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how do i help him out?
my boyfriend has post cuncussion syndrom from a tackle when he was playing football which makes him really depressed. it's suppose to last for a month. i'm not sure what i can do to help because he's been acting so isolated. he doesn't want to talk and i'm not able to see him over the weekend so i sent him a message telling him how happy he makes me and what a great guy he is and that i'm always gonna be here for him. but i don't think that's enough.
i want to do more to help but i don't know what i can do besides just be there for him. it hurts me to see him so sad. i love him so much too.
any suggestions?
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As someone who suffers from chronic depression, I can tell you that you are really doing a lot already. Just be patient, and know that you are not the reason he is acting the way he is. Being very depressed, and likely hurting as well, will take its toll on him. The depression may go on longer than a month, as he may dwell on his behavior during that time. Make sure he knows that you don't blame or resent him for that time, and that you will continue to be there for him. Tell him that if there is anything you can do to help him, you will. Don't be pushy about it though. It is tempting, because you will fell like you aren't doing enough, but if you push it he'll quite likely take it wrong. He may say to himself "she is trying so hard to fix this, so I must be really awful right now" and that won't help at all. He'll know that that isn't true, but a depressed mind comes up with lots of negative things.
As for the isolation, I went through that too. Still have times when I do it. I can only speak from my experience here. I withdrew from everyone because I didn't want to burden them with my problems. I would guess he is doing the same. So, again, gentle, loving reminders that you are there for him when he wants you to be will make a big difference in the long run.
Don't forget to take care of yourself too. It is easy to say "how can I take care of myself if I can't help this person I love?" But if you don't take care of yourself, you can't be there for him.
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