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thank you for the advice, it really did help, although theres a few more details i should have added. I have been in a relationship with a female and i had fallen in love with her, well atleast as much as i could being my age and not being completely grown, but anyways, i have never connected with males on an emotional level. Ive tried but i always end up looking at them as family. I stopped looking at them emotionally and sexually because ive been raped and abused by them all my life. And i do mean all my life by family and so-called friends, up until two months ago to be exact. And i just cant bring myself to connect with them more than family wise. But females i can. Maybe i am just to scared to be hurt again? i just know with a female it feels right on all levels. but i really dont have to label myself just yet i guess. Im still pretty young to do that right? =]
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Ahh I see! That explains why you prefer women at this time in your life! Okay, well being raped by men throughout your life is definitely going to change your view of them. But, believe me, not ALL men are like that. I answered a rape question dealing with men earlier. Basically, men rape women in order to have power over them. Same thing goes for abusing women. Throughout history, women have always been the 'weaker gender' according to men, which I disagree with, but that is why some men think they can do whatever they want to a woman and get no consequences for it. I feel very strongly about the rape and abuse thing, it makes me angry to hear how men can just take advantage of women like that!
Anyway..I think you may be turning to women as a way of safety? Because, how often do you hear women raping women? Not often at all. I really would suggest you go see a therapist to sort these problems out. Now, I'm not going to say you're not a lesbian or anything because of course I don't know you or anything so I can't pass that kind of judgement! But, it's possible you're leaning back on women, as I mentioned before, to feel safe and to avoid being harmed by a man again.
Yes, you are young! There's no need to label yourself! No one say's you have to. Since you are young, you're 'experimenting', as they would call it, which means that you're trying things out to find out what you want/need in life. That is wonderful you're in a relationship with a woman. I'm glad you're happy with her. Hmm. Maybe you should talk to her about your problems if you haven't already? Just to get things off your chest and to let her know your past. But, that's totally up to you!
I know it may be hard to ever trust a man again. Usually, people in this kind of situation, tend to fall for guys who are abusers (in any way such as rape, beating, etc.) so, please be careful, if you ever do go for men, and make sure they are genuine guys. But, there's nothing wrong with looking at guys as "family". As I said, you're young! You'll eventually find out about yourself.
Remember: There's nothing wrong with being gay, bisexual, or straight. I wish you the best of luck! And please, if you can, see a therapist! It'll help you out so much! :)
Thankyou for the inbox, good luck, and feel free to ask me anymore questions you may have! :)
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