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How do I tell this to my blabbermouth friend?
I love my best friend, we'll name her Cassie, but she has no problem being a blabbermouth when I tell her things. I've told two of my closest friends and my cousin about how I like my guyfriend from school. Only one of those close friends goes to my school and Cassie is from another school. I promised myself that I wouldn't tell Cassie about this guy if & until I was totally sure he liked me back or if something were to happen between us (the guy does not know I like him, but it's very very possible he likes me). Cassie knew two people I used to like well and blabbed it to them. Even though this guy is someone she doesn't know I feel like if I tell her she could possibly write all over my Facebook wall about it or something like that and it'll ruin everything. I feel like I'm really getting somewhere with this guy. But I really really want to tell Cassie about him, and I feel like a liar everytime she asks "What's new in your life?" and I just say "Nothing really". I could simply avoid any issue just by not telling her but I just feel like a liar and I want to tell her about it. Also she just lost her grandpa, after losing her uncle earlier this year, and she needs good friends. Should I just tell her or wait until I'm totally sure he likes me (if that were to happen)? If you say I should, then how do I tell her without giving too many details away about him and making sure she doesn't ruin it? And don't say she's a horrible friend, you shouldn't be friends with her, if you were me you'd understand why I'm friends with her. I just feel like if I wait until something happens she'll think I've been lying to her about what's going on and she'll be mad. Sorry that this was long.
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Ahh, I think you should wait and be sure. Sure, she's a good friend, and she should be able to understand when you explain to her why you didn't tell her. She probably doesn't realize what she's doing to you, and you should eventually tell her. As for the guy, see where it takes you.
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Why don't you just tell her that you think you might like someone and when she asks who you either refuse to tell her or say that she probably doesn't even know him so the name doesn't matter.
If she badgers you about the name, just change the subject. Tell her the signs he's giving you and does she think that he likes me?, etc.
And then if anything happens and you then tell her that you are going out with whoever and she says "oh I do know him" and you say "Oh,really? i didn't think you did." So then it will kindof be lying but not really!
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We are two peas in a pod my friend :)
Except with my "blabbermouth" friend, I just don't tell her certain things I don't want to get out. Sure it seems like your keeping things form her but that's because you ARE. Look at it this way, would you rather your business being out? Just tell her when you know for sure that he likes you or not. Other than that I say keep it to yourself.
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