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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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when you have sex is it really necessary to be on the pill and have the guy wear a condom? or is it safe enough to just have a condom

saying that i have to tell you the way it is...

condoms don't only suck. they aren't very reliable either. my sister was concieved by condom useage. if you take the pill the only reason why you should use condoms is if you want to protect yourself again std's but if your partner takes a std test and it comes out clean then you should be good


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Ok; me and my boyfriend had sex last night, and I am 99.9% sure I am not pregnant. However; there's still that little possibility that I can be. I mean, he used a condom, and even pulled it out when he got off. (With the condom on.) I just want to know, how can I get rid of these nerves?

this is what you do =] go to your closest pharmacy.. then ask for the morning after pill. take it and you'll be set it's around 45$ but if you go to planned parent hood it's free =]

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I've been on the Depo shot for a while now and I haven't had a period since October. My normal periods are only 3 days long and I've been having one for the past 6 days. It doesn't continue throughout the whole day, just for a little while each day. Is that normal? It's very light and I'm having severe cramps. Thanks.

with the depo yeah it's possible. i was told this when i was going to get it but then decided against it. because she told me that it is likely that you will bleed for 90 days straight. and i was like ohh helll no. haha it's called spotting. it's not your period it's just your vagina leaking blood it's normal. because it also could increase your cramps too .

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do girls get wet dreams like guys do where they have an orgasm and get wet? because i've had sex dreams where i wake up extremely horny, but never wet. so is it actually possible for a girl to get wet during a dream? is it called a wet dream when girls have them or is it called something different?

i'm guessing yes

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i want my boobs bigger!!!!! i mean, im 14 years old, and i hardly have boobs. i mean im a 34b. Any exsercises or ANYTHING i can do NATURALLY!?!?!

they lie. because it is rumored that if you eat eggs alot... it's supposed to make your boobs bigger(something with the fat in them it won't make them dramatically bigger and it won't be quick either. but hopefully it will add a little to mass to them good luck =]

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i had sex with a girl 7 mounths ago, we had sex like 10 time in a row,like every day, after we left each other for while and after few days i came to know from some one that she used to have had sex with few other guys too, i am scared please tell me that is it a couse of HIV or any other illness, but i wanna tell you that i use condom each time,but she suck my penic she took off my condom every time, please guide me what should i do,??

condoms do protect against most sexual transmitted diseases UNLESS it breaks. go for an HIV test.. you can get one at your local planned parenthood.. not just for girls go there either... get yourself checked out and if you have it (i pray to god you don't) then that means she had it and she should be contacted immediately because she probably doesn't know either. you show no signs until after you had it for a long time and from there on it's all uphill..

but good luck and i hope your goign to be okay

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what is the age of concent in the us? and is it even if the other person is over 18?

for the most of the states you have to be 16(average) in order to concent to a guy above the age of 18

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13/f
ok ive been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and i want to tell him i love him, but my best friend says i should wait longer or wait for him to say it first... is she right??

thanks

i've been going out with my boyfriend for about a little over month too; he is probably the only boy i have ever loved (i'm 16) and i truly truly care a lot about him.. but even though yes i love him. he doesn't know that. because i never told him. because see when you tell a guy you love them;; it sometimes pushes them away. you could try and throw hints out there to try and show him you love him.. but i agree with you friend.. i would wait. just so you don't push him away

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16/f

alright me and my friend, dustin, have been friends forever. and like yeah we fool around.. we're kinda each others rebound.

well long story short.. tonight he came over.. and i figured he wanted something.. boy was i right.

at first he said he didnt want anything... and then night went on, we watched a movie and fooled around.. well.. then things started getting hot and heavy and he asked if i had condoms.. i said yea. well yeah i may have wanted it for a long time but it felt wrong because i was cheated on and didnt wanna get screwed over.

also i think that sex shouldnt be the only thing involved in a relationship.. it shouldnt matter. to me its the most distant thing in a relationship.. i guess what im trying to say is that i have morals.

but like did i make the right decision or was that his way of telling me he wants to be with me or something?
i need serious answers.. please and thanks =]

i don't think it was the right thing to do;; but you should regret it. your exactly right. sex should be the most distant thing in a relationship. you shouldnt NEED to have sex to make your relationship better in anyway possible but if your in love. then it should be something in your relationship because it's somethign to share with someone you truly care about and since you said that 'we're kinda eachothers rebound' i think it was just something that you both did to make yourselves feel wanted by someone.

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Hidden Messages on AIM.?
I want to make my font "hidden" until highlighted. Now, I know that using the older version of AIM, you could send hidden messages through AIM using or something along those lines and by pressing f2 the message would be revealed, but with the newer versions it can't be done because you can no longer use codes like that. I KNOW there is a way to do this, I've seen it done before. Not too long ago, but the guy who did it in his profile wouldn't tell me. Which was rude... but anyway, how can you make your font invisible until highlighted in your profile? I read on a webpage that you can use hex work shop to make it so you can use html codes; but I don't know how to use hex work shop. Is there any other way, or can someone please explain to me how to use hex work shop? I'd really appreciate any help. And please refrain from saying "Change your font color/background color so they match." IT DOESN'T WORK!! It changes the font color to a different shade on its own.

2 days ago
White font's don't work.

Now you just open up Notepad (any other text editor will do) and type in the secret message that you want, inside of these brackets:

Copy the text of whatever "secret message" you want to have. To quickly copy all the text, press CTRL-A, then CTRL-C.

Head back to AIM and type in the normal message. Paste (CTRL-V) the secret message wherever you want in the normal message. Here is an example of a successful "secret message"

heres the website i found it off of http://www.bigblueball.com/im/aim/aim-f2trick.php

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okay okay, just a few hours ago me and my homegirls went to a game and we went for a walk outside but it got too cold so we sat in my homies boyfriends car...well when we were in there it was just me,my 2 homegirls,one of my homies boyfriend,and his friend. so anyways we were playing truth or dare and i picked dare...then all of a sudden i was making out with a guy i hardly knew. he had a girlfriend but i didnt even kno...but kno he was telling my homies he wants to kno me more but im still feel bad for his chick..my questions are.

should i give him a chance?

is it bad that our teeth touched eachother when we kissed?

please answer

don't give him a chance. because once a cheater always a cheater.. he cheated on his ex so what makes you think he woudln't cheat on you;; i woudl drop him =]

nahhh it's not bad that your teeth touched when you kissed. happens all the time

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What are some turn ons for guys? I need tons, thanks!

tickle lol fun fun

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I have not had sex but i have been fingered however ive never bled. If i went to the Gynecologist would they think that ive had sex?

no they wouldn't think that

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does liking a girl when u're a girl too instantly means that ur gay or bisexual?

-lily

if you think a girl is pretty it doens't point to you being bi/gay. it just means that you like to look at your compatition...

buttt... if you look at a girl and say to yourself. wow she's hott. i'd tap that. then yeh. you probably are gay/bi

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I had sex with someone I liked a long time ago
and we both lost our virginity to eachother.
I havent done anything sexual with anyone since then, and I know for a fact he hasnt either.
I still think about it all the time, literally all the time and I want to do it again.
It drives me crazy because I think about it so much.
Do you think he thinks about it too?

if you both lost it to eachother than of course he thinks about it;; because the person you loose it to you have a lifetime bond with. and it sucks when you not together anymore. that's why a lot of people consider waiting until married beyond the bible

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Well. I can never seem to cum no matter how hard or long I wank. O.o I have had wet dreams if that helps.

it might just take longer. don't rush it;; just keep wanking until you achieve your goal. if you had wet dreams you are capable of cumming. so just relax and wank? lol =]

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Would shaving my pubes make me look bigger and better?

could. not sure hun sorry

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can you get an std from giving a guy a hj?
because i read something on a site that said that you can get hpv from skin to skin contact. please make sure you have facts before you answer because i REALLY dont wanna get an std.

nope you won't get an std from giving a guy a hand job. i PROMISE you that you can't because they are 'SEXUAL transmitted diseases" it woudl have to go in you to get one

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Thanks for the response even though it kind of hurts to know I'm hung like a mouse. I've even tried the small condoms and they slide right off as well. They are just to big around. So basically your saying if you saw my penis you would laugh too? Would you have any interest in dating a guy with a penis as small as mine?

i hate shady girls. they should like you enough not to care

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I wear a pantieliner and everytime i go to throw it away there is yellow stuff in it its like an ugly yellow. i dont know how to describe it. Does anybody know what it is?

it's called discharge nicknamed snail tracks it just means that your period is coming soon. nothign exciting =]

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