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How in the hell do you stand up to your parents and how did that workout the first time you did it?
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Oh gosh.. It took a lot of work for me to stand up to my parents. When I was younger I was so innocent and shy. I never had the guts to do anything bad. my brother hated me for that because he would always get in trouble and i'd be the good little angel haha.
But eventually I grew up and got in my teenager mode.. I didn't do anything really wrong.. but I did some things they wouldn't approve of. For example, dying my hair behind their backs, lying to them about sleeping over at a friends house but actually staying out late and clubbing, sneaking out at night through the window (never got caught might I add), and in a matter of a few weeks i'm going to get a tattoo and my nose pierced. I am still a good girl because I have good morals. i don't drink or smoke. I don't screw around with guys or anything. But I have grown up. The first few signs of me growing up were little lies here and there. My parents soon figured them out and well thats when they started getting mad at me. At first, I was so scared to tell them the truth. I would just sit there on my bed and let them yell at me. Afterwards i'd cry because I felt so bad.
But the more things i did that they didn't approve, the more they would argue with me. Then there was just one point where I couldn't stand it anymore. I couldn't stand the fact that they were yelling at me for something so bizarre like not coming home at curfew. I blew up and yelled back. The first time it happened.. well it didn't go so well. I was so mad and yelled at them and said things I wish I never said. Sometimes I regret saying those things, but sometimes I'm glad i said it because that's how I actually feel.
After a few years of fighting with them.. we both came to a conclusion. I needed to do things according to my parents rules (like coming home at curfew, not lying etc.) and they needed to loosen up and let me live a little. We started getting along again. But there are still times when we argue.
One thing I can give you advice about is just to be honest with them. Like I said- in my earlier years, I was so scared and shy to say anything to them. I hid the truth from them because I was living in fear. But then one time, I was fed up with them yelling so I just told them the truth about how I felt and why I did the things i do.. and thats when I felt better.
I'm not sure what your issue is with your parents, but in order to stand up for yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and honest with them. Tell them how you feel, but you must remember to think before you say anything. Don't make the same mistake I did and say something you'll regret.
It gets easier with time and practice. My 2 words that I always keep in mind when i'm in a fight is Communication and Compromise. You need to communicate with them and tell them how you feel. And you need to compromise with them. In order to compromise with them, you have to listen to them and try to understand them too. Then come up with a compromise that both of you will be happy with.
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