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I don't judge. I've seen a lot, and the things I haven't, I'm always open to listening to. I want to make a difference. advice
13/f
me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy
Hm.. this is a tough one. The thing is, it sounds like you're really in the moment about it. Just because you get 'excited' about something going on at the time dosen't mean you won't regret it, or would normally be turned on by it. It dosent' really make a difference sometimes whether or not it's a guy or a girl, you could still like it at the moment. Just think about what's going to happen when you guys hang out. If you think something's going to happen and you don't want it to, talk to your friend about it before hand. I'm sure there are SOME exceptions to saying no to dares, and if you don't believe there are, you may want to avoid hanging out if it all bothers you so much.
By other people's standards, I can't say what you'd be considered. It SOUNDS like something a bisexual would do, but then again it also sounds like something a teenager experimenting would do.
YOU define who you are, but make sure you think things through before you do them. There's nothing wrong with any sexual orientation in my opinion, but if you believe there is, or strongly disagree with something, make it clear!
XOXO
KAT.
Umm... Hi. This is sort of an awkward and/or dumb question, but I'll just come out with it.
Well, I'm almost 14 and I still haven't gotten my period. But the thing is, I'm really scared to get it. I've heard SO MANY embarrassing stories about girls getting their periods at school and soaking through their pants, and I've also heard it doesn't feel like a thing, so you don't know if you pants are all bloody... I'm really nervous, and I have a feeling I'll get mine soon, but I need to know if there's some kind of warning or something that you get before you have your period... so, anyone?
First, your question isn't dumb at all! It's natural to be curious/worried about this, haha. And believe me, theres many more awkward things on this site. :P
You're at the age where you SHOULD be getting it soon, and there are a few warning signs to know once it'll be coming soon.
-One of the biggest ones would be excessive/brown discharge.
-Cramps in your stomach.
-Feeling very anxious or sick (pukey feeling).
-Headaches.
-Feeling oddly emotional.
-Very tired.
-Feeling bloated (either full, or actually feeling like you've gained weight or look bigger).
What's probably going to happen though is that you'll go to the bathroom and notice a little blood or something. Even if you get it during the day at school, it's really not so horrible. Usually, you'll be able to figure out. If you don't think you can be sure, make sure you ask to go to the bathroom as SOON as something feels weird. The only way it'd soak through your jeans would be that if it was REALLY HEAVY (which I doubt would happen on your first day), or if you just sat there and continued to let it soak through after a while. I'm pretty sure you'll be able to figure out after a little bit, and if you're not sure what's going on, it will still feel wet on your jeans. That's one of the worst things about periods--the self conciousness and feeling like you're wet a lot of the time.
Just make sure you take the precaution of keeping a pad or tampon (if you think you can use one..) with you most times, or if your discharge is really heavy one day, use one just in case.
It'll be alright, and don't be scared!
XOXO
KAT.
I have, after 10 months decided to get a tattoo for my best friend that passed away in october. I have decided to get a portrait of her on my back. I would like a quote or short lyrics to go underneath it instead of the dates she lived...anyone have any advice? I would like more positive and happy rather than sad. Thank you!
First off, I'm so sorry for your lost, and I'd like to say this is a great idea/comemmoration!
"We'll carry on"/"Your memory will carry on" -My Chemical Romance
Any lyric from the song "Helena", -My Chemical Romance (It was written as a way to mourn a loss, so it's a great song to choose from!)
XOXO
KAT.
what does it mean for a person to be sketchy??
It could mean either creepy or questionable. Like they're hiding something, or something's not right about them.
XOXO
KAT.
In your opinion, how stupid are boys?
I'm friends with mostly guys, and I can say it depends on the guy, really. While they seem stupid in relationships at times, it's because well.. it's a relationship. Girls probably come off as really dumb in those at times, too.
Then again, guys DO mature a little more slowly, but depending on your age, that phase could be over.
I'm hoping something bad hasn't happened that you've asked this, but guys really aren't so bad!
XOXO
KAT.
18/f
is it true that rock music is the easiest to sing to?
I can sing to some stuff but im not really that good.
It really all depends on your voice type. For some people it may seem really easy, while for others it might be really difficult. It also depends who you're singing to, and what your range is. If you've got a lower voice, singing to a guy's song might be easier, while if you've got a high voice singing higher notes would obviously be easier.
Just try to test a lot of different types of music out! I'd recommend ballads, since they're slower and you can really concentrate on all the notes. Ballads are slower songs, btw if you weren't sure.
XOXO
Kat.
okay im thirteen and i want to learn japanese and my father said he would buy me rosetta stone and i wanted to know if learning japanese is really hard to do. doyou recomend rosseta stone or anything else
thnx :)
It all depends on how you learn, but I'd definitely recommend Rosetta stone for learning the actual reading part of Japanese! I'm pretty sure how the program works is that they show a picture or symbol, and then show how to say the word for it. This way, you'll instantly notice it, like seeing a dog and knowing the word 'dog' goes with it.
Also, I've got a few friends who take Japanese, and they don't seem to have too many problems with it, plus it's so common now a days with anime and everything, it'll really come in handy!
Have fun! :D
Saiyonara (Some japanese to start you off :P)
XOXO
KAT.
okay im in 10th grade and im Really into fashion. i shop mostly at hollister abercrombie h&m bebe and forever 21..i mix and match things but it seems like whenever i dress up and look nice all the girls get really b*tchy and say mean things (and i don't look slutty in the things i wear either) so i just wear jeans and a regualar shirt like from a&f to school just so they'll have nothing to say about it. but when i wear that i feel like everyone else...what should i do?
It's said so much, but these girls saying these things could just be saying them because they're jealous. I'd say not to listen. If they're not exactly being productive or helping you out at all/just making you feel bad, why bother listening to what they have to say? You're your own person, and if you know that you look good and you don't look slutty or anything, feel free and confident to wear what you want!
Honestly it sounds like they're looking for conformity. You look different, they don't know how to respond nicely and say that you look good, so they're responding negatively.
Really, don't worry about them. As long as there's not a ton of cleavage or anything, it should be fine. If you really have to, ask a friend for an honest opinion on whether or not your shirt or outfit looks inappropriate.
Good luck, and don't change yourself for anyone else!
XOXO
KAT.
15/f
Okay, i went to a party a couple weeks ago and this guy thought i was cute and i thought he was cute to. We exchanged numbers through our friends and started texting and talking to eachother and so now we are "talking." We onlysaw eachother from like 10 or 15 ft away so he might not of seen my facial features. The only bad thing is that i don't get very many boyfriends and this popular cute guy thinks i'm cute and i think once he sees me up close that he won't think i'm pretty anymore. I mean why would a cute guy like him fall for a girl like me? I mean i'm not the prettiest girl in the world but i don't think i am the ugliest either. What do i do?
This seems like a really cute way to meet, may I say first? [:
The thing is, like most girls you might not have the best perception of yourself. Most of us don't see ourselves as really pretty when most other girls/guys would say you're really gorgeous or something. Don't underestimate yourself! This situation could be proof that people see a lot more than what you might expect them to! While I'd normally say looks aren't everything, in this situation they definitely contribute to a lot. Another thing could be that he may have thought your figure was pretty nice. Who knows.
Perhaps he saw the way you were interacting or something and became interested? Try asking him why he started talking to you! Sometimes it's just a random interest, or just trying something out and seeing how it works out.
See if he's got a myspace or something of that nature, and exchange them. This could be a way to get him to see pictures of you, so it's not a shock talking in person if you look very different from far away or something.
What I'd say to do is to just try it out, though! If you've got an opportunity, you might as well go with it. You seem pretty surprised at it, but it's not exactly a bad thing. [;
Try to keep talking if YOU'RE interested, and see where it goes from there. Try hanging out in person with a group or something if you seem to like him more then.
Best of luck, and don't underestimate yourself! You caught someone's eye; Congratulations!
XOXO
KAT.
14/f-I havent gotten my period yet, and i was wondering if there are like any warning signs before i get it, b/c i dont want to get it during school. thanks so much!
Sometimes you don't even get any symptoms or warning signs at all before it starts. The common ones would probably be:
-Stomach pains
-Feeling upset (usually with no reason)
-Feeling very anxious (usually once you wake up)
-Lots of discharge
-Headaches
-Eating more or less
Just don't worry so much about you getting it during school! It's not like a ton of blood will come out at once for the first time and be completely obvious. Usually in the first few days it's kind of light (could be different for you, however). You'll know once you get it, I'm sure. Just make sure you ask to go to the bathroom immediately, because having a leak isn't fun!
I'd highly suggest keeping an extra pad or something hidden in your bag or locker, just in case, since you're at the age you should be getting it soon. (:
XOXO
KAT.
hi am a 13 year old guy and ve like only made out wit a girl 1 befor and dont want to ambares my self if im bad or anything wit my g/f now whos had expierence. u have any tips or anything thanks
She may have experience, but kissing a different person is ALWAYS going to be a whole new story. Neither of you have experience with each other, so this is new for her as well. Also, if you're dating, I'm sure she'll accept you even if you are a bad kisser (which is usually difficult to do, anyway), and I'm sure she wouldn't mind helping you practice.
Since you said you've made out with someone before, you should know the basics. Just make sure you take it slow at first, and try to follow her lead if you're not sure on what to do. Just make sure you come off as confident, that's one of the best things a guy can do! Also, make sure you're not too stiff! Move your hands around (ask her if it's okay with her if you plan on grabbing or anything..). Touch her face really gently or play with her hair, and she'll probably enjoy it a lot. (;
Good luck!
XOXO KAT.
my friend drank half a water bottle filled with sprite, sky vodka, and some blue rasberry stuff. she said she was super drunk, trippin all over the place, and she said she threw up 3 times. and apparently the next day she had a reallyyyy bad hangover. i cant understand how this is possible...like getting that drunk n stuff just off what she drank. it was her first time, but my first time i took 5 shots of like hard liquor and chugged 2 beers, and didnt throw up, or get a hangover, or anything. why is there such a difference? (both 14,female, same size)
It's not really the size that's a difference. It's just how our metabolism works, among other factors like how much she may have eaten, how quickly she was drinking, WHAT exactly she was drinking, what her tolerence is, etc.
You probably have a much better tolerence of alcohol than she does, that's all. That, or it could all be in her mind with the hangover, because most people associate drinking with hangovers. The tolerence would probably explain the throwing up, though.
I'd reccomend that if she's throwing up and getting this sick, she try to limit herself even more. Throwing up is usually a sign that the body's trying to get something bad out.
XOXO
KAT.
15/m. ok, this is going to sound really stupid, but people always think im gay. I had this one guy ask me, "ur a puff innit? u like it up the batty?" i was all "wtf!?" he was all, "well you look gay, you talk like a girl".
1. i have a deep voice
2. how could i possibly look gay? i have facial hair..quite a bit of it. so long story short, people think im gay. what could be giving them this idea, and how can i change my appearance/ speech so i dont "sound gay" even though i dont in the first place? cheers
Don't change yourself! Is it 'people' or just this one guy? If it's one guy, I'd guess he's just messing with you. You know, trying to get you frustrated? If it's generally people, they're obviously got some weird stereotypes. Most gay guys have like, no facial hair/etc.
There is no definition of what a 'straight' guy looks like. To look more 'manly', you'd probably try to look more rugged. With the facial hair, and stuff.
There's nothing to really define straight, though. I'd just reccomend not to listen to these people, as they're probably just being jerks. (:
Always be YOU!
XOXO
KAT.
okay this is kinda random but what would you do if you and you and your best friend had a big fight and you were the one that caused it and it was all your fault and you new that your friend had depression problems and that she cut herself and stuff and you were really mean to her and a couple days later she killed herself and left a suicide note for you saying you were the one that made her kill herself. there are no wrong answers i just really wanna no what yall think. thanks!
I really hope you're not in this situation! Email or something if that's the case, I'd be compeltly willing to talk.
But I'd honestly probably feel guilty for the rest of my life. Assuming I was strong enough to get over it, I'd still be depressed, and get upset about it from time to time.
I'd also realize however, that no one TOLD her to kill herself, and that she should have known that there were people to talk to. Suicide is a choice, not an answer. I'd probably feel a tad resentful toward the friend, along with the guilt..
XOXO
KAT.
how long is the original thriller song?
If you mean just the song with no video, about six minutes. If you want the video, it's about (I THINK) a minute longer for the whole little dancing section, etc. Hah.
XOXO
KAT.
what would be a cute outfit to wear on a group date where we would get lunch and bowling?
16/f
i don't want to look too made up or anything...
First off, try to talk to the other girls about what they're wearing. I'm sure you'd rather not come super made up while the other is really relaxed or something (or, if you actually would rather something like that happen--haha, that could help, too). Just casually say something like ,"Hey, just wondering but what are you wearing _____, I wasn't really sure of what to do.." Simple. (:
I'd reccomend to try to be comfortable, though. Don't worry at all about your shoes, since you'll be wearing bowling shoes (don't forget the socks, haha!), and I'd say to wear jeans since you'll be wearing bowling shoes. It'd look a little weird with a skirt or something..
That, and a nice top, possibly with some acessories should be perfect! Then just do what you'd usually do with hair/makeup. Just make sure you're casual and comfortable--guys would usually rather play around than sit and stare anyway. ;)
XOXO
KAT!
ok i know this may sound weird but whatever i need help.
ok so about a week ago me and my mom were outside on the patio talking. (she makes me call her by her first name) so i said Sunshineheart (yes thats her name) you couldnt be a vegiterian. and she goes your right but i could be a chickenterian. and i was like huh? now me and my mom are very normal and open to each other but i didnt understand. dude i was so nervous about asking her what a chickenterian was! you have no idea how nervous i was! like i was sweating and almost in tears!
so what do i do?
Awesome name, hah. And it sounds like your Mom is saying you can eat a ton of chicken, but not really have to bother with red meats, etc.
And don't feel nervous to ask a question! I'm sure your Mom would be fine with it, especially on something regarding you diet! (:
XOXO
KAT.
*I meant diet as in lifestyle of eating.., and I didn't say TO ask her, I said don't feel nervous to ask her.. It was only attempted reassurance.
So my parents may be getting a divorce. they act like theyre fine when me and my sis are around but when we walk away they fight and scream and everything and my mom wants to kick my dad out of the house, etc.
So i was wondering, how does one parent get custody bc i really want to be with my mom bc im like afraid of my dad and is there any way i can choose? thanks
I'm really sorry about your parents, first of all.
Depending on your age, you'd be able to choose in most states. Assuming you're over 11 or 14 (depending on what state you're in, like I said) you'd be able to choose which parent you stay with. You'd just have to talk to the judge in a most likely private setting, and tell them which you'd rather stay with, and why.
If that's not how it works out for you, you'd probably just have to sit down with your parents and talk it out with them (if you're younger than the cutoff age, for example).
If they can't decide on a parent to get dominant custody of, the court will look at which parent is more financially fit to take care of you (along with probably a background check, and a talk with you and any siblings).
There's also custody on the weekends, etc., so it's not like you'd never see the other parent..
Best of luck!!
XOXO
KAT
ohk. so my boyfriend of almost 10 months broke up with me the other day. i woke up the next morning, felt sick and threw up also threw up that night. and it repeated the next 2 days.but it was just yellow liquid, obviously b/c i had nothing in my stomach. i have went the past 4 days without eating anything. except for today when i tried to eat a piece of bread. but i couldn't finish it. i thought i was going to puke. i think it just may be nerves making me sick and not want to eat and then throwing up. but then again. i have had unprotected sex alot and my last period was march 13th. i'm a every other monther. but its soon to be the 28th of may in a few hrs. and i still haven't started. my periods usually last 5 days. i'm prolly just paranoid.. but could i possibly be pregnant or is it just nerves.
thanks in advance
You're right, it could either be nerves or the pregnancy (as unfortunate as that may be to hear..).
From the timing, it sounds like it may be nerves. Depending on how upest you were over the break up, it may have been that you were so nervous/upset. It's very likely that that's all that's wrong, and that it will get better over time. If that's the issue, I'd just reccomend to drink tons of water, and try to eat as many calories as possible. Try to do things to distract yourself from any upsetting feelings, and eat as often as possible. The last thing you want is for your stomach to shrink! With the lining of your throat getting messed up obviously, and all the bile coming up, a shrunken belly certainly wouldn't help matters.
There is obviously the possibility of pregnancy, however.. The only thing you can really do is to get a test. It's even still possible to get your periods 25% of the time when you're pregnant, so that's no guarentee..
XOXO
KAT.
Is there any harm of using Windex (or any kind of window/glass/whatever cleaner) on your teeth??
Not so much sparying it on, but putting it on my tooth brush and rubbing it in.
And..not swallowing??
Windex definitely won't have the same affect on teeth as it does on glass. Glass dosen't have to worry about plaque/food/etc, and it also dosen't lead to our insides.. Ha.
There's defintiely harm in it. I wouldn't even reccomend it in small amounts (There wouldn't even really be any benefits to it, anyway). You could develope sicknesses (it's toxic!), sores in your mouth and problems with your throat, and it could obviously make you very sick!
Even if you didn't swallow, it'd still be on your teeth to gather in your saliva later.
XOXO
KAT.