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I loathe myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance...My
hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc...I
hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. I think of my self
as stupid, incompetent and worthless. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. I
suck at every thing I do. Seeking professional help is not an option for me, and
neither is getting help from a trusted adult. Even if either were an option, I’m
much, much, much to timid to ask for help...I don't think I even deserve to have
people waste there time on me to help me anyway.
With that attitude, theres not much anyone can do for you anyway. First, figure out if you're just doing this for attention, or if you really do have a problem. If you really do have a problem, I would say either get help, or if you are "much too timid to ask for help," then I would say just suck it up and move on with your life. Sorry if that was a bit harsh..
my mom always makes me go to bed so early!! shes like okay 9:00 is your bedtime ..but im 13!! She makes me do this during the week and im never tired till like 1 am! And i have a laptop that im sneaking on with right now but she ALWAYS catches me..what do i do?>
Discuss your bedtime rationally with her, and don't get angry or anything with her. Prove to her that 1. you're mature enough, and 2. that you won't be affected in the morning. Hope I helped!
okay my best guy friend and my best girl friend are going out...i really wish them luck..but i cant help but feel jealous...i keep telling myself that i dont like the guy.but every time i see him i melt..the girl invites me to the movies with them but i dont think i could take it..watching them hold hands..is there anything i can do about it..or should i just sit back and watch them go out to the movies and crap right in front of me...i promise ill rate high and i really need help...(13 female)
Seeing as they are your best friends, I think you're going to have to sit back.. They'll break up eventually, and if you still like the guy (and your girl friend doesn't mind - remember friendship is more important than a relationship any day), you can see if he likes you. But for now, you're stuck.. sorry if that wasn't what you wanted to hear.
If I take my cartilidge piercings out for like 30 minutes every weekday for gym class, do you think it'll close? I've had one of them since June '04, and the other since August'04 =) thanks.
I'm pretty sure you'll be fine, as long as you put them back in afterwards.
Im 14 going on 15,my cousin which is 35,sexually touch me when i was 12,when he did that i didnt know what to do. I didnt tell my parent because im afraid al break up my family.But now its worse when he told me im beautiful,an that he'll make a poem just for me and not tell my parents about it,or anyone period.Im stuck i do not know what to do an need good advice,an i hope you will truly care about my circumstances.My cousin is a male,an im a femal.From Lost Girl
You need to tell your parents!! That's sexual harrassment and nobody should be able to do that, even if it is a relative. ESPECIALLY if it is a relative. Just tell someone, because keeping things like that inside of yourself is really not a good idea and it will probably lead to issues (especially with men) later on in life.. I hope I helped!
I am really depressed. I just feel like every one thing that is good in my life, there are three bad things. In other words, the pros outweigh the cons. I really need help, but don't want to ask my mom to go to a shrink. So, I'm waiting for someone to notice. I don't want to cut myself, but it's the only way for people to notice. So, I just take a pin and scratch myself so that it will make slight cut marks on my wrists. I know it's stupid, but I just need help beyond my stupid friends' advice.
I hate these bribe things, but I do rate high, if that will help you to answer me.
I honestly don't care if you WANT to ask your mom for help.. You need to. Go to a doctor, they can prescribe you anti-depressants. You need someone to talk to, also. I would suggest a shrink, cause they're 1. not a teenager 2. you dont know them 3. they're required by law to keep your secrets. If you're REALLY against a psychiatrist, just write in a journal.. or scream into a pillow or something.. I don't know.. But please.. never cut yourself. I did and I have scars from years ago that are still there and people are still like "Whats that on your wrist/ankle?" It's awful. Please get help.. Sorry if this wasn't what you wanted to hear.
How lond does weed stay in your system. because iwant to apply for this job but there doing a drug test and i dont know when to take the application. i smoked yesterday.
thursday January 20, 2005
It will stay in your system for a while
My friend has manic depression and I was wondering if any one like knew anything about it or like has it and can talk to me about it because i would like to learn more .
I have it.. it's Bi-polar disease, it's a chemical inbalance in your brain which causes you to have really severe mood swings.. like you can be either really hyper/happy or really homocidal, and then other times you'll be really depressed and suicidal.. Sometimes its hard to deal with, but it can be controlled.. You can IM me whenever you want to about it.. I hope I helped!
i just went on a trip with my youth group.. and theres this kid there. i like him. but no1 knows.. we had a little connection in the past.. but we both driffted off for awhile. but this past weekend he was always around me.. my friedns say he was flirting with me. but idk. he was always wrestling me (not real wrestling) , he always would put his arms around my waist like example. eveytime i went into his room he would no just push me out.. he would like i said.. grab me around the waist and kinda hold me a few seconds then kinda pushed me out.. he would chase me around with snowballs trying to hit me..he would also take my stuff (only my stuff not my friends) and put it up his shirt and stuff. and when i had a problem he was trying to help me. i dont know if hes just tying to be nice and wants to be friends . or he likes me and was really flirting with me.. how can i tell if guys flirt? cause all guys flirt different. thanks for the help
Umm.. well.. I don't know how you can tell, but that definitely sounds like flirting to me!! I don't know many guys who like "just try to be nice" by putting your stuff up his shirt.. ;-) But maybe thats just me. I think he was totally flirting with you:-P.. Basically, how you can tell is ask your friends that were there, b/c its hard to tell if you're the one being flirted with, but other people can always see it! I hope I helped:-)
heyy--alright so theres this guy i met being of last yr ((8th gr--im now in ninth))n ever since then weve been relle good friends....ive liked him since we met but never relle actually came out and sed it--everyone knows..so do alot of his friends--we hang out alot, weve never actually hooked up but we have gotten close and stuff--the thing is everytime we seem to be get closer--like bout to go out-- there always seems to be a gurl that gets in the way--not only that but 2 girls i met after--now were friends-- him whove gone out wit him still have feelings for him, so i dont want to get in the way of that either...i dont no wut to do--sum ppl say get over him..but then sum say if yu want something/someone go for it...i dont kno wut to do!! i do like other guys--but somehow i always end up comparing them to him--please helpp
Honestly, I think you're going to have to go for it.. Tell him. The worst thing that can happen is that he doesn't like you back, but at least you'll know.. Just tell him and go from there.. I hope everything works out:-).
okay, me and my bf, well, i guess he's my ex now, broke up a couple of days ago. it was really hard for me because we both love eachother so much, and we still do. we were even planning to get married and stuff. well, since we broke up, i haven't been able to stop thinking about him and how wrong this feels. i know that we are soulmates, but i don't know what's happening right now. i just want him back, and he has said that he's willing to consider it, but he needs a bit of time to collect himself. without him i just feel so empty inside and like us being apart is WRONG. i've had boyfriends before and i've never felt like this when i broke up with them. i'm an emotional wreck, and i don't know what to do, please help me, i really want to get back together with him, and he says he does too, but he needs a bit of time. i have things i need to do, but i can't do them because i can't focus on anything but the loml(love of my life). anyone that can help me please answer this!! thanks.
signed:
hopelessly devoted 2 him
I'm sorry, hun, but when you really liked someone and you break up with them, it's gonna hurt. Technically, just think of it as a break. You're not TOTALLY broken up, you're just getting some time away. This might not be the best advice, but it's what I do - throw yourself into work or anything you do, spend lots of time with your friends, try not to be alone very often b/c thats gonna be when you're the saddest. You're going to have to learn how to get along without a guy in your life, though. But I'm really sorry about the breakup, and I hope you guys get back together.
Okay so i've liked this guy for about 4 years...he is my best friend and i know he doesn't like me because he told me. Thats fine, but the problem is, i can't seem to get over him...no matter what i do, i can't stop thinkin bout him or comparing other guys to him...does anyone have any advice?
OMG, I totally know your situation. It's REALLY hard, but what you need to do is get yourself involved in as many things as you can, and meet as many new people as you can, and hopefully someone new will replace him for that position.. I hope I helped.
Im going to try out for cheerleading around April or May I just need some advice on what I can do at home to become a better cheerleader...because Im going to be a flyer bc Im really light and I just need to know what kind of streches will help me thx ps I have a trampoline if you can do stunts on that thx you very much!
Well, you can practice dances - any dances, b/c thats a lot of what cheerleading is. You could also practice basic gymnastic stunts, such as cartwheels or round-offs to get really good at them. On your trampoline, you could practice flips and stuff, just so you can get the feeling of being up in the air. I don't know any stretches, though. I hope I helped!
hi there i have a problem i fell for a guy online but im married and i think it was a thing i was going throw when i fell for the guy online now ive tryed to give him hints that i dont want to be with him just friends is what i want now but i even left this guy a e-mail telling him not to wait for me it could be years before i ever leave my husband but i dont want to leave him now we worked things out but the guy i fell for online said he will wait for me how do i tell him that i dont want to be with him please help
Well I don't have much experience with these sorts of things, but umm how about "I don't want to be with you, I'm sorry, please don't wait for me." :-/ I hope I helped.
well there is this boy in my class lets name him john and for some odd reason he always goes out with everyones best friends and he just went out w/ my bff so im next in line. The only problem is that every1 just went out with him because they knew of wut he was doing which they thought was so retarded but i actually do like him and if my friends no i do they'll prob. laugh so what do i do
Go out with him if he asks:-).
I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me
Umm I think you need to tell your girlfriend that you were making out with your ex, first.. and she may dump you, so that would solve your problem. you also need to talk to the ex and she if she was just using you as someone to make out with or if she really does have feelings for you.. and then decide. hope i helped!
Im not so sure what topic this would be placed under but...
i recived a phone call 2 nights ago on my cell phone and this guy keeps calling hes tried to have phone sex over the phone with me but i refused and i dont no who he is but he says he nos everything about me he has told me my address and street city state number of siblings and so on.. and he called me again yesterday telling me if im shy again that he is going to f*** the hell out of me till i am dead and i dont no what to do he told me i better not tell anyone because he said he would make my death more pain full... could this be a prank? or serious... im confused and dont no what to do PLEASE HELP ME ASAP
i rate 5 plz help me
Okay, he sounds like a stalker. Do you have the number he called from? I think you should tell the police what he said and stuff and if he keeps calling you, tape the conversations and take them to the police. Don't take threats like that as jokes, b/c if they aren't, then you're screwed, and if they are, the jackasses who made the call are screwed.. so just please go to the police with it. I hope I helped!
Ok I have been suicidal for a while, and haven't had an episode for about a month... I have scars on my stomach and arms.. but I can't stop thinking I need more cuts... I have had alot of stuff going on lately... what should I do, should I tell someone! I just don't wanna go to a mental hospital! thanks I'll rate high
Okay, I totally know the feeling. You're going to have to talk to someone - but admittance to a mental hopspital depends on whether or not you've actually attempted suicide or if you have a plan to.. You should tell your mother or an adult you trust, and they will be able to get you anti-depressants, which should help quite a bit. If your parents do send you to a mental hospital, they will give you like a interview type thing, and basically if they think you're a danger to yourself/others then they will put you in.. but honestly, it might be a good thing. They'll teach you how to handle your feelings in a way that doesn't involve self-mutilation, and it would be sort of like a rest. Just something to consider. Anyway, I hope you tell someone because nobody deserves to go through that.
okay so here it is. i wanna break up with my boyfriend and its Friday and we go back to school Tuesday. Hes suppose to give me my christmas present at school. Should i break up with him on the phone tonight or tomorrow that way he doesnt have to give me my present or should i break up with him on Tuesday. i need major help my mind is going crazy.
Okay, you're in a really sucky situation. I mean, he's already bought you the present. But if you break up with him on Tuesday, that would just be cruel. I think you should break up with him today.. I hope I helped.
I need a way to dump this guy im going out with but like not, its not you, its me thing cuz thats soooo old, anyway..just plz ill rate high if you give me a way to dump him and i just wanna it to be the way it was were we were good friends..but i odnt want it to change when i dump him and i dont want him to hate me!
Thanx in advance
xoxo
-confused
You could tell him that you just like him as a friend, and you don't want your friendship to change, but I have to warn you that you two won't be best friends for a while.. But my ex-boyfriend said that to me, and I was hurt for a while, but we're friends now.. But honestly, I don't think it will ever be the way it used to, so just be ready for that. I hope I helped, and I hope you and your boyfriend stay friends!