd. So is she. But oddness is good, so go out and eat tacos with her.
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I have a very small room!!! how can I make it seem bigger?!?!?!? ALSO i have green carpet :( what can I do?!?!?!?!?!?!? HELP (link)
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Mirrors and light colors. Paint your walls white, if they aren't already, and see about getting a different colored carpet, in a light color.
Mirrors are great. Get the largest mirror you can find and stick it on one wall. Put mirrors in the corner as well.
Keep your furniture to the sides too, I suppose. Don't stick your bed in the middle of the room, but shove into a corner.
If you have windows, leave them open.
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hi im a 12 year old girl and i was wondering when is a good time and age to get my 1st bra
also if u wear 1 does it help u get a bf or to get guys to stair more (link)
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There is no certain age. Basically whenever you can't run without having uncomfortable jiggling. Or earlier, if you are so inclined or if you need to change in a shared changing room and don't want everyone to see you.
It does not help to get you a boyfriend of to get attention of guys. You get more attention by not wearing a bra when you badly need one.
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what do the smiley faces on the right side of each question mean?? (link)
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They show what the question quality is. A smiley face means a good question that's fun to answer. A frown means it's a sucky question, and the in between face means it's not great, but not bad.
Level 1 moderators (advicenators whose advice has been rated above a four) can rate these questions.
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ok im trying to rearrange/redecorate my room and i have kind of like a lilac color on the wall with white trim and white doors. well i have this old furniture thats like old wood and i need to do something new with it that would match the lilac/white color scheme in my room. if you have ne ideas please help! im totally lost:( (link)
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You could paint it yourself. Look up instructions on the web, buy some paint, and be artistic with your furniture. You can go from complicated to simple when you paint it. You can do solid color, stripes, or something completely different.
If you don't want to paint it, either because the furniture is too nice or because you don't have time, then buy some nice cloth and pin bits of it to your furniture. You can do a nice job with that, if you want to. Get some different patterns, and attack your dresser/bookshelf/desk.
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My cousins are visiting from cali and i need some ideas for pranks do to on my cousin Adam cause we've been pickin on each other since he got here and hes threatened to like shaving cream me and stuff while i sleep. I need some good ideas but nothin too harsh. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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put make up on him while he's asleep. that's quite harsh for a boy, I suppose, but worth a laugh. Just be sure to take multiple pictures.
Replace his conditioner with hair dye.
Get a friend that he's never met to dress skimpy, come over to your house, and give him a big hug. Tell him she's a door to door prostitute. ^^ Or do the same thing in public.
In a crowded place (like a mall) yell, "THIS IS ADAM! HE'S IN LOVE WITH __________" Put a random name or a celebrity in the blank.
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Alright well Im 16 yrs old..Soon to be 17 and I've slept with 7 different people. Is that considered a slut? I dont think Im skanky or anything, I just enjoy sex! Is that wrong? Im very open about my sexuality and people think Its wrong to be, Alot of people joke around and say that Im a nympho and shit like that..I need advice and I want people to truthfully tell me what they think. Dont be afraid to tell me the truth..Be straight up!! *Thnks* (link)
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You're not a slut. Ignore the people who say you are. If you were a guy you'd be considered "masculine" (I assume from your letter that you are a girl because of the nympho comment and use of word 'slut')
You've had sex with a lot of people for 16, but really, does it matter? You seem to like it.
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Hey,
I was wondering if anyone could help me out here obviously lol. Well anyway, im 13 and ive been with my boy friend for almost 2 years(( yeah i know i know a long time to be tied down for my age)). We have done everything but have sex. Ive been thinking about having sex but i know that im not physically and mentally ready, and im for sure not old enough to have sex or even do what im doing. I was just wondeirng if its normal to think what im thinking, what it would be like to have sex and all. Thanks!:) (link)
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Thinking about sex is perfectly normal.
If you're not ready to have sex, then don't. It's good that you know yourself well enough to tell us that you aren't.
When you know you're ready, go ahead, but use protection.
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god ok my mom is s0o0o overprotective and doesnt trust me worth crap cuz im 13 and we already start havin bfs and my mom just thinks were all out to have sex and were all sluts n stuff and she wont let me go to the mall w/out a parent and she wont let me up past a certain time ((its the fricken summer! hullo! lol)) and then she wont let me go tanning cuz she says its taking a risk of gettin skin cancer since my brother had cancer and now shes waaaaaay to overprotective cuz of that and im sick of it! and shes always finding notes.. and she goes thru my backpack all the time and so now all im doing is hiding stuff from her and seriously its like im in jail and she says the next time she finds a bad note or finds out im doing stuff w/ guyz n stuff shes gonna like be around me 24/7 and i have to have a room next to her and im rilly scared thats wuts gonna happen.. wut should i do? (link)
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Ask her why she doesn't trust you. Tell her because of the way she acts, you don't feel that you can trust her with anything. Say that you need your privacy (and you do. it's not healthy to have her looking through your back pack all the time.)
You can find articals on overprotective parenting and show them to her. I found a good one at:
http://www.namb.net/helplink/pnt-oppnt.asp and http://www.indiaparenting.com/articles/data/art09_012.shtml.
Try working on her for specific rules like not being able to go to the mall alone. You're thirteen, you should be able to wander around a mall with friends for a few hours without getting arrested or some such.
On the tanning thing, she might have a point. Skin cancer is baaaaaaad.
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i think i am fat.. (i weigh 130 and i'm 5'6"). i have tried to diet by eating healty and i still do but it isn't working. also, i excercise all the time by playing baseball, running, working out, and playing with my neighbors. i keep trying but i just can't lose weight! does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
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You are NOT overweight. You are right in the middle of being normal, according to your BMI. (google "BMI calculator" if you don't believe me) and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself.
Still, exercise is always good, so keep on doing the sports and working out. Healthy food is also good, so keep doing that.
Now that I think of it, it occurs to me that since you do so much exercise, you're probably quite muscly. Muscle weights A LOT more than fat, so you're probably on the skinny side of normal, rather than in the middle.
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my mom just got married,so i have a stepdad...i don't like him cause he doesnt do nothin & tells me what to do...all he does is sit in his ''spider man'' underwear & watches buffy-the-vampire...how do i try to get along with him????
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this is a difficult situation, I suppose.
Watch Buffy with him, because it's a great show, and try to get to know him better.
Maybe catch your mum at a time when she's receptive and talk to her about it.
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one of ma best mates really hates my other mate i really dont no wot to do can sum 1 help m,e (link)
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Don't hang out with both of them at the same time, which is pretty obvious.
If you CAN'T avoid both of them (like if you go to the same school) and they get jealous when you hang out with the other one, just tell them that you are sick of being stuck in the middle. Raise a fuss if they don't listen the first time.
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my sis neva even talks to me ne more. she acts as if im invisible.how can i get her to notice me (link)
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try to convince her to go do something fun with you, like going to see a movie you both like and NOT bringing any friends. Or just go out for lunch or dinner, or walk into her room late at night if you live in the same house and talk to her.
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i really fancy my teacher. he is so cute. i havnt told ne of my mates coz they will tell him plz can sum 1 help me (link)
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try to get over it. he's your teacher, it's illegal. It's normal to have a thing for a teacher, but wait a few weeks and it will probably go away. If it doesn't, make thinking about him your guilty pleasure but never act on it.
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i just had sex with my dad and i'm afraid that he got me pregnent..what the hell do i do! i'm so scared. is it possible for my dad to get me pregnent (link)
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I do hope your joking. The sad thing is that there's a good chance you're telling the truth.
If you're underage, that counts as rape, so get help now. Call a rape hotline, talk to another family member or friend, and get the police.
It is quite possible for you to get pregnant from him, but the baby would probably be born with birth defects. It would probably be a good idea to get an abortion.
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i bite my nails all the time. somtimes i bet them some much or so hard, they bleed. it really hurts but i cant stop especially when im nervous. what do i do to stop?? (link)
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try wearing gloves when you're home alone. That way you get out of the habit of biting your nails normally, and when you go out you won't be so inclined to bite.
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hey, can anyone help me out? its like 1:48 a.m. and i can't get to sleep. i was wondering if anyone knows any good sites? i'd really appreciate anything! thank you so much!
~bored (link)
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web comics are great. you can find them at keenspace.com and onlinecomics.net. Good ones are errantstory.com, noneedforbushido.com, and sgvy.com.
if you just want something to read, try fanfiction.net, fictionpress.com, dailyscript.com. or simplyscripts.com.
Quizzes are loads of fun too. Quizilla.com, memegen.deskslave.com, and kwiz.biz. (I have an uber-spiffy one on there, btw. Find it at http://kwiz.biz/showquiz.php?quizid=7029)
Hope I helped!
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can you help me find some books to read?i've read all the harry potters like 100 times, all the lemony snicket books,inkheart by cornelia funk,the traveling pants series,like all the books by louisa may alcott,chasing redbird,and mostly all the royal diary books, a lot of others too. could you please give me some advice on series and books to read? (link)
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Yay! A bookworms favorite question!
Inn young adult, which seems to be a favorite with you, I would suggest:
Eragon - Don't remember the author.
This is a fantasy story about a boy called Eragon and a dragon. He has magical powers, and goes on a quest to stop a power hungry king. He finds an underground city and a beautiful elf, among other things.
Everything by Tamora Pierce, particularly the Song of the Lioness series. They're set in the land of Tortall, and Song of the Lioness starts with the book "Alanna: The first adventure." They are about a girl who dresses up as a boy so she can be a knight. There's magic and theives and romance later on. Fun stuff! ;-) There are also other series by the same author set in the same place. The ones about Daine, a girl who talks to animals, are quite good.
Philip Pullman's His Dark Material's series. The first is "The Golden Compass," but it is called "The Northern Lights" in the UK. The first book is set in an alternate universe where things are just a bit more old fashioned, people have daemons, and there are witches and intelligent bears. The second book takes place in two or three different universes, and there is a lot of travel between them. The third book takes place across MANY universes. These books are excellent in everyway, but if you are easily offended, they have quite a bit of stuff that is very anti-established religion, Christianity and Catholocism in particular.
Georgia Nicholson books (I think the first one is "On the Bright side, I'm now the girlfriend of a sex god") are the diaries of a 15 year old Georgia Nicholson, a british girl who has much trouble with romance.
If you're interested in more adult books, I would recommend "Bridget Jones' Diary" by Helen Fielding, and the sequel, "The Edge of Reason." It's the diary of a british woman, Bridget, and her mishaps with members of the opoposite sex. So basically the same as Georgia Nicholoson only a bit funnier and with a bit more adult content. (Also, the movie for the first book is great!)
"The Ear, The Eye, and the Arm" by Nancy Farmer, and her other book, "A Girl named Disaster" are also very good. They're both set in Africa, one about two hundred years into the future, and the other either now or in the recent past.
Meg Cabot's other series of books, The Mediator books, are also very good. She wrote the first bunch under the name Jenny Carroll, so when looking for the Mediator books, look under that name. They're about a sixteen year old girl who can talk to ghosts, and quite amusing. The first book in the series is called Shadowland.
Patricia C Wrede is a GREAT author. She has a book of short stories called "Book of Enchantments" and she wrote the Enchanted Forest series of four books. They are a sort of fairy tale spoof. The first one, "Dealing with Dragons," is about a princess called Cimorene who runs away from home to escape a marriage, and volunteers to clean house for a dragon. She soon gets tangled up in dealing with wizards and a stone prince.
If you like Louisa May Alcott, you might like E Nesbit. Her books could be a bit young for you, because I read them when I was quite a bit younger, but I was one of those insane children who read waaaaaaaay ahead of my level.
This is becoming insanely long, I'll wrap it up soon.
Crusader, by Edward Bloor, contemporary fiction about a girl whose mother died. She works in an arcade, with her father who doesn't really care. The plot is very hard to explain, but it's a great book, and very difficult to put down.
Mary, Bloody Mary, historical fiction about queen Mary of England, by Carolyn Meyer. The same author also wrote a book about Queen Elizabeth and about Anne Bolyne. I would recommend both of them.
Old Magic, by Marianne Curley. Romance and medieval time travel, woo hoo!
Heh . . . okay, I'll stop now . . .
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