You can't forget stuff that has happend throughout your life. Obviously, you didn't have a good childhood. I'm sorry..but that stays with you forever. It's pretty much like a scar =/.

What you can do is focus on the good things that are happening in life. Focus on positive things! You seem happy to be with your dad! So, try to put the past behind you and focus on being happy, healthy, and being able to live life.

Maybe even try therapy. By doing that, you can get things off your chest, and be able to I guess "move on" somehow. Try it, you never know..it might actually help!

Good luck. :)

First of all, you and your friend should have never started this in the first place. In school, rumor's are constantly changed to something worse because people are immature.

What those people are calling you is beyond rude. You're going to need to find a way out of this. Maybe try to get the message through everybody that it was just a joke.

But honestly..I really doubt people will believe it.
Rumor's don't last forever though. There really isn't an answer to this because no matter how many times you tell someone it was a joke, they will continue to believe the rumor that spread.

Good luck

The situation differs from guy to guy. However, I'm sure you heard the whole thing about "if he's not getting it from you, he's getting it from someone else." Anythings possible. But! That doesn't relate to ALL guys.

Good guys will respect your decision and wait for you until you're ready. The other types of guys (bad boys, guys who just want sex, etc.) will cheat on you with other girls who will give them sex (easy girls).

You said that he told you he loves you. Maybe you should trust him then? If you want, have a talk with him about what's going through your mind. However, don't ever think you have to have sex with him if you don't want to. Only have it when YOU'RE ready.

Hopefully, he's a good guy who does actually love you and will respect your decision.


Good luck :) Hope I helped!

Tell him NO. Sometimes guys can be stupid and not listen to you when you are uncomfortable with something. Talk to him..tell him that you don't want to move too fast. Just tell him how you feel basically.

If he has a problem with that; he's not worth anything.

Bad decision not using a condom after a little while. It doesn't matter if she didn't want one on you..you should've kept it on anyway. But! as long as she doesn't miss her periods or anything..it should all be fine.

It's good you used a condom most of the time though. Are you sure some got in her? I mean, it's possible without the condom on...no sperm got in to her because as you said you didn't "bust in to her"..which may mean you have a pretty good chance that nothing happend.

Just be careful next time you have sex. ALWAYS wear a condom.

Hope I helped. :)

You can't get pregnant unless you've actually had sex. Since all you did was touch yourself on the outside of your vagina, you're not pregnant (unless sexual contact with a guy). However, It wouldn't matter even if you touched the inside. You still need the sperm to meet the egg in order to be pregnant.

You're 15. Periods tend to be irregular very often. DON'T PANIC! If you're involved in sports..this happens often. It's actually not a big deal tp miss periods sometimes. My periods come at all different times. But, this can be due to stress too.

My suggestion for you is to make an appointment with your physician. It's probably nothing..but, you SHOULD get it checked out just to be safe. And, make sure you tell your mom of this so she can take you there.

Good luck :) Hope I helped!

I'm sorry that you're hurt and confused. Guy's claim to be "simple", but honestly, they really aren't. Yes, he could've been talking about you. But, you don't know that for sure. It doesn't mean that just because he stared a lot that he likes you. Some guys, even when they talk to there friends, just look up to check a girl out. Girls do the same thing. Yes, when we stare at guys sometimes..we like them. But, guys..they usually will stare at any girl they think is hot, pretty, and/or interesting in some way. Have you ever listened to a guys conversation when they see a good-looking girl? They usually start going on and on about how "hot" she is. Well, maybe he was doing that?

I know it can be hurtful to see that he is with his ex girlfriend again. But, you even said yourself. You never knew if he liked you in the first place. It's possible, as I said before, he just thought you were pretty and stared at you sometimes. I mean, it can be possible he did like you..but, he's with his ex girlfriend again. So, who knows?

Next time, try talking to a guy you like. Get to know him and everything. I'm not sure if you talked to this guy before or anything, but the best way to find out if someone is interested is to ASK or you can even have friends do it.
Remember: Guy's can't read minds!

Hope I helped! :)

I know many people who are in a similar situation. Eating very healthy does help, even if you don't exercise much. Here are a few links with a number of different healthy food recipes that are easy to make:
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/over-100-quick-and-easy-healthy-foods.html
http://www.eatbetteramerica.com/Recipes/
http://www.cookinglight.com/

In order to maintain a healthy body, you need to eat ATLEAST 3 meals a day. Just be careful and read the Nutrition Facts on the back of the food. Don't eat too many carbs (don't forget you need some carbs in your diet though), sugars (you need some sugar in your diet), salts (they absorb water and make you bloated) and calories (however, don't eat too little calories..that gives you energy!). Don't ever skip breakfast..it's the most important meal of the day. It basically gives you your energy for the day. For lunch, don't eat too much. For example, a sandwich and an apple is fine, you can even have salad with that if you'd like. For dinner, eat more veggies! Meat, is very important of course (you need it for protein, fats, etc.), but so is eating plenty of veggies. Remember, these are only ideas! So, it's up to you what you'd prefer to eat. Make sure you drink plenty of cold water too. Lay off of soda's such as Pepsi, Coke, Sprite, etc. Even diet drinks aren't good for you! Which I learned after a while. However, things like Iced tea (Snapple, Brisk, etc.) are fine though. So is a number of other drinks.

Also, get plenty of sleep! Try to get anywhere from 7-8 hours of sleep. Sleep is very essential in being healthy.

I know you don't have much time to exercise. But, I'm sure you can take atleast 30 minutes out of your day to stay home and exercise. This is something I do too, because gyms are expensive. You don't need fancy equipment to stay in shape. Here's a link to a very helpful site that tells you exercises you can do at home that won't cost you a dime :D:
http://www.fitwatch.com/exercise/10-ways-you-can-exercise-at-home-without-any-equipment-10.html

Good Luck! Hope I helped you :)

Well, you both are young. But, as you said..you both are mature for your age, and the best thing is you also know what you want later in life! Knowing what you want is the most important thing in these kind of situations. You've known eachother for 5 years, and you spend pretty much everyday with eachother. You guy's seem very happy and prepared for this.
I say go for it! I mean, you both seem ready for this kind of comittment.
By the time you get married..you'll both be around 20-21 anyway.

Good luck :)

He's basically just very angry throughout the whole thing. I don't know exactly what happend or anything, but if I were you..I'd just stay away from him and his friends. Obviously, he has some issues with you. But, I'm sure he just wanted to get stuff off his mind so he decided to send you this?
Well, im my opinion, after I read the end..it seems he SHOULDN'T be "bothering" you any longer. However, some people just enjoy harassing others because they feel it gets there point across..even when there's no point at all. But, I guess this guys whole point is just to "leave him alone". So, just do that, and maybe he'll leave you alone!
But, then again, I have no idea what went on in the first place..

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Be honest with him. By not telling him how you REALLY feel, you're only hurting him in the end, especially if he finds out on his own that you don't want to be with him. I know you probably don't want to hurt his feelings..but, he needs to know the truth. There's not a guarantee he won't be hurt though.
Just tell him (in a nice, calm way) that you like being close..but as friends only.

Here's a link to a similar question that has been answered by a few people on this site..
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=170844

Stop going through your friend! I know why you did it..it's the easiest way to get to know if a guy likes you or not. But, at this point, I think it's time you go and talk to him.
I'm not saying to tell him that you know..he never has to know that she told you anything. Ask him to hang out sometime, then start talking about all this. But! Don't let him know that your friend told you stuff.
Plus, I don't think a guy would say all of that stuff if it's a lie :)
So, don't be shy. Ask!

Good luck! :)

I've had similar dreams. Some believe dreams are dreams and they don't relate to anything. But, I believe they do. You speeding and/or disobeying laws doesn't mean you're actually going to do that when you drive alone. It's even possible your dreams are happening because you're being too worried.

However, maybe it doesn't have anything to do with driving at all. Maybe these dreams happen because subconsciously you feel your life is out of control? Stress can also be a major factor.

I found this on a website:

Automobile-
To dream that you are riding in an automobile, signifies that even in pleasant situations, you will still be restless and uneasy.

To dream that you nearly escape from the impact of an automobile, denotes that you will successfully overcome any rivalry.

To dream that there is no one driving an automobile, suggests that you need to reassess your level of control over your life. You are unwilling to take responsibilities for your actions.


Speeding-
To dream that you are speeding, indicates that you are compelled and driven to complete something. As a result, you may be pushing people away. Alternatively, the dream suggests that you are moving too fast in some relationship or situation. Perhaps you need to slow down.

Car-
To dream that you are driving a car, denotes your ambition, your drive and your ability to navigate from one stage of your life to another. Consider how smooth or rough the car ride is. If you are driving the car, then you are taking an active role in the way your life is going. However, if you are the passenger, then you are taking a passive role. If you are in the backseat of the car, then it indicates that you are putting yourself down and are allowing others to take over. This may be a result of low self-esteem or low self-confidence. Overall, this dream symbol is an indication of your dependence and degree of control you have on your life.

To dream that you car has been stolen, indicates that you are being stripped of your identity. This may relate to losing your job, a failed relationship, or some situation which has played a significant role in your identity and who you are as a person. If you dream that your car is overheating, then it suggests that you are expending too much energy and need to slow down or run the risk of becoming burnt out. You may be taking on more than you can handle. It is time to take a breather.

To see a parked car in your dream, suggests that you need to turn your efforts and energies elsewhere. You may be needlessly spending your energy in a fruitless endeavor. Alternatively, a parked car may symbolize your need to stop and enjoy life. To dream that you cannot find where you parked your car, suggests that you do not know where you want to go in life.�

To dream that you are almost hit by a car, suggests that your lifestyle, beliefs or goals may be in conflict with another's. It may also be symbolic of a jolting experience or injured pride


Hope that helps!

Here's the link to the site I found the information on. Look up things you see in your dreams. It might help!
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

Well, why not ask him yourself? With men, you need to be straight up and ask! Don't take everyone else's word for it..rumor's spread so easily, so I'm sure no one know's exactly what HE is feeling and/or if he does like you.

I'll give you a link to yahoo that will give you some signs if a guy likes you or not..who knows, maybe this will help you out on knowing if he likes you or not!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080719180521AAE12mP

Hope I helped :)!

Ahh I see! That explains why you prefer women at this time in your life! Okay, well being raped by men throughout your life is definitely going to change your view of them. But, believe me, not ALL men are like that. I answered a rape question dealing with men earlier. Basically, men rape women in order to have power over them. Same thing goes for abusing women. Throughout history, women have always been the 'weaker gender' according to men, which I disagree with, but that is why some men think they can do whatever they want to a woman and get no consequences for it. I feel very strongly about the rape and abuse thing, it makes me angry to hear how men can just take advantage of women like that!
Anyway..I think you may be turning to women as a way of safety? Because, how often do you hear women raping women? Not often at all. I really would suggest you go see a therapist to sort these problems out. Now, I'm not going to say you're not a lesbian or anything because of course I don't know you or anything so I can't pass that kind of judgement! But, it's possible you're leaning back on women, as I mentioned before, to feel safe and to avoid being harmed by a man again.
Yes, you are young! There's no need to label yourself! No one say's you have to. Since you are young, you're 'experimenting', as they would call it, which means that you're trying things out to find out what you want/need in life. That is wonderful you're in a relationship with a woman. I'm glad you're happy with her. Hmm. Maybe you should talk to her about your problems if you haven't already? Just to get things off your chest and to let her know your past. But, that's totally up to you!
I know it may be hard to ever trust a man again. Usually, people in this kind of situation, tend to fall for guys who are abusers (in any way such as rape, beating, etc.) so, please be careful, if you ever do go for men, and make sure they are genuine guys. But, there's nothing wrong with looking at guys as "family". As I said, you're young! You'll eventually find out about yourself.
Remember: There's nothing wrong with being gay, bisexual, or straight. I wish you the best of luck! And please, if you can, see a therapist! It'll help you out so much! :)

Thankyou for the inbox, good luck, and feel free to ask me anymore questions you may have! :)

Taking a break means time apart from eachother.
Maybe he's unsure of where things are going and might wants some time to himself. It's possible he want's to see other girls, etc. You need to ask him because a "break" means different things to different guys.

Hope I helped!
:)

Wow. I'm sorry that this bullying has been going on. That is horrible...especially at a work place. The fact that your family doesn't support you is very rude, in my opinion. But, to answer your question, I would talk to someone before taking any negative action again them. If nothing changes, then maybe the negative action can take place. As they say, two wrongs don't make a right. It's up to you thoughh!

As you may of heard..people bully others because of their own low self-esteem.

Here's two links to sites that may help you out a little with the bullying situations:
http://www.bullyonline.org/action/action.htm
http://libcom.org/organise/dealing-with-bullying-at-work-guide

Here's three links that can help with unsupportive family members:
http://forums.families.com/unsupportive-family,t124100
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=128827
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090118002010AAxTdYF

Hope I helped you!
Good luck, and thankyou for the inbox. :)

Okay here are some signs he's using you..

-If he's only is interested in having sex with you (basically being interested in onlu physical stuff)
-He only calls when he wants something.
-Barely takes you out in public, and prefers private places with you so he can fool around with you (also shows he doesn't want people to think you both are dating)
-Barely have normal conversations. All he wants to do is physical stuff.
-Blows you off for everything but the physical stuff.
-Doesn't talk to you until he wants something..aka..anything sexual.
-And finally! If you feel you are being used, you are being used!

Guy's are wonderful, aren't they? ..haha.

Hope I helped!
:)

Well, I can understand the trust issues you are having..what he did was horrible. Eventually the trust will build back up. I'll answer your questions to the best of my ability.

What goes through there minds and why do they do it?: It can be anything from sexual desires to just wanting to hurt females. Sometimes, especially if the boy had a bad childhood due to his mom, the boy will grow up and treat women badly (abusing, raping, etc.) Same thing goes for boys who may have been molested at a young age. If they don't seek help..it follows them through adult life and they end up raping someone themselves. Some just hate women overall and want to hurt them. However, all they want to do is have power over the victim in any situation. It's sick..but, that's usually the case.

Are they aware they are hurting the girls they rape?: In most cases, they are. Some do it because it turns them on to see a woman frightened and hurting (which disgusts me). However, sometimes they aren't aware. For instance, the guy who wouldn't get off of you even when you told him to stop, probably wasn't thinking "I'm going to rape her". He just wanted pleasure..and tried ignoring you when you said no. Again, it's also a control thing. Maybe he liked the control he had? I understand that it's hard to get some guy's off of you..but, it is good that you screamed. That got the message right through his messed up head.

Here's a link from yahoo talking about it more:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090415181019AAohd5i

I don't know how girls who get raped deal with it. You have the right to be angry. It's understandable. You felt powerless against him and now you're mad because you wish you could've stopped him by physically doing something. My advice: Stay away from him. He needs help. TELL PARENTS. Thank god he stopped though. If it still does bother you about what happend..talk to a therapist? I know, it may sound stupid. But, it helps. This guy is lucky you didn't call the cops. Technically, this could be considered "attempted rape". Please, tell someone of this. Hopefully, he won't be doing this to any other females. Telling someone may help stop him from ever doing it to another girl?


Hope I helped.
If you have anymore questions..feel free to inbox me!

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