I have this boyfriend and I need some serious advice. I love him do not get me wrong on what i am about to say. He is an alcoholic. It didn't bother me at first. He used to let me do what i wanted when i wanted and now it's like i have to beg and plead with him to do what i want to do. He expects me to be at his house as soon as i get off work. If i'm not he's mad and we fight. Not all the time but..the majority. He gives me a time to be home and i am . When i tell him a time he says he will do as he pleases.
sometimes he is real mean to me. I cry cause it hurts me. somdays it's like he doesn't want to be together anymore. So then i told him if you want me to leave i will leave. I will get my shit and never come back. Then he pleaded with me . he said no. I love you please don't leave. We play around and sometimes he plays to rough. It's like he doesn't care. I let him go to girls house or even be alone with a girl. But..if i do the same he accuses me of cheating.
He has only hitt me twice out of anger. I buy his cigs,his beer and any thing else he wants.Sometimes he calls me mean names and I've asked him not to. It feels somtimes like he wants hiss cake and he wants to eat it to. Please help me. I don't know what to do anymore.
I know you prolly wont listen to my advice, and Im not goin to guarntee its the best advice. But he is NOT worth it, you DESERVE better than that crap. Dont let him lie to you and tell you he loves you, he doesnt or he wouldnt be at other girls houses, or hitting you, or relying on you for cigs,beer, and other things. He'd be out helping support himself. I know it hurts to let someone go because they cant realize their doing something stupid, but hes hurting himself and dragging you down in the pain too. Let it go before things get to where you cant get out. And as far as him hitting you once was ignorant for you to let him get away with it, but if you keep letting him to do it your stupid. Get out right now girl !
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I've read all the "how do you know you're in love" questions in the archive, and I've asked a few friends, and all the situations involve either knowing immediately or not knowing for a couple of years. My Boyfriend and I have been going out almost a month now, and I *think* I'm falling in love with him. the thing is, people keep telling me "you'll just know... love isn't rational". I'm an overly analytical person. I need evidence.
And i've never had a boyfriend before, and he's never had a girlfriend before, so we have no experience to base this on. to be honest, I'm not sure how we knew what we were doing the first time we made out. As far as background goes, we were friends for over a year, I agreed to go to his prom as a friend (my exact words were "If you're desperate, I'll go with you," to which he responded "I was going to ask you, but I didn't think you'd want to go"). whenever one of us called the other to iron out the details, we just kept talking. our first date was the friday after his prom. we both entered this completely inexperienced, and plan to wait until marriage for sex. Now, I know I love him... I don't know how. That is, am I in love? is this a mutual crush? are we just really close friends with a some lust thrown in? I want to figure this out before I bring it up with him. this is a big deal and I refuse to use the L word until I'm absolutely sure. That's why I need all the help I can get :) and maybe I'm just going about this all wrong.
If this is your first boyfriend and his first girlfriend, more than likely your just over reacting to how much you like him, theres a 1% chance you love him and will want to be with him forever, you have a lot more boyfriends to come in the future, dont make a mistake and tell him you love him this soon. Wait.. you'll see what I mean.
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I dont know what to think or do. I had seen this guy at a local gas station, smiled and waved all the time. I guess he talked with a friend of mine that worked there, and showed up at my house to see what I was up to later that night. I had to work, so he said he would try to call me,but he just moved into this new place and didn't have a phone yet. He did call that night and we talked. Saturday night he called me to see if I wanted to hang out. I went over to his place with a friend. We talk and hung out for hours. He put some romantic music on and we danced down in his basement, with all his friends upstairs. We kissed and he did ask me if I wanted to sleep over,but didn't pressure me at all. He also was very understanding when I said I didn't want too. So he made plans with me to meet up the next day. We hung out all day Sunday,he even broke plans with his friends. I haven't really talk with him since, but our work schedule conflict. I just dont know if I should.
female, 18 yrs.
USA
Go for it, evidentally he likes you, just dont move to fast, let things take time. And if things get to where there becoming harder to deal with (as in work conflict) just explain to him that you too have to understand how it will be if you have a relationship and that there will be times you guys cant spend time together because of work. Dont let work stand in the way that could be something great. But also dont quit your job. Just have fun and take it day by day. What do you have to lose ?
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I need advice on how to make cleaning my room fun... it's so boring and i just hate doing it. My room is large, and there is stuff all over it. Any ideas to make cleaning it more fun? and maybe easier? Thanks very much! I'll rate good ideas!
First to keep your room from getting so dirty, clean every day just a little, pick up dirty clothes, throw away junk, make your bed, hang up clothes..etc. And to make it fun, just turn on the radio full blast to your favorite music, and just clean...Its hard to make cleaning a fun thing to do.
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See, last night I put in my tampon at about 6:00. I wore it all night long and accidentally fell asleep with it in and wore it until 9:00 this morning. My stomach hurts a little but maybe that's because i got a little drunk last night? I dont know though, I'm scared because i've read so many things about Toxic Shock Syndrome. So what should i do? Thanks!! I rate!
If you start feeling really light headed, and have severe cramps, or are running a high fever.. Go to the hospital immediately. Other wise dont freak out or nothing prolly just a slight hangover.But try not to wear a tampon again that long.
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okay i need some help pease....(it might be long if thats okay) its about math and English project...
Well ther is this project i am suppose to be doing with 3 of my friends and well that makes the 4 of us. so on of these 4 dose not want to do anything she dose not want to get involed with it and when she comes over she is like well i gatta life i dont want to be doing this project its stubid....So my 2 friends and i did the whole MATH project without her and we put her name on it becasue we had to say who it was from and we put her name on it and she did some of the english the only reason we put her name on there was becasue we did not want her to be like oh they kiked my out of the group n i did everything and stuff like that was that a good thing we put her name on it? should we take her name off i donno what to do. (she is my friend not best but a friend)
Ask her why she doesnt feel its important enough to participate in it ? After all if yall all work together it cant be that hard. And you've sed you've completed it, if she didnt do anything, erase that name, she could have done something. I know when me and my friends do a project we work together.
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my boyfriend smokes pot and i HATE it...i have really strong feelings about it b.c of certain things from my family // well i want him to stop and he promised me he would, he did it once and i wasnt so mad then he did it at this party that i went to! i dont want him to think im trying to control his life i just dont want to associate with people who do pot and i dont like to see him hurting himself like that...im scared to talk to him about it b.c i dont have enough strenght after everything that happened in my family...well, what can i do - leave your screen name for AIM if possible !
Smoking pot is bad, Im all for you on that one, but evidentally this guy doesnt feel you are important enough to stop, if he told you once he'd stopped but did it again. Drop him,theres better guys waiting for you. IM me if you like my s/n is carreraquads
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hey... im 14/f and i weigh 91 lbs. and ppl think im aneroxic and when i say im not they say im belimic! and im not and think that making urself throw up and not eating is gross. i eat all the time like almost everytime u see me i have food in my hand haha and i can eat something and say im full and then like an hour later i'll say im hungrey again. I have a fast metabolism and i really wanna try n gain weight, my new years resolution is to get over 100 lbs. so please can someone help me on trying to gain weight! thanks bunchez
Like yourself, people just know you dont have a eating disorder, if your always eating. As for gaining wait, its not something you want to rush, it will happen, your still growing.
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I have a large group of really close friends. Two who some would say are the most popular are starting to be really badly bullied by this jelous cow with no real friends. She has been being horrible to them for a long time, but now things are getting nasty. One of these two friends today got really badly shouted, e.c.t at, punched in the back ( which is really bad for her, as she has a bad spine and needs to wear a back brace) and her hair pulled so badly, I mean really pulled. In the shouting, she insulted her so much as well- calling her a jewish bitch and so on. All my other friends and I did all we could to break up the conflict and she would have done much more if we weren't there. I have a feeling this is going to get much worse. We have told the teachers, but this is going to make her so angry. This is all over nothing, simply them being popular. Both friends were left crying. For ages we have ran away whenever we have seen them ( she has her gang). What can I do to stop this from getting worse? Also, the other friend has a bad self image (even though boys think she is best looking in the school) and has been a cutter in the past. What can I do to help my friends and stop the bullying?
Go to someone above the teachers at school..like the Dean, Principal, or Guidance Counselor. Dont let those girls bully your friends, their simply jealous. Keep your friends close and if the girls start to bully them, stand up to them, let them know you've had enough and that your not going to take it. I know if my bestfriends were being bullied I'd be like back off,and my other friends would stand up to them also. As for the teacher you told report that to someone also, if she knew about a problem that was leading to something like fighting and didnt try to prevent it in anyway, that could be bad for the teacher. Just try and avoid the jealous girls as much as possible.And if all comes down to it, and their hurting your friends, kick their a**!
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okay. there is this kid that really likes me and flirts with me so much its scary lol. and i have a boyfriend. there is this girl that i let ansewr my cell phone once(yea i was playing basketball nd it rang in the middle of the game so i let her answer it.) nd it was my boyfriend. so today, she came into one of my classes nd i was like"yea we have another game tomorrow .. you gona answer my cell again?" so she sed sure. so then i said "hey, there is this kid nd he'll probly call. just flirt with him a little bit" so she was like ohkay yea. come to find out, she has a boyfriend. nd he'd probly be wicked pissed at me if he found out that i asked her to do that. see, i thought she was single. shes really really pretty so i was hopping to hook up her nd the kid that calls my cell. but now im afraid that her b/f's gonna be mad at me cuz he's one of the "popular" guys (popular- i hate that word but there's no better one). so how do i convince her that i was "just joking around" and to not go tell everyone i said that? its kind of like "opening your mouth nd putting your foot in it"
Hey first, you should just not answer yourself phone or answer it yourself and tell the guy your busy. As for your friend dont try and get in the way with her and her boyfriend by wanting to set her up with the guy who calls your cell. And if her boyfriend gets mad at you tell him your sorry you didnt realize she was takeing at that moment,besides your friend knew she was goin out with someone, if she was really worried about him getting mad she would have just been like "i cant i got a boyfriend"
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how do u just make a guy go crazy.. and make him fall for you. i know to be yourself.. but what are little extra things that he will just love? any girls who know how to make their boyfriends go crazy?.. or guy.. what turns you on?
Okay its not really about turning a guy on, its about not turning him off. Guys like girls who are easy to talk to, and dont flip out over something that isnt a big deal. Being open to try new things (they like that), just be open,honest, and show him you can make him happy, by doing things he wouldnt expect a girl to just up and do out of the blue.
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I think I have self-image problems. I hate my stomach. I'm always worried it is preventing me from finding a boyfriend. I know people sometimes comment about my weight behind my back. In school when we had our physicals I felt extremely self-consious because the nurse put the chart down and a few people could see my weight (I'm not sure they care though). I just don't want to hurt myself. I've thought about nt eating and becoming aneroxic and when I did I honestly didn't care what it would do to my body as long as my stomach look thinner. I do exercise usually but I never see results. I just want to know how I can have a better self-image. Any help?
The only help you need, is to realize that in order for people to accept you, you have to accept yourself, be happy the way you are. And if you cant do that and you'd like to lose say 10 or 15 pounds than, eat healthier, and drink lots of water. Apples, bananas, veggies are all good for you, and meat that it baked, broiled, or grilled is also nutricious. You dont need to stop eating in order to make yourself look skinnier, your only setting yourself up for dissapointment.If you got questions on what you should do for more healthier ways of eating ask and I will be happy to help you.
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well i had my period a week ago, fer about 3 or 4 days idk, but then it got really light , like hardly ANYTHING at all on the pad , so yeah but now it feels like im going to get it. Is it possible to get it?
Also..My best friend had sex before and in january she got her period for over 1 week about 2 weeks i think she said, and now she didnt get it in february, could it be becuase shes pregnet, or because she had it so long in jan. she wont get it in feb? Thanks so much!
About your period, it could just be irregular, or the egg that ovulated to make you have a period that month wasnt very much, therefore it wasnt as heavy or lasted as long.
As for your friend having sex more than likely she isnt pregnant if she has had sex then had a period that lasted for like a week or two, and its not unormal for her period not to have come yet in February, periods change, especially if its the first couple times you've ever had sex, because your brain and body react differently.Wether you realize it or not.
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we dated about 7 months ago for a month about and it ended because i guess he just lost interest in it.
we never saw eachother over the summer after he persued me last year and after we got together a bit this year and it didnt work, we developed an amazing friendship. i'm the girl who his family loves (hes told me how much his parents "adore" me haha) and i'm the only girl who spends time with him and his family like at movies or something.
he's gone through the typical 16 year old guy phase of wanting to date everything and anything with a skirt on this year after things didnt work between us....which is fine, i understand it. now i'm becoming good friends with his best friend who he thinks i should give it a try with as a relationship because "he deserves a girl like me"...i may like the guy a bit but i dont want to act on it. as for my guy-hes going out with a girl i don't really like right now and hes admitted to his buds that he still kinda likes me (but its a secret i guess). i don't know what to do.
does it seem like we may have a chance in the future?
should i mabye give it a try with his best friend who is truely a really great guy-would that affect the chances of us ever"
what do you think is going on in his head?
i need all the advice, thoughts, opinions i can get. please help-i'll rate. thanks.
I dont think theres anything between you and the guy you use to date, otherwise it would have never ended, and with all the hanging out and talking you and your guy friend do, more than likely he sees you as just a really great friends.And if there was something more than friendship, he wouldnt be telling you his bestfriend is interested in you and that you two should give it a try.
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13/m
hi,
i've taken the whole am-i-fat testing and stuff from different websites, and they all say the same thing, that i don't weight enough. i don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. my doctor i guess knows about this, but hasn't really told me to do anything. so... what can i do? i eat until i'm full, and thats it. please don't say "eat more!". i'll rate you if you give extremely good advice, give extremely funny advice, or give extremely bad advice.
yours,
the thin one
Sounds to me like your just naturally skinny, just be happy with yourself. You will gain wait when the right time comes.
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well, about a year ago, i got hit by a car and broke my thigh bone, the doctor put two screws in it.. recently, the doctor told me i had to go into day sergery to get them out, i asked what it was, i he sed that you had to be awake throughout the whole entire thing! i got so scared... should i go though it, cuz he sed i have a choice, does it hurt alot?? help!
It might be painful, but the doctor feels its time for those screws to be removed, so do it. Dont be scared, it cant be too painful otherwise they would put you to sleep, plus they might just numb the area where their removing the screw and you can just lay back and try not to think about what their doin.
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i am 18 and still a virgin! when i see people on tv having sex they make it look like it last forever.does it? i masturbate and the sensation only last about 10 seconds! so will it be like that when i have sex?
Saving your virginity is the best thing you can do until you are completely ready to give it up, because the point of masterbating is to have an orgasm, and its just like sex only sex last longer because the guy doesnt know how to get on the spot and stay on it as quickly, basically you aint missing much!
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Are u a Jeff Gordon Fan???
Not Im not a Jeff Gordon fan, I like #8 my self, so go Dale.
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Hi,
Sorry if this is gross.
I have really heavy periods and I know that they might settle down (I've only had four so far, but they have been really bad - I can't walk more than 10 steps without having to rush to the toilet) eventually, but is there anything (other than going to the doctors, something I will only do as a last resort) I can do to make them even a little bit lighter? I dunno, natural remedies, food to avoid, drink less...anything?!
I also seem to have like a really weak bladder or something when I'm on my period and I always need the toilet (like always, and I do 'go' when I go to the toilet). Is there something wrong there? If so (or not) what can I do to make it so it isn't so bad? I've tried drinking less and even drank nothing on one day but it makes no difference.
Thanks!
My periods were awful for the first like 8 or 9 times I ever had one, bad where I had to change a pad like every hour or less than that. I even had one that lasted 15 miserable day! So expect anything for the first year of your period. Sometimes they might be months apart, maybe light or really heavy. If you dont like the nasty feeling you get with a pad, wear tampons (with a high absorbeny) And if you have never wore one there is instructions in the box and just to let you know the higher the absorbency the more it hurts when you pull it out. Try a low absorbency first to see if they hurt you and if they dont go for the jumbo ones I guess..
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how effective is ortho tri cyclon low?..its a low form of birth control..
whats the percentage rate that u could get pregnant while on it?
Its as effective as any other pill, just because its low-cycle ( which is how much hormone each pill has in it ) does not mean it doesnt protect against pregnanacy as well as others. There are different types of dosages some are high and some are low it is simply to keep you from spottin in between periods, because some girls require higher hormones to keep from spotting between periods. If you have any other questions about it, feel free to ask me.
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