Anyone need advice or just to chat i am hoping to be able to help as many people as possibe. I am also on here to look for advice--hey we all need it! So if you need advice you can get to me as you prefer. Thank you and hope all is well
E-mail: Kam98@rcn.com
Gender: Female
Location: PA
Age: 27
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Yahoo: sweeteyez4u2c@yahoo.com
Member Since: November 1, 2005
Answers: 157
Last Update: December 25, 2005
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OK, the story goes like this. I go out with my ex-girlfriend and she says she won't ever leave me, and BANG. A week later she leaves me(she's f/17). I tried to call her...a lot for two weeks. I then decide not to contact her anymore but it's been two months and i'm still not over her. Must i contact her or must i just accept that she will never come back? (link)
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i know what your going through and i read peopels advice to take it for myself..my fiance left me after 2 yrs and i want him back--he told me he is never coming back--you did good by not calling her--i still text him --being 17 is just starting life and exploring--i dont know how old you are but if your the same age maybe you may want to do some exploring yourself--there may be someone else out there and you wont know if you dont give it a chance--im 27 been through enough and its hard to listen to peoples advice b/c it is your heart that is hurting..so if you need to talk more hit me up email or im we can chat about it and maybe we can help each other understand the opposite sex!lol
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I cheated on my ex-boyfriend while we were together. I realized I did not love him, and broke it off with him after that. Well, I still loved him very much and he loved me, so one day we decided to hang out as friends. Well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. Well, I realized how much of a mistake that was, so I stopped seeing him or talking to him completely.
Now I found out I am pregnant. I am 19 years old and he is 20. My ex-boyfriend is a really good person and I think he'd make a very good father. If our problems weren't enough, here is the biggest issue.
He is foreign. He is staying in the country on a student visa. He will have to leave in 6 months unless we get married. I desperately don't want him to leave. Not for me, but for our future child. The flight to his country and back to visit would be 1200 dollars per trip. Everyone is pressuring us to get married so he can fulfill his fatherly duties and our child could have both parents around. We've research all possible ways he could stay, and it basically comes down to him marrying me.
What should I do? I can't see myself being with this person forever, but I can't see my child only getting to see his father once a year or so. I am seriously thinking about marrying him until he becomes a citizen, and then divorcing. Ugh, it's so frustrating, I don't even want to think about it!!! (link)
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Okay i understand where you are coming from...abortion is NOT the answer. it is not the babies fault you are pregnant so i disagree with that totally. i have 2 children who did not ask to be in this world and i am a sinlge mom..abortions to me are murder--unless a girl was raped--thats different. anyway back on the subject hunny you dont have to marry him...both of you obviously did not think about this and him being foreign definetly does not make this easy--however you have the baby without him and he will have to contact you..you cannot marry someone you dont want to be with forever-my fiance left me about 1 month ago...he said he could not see us going to the end...so you see even when you think you have someone--they leave who is to say you wont marry this guy and then he leaves for some reason--think of yourself and the baby right now..you can make it on your own and if he wants to be in the country he needs to decide on how to get here by himself--you worry about the baby and you and you will be fine--its hard no matter what you do but in the end it will work out. Keep me posted i hope all goes well
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I have a question for all you people who bake. When I was baking cookies, the top parts came out fine, but the bottom was just really gooey. Did i do something wrong? And if i did, can you explain what i should do right? They were chocolate chip cookies by the way.
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sounds like 1 you did not bake them long enough. what i do is if it says to bake on 350 degress i put to 325 and if it says bake 12-12 minutes i bake 15 to 20 mintues. they get better b/c they are baking slower and it gets done evenly. i love to bake if you need anything let me know
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My boyfriend, of almost 2years, just broke up with me. I am going out tonight with my best girl Kate, and we are going bowling. Is that a good Idea?
What should I do to keep my mind off of it? And what shouldn't I do?
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Kelsssss
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You need to get out yes! my fiance just broke up with me after 2 yrs and i donthave the chance to get out much b/c i have children but yes go out and try your best to justhave fun--i know it will be hard but you gotta do it--its been 1 month for me and its not easy-so i know exactly what you are going through--and i am here if you need any help or ecouragement--hey we can go through it together--hit me up
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My boyfriend and I've been going out for three years now. When we met (16 at the time), I told him that if he wanted to become more than a friend to me then there are certain things he needed to know. I've told him I've been clinically depressed since I was eleven years old and that I'm self destructive and he understood. Instead of disregarding me, we fell in love.. The problem is, he breaks up with me when I'm at the point where my depression becomes unhandling.. basically, at times when I need him most. However, he always ends up coming back to me. This has happened at least twice since we've been together.
I'm 19 now and I've just started college. Ever since college has begun, I've been becoming more or more sad with my life. Everythings been so stressful, living away from home, being in a new environment, the college work load.. etc. Two nights ago I told my boyfriend that lately I've been crying a lot and that my depression is getting worse. Well, last night, out of no where, he breaks up with me over the phone. Two hours later, he wants me back.
I feel as if he doesnt want to be with me because he doesnt want to deal with my depression.. Thing is, I dont burden him with anything, I just go to him to talk about what's bothering me. It's like, he can't handle it and he gives up on me.. I know he really loves me though and I would never doubt his love for me.. it's just that I don't like being thrown away and then taken back. I dont like when people take me for granted. I need advice on what to do, because I really do love him and want to be with him. But I just cant keep having this happen to me.. him breaking up with me especially over something I can't help: my depression.
Thanks in advance.
Sorry for the length.
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I am going to tell you this imuch. My fiance just broke up with me and i can givce you all the advice in the world to deal with this-buti am going to tell you who to ask advice from. She will give it to you the way you need to hear it and what to do ask trueadvicediva and tell her i sent you her way she will help you out. She is good and will stick by you all the time whenever you need anything.
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I need help
I don't know everything that is wrong with me, but I know i need help. I'm a total mess and I don't sleep at night. Every night. A fourteen year old girl should not have to sleep with her sister and mother every night so she doesn't wake up everynight breathing badly and shaking. that isn't how things are supposed to be. I hold my breath then let it out, take a drink. type some more, talking to people keep me awake because i know as soon as i try to sleep hell will come. (link)
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Your mom knows about this but is not getting you the proper treatment you need? You definetly need to speak to someone or even see a doctor. Talk to your mom and let her know this is serious
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I get sleep paralysis like..every night..It happens to me over and over and over until my body gets so tired that.... I'm not afraid to get stuck in sleep. Why is this happening? I get 8 hours of sleep. I'm always tired when I go to bed. I take no naps during the day. I fall asleep. Is there something wrong with me?
This has been happening to me ever since THIS year. Last night, I had a dream that I couldn't breathe but then I realized that I really couldn't. I struggled to move my body to get myself up (link)
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wow hunny you need to go to a doctor b/c he can onl yhelp you with this. you dont want o mess with this ecpecially b/c of thr breathing situation. Go see a docotr asap keep me posted i would like to know how you are doing
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okay so theres this guy that is in like all of my classes, and ive liked him since the beginning of the school year. and he has a girlfriend, but he always flirts with me and asks me who i like and asks me to be his science partner and he told me my school picture was amazing and all this stuff. but like im so confused because he has a girlfriend so i dont know what this means. does anyone know (1) what this means or (2) how i can get him to like me (link)
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Okay this doesnt necesarilly means he likes you. Maybe it is his nature to just be a very nice peraon. Maybe he does like you but b/c he ahs a girlfriend he wont pursue it. Just be yourself he will ike you for who you are not what you want to be to get his attention. Hope all works out for you.
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do guys really care about how big a girl's chest is?
guys please answerrrr !! .. and girls if you know the answer too..
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Some guys care and some dont. As a women we always want our breasts to be bigger. I have a side d and i am content with it however if they are too big you will have back problems:) also depending on where your at with your growing level. you may not be done "blooming" but to guys to get get back on the subject--it depends on the guy.
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14/f
all my friends (that are girls) are prettier than me ! especially my bestfriend ! she is like perfecttt ! she has the perfect face, the perfect hair, she is a perfect cheerleader, and she has the perfect body
.. and me well im skinny so im not that big-chested .. and well my hair never comes out as good as hers and i have the worst smile.. like i got braces and my teeth are straight .. but their reallly big and my smile isnt a good smile.. ALL my friends have good smiles and are pretty and outgoing and the boys like them..
like i mean i dont think im UGLY .. but compared to them i feel like i am ..
i just need something to help me gain more self-confidence and stop me from being so self-conscious about the way i look and i want to be more outgoing like my friends
is it wierd that i'm jealous of my friends? what can i do so i wont be jealous anymore? (link)
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FDirst of all sweety NOONE is perfect-not now not ever. Perfection is not in noone. Everyone has something about them that is wrong-either in thier eyes or someone else's. I do know how you feel b/c i felt the same way when i was younger. I was the tallest in the class and no one seemed to wanna bother with me. To this day i am insecure,but i also say i am better than that and if someone does not want to be withme for certain reasons then they are not worthy of me-and to have you know when i see people from back in school now they same man i wish i was tall like you-your so pretty---well guess what you didnt notice it then--your loss now. I understand what you are saying and in order for you to ave self confidence you need tolook with in yourself and find your good qualities--and the rest will fall into place. Once you have found yourself and can see that there is nothing wrong with you your self esteem level will be high and no one will be able to take that from you. Just remember if someone does not like what is with-in you they are not worthy to be with you. Some day someone will look at you not only for your outer beauty but for your inner and then you will know...So try to concentrate on what and who you are before you try to say you wanna look like her or her or even her...i hope it works for you and if you need anything else let me know i am here to help you.
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I'm 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. He's 24, and things couldn't be better. One problem. He's married to another woman. I had NO idea he was married when we got together 4 months ago. Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have ever kept up contact with him. So, I know, but he doesn't know I know. And I'm guessing the wife has NO idea about his infedility. I've known this for about two weeks. I taped us "in the act", in case I ever needed proof.
Question is: how should I go about handling this?
Should I bring it up to HIM first?
Should I somehow tell his WIFE? And if you think I should do that, in what form of communication do you think would be best?
Do you think I should just end the relationship suddenly without mentioning it to him, and then stay the hell away, or what?
I would like to know if MY significant other were up to no good. I know it's not so much my business, but I would have trouble living with myself knowing I kept such a drastic secret from a woman who has every right to know. :( (link)
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Ok first off he LIED to you. He has a coommitment with another women-he is married. You dont want to be in the middle of this. Say they would end up getting divorced and here you are the middle girl--he will do the same thing to you. You just need to tell him i found out you are married and say you have a wife-go home to her. I would definetly not get in the middle. No i would not tell his wife--just leave the man and thats it-dont be the one to tell her--she will evenntually find out and he is the one who will suffer,not you. It is a shame but he is no good for 1 he is a liar and 2 he is a cheater. Now the other thing is if you dont mind--think of the wife. How would you feel if you were married to him and he was with someone else and you didnt know--you would be heartbroken. But no it is not your place to tell her. Maybe say to him he needs to tell his wife and of course he will say no--that just proves he is no man at all and in the end he will get what he deserves. Hope i could help keep me posted and if you need anything else let me know
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Well ive been cruching on this guy for like EVER! well tonight i finally told him. and we didn't get to talk anymore about it b/c someone walkied around the corner. but i just want to know if it was stupid of me to tell him or not? he is like always staring at me and what not, or he was idk if he still is but i need help!
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Well you never know if he felt the same way,you broke the ice and either he will give you the chance ot he wont.and if he doesnt its ok just let him know you would still like to remain friends--yah never know he may think more of you and respect you more if you keep it real. Hope i could help
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Ok so this morning I shaved my legs and i had goosebumps so i kind of messed up my legs REALLY bad and they hurt like crazy. Plus they are all red and bumpy. How can I get rid of this AS FAST AS POSSIBLE. And does anyone have any tips on how to prevent this in the future?
And what is the best razor out there ( i have extremely sensitive skin) and shaving cream. (link)
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Use lotion but not scented that will burn,they have sensitive skin shaving cream just look at the can. As for good razors i use Quattro-and it took me alot of different razors to find this one--its like $7 at wal-mart but its a good razor Hope i could help
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ok look i shave down there and wen i do like a day after there is red bumps and they hurt a lil like wen i put on my jeans and i do use shaving cream and soap wen i dont have any (link)
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first you dont want to shave too often--and you have to make sure the razor is not old..i shave and its happened to me already and you also want to go in different directions for a smoother shave. and yes it hurts like hell..lol...hope i could help
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guys think im pretty but they are all kinda nerdyish and i was wondering why not alot of the popular guys think im pretty? i've always wondered about this so can someone tell me why? easy 5 unless your mean (link)
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I had this problem back in the day and realized the popular guys are so stuck on themselves they dont realize what a pretty girl really is...and yah know later in life when you seen them then they say..damn you look good.Well you didnt notice me then poof be gone-lol. Guys are very ---well a different breed and to the "nerds" you are pretty but to the the popular guys"your too good" think of it that way--hope i could help
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ok me and my best friend (guy) are going out secreatly and i was wondering if that is wrong to keep it even from my best friend. Should i talk to him and see if im able to tell a couple of really good friends? im 13 and a female.
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My first question is why is it a secret-my first nswer is your parents? If that is the case then maybe you should tell them first before it gets back to them from someone else. If it is b/c your b/f wants it a secret i would be suspicious of why also.
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k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal (link)
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This is normal at your age but please dont do the sex thing. You have your whole life to do that. Its ok to think but dont act it out-concentrate on school-that will come later in life
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If you had to pick one over the other, would you pick diamond earrings or a pearl necklace?
earrings--http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=52U4&start_id=66&CategoryId=501&category=Diamonds&
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necklace--
http://www.tiffany.com/shopping/item.aspx?c_id=WEB1&c_it=57I5&start_id=91&CategoryId=66&category=Jewelry& (link)
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o would pick diamond earrings but it is your choice whatever you like better. Diamonds are a girls best friend!
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ok my hair is so boring and I have the PERFECT cut in mind I just need opinions on how it would look on me... ok my hair is brown with blonde and deep red highlights, my face is round/heart shaped, skin is an olive tan color and my hair is half way down my back.. ok this is what I want done: I want to get a lot of layers, take some length off of it, side sweep bangs, and spikey things at the top (kinda like a faux hawk but not that short) If you need details just IM me on my AIM sn: funnyfunkestuff
(if that hair wouldn't look good then give some suggestions) : )
asked this on the public thing but no answers.. so I decided to ask you (link)
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i will aim you in a minute
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ok so my friend. we were eating dinner with her parents. they asked me a question about something for school. we had something for our parents to meet our new teachers. then she got GROUNDED because i said we had em (since she didn't tell em). well now i feel like crap since i got her grounded. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT UP TO HER? DID I EVEN DO ANYTHING WRONG!?!?!?!! (link)
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You didnt do anything wrong,she did by not telling her parents about it. Yah you will feel like crap but then again she never told you she didnt tell her parents. Also if you lied then her parents would not trust you. Tell her your sorry you didnt mean to get her in trouble and if she is a true friend she will understand.
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