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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for 11 months now and we love each other a lot. i've recently moved in with him although that was his idea for me to move in with him but i'm happy to be move in with him. i just think it's too soon as well. i love him so much and he loves me loads as well. he says he wants to have a long relationship with me and also he says he is ''serious'' about me. we both are in early 30's. so my question is, what does he mean by ''serious'' and ''long relationship''? more thoughts and answers, please. thank you all for answering. cheers.
well... it means exactly what it says.. he wants a serious and long relationship with you.. meaning he wants to have a future with you. get married, have kids, live together forever. He obviously is in love with you and adores you. And 11 months is not that early to be saying those things. My boyfriend said those things to me when we were dating for only 6 months.
Note- If you feel like its "too soon" to be moving in with him. And you're questioning his feelings for you.. then I highly recommend you reconsider your feelings for him. It sounds to me like you're unsure whether you're ready for this kind of commitment. If he isn't what you want, then please save him the heartbreak and just end it now. Don't lead him on if this isn't what you want.
Good luck!
Is clearasil oil free daily face wash a good product to use? Cause I just got this evening and used it a few hours ago and my friend has it and her skin is very clear. I don't have too many pimples but I'm a 13 year old girl so it's my age too but I want something that works and it's probably too soon to tell but it looks a little bit better than before. So any advice on this or other skin products is good! Thank youu! :)
I had difficulty with clearasil.. It worked for me for about 2-3 weeks.. then it started making my skin worse. it got dry, flaky, then oily, then broke out. It was ok for me. It wasn't a miracle worker.. it was just an okay thing for me. Sometimes it would work, other times it wouldn't.
Right now i'm using Burt's Bee's Soap Bark and Chamomile Face Wash and its honestly the BEST i've ever used. My favorite thing about this face wash is that its all natural :) there's no horrible ingredients in it or crap like that. Its all natural :) I wash my face 2x a day using this. Its amazing because after i'm done washing my face, my skin feels SO smooth, you don't even need to use a moisturizer afterwards because it feels so smooth afterwards. And it has that tingling clean feeling :)
One time I used a lot of make up and I washed my face using that cleanser, and i SWEAR my face looked better after I washed all the make up off, rather than when my make up was on :) It looked so clean and clear :)
http://www.epinions.com/reviews/Burt_s_Bees_Soap_Bark_Chamomile_Deep_Cleansing_Cream_6_oz
I highly recommend this product. And if you look at that website, a lot of people recommend it too. A reason why you shouldn't use proactiv (like the other person said) is because it has all these harsh chemicals and it works for some people, but for others with sensitive skin (like mine) it just makes it worse. This product is all natural and I can guarantee you that you'll love it :)
Hi 15f I Havel liked a guy for close to a year and I've finally sorta got him outta my head by falling for my friend he's like a big softhearted guy and he's a ladies man asinine eveyone loves him not in a love love way. But I'm in a different country and he's here to should I just keep flirting bc I kinda want something to happen like a kiss but I kinda don't bc the group I'm with were all gonna stay at this place with no adults and like some people say we would be cute together like but Idk if he likes me he always tries to kinda be by me but there's always the other girls who are just friends but they get so much in the way idk what to do help please
your question kind of confuses me. let me get this straight.. you like this guy. you want to kiss him. but are too scared because you don't know if he likes you back?
Well since you don't know for sure if he likes you.. I say just talk to him and make him notice you. You said these other girls keep getting in the way? well what do they have that you don't have?? You can do anything they can do, but better :) You have to have that attitude that screams "you're nothing better than me." don't let them get in the way and stop you.. Just go up to him and talk to him. Be a little flirty, ask for his number. Talk to him and be friends with him. If he shows positive signs that he likes you back, then you can make another move and hopefully it will progress far enough that something could happen between you 2.
good luck!
Ok so me and this guy I like were flirting alot. & we started asking each other questions I asked him if he thinks" he's a good kisser?" he said "yeah maybe I'll show you sometime."
We both know we like each other & were playing to hangout in the next few days @ the lake. I really want to kiss him but I'm nervous. P.s. Im a girl and almost 15. How do I make it were we kiss thou?
kissing is a natural art and beauty. Its not rocket science. there's no manual.. there's no right or wrong way of doing it. Kissing is merely 2 lips touching each other. Its one of the best sensations someone can give and feel.
When you guys hang out, make sure you're flirty (just as a pre-kissing warm up haha). Touch him on his arms or hands. smile a lot. laugh. tease him a little. 1 of the first moves you can make when you kiss someone is leaning in towards them and being close to them. So you just have to find the right moment to kind of lean in towards him. some examples would be- its cold and you want to lean into him to be warmer. you want to tell him a secret so you lean into him. etc. then just stare into his eyes and smile. Another move you can make to let him know you want to kiss him, is to look at his lips. If he's looking at you, he will see that you're staring at his lips. And that is a key to wanting to kiss someone. If he looks at your lips too, then you know its time to kiss him :) then all you have to do is pucker up and plant one on him hahaha.
But no, seriously.. kissing is something that comes naturally. I know you're not asking us "how" to kiss.. but rather how to make a move to kiss. My best advice is to just wait for the right moment. Don't force it, just let it happen naturally :)
There is this boy i like, he is also one of my close friends but he is not the same guy as the guy i was talkin about in my other question 'I have a crush on my best friends major crush',i have taken that advice and have gave up on his crazy signs and fighting with my friend for it.
I have liked this guy for a while now,even when i liked the other guy.
He is really sweet and nice to me, we hang out a lot and talk to each other on social networking.
i think he likes me and have been giving lots of signs, i am not sure if askin for his number would be awkward and will make it obvious that i like him or if it would seem like a friendship thing.
We are great friends and dont keep secrets from each other, all of his friends thinks he likes me and my friends think we would make a great couple.
I dont know if i should tell him how i feel or how he would react.
i really like him and am not sure what to do.
be brave and just do it :) don't hold back, have no regrets!
The key to this is doing it in a nonchalant way and making it seem like no big deal. Casually talk to him about something. Then switch the topic to something you'd like to do.. for instance, lets say you want to see this new movie coming out. Bring up the movie topic and ask him if he's seen it. If he hasn't, just be like- oh yeah i want to see that movie too. we should watch it together! If he has seen it, make it seem like no big deal. be like- oh ok i was just wondering if its good or not. If he agrees to doing something with you (like seeing that movie you mentioned) then be like- ok here's my number (324-234-2343) text or call me whenever you're free and we will go see the movie (or whatever else you want to do).
If he starts acting weird or awkward about it (which I dont see why he would.. i mean he obviously likes you..) then make it seem like its not a big deal and be like- ok maybe another time.
be brave and confident :) guys like that in a girl! good luck :)
Id like to hear yalls opinions about tongue rings on girls 18+. Ive always wanted one because I loveee piercings/tattoos, I like the way they look, and I always like to have something in my mouth like straws, pens, cigarettes (i really want to quit). I wouldn be that girl whos always showing it off and would want it far back enough where its not terribly noticable.
Do you think its trashy when a girl has a tongue ring? (Like i said, not showing if off but if you just noticed when she was lauging or something)
Thanks!
I don't think its trashy.. but i can be judgmental and think "oh that girl probably gets into a lot of trouble". to me- its intimidating and makes me think the girl is a trouble maker or risk taker haha.
But if you want one, then go ahead and get one :) don't let other people's opinions stop you from doing what you like :)
hi i have a twin and I REALLY think she hates me. the thing is that we are very different she is .... meaner and i always try to be honest and she lie all the timee i dont know what to do she is my only sister and i dont know what am doing wrong i always help her but she doesnt care about mee please tell me what to do
There's not much you can do besides talking to her about it. Communication is key. Tell her how you feel and how much you love her and want things to be different (in a good way) between you guys. I'm pretty sure you girls weren't always like this. I'm sure there was a time in both of your lives that you both loved each other and were getting along. Remind her of those times and how much you loved them. Ask her what happened and why she's different. Also let her know you're there for her if she needs to talk about anything and you're there to help her because you love her.
Just be open and honest with her, and maybe she will be the same way. If not, then keep trying. Nothing's worth it if you don't have to fight for it.
OK this may be a dumb question, but just need some answers. I normally sweat a lot more than most girls, I am 21 years old and a college volleyball player. I am not in perfect shape, but I do work out a lot and would like to think im overall pretty healthy. However I feel like lately I have been sweating a lot more, like all over my body, even from my arms and legs. It has been very humid lately..so could that just be it?
Is there anyway to stop sweating from my face and head/neck as much? it gets really bad even if im just sitting outside when its hot
Hi :)
I'm a volleyball player too!
Anyways, I think its just the humidity. It has been very hot everywhere lately. I live in minnesota (way up north) and its been getting to about 100 degrees fahrenheit everyday and its normally not that hot.
Sweating is good for you though. It gets all the yucky stuff out of your system. I don't really know how to control it besides keeping a fan or air conditioning on around you. Use some good deodorant. wear a sports headband around your head to keep sweat from dripping on your face and neck.
I wouldn't really worry about anything because sweating is normal. But if you're really worried about excessive sweating, then talk to your doctor about it.
Good luck and go volleyball :)
18/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years. We did not start having sex until the two year mark and we were eachother`s firsts.
Although we delayed sex for a long while, we were active in foreplay. I really enjoyed this and there was never really a problem. However, lately whenever he tries to touch me, regardless of how long and where I feel extremely sensitive down there; to the point it feels sore and I make him stop. This is not a problem at all during sex, only foreplay now.
Its starting to really discourage my boyfriend since ive gone from loving that stuff to avoiding or asking him to stop very early on. I dont know why this is happening, or what I can do to prevent it. Any ideas? Its starting to REALLY frustrate us both.
Thanks
well he can't get mad at you for something like this... that is really immature. What the heck are you supposed to do? bear the pain? Obviously something isn't right with your vagina if its hurting this badly. How would he feel if his penis started hurting and you suddenly got pissed off at him because of it.. its not very fair of him to be mad because your body is physically hurting.
hon, I cant tell you whats wrong with your vag. Nobody on this website can. The best answer I can give you is just go to the doctor and see if something's wrong. It could be an infection or something. Is it red and itchy or anything??
Try taking a break from foreplay and sex for a few days and see if it gets better. maybe its just overused??
best bet- go to the doctor!
I am in student council and I need some ideas on what three colors would go well together for the dance. Please give me all the ideas you have!
pink, blue, yellow is my favorite combination :)
I really like this guy, and i wanna start flirting.... How do i not make it obvious that i'm flirting? Please help
Be happy around him. Make him notice that you're always in a good mood around him :) Smile, laugh, make jokes, compliment him, touch him etc.
Just like the other person said, just be yourself :) If you act how you normally act, then he should like you for who you are :)
why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys.
there's 2 points of views on this.. he could just be really sweet and trying to flatter you. My boyfriend calls me cute names too like baby and honey.
But there's also a point of view that he could just be calling you these names because he might be seeing other women, and doesn't want the names to get mixed up. so its easier for him to call all the women "dear" or some other cute name.
I dont know this guy, but considering there's a huge age difference, and he's 45 and not married.. then it could be possible he's seeing other women. But i could definitely be wrong, considering I don't know him. Keep youre eyes and ears open just in case though! But it could just be nothing and that he's just a sweet boyfriend who likes to call his girlfriend "dear" :)
How can I ask my parents about BirthControl?
hahah I didn't even ask my parents. I just went to planned parenthood and got it myself. Its less embarrassing and easier for me because then I wouldn't need "the talk". Plus I got it for free :)
But if you really want to talk to your parents about it, then you just have to be honest with them. Tell them why you want to get it. Name off the benefits of it (lighter periods, wont get pregnant, controls acne, etc). tell them how badly you want to get it.
Just realize, its not an easy topic. The topic of Birth Control is the equivalent of the topic of sex. You and your parents may have different points of views on the topic. So if you decide to ask them about it, be prepared for some kind of argument or discussion.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions.
Did he really reject me?
Basically I told a guy I liked I really liked him. He said it's fine, I'm OK with that, he told me he really liked me too and that I was a great person, an amazing person but he just got out of a two year relationship and he's fed up with all of that. I mean I told him I got out of a 6 year relationship and that I know how it felt losing someone. I told him that I'm not expecting him to like me back but he cut me off saying "no, it's not that I don't like you, I really really do like you a lot, but I don't want to be tied down in another relationship".
I know how it feels to break up with someone but I've heard this all before whenI ask out a guy, he'd reject me and say he's just broken up from a relationship. The thing is, at the pub today, he kept wanting to sit next to me when my friend sat on his chair and that he asked me constantly whether I'm going to the pub with the others. He leaned closer to me but not to a point where he nearly hugged me, it made my friend say "you make a cute couple". He has a lot of girls liking him and that he likes that attention.
i don't think he rejected YOU.. but I think he rejected the idea of having another girlfriend. Make sense?
In other words, he obviously likes you because you said he kept wanting to sit next to you and kept leaning in towards you. So he's definitely interested.
But he's not interested in having a girlfriend.
If i were you, just keep it cool. Be friends with him. don't start anything serious. Keep in contact and if he likes you bad enough, he will want to start something eventually. dont force him or force yourself. If its meant to be, then it will happen.
I have some really close guy friends and they dont even know all of me, i have been hanging out with them for about five,six or seven months, we are all very close and tell each other everything.
The thing is,they think i am full on tomboy, they think i am a gamer, love horror movies and dress like a guy and they are completely right,that is me but i also like playin around with makeup with my friends and talkin about guys and dressing up and getting pretty when going out for something special like going out for dinner at a restaurant.
I feel that if they know i am like this aswell they might not like me and will be different around me,
i am a tomboy on the inside but i am a mix between a girly girl and a tomboy on the outside.
I just want to them to act and feel the same around me,
Please help!
well if they are your true friends, they'll listen to what you have to say and they'll support you.
so my best advice for you is just be honest with them. i think the easiest way is to surprise them. Next time you hang out with them, wear a dress and curl your hair and wear makeup. It will surprise them but it gives you a chance to show the other half of you.
What's the point in having friends if you can't even show them the real you. You're only showing half of you.. so obviously they aren't your true friends because you're obviously too scared to be honest with them. If they are your true friends, you will have the guts to show them the other half of you. And if they are true friends, then they will support you.
If they start making fun of you, well you just have to remember... they're guys. Guys will be guys. I can already predict that they will tease you in some way. But thats just how guys are... So don't feel bad if they start teasing you. There's a difference between friendly teasing, and actually making fun of you.
If they tease you a little, just playfully laugh along, smile, and say "this is the other half of me. I'm not just a tomboy. I'm a girl and girls just want to have fun!"
If they don't like you anymore, or act differently because you're showing your feminine side.. then screw them. They aren't real friends if they can't accept the fact that you're a girl and like girly things.
In fact, they should EXPECT you to have a girly side. Most guys who have tomboy girl friends except the girl to have a girly side too. Its just a matter of if the girl has got the guts to show it or not.
Be brave and strong. show them the real you. :)
okay. so my parents keep bugging me about what i want for Christmas and i tell them i don't know what i want. my parents are divorced and i have to make 2 Christmas gifts. what would you want for Christmas?? tell me what you want for Christmas. i could be anything, i just need some ideas:)!
last christmas I made my mom a huge tie blanket. Its when you buy 2 pieces of fabric (normally people buy fleece but if you go to a fabric store theres tons of choices, colors, and shapes) and you lay the 2 fabrics on top of each other. Then cut a bunch of lines down the edges and tie the 2 fabrics together :) Its really cute, comfortable, and warm!
here's a step by step on how to make it
http://robin.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Make-a-Blanket
Oh and I made my boyfriend one too and I used 1 fabric of fleece and the other one was like a fur type thing :) It sheds somewhat but its super warm.
Another idea is buying a plain white coffee mug and painting it yourself. Making picture christmas decorations and put pictures in them of your family. A family scrapbook. You can make a fleece tie pillow (just like the blanket, but you buy cotton stuffing at a fabric store and just stuff the "blanket" with that and viola, its a pillow!) You can make jewelry. Just be creative.
The best store for making stuff is Michael's and Jo-Ann fabrics.
Good luck! and you have plenty of time to think about a gift since christmas is very far away still.
I love haven my eye lashes lifted and looking big, but no matter how many times I curl them and put mascara on they fall right back down. Any ideas? Help!
try spraying a mist of hairspray on the mascara wand. it will make them stay up easier and longer.
if nothing works, you can always use false lashes :)
I have this picture that i like of myself but there is this one hair in my face, lol. It takes my forever to takes pictures nonethless find one i like.I used to have a HP latptop and had downloaded Photoshop (it was an old version Cs3 i believe) but i didn't know how to use it at all and never got how to, then my computer got a virus and i got Macbook Pro.
Anyway my question is how can i take off the hair from my face with a photo editing program?
Here's the picture.
[IMG]http://i56.tinypic.com/2dlvrif.jpg[/IMG]
If you know of one online and you can tell me the steps on how to do it? Or if you know one that is free easy to use and available for Macs, that works too. I still have my Hp available but i can't download new stuff on in it and its really slow but i can still try and use the photoshop if anyone wants to take me step by step and explain how to do it, or if anyone wants to do it for me that would be great too lol ;) (in a perfect world). So anyway if it's just like impossible to get the big hair out just say so for you photo editing experts because i really have no clue cause i realize its like right on my face! Thanks for any tips or help in advance:)
www.picnik.com
upload the picture. then click Create. then there should be a tab called Touch Ups. Use the blemish remover, which is a skin colored paint thing and you can just click on the hair and it should remove it. It might look a little funky though because the hair is really big. also, if you use a premium membership, there's an airbrush feature and it kind of blends it in so its not as noticeable.
i just made a ringtone and it's in my itunes library under ringtones it's all set only 20 seconds long but how do I set it as my ringtone on my phone?
I think you have to plug in your iphone to your computer. then drag the ringtone onto the iphone thing on the left side of itunes. its just like transferring music from your computer to your iphone.
I'm sorry if i'm wrong!
How in the hell do you stand up to your parents and how did that workout the first time you did it?
Oh gosh.. It took a lot of work for me to stand up to my parents. When I was younger I was so innocent and shy. I never had the guts to do anything bad. my brother hated me for that because he would always get in trouble and i'd be the good little angel haha.
But eventually I grew up and got in my teenager mode.. I didn't do anything really wrong.. but I did some things they wouldn't approve of. For example, dying my hair behind their backs, lying to them about sleeping over at a friends house but actually staying out late and clubbing, sneaking out at night through the window (never got caught might I add), and in a matter of a few weeks i'm going to get a tattoo and my nose pierced. I am still a good girl because I have good morals. i don't drink or smoke. I don't screw around with guys or anything. But I have grown up. The first few signs of me growing up were little lies here and there. My parents soon figured them out and well thats when they started getting mad at me. At first, I was so scared to tell them the truth. I would just sit there on my bed and let them yell at me. Afterwards i'd cry because I felt so bad.
But the more things i did that they didn't approve, the more they would argue with me. Then there was just one point where I couldn't stand it anymore. I couldn't stand the fact that they were yelling at me for something so bizarre like not coming home at curfew. I blew up and yelled back. The first time it happened.. well it didn't go so well. I was so mad and yelled at them and said things I wish I never said. Sometimes I regret saying those things, but sometimes I'm glad i said it because that's how I actually feel.
After a few years of fighting with them.. we both came to a conclusion. I needed to do things according to my parents rules (like coming home at curfew, not lying etc.) and they needed to loosen up and let me live a little. We started getting along again. But there are still times when we argue.
One thing I can give you advice about is just to be honest with them. Like I said- in my earlier years, I was so scared and shy to say anything to them. I hid the truth from them because I was living in fear. But then one time, I was fed up with them yelling so I just told them the truth about how I felt and why I did the things i do.. and thats when I felt better.
I'm not sure what your issue is with your parents, but in order to stand up for yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and honest with them. Tell them how you feel, but you must remember to think before you say anything. Don't make the same mistake I did and say something you'll regret.
It gets easier with time and practice. My 2 words that I always keep in mind when i'm in a fight is Communication and Compromise. You need to communicate with them and tell them how you feel. And you need to compromise with them. In order to compromise with them, you have to listen to them and try to understand them too. Then come up with a compromise that both of you will be happy with.
If you need any more help, please inbox me again :)