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shy girl?
15/f
I have good friends but a lot of my school either doesnt know me or thinks i am really shy. I'll admit I am shy when i first meet people, it takes me awhile to warm up to them. I consider myself to be pretty and think i am really outgoing and funny when i am myself. but people who dont know me think i am just silent, quiet, or shy. and even when i AM myself, im still not loud and obnoxious like others are, im just very relaxed, calm, and chill. thats just the way i am. but it makes me feel bad about myself because people say to me like you never talk, or your so quiet, and part of me accepts the fact that i am just a quiet person and want to say like yeah deal with it but the other part kind of wants to be like my other friends who are loud and obnoxious. these people that say this are usually guys too and i just dont get why it would bother people. like whoo cares if i talk a lot or not whats it to them? anything would be of big help, thanks<3
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This is what i think on this:
if you want to change-you can!
one of the best books i've read on life is called "the secret". It states that thoughts become things. you really have to read it,it changed how i think and really helped me with my shy problem!
It takes time for everyone to come out of there shell. some longer than others- but it happens! If you think "I'm confident, I'm outgoing,I'm fun!" over and over- it'll eventually become you. Its about pushing your limits.Doing things you wouldn't normally do. What i think is-just do it;what do i have to loose? If not now,when?!Why NOT go up to the kid you like and say hi?(the worst that could happen is them thinking your weird-but psh-if they do then they're a waste of time anyways!you can move on-its not the end of the world.most guys like it when girls are confident like this anyways)Would you ever shout your friends name across the hall? or would you rather walk up to them to say hi? Its little things like that-start small. You absolutly HAVE to be sure with yourself. No confidence yet? fake it 'till you make it! Always smile! I can't stress enough about this.You affect the people around you. Trust me-i chanted in my head all day- "I AM outgoing! I AM confident!" and eventually i started feeling that way. Thoughts really do become things. You don't have to change who you are-but if you want to-whats stopping you? People will welcome your outgoingness. Your only labeled the "shy girl" because you believe this to be true. But you can break free from it. You can ALWAYS change! Start saying hi to people,smile,do things that make you feel good,new clothes, hobbies-anything! You don't have to accept something you don't want to be. Think "I REFUSE TO BE SHY!" Reeefuse it ! haha,i'm being so weird! but this just sounds so much like me 2 years ago.I hope you find this to help-really pick up that book,its amazing! good luck and hopefully you can become the person you want to be :]
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I use to be the exact same way. Around my friends I'd be this this outspoken, funny girl. Then, around other people I'd be this quiet shy introverted girl.
But now I'm no longer the same exact person. It all comes down to being truly comfortable with yourself to actually be yourself at all times.
You don't have to be loud and obnoxious just to get noticed, just be yourself. Just like you said who cares if you talk a lot or not. People are going to think what they want regardless. But in the end the real question is do you care? Think about it.
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hello,im around the same age as you and i know how you feel. Im exactally the same im just very laid back and people say im queit. Well just be yourself and dont change. And if there are some people who dont like you for who you are then forget them because they are not worth getting to know. Explain to people you are not shy, just say you dont know me well enough to judge me.It bothers them because they want to see you come out of your shell what they dont understand is this is you.
thankyou
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