Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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okay so i dated this guy for about 7 months.
and we broke up 2 months ago.
and i am not over him..at all!
we still talk at least once a week.
and i have tried everything to get over him, i have tired not talking to him. moving on. everything!
nothing works.
i am getting really sick of it.
even my friends have noticed that it is changing me.
music is not helping me anymore.
it just makes me sadder.
when me and him do talk all he does is bring up are memories. and how much fun it was. and i dont want to stop talking to him agian. cause when i do it makes me feel so much better.
i really dont know what to do.
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I was with a guy for 9 months and when we broke up, it took me close to a year to get over him. I even 'moved on' and those same feelings still remained. It does get easier, when you cut off all communication. But it still is hard. You need time away from him, seriously. Just don't talk to him. I'm not going to say it will be better soon because it may not. But IT WILL BE BETTER ONE DAY. Just ride out the path. And don't make it harder on yourself.
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Ok so my jeans that i have to buy for my waist are always baggy in the legs because i am short so does anyone know a way to make my jeans tighter in the legs so they do not fit so baggy like thanks (link)
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Do you mean they are baggy around your ankles or your actual legs? If you do mean your legs, I suggest getting a smaller size. Or you could always get your jeans altered.
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this guy from a different school and i are really complicated. im a virgin and hes a huge fan of sex and random hookups. we have talked a million times about it and hes being nice. well we sort of had a thing before, like we liked each other and would hang out but he was really busy with snowboarding.. hes really amazing at it and i swear hes gonna be pro some day. well we still talked but things just werent working well because he was too busy for any girl. now were back to having a thing and liking each other. he says he really cares about me and isnt going to make me do more than im willing, which he never has, he makes a suggestion but doesnt force it to happen if i say no. still, i fear he just wants to use me. he really wants to do me and knows im planning on only losing it if im in a relationship. he says he wants a relationship with me even though he didnt want a high school relationship. he was calling every night and saying some cute texts. we hung out last night and made out. he was respectful of my morals as always. he slept at my guy friends house whos my neighbor then snuck back out to be with me again. we made out some more in my bed and cuddled for like an hour and a half. then my neighbor called saying my guy needed to hurry back. this morning he dropped by for a little to pick up his wallet, kiss me, then leave to visit his grandpa in the hospital. he hasnt talked to me really today so finally i tried talking to him. he didnt really seem to want to talk just told me his grandpas doing well. he didnt call and i called him a lot later. he didnt pick up. idk if he just got annoyed i wouldnt do more with him which he tried to hint at, or if im just being crazy because i like him so much, or what. he said last nightt he had fun but i dont know. it seemed like he did. i hope he really does like me and isnt looking to use me. im just so afraid, ive been hurt so many times. do you think he really does like me or is just looking to get some? (link)
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He probably was annoyed with the fact that he didn't get more out of you. Why? Because he's use to always going all the way with the ladies and hooking up. But you're different, you are not just going to be another hook up. You want more, so act like it. He apparently didn't want to be with all the girls he hooked up with, maybe beacuse they were so easy. You're not, you're different.
My advice to you is to take a chance with him. I'm not telling you to have sex with him to keep him interested. Keep doing what you are doing. If he cares about you then he would understand. If he doesn't and breaks it off with you solely because he wants more, he isn't worth your time anyways.
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I am 15 and havent made out with anyone yet. I dont know how. Please tell me how to do it and dont say it comes naturally. I would like steps. thanks! (: (link)
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Ahhh...I remember my first make out session, I initiated it. *memories* you gotta love em' :)
First, do you plan on starting it? If so, start off with a slow kiss. Kiss his top lip and his bottom lip. It's pretty simple. Don't be afraid to use some tongue. I suggest you practice on your hand. Sounds weird? Maybe. But it does help.
Then, you slowly open your mouth and slowly slip your tongue in his mouth in an in and out motion. Wiggle and tongue around his. You could suck on his tongue lightly.
You don't only have to do mouth-to-mouth action. You could kiss his neck (It's the way you would kiss his mouth.). Nibble at his ears even.
Your hands? Run your fingers through his hair, caress him, etc.
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I love my best friend, we'll name her Cassie, but she has no problem being a blabbermouth when I tell her things. I've told two of my closest friends and my cousin about how I like my guyfriend from school. Only one of those close friends goes to my school and Cassie is from another school. I promised myself that I wouldn't tell Cassie about this guy if & until I was totally sure he liked me back or if something were to happen between us (the guy does not know I like him, but it's very very possible he likes me). Cassie knew two people I used to like well and blabbed it to them. Even though this guy is someone she doesn't know I feel like if I tell her she could possibly write all over my Facebook wall about it or something like that and it'll ruin everything. I feel like I'm really getting somewhere with this guy. But I really really want to tell Cassie about him, and I feel like a liar everytime she asks "What's new in your life?" and I just say "Nothing really". I could simply avoid any issue just by not telling her but I just feel like a liar and I want to tell her about it. Also she just lost her grandpa, after losing her uncle earlier this year, and she needs good friends. Should I just tell her or wait until I'm totally sure he likes me (if that were to happen)? If you say I should, then how do I tell her without giving too many details away about him and making sure she doesn't ruin it? And don't say she's a horrible friend, you shouldn't be friends with her, if you were me you'd understand why I'm friends with her. I just feel like if I wait until something happens she'll think I've been lying to her about what's going on and she'll be mad. Sorry that this was long. (link)
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We are two peas in a pod my friend :)
Except with my "blabbermouth" friend, I just don't tell her certain things I don't want to get out. Sure it seems like your keeping things form her but that's because you ARE. Look at it this way, would you rather your business being out? Just tell her when you know for sure that he likes you or not. Other than that I say keep it to yourself.
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I'm really confused about what to do!
To make a very long and complicated story short and simple, I had sex with my ex boyfriend of 4 years about 2 months ago. He committed suicide about 2 weeks ago.
I think I may be pregnant with his child. I'm against abortion and would never give up my own child for adoption because... you know... it's MY kid! However, I don't have the money to raise a child. I'm in college right now and if I am pregnant, then the baby would be due around October... I can't not go to school because then I won't have a degree to get a decent job, besides who would take care of the baby while I'm working/in school... my parents would never help me out with this... they would press for adoption or abortion because they're barely financially stable enough to help us - I'm in school strictly on student loans, my brother is joining the armed forces so they'll pay for school, and my sister never went to college- she's got a full time job and is living at home. None of us can support a baby, and I can't ask my dead exes mom to help - she just lost her son and is extremely financially pressed... it's insane! I don't know what to do !!
What would you do if you were in my situation?
I don't have anyone to turn to because the baby's father is dead... I just don't know what to do right now!! (link)
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This is so tough and I'm so sorry about your situation but the first thing you need to do is find out if you are actually pregnant for sure. Go to the doctor.
If you are pregnant I think you should turn to your ex's mother. Why? Because this could be just what she needs, a little part of her son. I mean that is if you choose not to give your baby up, or abort it.
I know it may seem impossible but it truly is not. It will be hard, but you can do it. Look for cheap day care centers and get a job. Look for help and support within your friends.
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Hi thanks for taking the time out to answer my question. I'm 24 proud single mother of 2. I meet a man 5months ago. It started out sexually and now i want more. He has so much to offer my kids and i not just financially but mentally as well. He gives me mix signals as if he want to be with me but i'm not sure if its just sex or not. When he comes around we always end up having sex. What to do. (link)
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Already answered.
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I have good friends but a lot of my school either doesnt know me or thinks i am really shy. I'll admit I am shy when i first meet people, it takes me awhile to warm up to them. I consider myself to be pretty and think i am really outgoing and funny when i am myself. but people who dont know me think i am just silent, quiet, or shy. and even when i AM myself, im still not loud and obnoxious like others are, im just very relaxed, calm, and chill. thats just the way i am. but it makes me feel bad about myself because people say to me like you never talk, or your so quiet, and part of me accepts the fact that i am just a quiet person and want to say like yeah deal with it but the other part kind of wants to be like my other friends who are loud and obnoxious. these people that say this are usually guys too and i just dont get why it would bother people. like whoo cares if i talk a lot or not whats it to them? anything would be of big help, thanks (link)
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I use to be the exact same way. Around my friends I'd be this this outspoken, funny girl. Then, around other people I'd be this quiet shy introverted girl.
But now I'm no longer the same exact person. It all comes down to being truly comfortable with yourself to actually be yourself at all times.
You don't have to be loud and obnoxious just to get noticed, just be yourself. Just like you said who cares if you talk a lot or not. People are going to think what they want regardless. But in the end the real question is do you care? Think about it.
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Hi thanks for taking the time out to answer my question. I'm 24 proud single mother of 2. I meet a man 5months ago. It started out sexually and now i want more. He has so much to offer my kids and i not just financially but mentally as well. He gives me mix signals as if he want to be with me but i'm not sure if its just sex or not. When he comes around we always end up having sex. What to do. (link)
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You seem like a woman who knows exactly what she wants. So you need to express that to him. Ask him if there is a real future for you two or if it's just a sexual thing for him because you would like to try something more with him. I suggest you use a gentle yet firm approach so he knows this is serious to you.
Hope I helped some.
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So, when a guy is fingering you, are the couples making out while this happens? & if not then what
does the girl do while this is happening? Or what usually goes on while a guy is trying to finger you??
i'm planning on for this to happen with this guy i like & im not entirely sure on how it goes or what happens.
haha sorry if this is awkard reading in any sort of wayy. but thanks if you can help :) (link)
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While getting fingered, you could make out with the guy, that is an option. But there are plenty of other ones. You could kiss and suck on his neck, you could run your fingers through his hair, you could nibble at his ears, caress his body, the list goes on.
I just thought I'd add more than make out while getting fingered because, personally, I don't like to. I'd rather kiss his neck or something.
Hope I was of some help.
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OK so my brother like's most of my friend's most of his gf has been my friend's but most of them i hooked him up with,just cause i was bored but now he starting to like more and they don't like him we always make fun of him,but what i wanna no if it is okay if my brother goes out with my friend's he is in the 10th grade now and is 15 and me and my or 13 (link)
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You should really re-write your question. I have no idea what you are asking or the situation.
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I'm a junior in high school and I've never had a real boyfriend and all of my friends have had at least one siginificant other. I have no idea what the problem is. Guys really seem to like me... I mean, have a ton of guy friends and everyone is always really nice to me. I put myself out there (I DO flirt) and probably have never said a bad word about any of the guys in my school. Everytime I ask a guy out, they say: "You're too good of a friend. If we went out it would change everything and make it all weird." I have no idea what to do to stop this. All you advice givers, I'd really just like some advice on how to score a guy... It didn't bother me before, but now I'm just REALLY tired of being alone.
I'm a girl if you haven't figured that out yet.
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Wow its usually the guys who are put in the "just friend" zone. Try showing sex appeal. Make them want you. Make yourself desireable. Try wearing cuter clothes.
Or maybe you just haven't found the right guy for you. Everything happens for a reason. Perhaps you should wait for the guy who you like and who sees you as more than a friend.
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sorry to add another relationship question, but i need help. i like this guy i ski with, but he doesnnt seem interested in me. whenever i try to flirt w. him he gets uncomfortable and will never tell us about the girls hes liked or play truth or dare when me and my friends do on the chairlift. we have a lot in common. is there any way i can make him like me or tell if he does? (link)
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You can't force anyone to like you. If it were that simple, no one would be single. Have you ever tried talking to him and telling him you like him? Sometimes it's good to be straight foward when subliminal flirt messages aren't enough. Eye contact, compliments, body contact and conversation are ways you can tell if he does like you.
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I'm 16 years old , Female . Well I fell in love at the age of 14 [ don't care if anyone thinks it's too young ] . Me and my first love Dated for a year and 3 months . We broke up summer of O8' June 1st , and best believe it was the hardest thing I thinkk i've had to go through . Well In November I started dating this guy named Jason , treats me better than any guy ever has ... Well I do love him and believe I am in love with him. Problem though , It's so hard getting over Justin [ first love ] & it sucks because i'm the first girl Jason [ current bf ] has ever been " in " love with . Y'all it's almost been a year since the break up with Justin & I really need to get over him but I know it takes time ... But I feel horrible bc I can't give my whole heart to Jason when I still feel as if Justin has some of it but I have all of Jason's heart ... It would'nt be that hard if Justin did'nt go to the same school abd I see him everyday . But Jason said he'd wait because i'm worth it but honestly no guy wants to stick around when ur stuck on someone else .. Help me get over Justin , I need to give my all , 100% to Jason , he's the greatest boyfriend i've had . (link)
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Move on and love the one you're with. It's a reason he is by your side and Justin isn't. Whatever happened between you and Justin is in your past and so is he SO act like it. Keep him in your past and now focus on your future-Jason...and believe me Jason won't wait forever so don't mess up a great opportunity to be with a great guy.
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So, last year my social life was great! I had a pretty much bf who i was either with or talked to everyday! My best friend who was loyal and we always had fun, and so many other friends! I had alot of guy friends too. Well ever since last May .. I found out that my best friend and boyfriend have been hooking up constantly. I knew they madeout once but apologized and really upset, so i forgave them ( last feb) Anyways I guess they kept hooking up behind my back, and I got really mad. He and I kinda stopped talking, but she always acted like everything was fine. Well I was really hurt.. and she didn't really care. So I started drifting from her to my other close friends. Anyways this year I dont have as many guy friend, My ex bf and best friend are together. I dont have as many friends, Im not as popular, and I feel like I did something . I have been getting alot of " you seem sad" or "whats wrong lately" Also! me and my ex did start getting back together around July but stopped in Sept. I miss him, but things won't work . I have started talking to her again in some classes. But I don't know how to get my other guy friends back. They are claiming im "annoying" now. But i didn't do anything! If i talk to them they'll just be like "shut up, your gay." I dont know , maybe im parinoid..? I mean the friends I have are great, But I miss haveing so many!
And so sorry this is long and i made you read :p
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Maybe you should appreciate the friends you do have. And reevauluate those you do call 'friend'. Your so called 'best friend' is obvisiously a friend you can do without. The first time they hooked up should have been a red flag. They weren't that sorry if they repeatedly did it again and again after their apology. They even went together afterwards. They do not deserve to have a friend or girlfriend like you. And you deserve better. Want more friends? Be sociable with new people. You will have a fresh start with these ones. Want a new boyfriend? Put yourself out there with new guys...
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Please answer the following...
1. Name of the show. Please don't limit yourself to only 1 favorite anime show! :D
2. What would you rate it on a scale 1 to 10
3. What makes this one of your favorites?
Here are my answers....
1. itazura na kiss
2. 10/10
3. its very romantic and very enjoyble to watch! e-mail me if you want to know more about it! if you have not seen it, i recomend it!
1. skip beat!
2. 10/10
3. Not only hilarious to watch, its dramatic and good for any audiences! (link)
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I have to say this is my favorite question I have ever read on this website :)
1. Inuyasha
2. 10/10 always...its never a disappointment to watch
3. Full of action, and drama. Yet also romance. The perfect combination. Sadly the tv series was cancelled (but their has been talk about it starting again with new episodes)
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1. Fullmetal Alchemist
2. 10/10
3. Just like Inuyasha, it is full of action. There are a lot of twists and turns. There is hidden romance between two characters,...well I think so. Sadly it was also cancelled.
I would soooo recommend both of these shows even though they were discontinued. I still enjoy watching the old epsidoes. They come on adult swim just like lots of other anime shows.
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im a girl 14, and i recently madeout with this kid that told people i was bad at it and not only was that embaressing but i wanna show the next person i makeout with that the kid is wrong. so is there any tips on makingout good that you can give me? (link)
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Kissing is a wonderful thing that usually comes natural. But sometimes it doesn't. There are two ways to make out.
1-with tongue and open mouth. Never use a lot of tongue. It could be pretty gross if you start salivaing too much. Use a little tongue stick your tongue in an in and out motion slowly. Kind of roll your tongue around his. You could even suck his tongue a little bit (Light pressure)
2-no tongue and closed mouth. Kiss and suck his bottom and top lips slowly. Pretty simple
Personally, I prefer to use a combination of both. It makes things pretty fun.
While kissing run your hands through the person's hair or caress their cheek. Well I pull on and clutch my guy's shirt. Things should come natural to you eventually
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I'm 17 and I don't know what it means to "pop your cherry" or w/e. My mom doesn't like talking about it 2 me and I dont want to look it up becuase of my 11 year old nosey sister. Please tell me.... i think it goes onder this catagory this is were i normally see it (link)
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To break, perforate, or puncture a female human's hymen tissue within her virginal vulva, most frequently by an erect penis or finger.---urban dictionary
But to my knowledge it is what was said above AND the female bleeds due to her hymen being torn
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just a few questions about shaving your clit..
1) do you only shave downward?
2) how do you avoid red bumps?
3) how many days after you shave should you wait to shave again? (link)
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Do you mean your vagina?? If so...
1. Shaving both up and down is fine. Just be more careful when shaving up (I find it easier to cut yourself when your careless)
2. Try using a shaving cream created for sensitive skin.
3. I wait 3-7 days
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I was just wondering if anyone knew of any sex positions for women with shallow vaginas. When I have sex it feels like its poking me in the stomach and its very uncomfortable. I tried searching for info on yahoo but I couldnt find anything. Thanks alot. (link)
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I do not think those kind of questions are acceptable here. As in they are not supposed to be asked or answered. You may want to try gurl.com and go to thed shoutout boards to sex&relationships...
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