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my mom is soo overprotective!
god ok my mom is s0o0o overprotective and doesnt trust me worth crap cuz im 13 and we already start havin bfs and my mom just thinks were all out to have sex and were all sluts n stuff and she wont let me go to the mall w/out a parent and she wont let me up past a certain time ((its the fricken summer! hullo! lol)) and then she wont let me go tanning cuz she says its taking a risk of gettin skin cancer since my brother had cancer and now shes waaaaaay to overprotective cuz of that and im sick of it! and shes always finding notes.. and she goes thru my backpack all the time and so now all im doing is hiding stuff from her and seriously its like im in jail and she says the next time she finds a bad note or finds out im doing stuff w/ guyz n stuff shes gonna like be around me 24/7 and i have to have a room next to her and im rilly scared thats wuts gonna happen.. wut should i do?
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wow yeah that does seem a bit too overprotective but at the same time, i kinda see why your mom would do it- maybe she had a bad experience as a girl your age and her parents didnt do enough to protect her so she wants to make sure it doesnt happen to you..or maybe she's trying to protect you from the crazy world out there, which im sure she knows she can't protect you from everyhting since every person needs to experience everything on their own...but umm waht i would suggest, is sit your mom down, talk to her, tell her that you see what goes on...and youre responsible ...but have some compromises with her- tell her that you'll keep your curfew as long as she trusts you with things and respects your privacy by not goign through your stuff...have her meet your frieds so she knows who youre out with and what youre doing and then she'll see that you respect her wishes so she'll learn to respect yours too...chuck the notes when you can to keep yourself out of trouble and make sure you make a good impression..that's where trust comes from- good luck, let me know if i helped =]
love elle
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Well haha I can completly relate to everything you just said. When i was 13 my mom was just as protective, and my dad had cancer so she wont let me go tanning ( even though i do it anyways ). Seriously as you get older your mom will start to trust you more but what i advise is for you to start getting involved in her life, your still her "little girl" and she`s afraid of letting that go, if you spend your whole life fighting back at her you guys will drift further apart and she`ll trust you less. So start doing activites with your mom and talk to her about your life so she understands that your just having fun and not sleeping around and what not. I wish i had known that when i was 13 !!
xO.Carrie
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EhK.. everyones mum is overprotective.. seriously.. and tha backpack thyng sound totally familiar.. just make it so that she isnt fyndin anything.. i mean.. not by hydin it.. i mean by tellin ur friends ur situation.. and tell em not to write bad noted cuz ur mum will make ur lyk miserable.. and about tha bed tyme.. wow.. well.. just see bout gettyn a computer in ur room or wutever or just watch tv in there or sumthyn till u fall asleep.. Or!! just stay at ur friends houses all summer long.. so that wae you dont have to be around her.. hehe.. YeAh!
P.s.. eye LuV mai mum.. l0l..
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Ask her why she doesn't trust you. Tell her because of the way she acts, you don't feel that you can trust her with anything. Say that you need your privacy (and you do. it's not healthy to have her looking through your back pack all the time.)
You can find articals on overprotective parenting and show them to her. I found a good one at:
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Try working on her for specific rules like not being able to go to the mall alone. You're thirteen, you should be able to wander around a mall with friends for a few hours without getting arrested or some such.
On the tanning thing, she might have a point. Skin cancer is baaaaaaad.
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You sound like one of my friends from high school.
She never really got away from the overprotectiveness. She ended up moving in with her first love before she even got out of high school. After that she barely every saw her mother.
During out first year of college she got a call from her younger brother saying that her mom had to be sent to boston to a hospital. She was really sick (I never found out with what because she doesn't talk about it much) On valentines day her mother passed away.
This is a true story, I wouldn't make something like this up. Yes, your mother sounds a bit overprotective (but I agree with the tanning thing) but don't just get mad at her and hide everything from her. Talk to her and let her know that your responsible. She's probably afraid of losing you. And, like my friend found out, you could lose her a lot sooner than you think, so don't spend this time argueing.
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I think you should have a talk with your mom. Ask her why she is like this. Try to gain her trust. Maybe find something you both have in common and do that together so you both can bond have a have more of a mother daughter relationship. Then she might be able to trust you more. Just remember she is just trying to protect you because she cares about you and she loves you.
*Zoe*
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Wow u sound like me,
Talk it over with your mother. Ask her why shes like this,and then tell her you will be ok with or without a parent
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=0) ok you just have to gain your moms trust, sit her down and talk to her or even have your friends come over and talk to her with you! and tell her how you like your privacy and that you feel she does not respect you enough, all mothers are over protective but its just because they love you ;)
and about tanning it is very risky i did not start until i was 14 almost 15 and if you do go..dont go often because it is very bad but tanning ouside if your best bet!
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