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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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hey! (:
okay well my question is about handjobs. im with this guy that i RLY like and he like actually loves me. hes shown me love and cared for me like no one else ever and ive been with a lot of guys. anyway that leads to i want to go a little farther with him. hes fingered me and ive touched his penis but i havent actually given him a handjob. i really want to but i feel clueless. hes experienced and im not.. haha. we mean the world to each other and really have a future so i feel like if i do it'll be something really special for us. he keeps telling me i dont have to and that if i do itll be amazing just because its me.. but i want it to be legit good too haha. he tells me that no matter what i do he'll love it but can you give me some pointers? i want to know what feels super good to guys cus i have no idea. the head of the penis has the most nerves, right? and i know i hold tightly onto it and move my hand up and down but im sure other girls do other little things to make it better and stuff. and also he takes a while to cum even if hes super turned on like whether hes doing it or a girl is so what do i do to make it feel good for a good amount of time and maybe help him go a little faster? lol, cus id rather it not take tooo long. :P thank you so much! i just need some instruction and pointers haha.
Well, it is hard to go wrong. Most guys are happy to just get one.
I do have some pointers.
First, lubricate. Use lotion, vaseline, ky, or your saliva (you can just lick your hand). No lubricant is ok if it isn't going to last long. Otherwise, friction will get uncomfortable (think indian burn).
Vary the touch. Use your fingertips to lightly stroke the whole length a few times, then grip firmly for a bit. Use both hands to completely wrap his penis up and firmly stroke up and down. Or, use one hand to stroke his penis and with the other cup his balls. Just behind the balls, if you put a little pressure, you'll get a reaction. That is as close as you can get to the male g-spot without fingering him in a place a lot of guys are uncomfortable being fingered.
What will really make it great is pretty simple:
Enjoy what you are doing. What kind of touch do you like? Sure, you don't have the same parts, but the touches are similar. The way he touches you (firm or soft, fast or slow, etc) usually will reflect what he likes.
Anyway, I hope that helps and doesn't get booted from the site for being too graphic.
Have fun!
Ive been on the birth control pill for about 4-5 months now, i take it right, never missed a day and always at the same time. My boyfriend accidently "came" inside of me. What is the chance i could be pregnant?
Your chance of being pregnant is very slim. Supposedly less than 1% if you take it exactly right, which you say you do. So, unless you miss your period, don't worry.
Well ive been having sex with my boyfriend of a year for about 7 months.i had sex with him last weekend everyday :)we have sex every weekend and when i see him and stuff. but im not suppose to get my period until the like 24th or 25th and its only the 21st and the past couple days ive been having this redish/brownish color come out of my vagina? what do i do. what does it mean??
It could be infection. Or you might be starting your period early. Or, well, maybe your cervix was particularly sensitive. I've had bleeding after a lot of sex because of that before. Or, you could be pregnant. When the embryo attaches to the uterus, there can be some bleeding, and it usually happens near when you would get your period. I learned this when I started bleeding just after finding out I was pregnant and went in for an ultrasound to make sure my baby was ok.
The only way to know for certain is to check with your doctor (unless, of course, your period starts right away, in which case you have your answer).
what is everything that happens to a female when she has an orgasm? and when does she 'cum' as opposed to when does she 'get wet'? what is the main difference and how can i know the difference? and can a girl cum by fingering? or does she just get wet?
When I am aroused, I am very definitely wet. When I cum, it is obvious. The other person to answer so far mentioned vaginal spasms. That is one thing that happens. For me, I "quake." My whole body shakes and I'm fairly vocal about it. Also, I end up not just wet, but dripping.
Wow, that was more descriptive than I originally intended to be. I hope it doesn't get booted. Really, it is just to show that every woman is different. In fact, even in just one woman, each orgasm may be different. But you will know.
And yes, a girl can cum by fingering. You just have to find the right spot (the clit, and the g-spot are typical trigger points, and no they are not the same).
If you are concerned you won't know the difference, you can be sure she will know. Don't be shy. Ask her to tell you. But I don't think you will need her to.
Well i have a fear of germs and i wash my hand for about 10 min and my family goes made at me for taking to long and i hate to sit next to people. And my sister brings home toys form my nans house i and from school i will not let her come near me with them. And fear of getting the stomach flu.I have had a bad case of it when i was 11 years old and now i am 15 years old and i have the same fear. before i had the stomach flu i was i normal kid.My family said i have a ocd but i have never been to a doctor about it. A hate going shopping with my mum and i hate going to school any where with people i hate it.Do you think i have a ocd.
Like the other person said, it is not likely ocd but germophobia. You are terrified of being so sick again, and it has taken over to an extreme.
What I recommend is going to your regular doctor and telling them just what you put here. Your doctor will be able to tell you ways to avoid getting sick without these extremes. You may need an anti-anxiety medication and/or therapy for a short time. I get the impression you were not like this before you were sick, and it wasn't that long ago, so chances are you will get over it with help. But you need to get that help now so it doesn't take over the rest of your life.
It is possible to have a successful life with this germophobia. Howie Mandell has. But it sounds like it is not a life you want, or you wouldn't be asking for advice. So, go to the doctor ASAP. Be honest, tell the doctor what you told us, and be open to whatever solutions are presented to you.
i think i am suffering from depression honestly and i would like to be put on antidepressant of some sort... i was wondering if you go to the doctor and ask about depression and the pills will they make your take a drug test? or will theu just ask you if you use drugs??
I NEED TO KNOW SOON PLEASE
They won't likely ask if you are on drugs. If you are, though, you need to tell the doctor before getting any prescription medication. You do not want to risk problems with combining drugs and medications.
That said, are you taking drugs? what ones?
Drugs can make you feel different, and that can even come across as depression. So, first thing, if you are taking drugs, stop. That will quite likely help.
Next, what is it that makes you think you are suffering from depression?
Are you sleeping too much? Too little?
Has your appetite changed?
Do you feel unhappy a great deal of the time, with no logical reason (drugs can be a reason)?
Do you have physical symptoms, like aching all over?
Do you ever have times with extreme energy or other highs, with no logical cause (again, drugs can be a cause)? These can include periods of feeling indestructible, or being reckless (like having a lot of sex with a lot of people).
Do you feel irritable for significant lengths of time?
These are things the doctor should ask you (if the doctor doesn't ask most of them, you may want to see another doctor).
For treatment, antidepressants are certainly helpful in many situations. Keep in mind that an antidepressant can take a few weeks to start helping. It is not a quick fix. There are many different medications, and what works for one person may not work as well for another. It is possible that you will have to try one medication for a couple of months only to find it doesn't work and have to try another. Be patient until you and your doctor find the right one.
If you do have highs, or extreme irritability, talk to your doctor about bipolar disorder as well. If that is a possibility, antidepressants can actually make things worse over time.
Along with medication, you should seek therapy. Medication affects the chemical part of depression. Therapy is useful for finding the cause, or repairing damage caused by behavior brought on by the chemical disorder.
I hope you find your solution soon. If you have any questions about depression or bipolar disorder, don't hesitate to send me a note. I've had a lot of personal experience with this, and will do what I can to help others avoid the stuff I have been through.
I get so shy when eating in front of others. I like tense up. It's awkward & I can't live like this. I have no problem with the food I'm eating...I'm just insecure...how can I get past this?!
The previous answer is really great.
I wanted to let you know that it is perfectly normal to feel that way. I actually read about something similar in Reader's Digest recently. Here is a link to the article:
http://www.rd.com/living-healthy/normal-or-nuts/article81525-1.html
A lot of people feel self conscious eating in front of people. Sometimes I feel it too. The truth is, we all are aware that eating looks awkward, but we are also more likely to be thinking about ourselves than looking at other people eating. Do you notice how other people eat? You probably notice them eating, but don't pay much attention to what they look like. I like the suggestion below to just go eat in public. Pick a place where you aren't likely to be around people you know. Then, if they were actually judging you (they won't be) it wouldn't matter because you'd never see them again. Also, when eating with friends and such, focus on their conversation and other distractions. That may help you to not think about what they may or may not be thinking about. And, if they are chatting about the cute guy at a nearby table, you know they aren't watching you eat.
If, however, you think this is becoming a serious problem (you find that rather than being shy, you become totally unable to eat), you may want to talk to a professional.
my boyfriend has post cuncussion syndrom from a tackle when he was playing football which makes him really depressed. it's suppose to last for a month. i'm not sure what i can do to help because he's been acting so isolated. he doesn't want to talk and i'm not able to see him over the weekend so i sent him a message telling him how happy he makes me and what a great guy he is and that i'm always gonna be here for him. but i don't think that's enough.
i want to do more to help but i don't know what i can do besides just be there for him. it hurts me to see him so sad. i love him so much too.
any suggestions?
As someone who suffers from chronic depression, I can tell you that you are really doing a lot already. Just be patient, and know that you are not the reason he is acting the way he is. Being very depressed, and likely hurting as well, will take its toll on him. The depression may go on longer than a month, as he may dwell on his behavior during that time. Make sure he knows that you don't blame or resent him for that time, and that you will continue to be there for him. Tell him that if there is anything you can do to help him, you will. Don't be pushy about it though. It is tempting, because you will fell like you aren't doing enough, but if you push it he'll quite likely take it wrong. He may say to himself "she is trying so hard to fix this, so I must be really awful right now" and that won't help at all. He'll know that that isn't true, but a depressed mind comes up with lots of negative things.
As for the isolation, I went through that too. Still have times when I do it. I can only speak from my experience here. I withdrew from everyone because I didn't want to burden them with my problems. I would guess he is doing the same. So, again, gentle, loving reminders that you are there for him when he wants you to be will make a big difference in the long run.
Don't forget to take care of yourself too. It is easy to say "how can I take care of myself if I can't help this person I love?" But if you don't take care of yourself, you can't be there for him.
Im a female, and I have had sex with 3 people, one small medium and big. I dont know whats wrong with me I cant feel anything when penetrated. I dont get tingles I dont have anything it just feels like rubbing. I can feel clit stimulation so.... whats wrong? how come nothing happens? Im very in love with the man Im sleeping with and still nothing.
Some women (a lot, really) just aren't as sensitive inside. The clit is more sensitive. Do you cum with clit stimulation? If so, perhaps more foreplay (oral?) is in order to get you going before penetration so you can both enjoy it. You can also get a vibrator that stimulates just the clit and can be used during sex. Those are fun.
But, don't worry. Nothing is wrong.
I am letting my hair grow out from a very short pixie hairstyle to something much longer, ideally. I haven't gotten my hair cut in three and a half months now. Lately I've noticed a lot more hair loss on my pillow and when brushing my hair (more hair buildup on the brush as well).
How can I tell if I am actually losing my hair (it falling out) or if it's just breaking off somewhere on the shaft?
Chances are it is breakage combined with normal loss. On average, people lose around 100 hairs per day. Your hair is, presumably, longer now than it was three and a half months ago, so the hair that you lose is a lot more noticeable. Same number of hairs, just longer. Longer hair will take up more space on your brush. It is possible that you get more tangles with longer hair, and pull more loose when brushing. Also, even when trying to grow out your hair, you should get it trimmed regularly. The ends do get dry and brittle and can break, which ultimately keeps your hair from growing out nicely.
Is your hair curly at all? If so, or even if not really, go to the library and find "Curly Girl" by Lorraine Massey. There are some great hair care tips in there that will get your hair to be a lot healthier and grow out nicer. And, instead of using a brush, use a wide toothed comb. It will pull out less hair, as well as cause less friction. Friction just adds to the brittleness and breakage.
You can also check out this site for tips on caring for long hair: http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/
why is some spit more sticky.. like when i brush my teeth and spit stuff out sometimes its gross and there are other ppl nearby! is there something wrong with mine?
The previous person is right.
Also, your spit adapts. It has enzymes to break down the foods you eat. Certain foods require more work to break down, and that can change your spit.
However, everyone gets gross spit and most people don't look at other people's spit. So don't worry about other people nearby. They are likely thinking about completely different things and don't care a bit about your spit.
What can I do with one of my eyelids that has been swollen and chapped for four weeks?
My first thought is that you might have pinkeye. Have you seen a doctor? It is highly contagious, and makes the eye red and puffy.
If it is not pinkeye, try a cold compress to ease the swelling.
Since it has been about a month, whatever the problem is, I'd check with a doctor to rule out infection. Even if it is just chapped, chances are the chapping could have caused small cracks in the skin which let bacteria in. That would explain why it hasn't healed yet. So, see a doctor. You may need antibiotics.
17, UK
I have an assignment in which I have to research anything of my choice to do with travel & tourism.
I need to use 3 different literature types (eg, internet, book, brochure, news papers) relating to my chosen topic.
I need produce notes, evidence of source a finished report and finally I need to present my assignment in a class discussion.
Most of my class are doing well known, popular topics, such as:
Disney, Florida
9/11
The Princess Diana Memorial
Various Castles around the UK
Paris
For mine, I want something thats different, unique and not as mentioned, something that will keep my discussion going, something that will keep my class and tutors interested and wanting to ask questions and find out more...
I have come up with a few ideas, but if anyone can give me some more I will be so thankfull!
Heres what I have thought up:
Great Barrier Reef, Aus
Auschwitz (The largest Concentration Camp)
Bull Fighting, Spain
Niagra Falls, Canada
Valley of the Kings and Valley of the Queens, Egypt
Great Wall of China
Las Vegas, Nevada, US
Anne Frank House, Netherlands
Loch Ness, Scotland
Anyone got any idea's? Baring in mind it has to relate to Travel & Tourism & I need to be able to find 3 different sources of information about the topic.. And i'm in the UK so I havent got easy access to brochures of foreign attractions.
Thankyou
I can't help much, but since Las Vegas is on your list, I figured I'd offer. I live in Vegas and could send you info if you'd like.
Another interesting tourist attraction would be Kilauea in Hawaii. It is the only active volcano in the US.
15/f
okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for three and a half weeks. and i have a lot of guy friends way more than girl friends. i'm always hugging my guy friends just as a nice gesture you know? Then with my bf i never see him hugging other girls. so sometimes i feel awkward when i hug my friends and he's there.
he's a sophmore on the JV football team and like today i met this new guy "d" and he's a junior on the Varsity football team. we're just friends. then when i was waiting for my boyfriend "T". d came up right before t could hug me d did because he was closer. And when i saw my boyfriend's face he was starring like what the heck? i don't think it was in a "you just stole my hug" thing but rather like he was a lil intimidated and jealous. He's given this look before so it's not that new.
I'm just wondering if i should i talk to him about it or just let it blow over.
thank you =]
Just talk to him about it. Let him know that you don't see anything more in these guys than you do in your girl friends (unless, of course, you are bi and interested in the girls too, but somehow I don't think that is the case here). Tell him that you understand if he worries that it is more, but that he is the only one you want and there is nothing these other guys can do to change that. You are just an affectionate person with your friends and it isn't anything more than platonic. Then kiss him passionately, smile coyly, and say "you're the only one who gets that." That tends to help.
A little over a year ago I had a ruptured appendix and had to have an emergency surgery shortly after. Beforehand, the doctors noticed that I had scar tissue on one of my ovaries, which the burst appendix and infection had probably caused- apparently this is fairly common, since an ovary is right next to the appendix.
I am concerned that this could cause problems with fertility, when i do decide to become pregnant- which is really something I might plan in the distant future, I'm 24, and not even thinking about it at this point. But it is important to me.
I do know that a woman only needs one healthy ovary, and one healthy egg to get pregnant, but I'm still worried. For anyone that knows about this, what are chances of fertility complications from scar tissue on an ovary? I have always had regular periods, and have no other health issues.
I am planning to talk to my gyno about this during my yearly exam, but still wanted input from anyone with experience with this and/or knowledge about this. Please ONLY answer if you have relevant information/input..thanks
If you don't have any other problems with your ovaries, I wouldn't be too concerned. I have PCOS (cysts on my ovaries) as well as scar tissue. I don't know how much of it showed up after my son was born, but I did have problems even before. I don't think the scar tissue will affect production of eggs. Cysts do, as they can change hormone levels. But it doesn't sound like this is a problem for you. Regular periods and generally good health are a good sign.
why do my breasts get so tender before my period, and how do i make it stop?
It is because of hormones affecting the mammary glands and breast tissue. It is normal. It sucks, I know, but it is normal. Ice packs and pain relievers can help a little bit.
okay so if i started my period on the 10th of march, and ended on the 16th, what days will i be ovulating?
sorry i just can't figure this out by myself.
pleeease help!
Typically, you ovulate around the 14th day of your cycle. However, that is just the average. It is possible to ovulate at any point in your cycle. So, if you are completely regular, with a textbook cycle, you will be ovulating around the 24th (your cycle starts with day 1 of your period). But don't count on being totally textbook. I got pregnant on day 7 of my cycle, so it can vary widely.
Hello all!
I met a wonderful man and have been dating him for quite some time. He is everything I feel women can ask of a man. Among other things he’s sweet, attentive, family oriented and even cooks and cleans (and better than me).
Well, he sat down with me to talk and told me how much he cared for and wanted to be with me and how he liked things to take a step forward. He then gave me keys to his apt, which I didn't accept. He also said that (at that moment) it would be a good time to share with me this bomb shell... Since he knew he wanted to continue seeing me and wants things to get more serious, he felt he should "come clean".
He married an ex-girlfriend of his for papers (naturalization). The process will take about another year or so. He hasn't been with this girl for some time now and she is also, currently dating someone. What do I do? I value marriage so strongly and he is most certainly a very strong candidate for it. I'd marry him in a heartbeat, but I feel so lost. Am I over-reacting for feeling so ANGRY? Do I continue seeing him despite this? Will I forever hold resentment because of this if I choose to go on?
He is so concerned with my thoughts on this, but I honestly don’t know what to think and even less what to do? Any insight will be appreciated.
Thanks!
F/26
Feeling angry or upset is normal. No one like to hear that the guy she is with is technically married to his ex. However, he had a good reason to do it and he was honest with you. She has moved on. It is just a paper thing. Everything else you said leads me to believe that it won't ever be anything more. I would stick with him. You are very lucky to have an honest man who is good to you and shares your values.
What factors other than pregnancy could cause a late period? Thank you!
Stress, illness, age (if you are a teen, periods can be very irregular for a while), Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (I had so many pregnancy scares thanks to that one!) and other ovary problems, and probably a whole lot of other things.
But if you are sexually active and your period doesn't come, get a pregnancy test. At the very least, you can rule that out with a test, or know for certain what is going on.
My son eats and eats and eats. I feed him only healthy food, like fruits, veggies, whole grain wheat, beans, tofu etc. This is all fine and dandy that he eats so much because he is really healthy, but the problem is he stuffs it all into his mouth at once. if I cut his food up in tiny bite size pieces, he shovels is all in until its pouring out of his mouth . I'm afraid he will choke, but I don't neccessarily want to sit there with him and give him his food piece by piece. does anyone know why he eats like that, and how I can slow him down without feeding him piece by piece? He is 17 months old. I am also afraid that when he gets older he will be overweight because he really will eat everything in sight, the other day we went out for breakfast and he ate more than me and his dad. He's just a little guy! We (his parents) are both fit and healthy and not overweight, but I've never seen a kid with such an appetite!
Well, the previous person to answer misread months as years. However, 17 months and 17 years eat very much the same. My son was the same way. Let him eat. Just be there in case he does manage to choke. He probably won't, but it is still best to be there just in case. Don't worry about him being overweight. It sounds like you are instilling good habits already and you also have genetics on your side. He is likely going through a growth spurt right now (completely normal at this age) and needs the extra food. For the next several years, he will probably go through phases where one week he will eat everything in sight and the next not eat anything. My son is 8. He is completely healthy, not overweight. He still does this. There will be times when he won't stop eating for a month, then he won't eat much of anything without a struggle. He usually grows about an inch shortly after the constant eating. I wouldn't worry, just bring it up next time you see the pediatrician so they know his habits.